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Anxiety and/or depression discussion.

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    #6182
    scrimshanker
    Closed Accounts Posts: 738 ✭✭✭scrimshanker


    greenfrogs wrote: »
    That must have taken a lot of courage. I hope you can focus your attention on your health now. It really is more important than any exams.

    Actually in the end it took very little courage. I just couldn't do it today. But yeah, no exams or job is worth sacrificing health for. It's not the end of the world, whatever happens. And if any problems do crop up because of it I can deal with them as they occur. Have a rotten pain in my stomach from it all, but overall waaaaay less anxious tonight.


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    #6183
    greenfrogs
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    scrimshanker wrote: »
    Actually in the end it took very little courage. I just couldn't do it today. But yeah, no exams or job is worth sacrificing health for. It's not the end of the world, whatever happens. And if any problems do crop up because of it I can deal with them as they occur. Have a rotten pain in my stomach from it all, but overall waaaaay less anxious tonight.

    That's great that you feel less anxious. You seem to be in a more positive head space tonight which is great to see.


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    #6184
    Gremlinertia
    Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators, Regional West Moderators Posts: 60,227 Mod ✭✭✭✭Gremlinertia


    Fair play Scrim. Sod everything else and get the health sorted.. Wish I'd thought of it years ago. Proud of you.


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    #6185
    mg1982
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    scrimshanker wrote: »
    Actually in the end it took very little courage. I just couldn't do it today. But yeah, no exams or job is worth sacrificing health for. It's not the end of the world, whatever happens. And if any problems do crop up because of it I can deal with them as they occur. Have a rotten pain in my stomach from it all, but overall waaaaay less anxious tonight.

    That's good to hear scrim. The exams were obviously causing huge stress for you and I'm glad thats eased a bit. Hopefully your mum was able to understand too.


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    #6186
    scrimshanker
    Closed Accounts Posts: 738 ✭✭✭scrimshanker


    Yeah my family are behind me 100%. Such a relief. It was definitely the right choice to not do the exam today. I'll take each next one as it comes, see if I'm up to it.


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    #6187
    mg1982
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,772 ✭✭✭mg1982


    Quiet in here for a change.Hopefully that's a good sign.Hope everyone is well today.


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    #6188
    scrimshanker
    Closed Accounts Posts: 738 ✭✭✭scrimshanker


    Yeah, I've been worse! Generally a good day today. Exception: Being told I've years of work ahead of me to really work through my issues. *Sigh* Looks like this is gonna be a long old haul!


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    #6189
    greenfrogs
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    scrimshanker wrote: »
    Yeah, I've been worse! Generally a good day today. Exception: Being told I've years of work ahead of me to really work through my issues. *Sigh* Looks like this is gonna be a long old haul!

    That must have been tough to hear. I have never been told how long it will take me but soon it will be a year and I am still a long way off. If it makes you feel better you are not alone. A fair few of us here are in a similar boat.


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    #6190
    scrimshanker
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    greenfrogs wrote: »
    That must have been tough to hear. I have never been told how long it will take me but soon it will be a year and I am still a long way off. If it makes you feel better you are not alone. A fair few of us here are in a similar boat.

    It's tough but it's also not. I've been beating myself up over not solving everything within a semester, so I guess it's actually helpful to hear that yeah, it'll take significantly longer. Not my fault, I have been trying, it just is what it is.


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    #6191
    greenfrogs
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    scrimshanker wrote: »
    It's tough but it's also not. I've been beating myself up over not solving everything within a semester, so I guess it's actually helpful to hear that yeah, it'll take significantly longer. Not my fault, I have been trying, it just is what it is.

    I get what you mean. My past behaviour has caused a lot of problems with maintaining friendships. I just can't do it. Now I look at the position I am in and see that I was really sick. I am still am to be fair but I also know that I couldn't help my past behaviour. We are our own worst critics.


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    #6192
    scrimshanker
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    greenfrogs wrote: »
    We are our own worst critics.


    Definitely. I remember hearing something someone said way way back (can't place it at all), that people in general are very hard on themselves. They used the analogy of two friends, that if one fell down the stairs in the house they'd be cursing themselves and giving out to themselves for being an eejit for falling and causing a fuss. Whereas the other friend isn't going to be critical at all, they're just far more concerned for the welfare of their friend who's just fallen. And that's before you add any mental ill health into the picture...

    It's resonating with me quite a lot over the last 24ish hours, because I didn't do the exam and despite the huge relief that brought, I was also a bit annoyed at myself for not sorting myself out on time for the exams and I was expecting my parents to also be annoyed about it. But actually when I told them I didn't do the exam they weren't even slightly annoyed, they were just really very concerned about me.

    Guess it's one to store away for future reference for trying to work out if my reactions and self-judgements are overly harsh or warranted.


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    #6193
    greenfrogs
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    scrimshanker wrote: »
    Definitely. I remember hearing something someone said way way back (can't place it at all), that people in general are very hard on themselves. They used the analogy of two friends, that if one fell down the stairs in the house they'd be cursing themselves and giving out to themselves for being an eejit for falling and causing a fuss. Whereas the other friend isn't going to be critical at all, they're just far more concerned for the welfare of their friend who's just fallen. And that's before you add any mental ill health into the picture...

    It's resonating with me quite a lot over the last 24ish hours, because I didn't do the exam and despite the huge relief that brought, I was also a bit annoyed at myself for not sorting myself out on time for the exams and I was expecting my parents to also be annoyed about it. But actually when I told them I didn't do the exam they weren't even slightly annoyed, they were just really very concerned about me.

    Guess it's one to store away for future reference for trying to work out if my reactions and self-judgements are overly harsh or warranted.

    My parents were similar. I was fired from my job but I discussed with my manager if I showed improvement over the next few weeks would they reconsider. Hesitantly they agreed. My family pushed me to return to the job even though my doctor said no I shouldn't go back. My family then came around to it and I think they see now it was for the best. I am so glad I didn't return. It would of done me more damage than good. Then as a result I would of had more hurdles to overcome to get better. My doctor also give me other advice which I didn't follow and to this day I am suffering because of it. If I had been strong and focused solely on myself then I wouldn't have this extra hurdle to overcome. You learn that you have to do what is best for you.

    I have called myself horrible things. Far worse than anything anyone else has called me (that I know of anyway). Mental health has impacted upon my mind more than I could ever have thought possible before. It is actually scary.


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    #6194
    mg1982
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    Just out of curiosity. Im wondering what age people are on here and how long they have been dealing with mental illness. Im 32 btw and have been suffering since mental issues i was 14.


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    #6195
    scrimshanker
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    I'm 26 and have had on and off issues since about 15 or so. I presume that's okay to count as the start point even though I sought no help until.. couple of years ago and then ran away from actually dealing with it...


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    #6196
    mg1982
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    scrimshanker wrote: »
    I'm 26 and have had on and off issues since about 15 or so. I presume that's okay to count as the start point even though I sought no help until.. couple of years ago and then ran away from actually dealing with it...

    Its ok to count when you started to feel out of kilter. I didnt seek help until i was in my early twenties even though it started much earlier for me, my anxiety was so bad i couldnt stay in the waiting room at the doctors office with all the people there so had to call to him out of hours.


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    #6197
    mg1982
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    greenfrogs wrote: »
    I am 28 now. I can see that I changed a lot around 12/13. I think it was the beginning for me. I got really depressed and suicidal when I was 17/18. I didn't seek treatment until last year. It's sad to think how many years we spent suffering alone before we sought help.

    Taking the first step and reaching out for help can take a lot of courage though, and it can take years to build up to that. Its like we are wishing that it will go away by itself but sadly it doesnt, and then we have to seek help


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    #6198
    greenfrogs
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    It really does take a lot of strength.


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    #6199
    scrimshanker
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    Yeah. I don't know if earlier intervention would have helped me tbh. I think I had to reach a point where I could see that something really was wrong and also be willing to work hard to try fix it. Thats just me though. For me that meant that the anxiety had to become intolerable.


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    #6200
    galljga1
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    I have not posted on this thread before. Felling pretty fcuked up this morning, I feel the need to burst into tears but I will not let myself go. Post drink crap. Do you guys drink? If so, how does it effect you?


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    #6201
    Reggie.
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    galljga1 wrote: »
    I have not posted on this thread before. Felling pretty fcuked up this morning, I feel the need to burst into tears but I will not let myself go. Post drink crap. Do you guys drink? If so, how does it effect you?

    No very rarely drink myself


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    #6202
    mg1982
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    galljga1 wrote: »
    I have not posted on this thread before. Felling pretty fcuked up this morning, I feel the need to burst into tears but I will not let myself go. Post drink crap. Do you guys drink? If so, how does it effect you?

    Welcome to the thread, It really depends on how much i drink, if i have two beers than it doesnt have much effect but if i drink a lot then the following day im in the depths.


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    #6203
    galljga1
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    mg1982 wrote: »
    Welcome to the thread, It really depends on how much i drink, if i have two beers than it doesnt have much effect but if i drink a lot then the following day im in the depths.

    Yeah, that's where I am.


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    #6204
    scrimshanker
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    It can take up to a couple of weeks for me to recover after a big session so mostly I barely drink anymore. Have the very odd glass of wine.


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    #6205
    greenfrogs
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    I rarely drink anymore. In social situations it gives me more freedom as I can leave whenever I want as I can drive there. Also I am trying to get out of the habit of using alcohol to make me feel more relaxed in social situations.


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    #6206
    Call Me Jimmy
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    yea I barely drink, once every couple of months now coz that's how often I see other people. never got the buzz of drinking alone, seems like a swelling of energy for nothing


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    #6207
    Hugo Stiglitz
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    Call Me Jimmy wrote: »
    yea I barely drink, once every couple of months now coz that's how often I see other people. never got the buzz of drinking alone, seems like a swelling of energy for nothing

    That's essentially my situation too Jimmy. Never drink much either as I don't really care much for the taste of beer, wine etc.


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    #6208
    greenfrogs
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    I think I am spending far too much time online. Especially on boards. I enjoy spending time on this thread but I think I will start cutting down on everything else as I waste hours each and every day.


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    #6209
    mg1982
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    greenfrogs wrote: »
    I think I am spending far too much time online. Especially on boards. I enjoy spending time on this thread but I think I will start cutting down on everything else as I waste hours each and every day.

    I was thinking the same thing. I think I have an addictive or sort of obsessive personality Sometimes. Feeling very stressed the last few days. Just feel unable to cope with anything at this stage.


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    #6210
    greenfrogs
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    mg1982 wrote: »
    I was thinking the same thing. I think I have an addictive or sort of obsessive personality Sometimes. Feeling very stressed the last few days. Just feel unable to cope with anything at this stage.

    I am similar. Constantly refreshing pages to see if there is a new post. Is there anything that helps relieve your stress?


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    #6211
    Reggie.
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    greenfrogs wrote: »
    I am similar. Constantly refreshing pages to see if there is a new post. Is there anything that helps relieve your stress?

    +1


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