Anxiety and/or depression discussion.

fiftythree

stinkle wrote: »

You're right, I've been doing stuff I'd never bother with back home. Nothing spectacular, just attending a meetup for example, or planning a day trip. Also bought tickets for music stuff. Gonna make myself go out soon, it's fairly tempting to stay home all day but I'll try and tick a few things off my list.

Hope your own move has gone well.

can't complain stinkle.
though i think i am a bit behind you in that my move was pretty rough
and ill planned.
wouldn't have any friends to stay in touch with or anything.
at least i have somewhere to stay now, didn't at first.
i'm trying to build up life bit by bit at this stage.
from a very low base line.
need to try look on the bright side, see the positives.

fiftythree

do any of you share a house/flat ie have housemates and how do you deal with that.
i do at the moment and i am not finding it easy.
some things bother me, others don't, like i wouldn't mind noise or loud music,
but i have a big problem with people being dirty and not cleaning up.
i wouldn't say it causes me anxiety as such, but it certainly doesn't help.
most of the people here seem decent but there's one awful dirty man who ruins it for us.
talking to him about it doesn't change anything so is pointless.

fr336

These next few weeks are going to be the best I've ever had - guaranteed.

Hugo Stiglitz

fr336 wrote: »

These next few weeks are going to be the best I've ever had - guaranteed.

They will be F!

fr336

Hugo Stiglitz wrote: »

They will be F!

Haha you been looking at my masterplan? :pac:

Hugo Stiglitz

fr336 wrote: »

Haha you been looking at my masterplan? :pac:

I have, and I like it!

cookie24

fiftythree wrote: »

do any of you share a house/flat ie have housemates and how do you deal with that.
i do at the moment and i am not finding it easy.
some things bother me, others don't, like i wouldn't mind noise or loud music,
but i have a big problem with people being dirty and not cleaning up.
i wouldn't say it causes me anxiety as such, but it certainly doesn't help.
most of the people here seem decent but there's one awful dirty man who ruins it for us.
talking to him about it doesn't change anything so is pointless.

i do, with 2 other fellas. they have girlfriends over a fair bit as well. its usually grand, no-one is messy. but I have my xbox when i wanna get away from things and have some 'me time'

fr336

Hugo Stiglitz wrote: »

I have, and I like it!

Pretty genius right. World domination shall be mine mwhahahahaha.......ahem.

Hugo Stiglitz

fr336 wrote: »

Pretty genius right. World domination shall be mine mwhahahahaha.......ahem.

Ours!

cookie24

Hugo Stiglitz wrote: »

Ours!

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fr336

Hugo Stiglitz wrote: »

Ours!

Oops...yes..of course...ours. I would never sideline my sidekick as power would within my grasp...never!

Hugo Stiglitz

fr336 wrote: »

Oops...yes..of course...ours. I would never sideline my sidekick as power would within my grasp...never!

So noble! *wipes tear from eye*

fiftythree

cookie24 wrote: »

i do, with 2 other fellas. they have girlfriends over a fair bit as well. its usually grand, no-one is messy. but I have my xbox when i wanna get away from things and have some 'me time'

that's good you are ok with it.
i am not OCD about it but but my god they are nastily dirty here.
my room is grand, my own space so i keep it fairly nice.
the toilet and kitchen are awful though.
third world stuff. it is maybe a sensitive/racist issue so i didnt bring it up with him
but a lad from the middle east lives here and has different habits.
he doesn't flush toilet roll, just throws it on the floor.
landlord left a sign up not to do it but he persists.
i hate it and have to clean it up as nobody else does.
making me sick tbh after a while.

cookie24

fiftythree wrote: »

that's good you are ok with it.
i am not OCD about it but but my god they are nastily dirty here.
my room is grand, my own space so i keep it fairly nice.
the toilet and kitchen are awful though.
third world stuff. it is maybe a sensitive/racist issue so i didnt bring it up with him
but a lad from the middle east lives here and has different habits.
he doesn't flush toilet roll, just throws it on the floor.
landlord left a sign up not to do it but he persists.
i hate it and have to clean it up as nobody else does.
making me sick tbh after a while.

thats mighty disgusting. How are you putting up with that? Any chance of a move?

CZ 453

fiftythree wrote: »

that's good you are ok with it.
i am not OCD about it but but my god they are nastily dirty here.
my room is grand, my own space so i keep it fairly nice.
the toilet and kitchen are awful though.
third world stuff. it is maybe a sensitive/racist issue so i didnt bring it up with him
but a lad from the middle east lives here and has different habits.
he doesn't flush toilet roll, just throws it on the floor.
landlord left a sign up not to do it but he persists.
i hate it and have to clean it up as nobody else does.
making me sick tbh after a while.

Rub his nose in it....:mad:

fiftythree

CZ 453 wrote: »

Rub his nose in it....:mad:

move could be possible, landlord seems decent, there's only so much he can do.
he has a pile of places so i might ask to transfer.
i would be averse to confrontation in a place i have to live with people day to day.
told him to clean the kitchen after he was done he said no won't.
said kitchens dont need to be cleaned they are for cooking not cleaning.
quite an aggressive type and he has a girlfriend/wife and a child
living in his tiny room illegally.
i wouldn't mess with him i would be afraid.

Dermighty

fiftythree wrote: »

do any of you play music, sing, paint, or create stuff, music, art, of any kind?
sometimes low mood can be fuel for that kind of thing.

I paint toy soldiers

Otis_taylor2

fiftythree wrote: »

that's good you are ok with it.
i am not OCD about it but but my god they are nastily dirty here.
my room is grand, my own space so i keep it fairly nice.
the toilet and kitchen are awful though.
third world stuff. it is maybe a sensitive/racist issue so i didnt bring it up with him
but a lad from the middle east lives here and has different habits.
he doesn't flush toilet roll, just throws it on the floor.
landlord left a sign up not to do it but he persists.
i hate it and have to clean it up as nobody else does.
making me sick tbh after a while.

its in no way sensitive/racist! just have a talk with him.

fiftythree

Otis_taylor2 wrote: »

its in no way sensitive/racist! just have a talk with him.

ok i will try. but the man is so filthy i'm not going to waste my
life talking to him about every issue. he also urinates on the floor of the toilet.
no idea why. there is a perfectly good toilet there.
the tiled floor is constantly covered in urine and it is seeping into the landing carpet at this stage. place stinks.
i wouldn't have time for anything else if i pulled him up on everything. the place is a state. he is just unsuitable to live with.
i need a move. people don't change in my experience.

stinkle

fiftythree wrote: »

move could be possible, landlord seems decent, there's only so much he can do.
he has a pile of places so i might ask to transfer.
i would be averse to confrontation in a place i have to live with people day to day.
told him to clean the kitchen after he was done he said no won't.
said kitchens dont need to be cleaned they are for cooking not cleaning.
quite an aggressive type and he has a girlfriend/wife and a child
living in his tiny room illegally.
i wouldn't mess with him i would be afraid.

Jeez that sounds rotten. Defo talk to landlord as he is aware of the grossness already. I couldn't cope if I had to come home to that. Like yourself I hate confrontation in those situations.

I had housemates years ago who were right pains - similar thing, manky loo and never cleaning the kitchen. I'm not a bit tidy myself but would keep communal areas clean and tidy, etc. Got called away one time due to family emergency. Was on my own there that week, has left something in sink and they went mad at me when they got home but I had been staying with family due to emergency so never had chance to clean. Then they'd go mad about TV noise and TV wouldn't even be plugged in, grrr. Hell truly is other people

CZ 453

He sounds like he is literally marking his territory like a dog. He is trying to get you out, no doubt about it.

Otis_taylor2

fiftythree wrote: »

ok i will try. but the man is so filthy i'm not going to waste my
life talking to him about every issue. he also urinates on the floor of the toilet.
no idea why. there is a perfectly good toilet there.
the tiled floor is constantly covered in urine and it is seeping into the landing carpet at this stage. place stinks.
i wouldn't have time for anything else if i pulled him up on everything. the place is a state. he is just unsuitable to live with.
i need a move. people don't change in my experience.

good god that sounds horrible! maybe he has some sort of mental/physical health difficulties?im just assuming. i too have had some bad experience living with other people but not as bad as what you've described. i guess the best option would be if you can move.

fiftythree

stinkle wrote: »

Jeez that sounds rotten. Defo talk to landlord as he is aware of the grossness already. I couldn't cope if I had to come home to that. Like yourself I hate confrontation in those situations.

I had housemates years ago who were right pains - similar thing, manky loo and never cleaning the kitchen. I'm not a bit tidy myself but would keep communal areas clean and tidy, etc. Got called away one time due to family emergency. Was on my own there that week, has left something in sink and they went mad at me when they got home but I had been staying with family due to emergency so never had chance to clean. Then they'd go mad about TV noise and TV wouldn't even be plugged in, grrr. Hell truly is other people

thanks stinkle, i'll get on it.
i would rather my own private room a mess than communal areas.
feel that is rude and i would keep place decent for sake of other people.
i'm quite messy myself but i would never let that affect others.
yeah i think i just can't be around other people at this stage.
but i'm working on getting myself together so i don't have to.
but 1 step at a time.
actually just mopped the toilet there. made me sick.
i just don't get it??
why urinate on the floor when there is a toilet??

fiftythree

Otis_taylor2 wrote: »

good god that sounds horrible! maybe he has some sort of mental/physical health difficulties?im just assuming. i too have had some bad experience living with other people but not as bad as what you've described. i guess the best option would be if you can move.

i have spoken to the guy he actually comes across ok in person,
apart from being a bit aggressive.
in any case he's not my problem and i don't want him to be so i have to leave.

fiftythree

CZ 453 wrote: »

He sounds like he is literally marking his territory like a dog. He is trying to get you out, no doubt about it.

that makes sense, i have the feeling he lived here on his own for ages.
just from signs about the place. and doesnt like anyone else here.
like he tries to take the place over. like an animal, yes.
there's a few of us who feel the same living here.
the rest not so bothered they go home weekends and have home places.
i really need to move. no other way. thanks.

CZ 453

How much is rent these days up your way?

fiftythree

CZ 453 wrote: »

How much is rent these days up your way?

well for a room in a shared house in town i pay just over £300/month sterling including all bills.
once i get myself sorted ill hopefully be able to get a small flat for myself
for not much more.

fiftythree

CZ 453 wrote: »

How much is rent these days up your way?

no transport costs etc so i guess its not bad but there must be
places out there similar minus the urine and faeces on the floor.
sorry about the rant guys i'm just sick of this.doing my head in.

fiftythree

CZ 453 wrote: »

Nah dude. Forget your apologizing anyway. He is a prick of the highest order doing that to get you out. The landlord should hoof him out and especially so if he isn't paying for the missus and the child.

think he knows the landlord personally. and i guess he's happy as long as the rent goes in every month.
i took this place out of desperation tbh i was at a low point.
a while ago a had no home so i suppose this is better than that but
i just don't understand how you can choose to live that that.like an animal.

when you don't have to. i understand poverty but this isn't the same.
it is choosing to basically crap on the floor when you share your space with other people who may not be ok with that.
there are regulations here limiting the amount of people per house.
him and his wife/child make us well over the limit but
i really don't want get into some legal battle about that.
so i'm gonna try to just move house i think.
wash my hands of it....literally and otherwise:pac:

fiftythree

CZ 453 wrote: »

Nah dude. Forget your apologizing anyway. He is a prick of the highest order doing that to get you out. The landlord should hoof him out and especially so if he isn't paying for the missus and the child.

thanks for replying to me cz. don't know anyone at all in real life and i just felt like a rant.
probably more suited to some accommodation forum but i don't stray out of here as i am scared.
really appreciated buddy. you genuinely helped me a lot.