Anxiety and/or depression discussion.

Reggie.

scrimshanker wrote: »

Has anyone ever asked their GP to refer them to the Dean Clinics for assessment?

Never been to the GP for this. Suppose I'm too proud

Reggie.

greenfrogs wrote: »

Yah it's just hard when you see people who were in your life move on with theirs. I know I need to create a new life for myself with new people.

That's easier said than done my friend. I know. Hard to get back out there

greenfrogs

Reggie. wrote: »

That's easier said than done my friend. I know. Hard to get back out there

Much much easier said than done. It's extremely hard to get out there and try and make friends.

Reggie.

greenfrogs wrote: »

Much much easier said than done. It's extremely hard to get out there and try and make friends.

Was using boards as a substitute to a circle of friends bit that doesn't seem to be working anymore

heyday30

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Reggie.

heyday30 wrote: »

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True story

greenfrogs

Reggie. wrote: »

Was using boards as a substitute to a circle of friends bit that doesn't seem to be working anymore

To be honest I think it's better to meet friends the old fashioned way. I have meet people via online and they haven't worked out well.

Roquentin

greenfrogs wrote: »

To be honest I think it's better to meet friends the old fashioned way. I have meet people via online and they haven't worked out well.

the mechanics of online conversation differs substantially from that of one on one in a coffee shop lets say. on the internet one is given time to think of replies consciously. in the one on one, one must use their unconscious coupled with an increase in pressure.

getting on well online does not mean one will get on well in the real thing. the mechanics is different

Reggie.

greenfrogs wrote: »

To be honest I think it's better to meet friends the old fashioned way. I have meet people via online and they haven't worked out well.

Wasn't just to meet friends. It was just to have a conversation or share opinions with people

mg1982

Roquentin wrote: »

the mechanics of online conversation differs substantially from that of one on one in a coffee shop lets say. on the internet one is given time to think of replies consciously. in the one on one, one must use their unconscious coupled with an increase in pressure.

getting on well online does not mean one will get on well in the real thing. the mechanics is different

I agree with this. If you too meet me in real life you would think I was quiet with not much too say. The art of conversation is lost on me.

greenfrogs

Roquentin wrote: »

the mechanics of online conversation differs substantially from that of one on one in a coffee shop lets say. on the internet one is given time to think of replies consciously. in the one on one, one must use their unconscious coupled with an increase in pressure.

getting on well online does not mean one will get on well in the real thing. the mechanics is different

Yah. I get what you mean. But I have meet people via meetup. So I found that you could be friends but they can disappear from your life easily as you have very little connecting the two of you if you know what I mean.

heyday30

Roquentin wrote: »

the mechanics of online conversation differs substantially from that of one on one in a coffee shop lets say. on the internet one is given time to think of replies consciously. in the one on one, one must use their unconscious coupled with an increase in pressure.

getting on well online does not mean one will get on well in the real thing. the mechanics is different

Though without talking to people online there would be days on end without conversating at all.

I know what you mean though the act of conversation in person is now extremely difficult

greenfrogs

heyday30 wrote: »

Though without talking to people online there would be days on end without conversating at all.

I know what you mean though the act of conversation in person is now extremely difficult

I would be lost without this thread. It is a connection to people who are like me. It is always here when I need it. In general boards keeps me occupied a lot.

Roquentin

mg1982 wrote: »

I agree with this. If you too meet me in real life you would think I was quiet with not much too say. The art of conversation is lost on me.

being a good speaker is all about training ones unconscious to respond better.

Gremlinertia

Same here, when i can't speak, when i'm too uncomfortable in my own skin, there is always here..

mg1982

I'm so glad I found this place although I'm probably here too much now. But Ya it's good to meet like minded people.

Roquentin

it is dangerous to only use this or social media. conversation is a skill and like any skill if you stop practicing or engaging, your mind forgets.

for instance if one stopped driving for a year or two, and then suddenly restarted, they wouldnt be as sharp. maybe they wouldnt look in the mirrors or put on their indicators etc.

familiarity breeds contempt. conversation is a skill, just like if one was learning a new software, that needs regular upkeep in the form of conversation with other people. when one goes without it for long periods, the unconscious mind forgets how to converse.

acuriouscat

I'm just venting so don't mind me .. I finally took steps with this illness Iv ignored for the last 15 plus years. A breakup with some one I loved dearly was the kick in the ass I needed to seek help,even though he turned out not to be right for me he was the one who suggested I had a mental health problem.am on anxiety pills now and will also be taking anti depressants and am finally speaking to a phychiatrist at last.The relief!!
am in the pits of despair at the moment and am hoping the saying " it gets worse before it gets better " apply here and things start to change soon. I thought my breakup was depressing me but Iv accepted that Iv had this illness more than half my life,and perhaps my relationships end because of it. I'm finally starting to see the reality of this and hopefully now Iv accepted it I can begin to heal
I am so hard on myself and I need to give myself a break,I try my best to be a decent person but lately I doubt myself so much,im losing my confidence and im withdrawing gradually from society and life. I spend all my spare time alone kicking myself over mistakes I think Iv made,people Iv hurt and pushed away. The paranoia and mis trust Iv suffered from for years have torn me up..I know this is all part of this illness but it's eating me up inside,the feeling that Iv spent my life pushing loved ones away. Making them hate me:(
I pray to God I heal soon and I can substain a healthy relationship ,I hope I begin to ease up and learn to love myself again. My promise to myself:get a job that you really love ,write more(your good at it) join a club and make new friends,walk more and free your mind for just a short time,learn to trust people,everyone has flaws,give people a break,if their in your life they love you(remember that)make plans for a happy healthy life.and most importantly FORGIVE YOUSELF (it wasn't the real you)

MojoRisinnnn

Best of luck AC and well done on taking the right steps, hope it all works out for you!

acuriouscat

Thank you mojo xx

Jabberwocky_I

Hello all,

I've popped in and out of this thread over the years (under different usernames) and have always found it to be a supportive community so I hope you'll not mind me asking you all a question relating to Social Anxiety?

Have any of you ever tried to deal with it on your own? I'm having a difficult time with anxiety at the moment and it seems to be getting worse. I've spent a long time in therapy over the years, and for various reasons I don't really want to go back. I've searched online for free CBT courses for social anxiety and I'm willing to give it a go. I suppose I just wanted some opinions from people here.

I still leave the house for work (don't have contact with many people in my job), to get groceries, etc but when it comes to socialising, it's far more difficult for me. The thought of walking into a pub on a busy night of the week/end is overwhelming. Just going to a supermarket is difficult for me at the moment. I find I'm becoming quite isolated. People get frustrated with me - I'm quite outgoing and sociable so those around me aren't aware of my reasons for constantly turning them down. This is the frustrating thing - I'm okay & can be my usual self when people come to visit me at home, but being in a public space tends to fill me with dread.

I've recently moved back to my home town which holds a lot of negative associations for me so it's less than ideal, although this is short-term so I know there's light at the end of the tunnel in this regard. I want to try to tackle it before it gets any worse.

Does anyone know of any good sites or anything along those lines? I've googled but if you have any recommendations, I'd be grateful.

Thank you for reading

Euphoria Intensifies

scrimshanker wrote: »

Has anyone ever asked their GP to refer them to the Dean Clinics for assessment?

I haven't got a referral to the Dean's Clinics (I can't afford to go private), but I did get referred to the local HSE services. I imagine it's a similar enough set up - just explain to your GP that you feel you need more help and think this is the way to go. There should be no problem. The Dean's Clinics/St Patrick's in general is meant to be very good. Hope it works out for you.

Jabberwocky_1: My pdoc told me about these courses http://www.cci.health.wa.gov.au/resources/consumers.cfm There is one on social anxiety as well as other issues e.g. distress intolerance, disordered eating, assertiveness. They're really good.

scrimshanker

Couldn't do it.

greenfrogs

scrimshanker wrote: »

Couldn't do it.

The exams?

mg1982

scrimshanker wrote: »

Couldn't do it.

Couldn't do the exam is it scrim?

scrimshanker

Yeah, just not worth the level of distress

mg1982

scrimshanker wrote: »

Yeah, just not worth the level of distress

Well don't worry about the exam. You weren't feeling up to it this time and there's nothing wrong with that. Important now is to concentrate on yourself and getting better.

Hugo Stiglitz

scrimshanker wrote: »

Yeah, just not worth the level of distress

Like MG said Scrim, take the time here to get yourself well again first. There's absolutely no shame in not doing the exams.

Jabberwocky_I

Euphoria Intensifies wrote: »

Jabberwocky_1: My pdoc told me about these courses http://www.cci.health.wa.gov.au/resources/consumers.cfm There is one on social anxiety as well as other issues e.g. distress intolerance, disordered eating, assertiveness. They're really good.

Thank you for this:) Looks good so will give the course a try.

greenfrogs

scrimshanker wrote: »

Yeah, just not worth the level of distress

That must have taken a lot of courage. I hope you can focus your attention on your health now. It really is more important than any exams.