Anxiety and/or depression discussion.

runningbuddy

What is it you are feeling shrimshaker? sorry you didn't make the interview:mad:...have been there x

scrimshanker

Just stressed and worn out after the day. Feeling a bit sorry for myself.

runningbuddy

Sorry to hear that scrim.....are you on meds? Have you just started on meds? I know that can be a bitch.....take it easy on yourself x

Hugo Stiglitz

Sorry to hear that Scim. *hugs*

There's no shame in not attending the interview. None whatsoever.

scrimshanker

runningbuddy wrote: »

Sorry to hear that scrim.....are you on meds? Have you just started on meds? I know that can be a bitch.....take it easy on yourself x

Yeah I'm on 20mg lexapro the last 6 months. They only sorta work. Or I'm not working hard enough and they're fine. Sorta worried if I try other meds I'll get serotonin syndrome and discover There's nothing wrong with me and I just need to cop on.

Jhcx

Can the lack of friends cause high anxiety?

greenfrogs

I think lack of socialisation can bring my mood down and get quite depressed. Anxiety is part of that as well.

Hugo Stiglitz

Jhcx wrote: »

Can the lack of friends cause high anxiety?

For me, kinda. It seems to cause anxiety fuelled thoughts about meeting people and hings that should be simple like going to the cinema and other outings.

mg1982

I think high anxiety can cause lack of friends. Your more likely to be on edge around people and not be yourself. So it becomes an unenjoyable experience.

Hugo Stiglitz

mg1982 wrote: »

I think high anxiety can cause lack of friends. Your more likely to be on edge around people and not be yourself. So it becomes an unenjoyable experience.

That's another thing, yeah. Didn't even think of that. Well said MG.

veganrun

So they told me today it would require me to go for 2-3 weeks. It was obvious to them that I don't want to go and it seems like I should have been informed of this beforehand.

They talked about working around it but he didn't fill me with confidence that that would be the case.

I'm going to start to put the feelers out tomorrow for other jobs.

greenfrogs

It is very silly that the company didn't inform you about this before you took the job. This is their fault and doesn't say a lot about them. It sounds like you will pick up another job easily which is great. Lots of people would have issues with this kind of travel. Whether for health reasons, family reasons or other obligations.

veganrun

greenfrogs wrote: »

It is very silly that the company didn't inform you about this before you took the job. This is their fault and doesn't say a lot about them. It sounds like you will pick up another job easily which is great. Lots of people would have issues with this kind of travel. Whether for health reasons, family reasons or other obligations.

I was starting to like the place too, although being honest, I have concerns over the job they hired me to do. It seems like a nice place with nice people, and I feel like a bit of a sissy about all this. I was barely holding it together when I was talking to him.

greenfrogs

It's hard to talk to your superiors in a new job especially about a concern you have. Just remember for the moment your health is one of your top priorities. You have to make this decision for you at this moment in time. It won't always be like this. You will get better and be able to do the things that once came so naturally. There is no point to overstretch yourself.

veganrun

greenfrogs wrote: »

It's hard to talk to your superiors in a new job especially about a concern you have. Just remember for the moment your health is one of your top priorities. You have to make this decision for you at this moment in time. It won't always be like this. You will get better and be able to do the things that once came so naturally. There is no point to overstretch yourself.

Yeah maybe. I'm concerned what it will look like on my CV if I leave so soon/will it make getting a new job difficult/impossible.

I know another company that was keen to hire me and the hiring manager even said to call him if I don't like this job. Problem is, the job may be filled by now. I will call him tomorrow to see what's what.

Jhcx

Thanks. glad to know its not just me.

Hugo Stiglitz

Jhcx wrote: »

Thanks. glad to know its not just me.

Yeah it's not just you. It can be reassuring to know that you're not alone in this.

alaskayoung

Finally saw my psychologist again this morning and it was so good to talk to her. I feel so much more secure now that I have her support again. She told me that I'm starting the new DBT programme next Friday. I'm kind of nervous about it but pretty excited too. It sounds like a lot of work.
I've decided to take on board the advice of a lot of people and go into premed instead of 1st year medicine in September so that I can fully commit to this programme and focus on my recovery. Everything that happened is still very recent and although I'm out of crisis everything is still quite unstable. The last thing I want is to fall completely apart again this year and be forced to drop out. I feel kind of guilty that I'm taking the easy option but I know deep down I need the time.

Hugo Stiglitz

alaskayoung wrote: »

Finally saw my psychologist again this morning and it was so good to talk to her. I feel so much more secure now that I have her support again. She told me that I'm starting the new DBT programme next Friday. I'm kind of nervous about it but pretty excited too. It sounds like a lot of work.
I've decided to take on board the advice of a lot of people and go into premed instead of 1st year medicine in September so that I can fully commit to this programme and focus on my recovery. Everything that happened is still very recent and although I'm out of crisis everything is still quite unstable. The last thing I want is to fall completely apart again this year and be forced to drop out. I feel kind of guilty that I'm taking the easy option but I know deep down I need the time.

That's great to hear, Alaska. I'm sure that it wasn't an easy decision to make, but you can see the benefit of doing it this way. Also, you have absolutely nothing to feel guilty about by going down this route. Great news indeed.

Diamond Doll

For someone with anxiety, who has been very isolated lately, today should have been an extremely difficult day.

Two house viewings (one more like a grilling by an owner-occupier), a coffee with a friend, an accidental encounter with a previous manager, an accidental encounter with a current colleague, which led to an impromptu meeting with some other colleagues (I've been off work for quite a while, so lots of potential for awkwardness.) All followed by meeting my ex.

Recently only one or two of these normal, everyday things would have me so stressed out and panicky that I'd have to lie down for the rest of the day. But I kept on soldiering on through, and actually enjoyed most of it. And didn't screw up the house viewings - even though neither ended up being suitable, I'm glad I didn't screw them up - good practice for when I find the right place.

Really starting to feel like I'm on the road to recovery now.

Just the fact that I'm so proud of myself for that, makes me miss the naturally chilled stress-free person I was. Fingers crossed I'm on my way back there.

scrimshanker

Well done tlp!

Hugo Stiglitz

Fair play for getting through that TIP! I would have ran away from it all!

Gremlinertia

Wow Mocha, overwhelmed just reading your post, I would have fainted at all that, well done..

Foggy.nelson

Hey guys hope all are well, have been busy working, seems to be a lot of people down the last few days on here, keep talking on here its good to get stuff off your chest and rant. I was pretty ok until yesterday. Had a decision on my mind and finally chose what to do and have been kinda miserable since. Had no pressure on me what to do but I can't help but feel I made the wrong decision. Wish I could just unload all the reason for and against on someone but anyone I can talk to I can't tell them everything in my head

Gremlinertia

Foggy, decisions are the bane of my life at times. Feel free to pm if you think a randomer can help.. I'm great at helping others but not myself, typical eh?.

In my own story I was doing ok until a friend gave me a fairly searing verbal attack last night. She has some justification but I really don't think enough for the level of vitriol aimed at me..

Foggy.nelson

Gremlinertia wrote: »

Foggy, decisions are the bane of my life at times. Feel free to pm if you think a randomer can help.. I'm great at helping others but not myself, typical eh?.

In my own story I was doing ok until a friend gave me a fairly searing verbal attack last night. She has some justification but I really don't think enough for the level of vitriol aimed at me..

Thanks might pm later after work.. Some different views and opinions might help.

Sorry to hear that, maybe you just caught her on a bad day.. not that that's an excuse

veganrun

Well yesterday was a bit of a better day eventually anxiety wise but I'm still in a bit of a daze about what to do. Part of me wonders am I overreacting and if I should go but to be honest, I can't guarantee I would show up for the flight so I'm not going to say yes.

I'm kind of annoyed as I'm not sure I would have pursued or accepted this role had I known about this travel requirement beforehand. I also turned down two other job offers, one of which I was quite tempted by as I had agreed to join this current company and didn't want to go back on my word and wanted to give it a chance.

To be honest I kind of feel like this was a sucker punch.

I hope things work out somehow, somewhere as I don't know if I should just give my notice or try to find something else first although getting time off for interviews might not be easy. I guess I could stay but I'm concerned my preference not to travel may be held against me, assuming they don't decide to sack me.

Foggy.nelson

veganrun wrote: »

Well yesterday was a bit of a better day eventually anxiety wise but I'm still in a bit of a daze about what to do. Part of me wonders am I overreacting and if I should go but to be honest, I can't guarantee I would show up for the flight so I'm not going to say yes.

I'm kind of annoyed as I'm not sure I would have pursued or accepted this role had I known about this travel requirement beforehand. I also turned down two other job offers, one of which I was quite tempted by as I had agreed to join this current company and didn't want to go back on my word and wanted to give it a chance.

To be honest I kind of feel like this was a sucker punch.

I hope things work out somehow, somewhere as I don't know if I should just give my notice or try to find something else first although getting time off for interviews might not be easy. I guess I could stay but I'm concerned my preference not to travel may be held against me, assuming they don't decide to sack me.

Only reading thru the last week of your story now. Try not to dwell on it too much, the fact that yoube gotten a few offers in the short space of time, hopefully you would get something similar without the travelling

veganrun

Foggy.nelson wrote: »

Only reading thru the last week of your story now. Try not to dwell on it too much, the fact that yoube gotten a few offers in the short space of time, hopefully you would get something similar without the travelling

I hope so foggy. Problem is that I can't stop thinking about it. It was the first thing I thought of this morning when I woke up.

veganrun

Gremlinertia wrote: »

In my own story I was doing ok until a friend gave me a fairly searing verbal attack last night. She has some justification but I really don't think enough for the level of vitriol aimed at me..

Something similar happened to me a few months ago, except it was my landlord and her husband. Made me feel like s*** and caused me an awful amount of stress.