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Anxiety and/or depression discussion.

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    #1592
    kronsington
    Registered Users Posts: 2,009 ✭✭✭kronsington


    Well here's one for you.. I met up with a this girl that I like on Friday and she actually said she could feel the anxiety and negative energy emanating from me.. How do you respond to that?? I tried to play it all down with humour but she saw right through it. I really like this girl and was exceptionally nervous before I met her. Sometimes I can t explain my incredibly ridiculous behaviour and i very much dislike myself at the moment. I've been actively trying to control y anxiety but nothing is working, in fact it's actually getting worse


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    #1593
    Gremlinertia
    Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators, Regional West Moderators Posts: 60,193 Mod ✭✭✭✭Gremlinertia


    kronsington wrote: »
    Well here's one for you.. I met up with a this girl that I like on Friday and she actually said she could feel the anxiety and negative energy emanating from me.. How do you respond to that?? I tried to play it all down with humour but she saw right through it. I really like this girl and was exceptionally nervous before I met her. Sometimes I can t explain my incredibly ridiculous behaviour and i very much dislike myself at the moment. I've been actively trying to control y anxiety but nothing is working, in fact it's actually getting worse

    I've been 'seen through' sometimes, i go with it generally, some people are quite sensitive to how you are and the vibes emanating from you. Turns out that i made two good friends from admitting that i was really anxious and down..

    I now think it's probably a good thing to embrace the people who are sensitive enough to see how you are instead of considering you snobby or stand offish because you find it nerve wracking to engage.. :o Hope i haven't waffled too much here..


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    #1594
    Hugo Stiglitz
    Closed Accounts Posts: 43,891 ✭✭✭✭Hugo Stiglitz


    Am in a "what's the point" kinda mood here.


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    #1595
    Killer_banana
    Registered Users Posts: 2,759 ✭✭✭Killer_banana


    I agree, if someone else brings it up then it's okay to admit it. You don't have to tell them everything but you could just say you've had some recent issues with anxiety. Like Gremlin I've found admitting it can actually work out for the better. Was seriously uncertain about telling people at work about my depression but one day I had it so bad I had to tell people because it was affecting my performance and also because I just felt like I would explode if I did. It was actually a brilliant idea, I'm closer to both people because of it and I felt so cared for and looked after for the rest of my shift. Also by confiding in them they both confided in me since about personal problems/their own mental health issues so we're all able to help each other on several occasions and are all closer because of it. Also if you really like this girl and things progress it's going to have to come out eventually, probably better sooner rather than later.


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    #1596
    guitarzero
    Registered Users Posts: 1,425 ✭✭✭guitarzero


    Hugo Stiglitz wrote: »
    Am in a "what's the point" kinda mood here.

    Hate that mood.


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    #1597
    Hugo Stiglitz
    Closed Accounts Posts: 43,891 ✭✭✭✭Hugo Stiglitz


    guitarzero wrote: »
    Hate that mood.

    It seems to strike me most weekends now.


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    #1598
    guitarzero
    Registered Users Posts: 1,425 ✭✭✭guitarzero


    Hugo Stiglitz wrote: »
    It seems to strike me most weekends now.

    Haha, yeah, I'm the exact same, hangovers are a big culprit too. I get it early in the day, horrible existential thoughts etc. Good company is often the best cure if you are lucky enough to have that.


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    #1599
    Hugo Stiglitz
    Closed Accounts Posts: 43,891 ✭✭✭✭Hugo Stiglitz


    guitarzero wrote: »
    Haha, yeah, I'm the exact same, hangovers are a big culprit too. I get it early in the day, horrible existential thoughts etc. Good company is often the best cure if you are lucky enough to have that.

    No company and nothing to do here lol :-/


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    #1600
    guitarzero
    Registered Users Posts: 1,425 ✭✭✭guitarzero


    Hugo Stiglitz wrote: »
    No company and nothing to do here lol :-/

    That's pretty heavy man, dont you have a skype/google+ to contact friends? (btw I'm fully aware of the precarious nature of friends and depression)


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    #1601
    Hugo Stiglitz
    Closed Accounts Posts: 43,891 ✭✭✭✭Hugo Stiglitz


    guitarzero wrote: »
    That's pretty heavy man, dont you have a skype/google+ to contact friends? (btw I'm fully aware of the precarious nature of friends and depression)

    You know that kinda loneliness where you desire the company of peers. Like there are family in the house here too thankfully so I'm not totally alone but want more of a peer connection. If you get me.


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    #1602
    CZ 453
    Registered Users Posts: 1,730 ✭✭✭CZ 453


    Hugo Stiglitz wrote: »
    You know that kinda loneliness where you desire the company of peers. Like there are family in the house here too thankfully so I'm not totally alone but want more of a peer connection. If you get me.

    Are you on the Book of the Face? Have you hobbies?


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    #1603
    Hugo Stiglitz
    Closed Accounts Posts: 43,891 ✭✭✭✭Hugo Stiglitz


    shezer wrote: »
    Are you on the Book of the Face? Have you hobbies?

    Yeah I'd like have chats with people on FB and Boards.

    No hobbies really to be brutally honest. Having some would make it easier to go out and about in real life but I wouldn't even know where to begin about getting a hobby.


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    #1604
    CZ 453
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    The Facebook can be dangerous enough all the same for us anxiety fiends. Scrolling down through the news feed showing others happiness or apparent happiness can put you down if you are already feeling low. The chat on it is a great service.


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    #1605
    Hugo Stiglitz
    Closed Accounts Posts: 43,891 ✭✭✭✭Hugo Stiglitz


    shezer wrote: »
    The Facebook can be dangerous enough all the same for us anxiety fiends. Scrolling down through the news feed showing others happiness or apparent happiness can put you down if you are already feeling low. The chat on it is a great service.

    I'm prone to looking up people that I formerly associated with on FB and lamenting at how great things are for them. Hits the blues hard I must say.


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    #1606
    CZ 453
    Registered Users Posts: 1,730 ✭✭✭CZ 453


    Hugo Stiglitz wrote: »
    I'm prone to looking up people that I formerly associated with on FB and lamenting at how great things are for them. Hits the blues hard I must say.

    The future is where the party is at Hugo.


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    #1607
    Hugo Stiglitz
    Closed Accounts Posts: 43,891 ✭✭✭✭Hugo Stiglitz


    I'm just feeling a bit mopey is all. Thanks for the kind comments guys. :)


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    #1608
    fr336
    Registered Users Posts: 10,179 ✭✭✭✭fr336


    Hugo Stiglitz wrote: »
    I'm prone to looking up people that I formerly associated with on FB and lamenting at how great things are for them. Hits the blues hard I must say.

    What are they doing that's so great? My opinion of the average Joe is very low - papering over the cracks, keeping up appearances being order of the day. I'd guess that a lot of trying to impress others and sniping at others gets many people up in the morning...oh and going through the motions to too large at extent. I don't think many people around actually care about what they're doing, very sad.


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    #1609
    fr336
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    I want to burst and scream everything is getting on my nerves / upsetting them


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    #1610
    handbagmad
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    Seems fcuk the world humour is the order of the day today.

    Hugo, I hate Facebook.

    To me people posting every little details of their so called perfect lives and their "perfect" relationships is just fueling their egotistical view of life.
    It's just shallow, or maybe im just a sour aul biatch.


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    #1611
    Hugo Stiglitz
    Closed Accounts Posts: 43,891 ✭✭✭✭Hugo Stiglitz


    handbagmad wrote: »
    maybe im just a sour aul biatch.

    I'm a sour yoke myself H! :D


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    #1612
    handbagmad
    Closed Accounts Posts: 650 ✭✭✭handbagmad


    Hugo Stiglitz wrote: »
    I'm a sour yoke myself H! :D

    bahh feicin happy people...said in a fr.jack voice


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    #1613
    northgirl
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    guitarzero wrote: »
    Haha, yeah, I'm the exact same, hangovers are a big culprit too. I get it early in the day, horrible existential thoughts etc. Good company is often the best cure if you are lucky enough to have that.

    Feelin' rotten today too.. All anxious and definitely not helped by hangover still ongoing from Friday night.. Dreading work tomorrow and all the week will bring with it..


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    #1614
    fr336
    Registered Users Posts: 10,179 ✭✭✭✭fr336


    handbagmad wrote: »
    Seems fcuk the world humour is the order of the day today.

    Hugo, I hate Facebook.

    To me people posting every little details of their so called perfect lives and their "perfect" relationships is just fueling their egotistical view of life.
    It's just shallow, or maybe im just a sour aul biatch.

    No, it is in fact true for the majority of people. And by that I mean a good 70% of people. The other 30% are out there and are great in various ways while still being human...sadly sometimes you have to explore an awful lot to find such people as they tend to flock towards nicer areas (and in my case countries) :D

    A life spent trying to impress others, especially in most cases others you apparently don't even like, is no life at all. People who live their lives through Facebooks don't just make me feel embarrassed, I feel rather sick.


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    #1615
    Hugo Stiglitz
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    northgirl wrote: »
    Feelin' rotten today too.. All anxious and definitely not helped by hangover still ongoing from Friday night.. Dreading work tomorrow and all the week will bring with it..

    Hope it passes soon there NorthGirl


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    #1616
    [Deleted User]
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    I'm having one of those days too, feel like there's some people picking on me and it's hard for me not to react to it. So close to just leaving here to avoid it, to be honest.


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    #1617
    northgirl
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    Cheers Hugo S :) Likewise.. At least I know I am not alone with much of these feelings... not to wish them on others but it kind of helps a bit..


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    #1618
    CZ 453
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    Ice cream for everyone. It's the only thing for the blues folks.


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    #1619
    guitarzero
    Registered Users Posts: 1,425 ✭✭✭guitarzero


    shezer wrote: »
    Ice cream for everyone. It's the only thing for the blues folks.

    I had some vanilla ice cream, apple tart and sliced banana 15 mins ago, dont wanna brag or anything..


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    #1620
    Roquentin
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 3,130 ✭✭✭Roquentin


    Hugo Stiglitz wrote: »
    I'm prone to looking up people that I formerly associated with on FB and lamenting at how great things are for them. Hits the blues hard I must say.

    i think though a lot of people do a cosmetic job on the FB pages......they make themselves look good on them. i remember i college a lecture saying he pisses his hole laughing at the ****e students type on linkedin pages

    a lot of these social media pages are how people wish to look rather than how they actually look and i wouldnt pay too much attention to them

    id say if you looked into the lives of others they would all have problems some way or another

    edit: i remember a lad who was unemployed saying he was working in some place just so employers would see it and be impressed


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    #1621
    northgirl
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    Malteser McFlurry...


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