Anxiety and/or depression discussion.

mg1982

Hugo Stiglitz wrote: »

*hugs*

Hang on in there EI.

A lot of us are in similar situations. It can indeed be mighty sucky unfortunately.

How does one make new friends?

They say to have a friend you got to be a friend but that seems a bit simplistic. I guess you have to have the drive to put yourself out there and the sense of self worth to be yourself around people.

Hugo Stiglitz

mg1982 wrote: »

They say to have a friend you got to be a friend but that seems a bit simplistic. I guess you have to have the drive to put yourself out there and the sense of self worth to be yourself around people.

I'm isolated myself so much over the last decade. It's a hard hole to get of.

mg1982

Hugo Stiglitz wrote: »

I'm isolated myself so much over the last decade. It's a hard hole to get of.

Im in the same boat here. Its a hard cycle to break. I dont feel strong enough yet to go back socialising.

Hugo Stiglitz

mg1982 wrote: »

Im in the same boat here. Its a hard cycle to break. I dont feel strong enough yet to go back socialising.

Same here man. I wouldn't even know where to begin.

Call Me Jimmy

I'm completely idle, can't engage my brain for second. Get up from bed, go back to bed repeat

Hugo Stiglitz

Call Me Jimmy wrote: »

I'm completely idle, can't engage my brain for second. Get up from bed, go back to bed repeat

Sorry to hear that Jimmy. Anything happen there to cause this?

mg1982

Call Me Jimmy wrote: »

I'm completely idle, can't engage my brain for second. Get up from bed, go back to bed repeat

Are you getting any kind of treatment at the moment jimmy such as counselling or medication. Or do you find it any benifit to you at all?

Call Me Jimmy

Nah no point in treatment, I'd know myself if I was ever in a position to try again. just havin a moan, cheers

Calibos

Can anyone confirm that what one says to a GP is confidential and won't be repeated. ie. I understand a GP must keep medical related stuff confidential but what about other stuff. Like if one needs to explain what real life events or issues are causing one stress or anxiety, I understand that its confidential that you are suffering from stress or anxiety but is the reason you gave them for being stressed confidential. So if Jane told the GP her stress was caused by her business failing, would the GP dare tell someone in conversation, "Did you hear such and such place is closing". After all the GP disclosed nothing about Janes medical issue.

I'm genuinely asking for someone I know. My own anxiety issues are well under control thankfully.

greenfrogs

Interesting question. I doubt it to be honest. For example if someone queried how they know this information what would they say. If the person is very concerned tell them to mention it to their gp that this information is very sensitive.

leahyl

Hi guys, this is a really great thread for people to come on and just talk about how they are feeling without being judged. I'm not having a great time of it at the moment, am just feeling really down, but it's nice to be able to come on here and say it, even if it is to random strangers :-)

Hugo Stiglitz

leahyl wrote: »

Hi guys, this is a really great thread for people to come on and just talk about how they are feeling without being judged. I'm not having a great time of it at the moment, am just feeling really down, but it's nice to be able to come on here and say it, even if it is to random strangers :-)

Hey Leakyl,

Sorry to hear that things aren't great there at the moment. Anything on your mind there that might be causing it?

The thread here is really great I must say. Not only is it a great place to get support and to get things off your chest, it's also a great place to make new friends that truly understand what you're going through.

mg1982

leahyl wrote: »

Hi guys, this is a really great thread for people to come on and just talk about how they are feeling without being judged. I'm not having a great time of it at the moment, am just feeling really down, but it's nice to be able to come on here and say it, even if it is to random strangers :-)

Sorry to hear your going through a tough time leahyl, your welcome to come on here and vent anytime.

CZ 453

Calibos wrote: »

Can anyone confirm that what one says to a GP is confidential and won't be repeated. ie. I understand a GP must keep medical related stuff confidential but what about other stuff. Like if one needs to explain what real life events or issues are causing one stress or anxiety, I understand that its confidential that you are suffering from stress or anxiety but is the reason you gave them for being stressed confidential. So if Jane told the GP her stress was caused by her business failing, would the GP dare tell someone in conversation, "Did you hear such and such place is closing". After all the GP disclosed nothing about Janes medical issue.

I'm genuinely asking for someone I know. My own anxiety issues are well under control thankfully.

Anything you say is privileged as far as i know with the exception of criminal activity.

However, If you give consent to a company or party to obtain your medical history then the illness maybe disclosed and the reason for such illness maybe queried.

cizolin

I suffer and have suffered with bad anxieties for years. Finally realised that I was still carrying alot of previous hurtful experiences around with me to this day i.e bullied, self esteem issues. It has affected my life and relationships. I was very afraid to express myself and opinions. How I felt. I would bottle everything up.

I am determined to work on myself to help put this right and build myself up to being the great person that I am and want to be and not to be afraid no more.

leahyl

Hugo Stiglitz wrote: »

Hey Leakyl,

Sorry to hear that things aren't great there at the moment. Anything on your mind there that might be causing it?

The thread here is really great I must say. Not only is it a great place to get support and to get things off your chest, it's also a great place to make new friends that truly understand what you're going through.

Thanks Hugo I'll be fine I'm sure,pretty minor stuff compared to what others are going through! Need to get out of a rut and give myself a kick up the butt!

heyday30

My sleep is all over the place. 6am nearly every morning when I nodd off. Once I get asleep then I go into a coma.
I know I'm not feeling well body wise but it's getting frustrating now.
Don't really want to take sleeping tablets as my energy during the day is low enough as it is.

Hugo Stiglitz

leahyl wrote: »

Thanks Hugo I'll be fine I'm sure,pretty minor stuff compared to what others are going through! Need to get out of a rut and give myself a kick up the butt!

Don't we all!

heyday30 wrote: »

My sleep is all over the place. 6am nearly every morning when I nodd off. Once I get asleep then I go into a coma.
I know I'm not feeling well body wise but it's getting frustrating now.
Don't really want to take sleeping tablets as my energy during the day is low enough as it is.

Sorry to hear of all this H.

cizolin

heyday30 wrote: »

My sleep is all over the place. 6am nearly every morning when I nodd off. Once I get asleep then I go into a coma.
I know I'm not feeling well body wise but it's getting frustrating now.
Don't really want to take sleeping tablets as my energy during the day is low enough as it is.

In the midst of many sleepless/restless nights lately. I take panadol nights sometimes and they do help me doze off

mg1982

heyday30 wrote: »

My sleep is all over the place. 6am nearly every morning when I nodd off. Once I get asleep then I go into a coma.
I know I'm not feeling well body wise but it's getting frustrating now.
Don't really want to take sleeping tablets as my energy during the day is low enough as it is.

Its a vicious circle really. Your lying awake half the night and then when you get off to sleep its 5 or 6am. By the time you get 6 or 7 hours its the middle of the day and once your in that cycle its hard to break out of it.

heyday30

mg1982 wrote: »

Its a vicious circle really. Your lying awake half the night and then when you get off to sleep its 5 or 6am. By the time you get 6 or 7 hours its the middle of the day and once your in that cycle its hard to break out of it.

This exactly it mg. Constantly fatigued then when I do get up. It's a pain in the ass. I've tried going to bed earlier but lying staring at the ceiling is no good either. Hoping it's a short lived phase

mg1982

heyday30 wrote: »

This exactly it mg. Constantly fatigued then when I do get up. It's a pain in the ass. I've tried going to bed earlier but lying staring at the ceiling is no good either. Hoping it's a short lived phase

Hopefully, you should try that 4-7-8 breathing technique. Its very good for helping you sleep. Heres a link.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sF-Jarjsn2g

Gremlinertia

Messed up sleep again here too. Nothing overly stressing me, so just a random bout of insomnia..

Gongoozler

My boyfriend is breaking up with me.
I'm doing ok, then not ok. I would be fine by myself but I feel like such a mess. I'm clearly unloveable. I have no one. I thought at times he cared about me. But now it really seems not. I don't think any one has ever loved me. I want to just be gone, out of this, I have nothing to be here for. But then I get these thoughts, that I will be ok. I will be fine by myself. but it's not just that. I don't want to have to live my life by myself. I wanted things to work out for us. I made so much effort to change all these things about myself. I was doing good. despite not really having any help. I was doing good. I fell like it's too hard. And besides, what am I trying for anymore. Trying to be normal. Trying to be normal enough so that some people will like me, so that someone will love me.

But it's not enough. The effort I made was not enough. I don't want to feel like I'm a burden to anyone. That's what I feel all the time. I'm not good enough. Obviously not, since I have to change everything about myself. I want to feel like I'm worth something to someone. I have no family and no friends. And now I don't even have him anymore. So what am I trying for. What's the point in keeping going. I feel alone. I am alone.

Hugo Stiglitz

Gongoozler wrote: »

My boyfriend is breaking up with me.
I'm doing ok, then not ok. I would be fine by myself but I feel like such a mess. I'm clearly unloveable. I have no one. I thought at times he cared about me. But now it really seems not. I don't think any one has ever loved me. I want to just be gone, out of this, I have nothing to be here for. But then I get these thoughts, that I will be ok. I will be fine by myself. but it's not just that. I don't want to have to live my life by myself. I wanted things to work out for us. I made so much effort to change all these things about myself. I was doing good. despite not really having any help. I was doing good. I fell like it's too hard. And besides, what am I trying for anymore. Trying to be normal. Trying to be normal enough so that some people will like me, so that someone will love me.

But it's not enough. The effort I made was not enough. I don't want to feel like I'm a burden to anyone. That's what I feel all the time. I'm not good enough. Obviously not, since I have to change everything about myself. I want to feel like I'm worth something to someone. I have no family and no friends. And now I don't even have him anymore. So what am I trying for. What's the point in keeping going. I feel alone. I am alone.

So sorry to hear that GG.

Try to stay calm and be strong. This sucks right at the minute but it won't always. Keep trying. You'll get yourself to be better place and good things will happen. You are not a burden and you are definitely loveable.

mocha please!

God I'm so sorry to hear that xx

Gremlinertia

I'm struggling with what to say to you Gong, that's very tough. However I am very strong in my conviction that you are worthwhile, you've proven that by your interaction with others here on this thread!. Keep talking to us, we'll do what we can to support you through this..

heyday30

That's a tough time you are going through there gong. I feel for you.

Stay strong you'll get through this

greenfrogs

Gongoozler wrote: »

My boyfriend is breaking up with me.
I'm doing ok, then not ok. I would be fine by myself but I feel like such a mess. I'm clearly unloveable. I have no one. I thought at times he cared about me. But now it really seems not. I don't think any one has ever loved me. I want to just be gone, out of this, I have nothing to be here for. But then I get these thoughts, that I will be ok. I will be fine by myself. but it's not just that. I don't want to have to live my life by myself. I wanted things to work out for us. I made so much effort to change all these things about myself. I was doing good. despite not really having any help. I was doing good. I fell like it's too hard. And besides, what am I trying for anymore. Trying to be normal. Trying to be normal enough so that some people will like me, so that someone will love me.

But it's not enough. The effort I made was not enough. I don't want to feel like I'm a burden to anyone. That's what I feel all the time. I'm not good enough. Obviously not, since I have to change everything about myself. I want to feel like I'm worth something to someone. I have no family and no friends. And now I don't even have him anymore. So what am I trying for. What's the point in keeping going. I feel alone. I am alone.

This an extremely tough time for you Gong. You have my sympathies. However I firmly believe that we can not get our self identity and self esteem from other people. You are not trying to be normal to get people to love you. You want to get better so you can live a happy and full life. Maybe if you read over your previous posts you will see that maybe you weren't in a good place whilst when you were still with your boyfriend.

cizolin

Gongoozler wrote: »

My boyfriend is breaking up with me.
I'm doing ok, then not ok. I would be fine by myself but I feel like such a mess. I'm clearly unloveable. I have no one. I thought at times he cared about me. But now it really seems not. I don't think any one has ever loved me. I want to just be gone, out of this, I have nothing to be here for. But then I get these thoughts, that I will be ok. I will be fine by myself. but it's not just that. I don't want to have to live my life by myself. I wanted things to work out for us. I made so much effort to change all these things about myself. I was doing good. despite not really having any help. I was doing good. I fell like it's too hard. And besides, what am I trying for anymore. Trying to be normal. Trying to be normal enough so that some people will like me, so that someone will love me.

But it's not enough. The effort I made was not enough. I don't want to feel like I'm a burden to anyone. That's what I feel all the time. I'm not good enough. Obviously not, since I have to change everything about myself. I want to feel like I'm worth something to someone. I have no family and no friends. And now I don't even have him anymore. So what am I trying for. What's the point in keeping going. I feel alone. I am alone.

I know how you feel and it isn't easy but you have to try give yourself some self-love.

Exercise, go for long walks, read self help books. Try to tie yourself to a goal that is something to focus on. Self reflect and look at how you start to slowly change your life for the better.

Chin up. You are worthy of love and loving yourself