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Anxiety and/or depression discussion.
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Oakey Dokey.
1. Living at home vs Not living with students?
Living at home has the obvious advantage of being way cheaper to live. The upside to that is you can afford to go out every night, if that's your thing. The downside to having to share and rent is that you get very little sleep with all the partying.Partying that you'll benefit from if you just crash the place anyway. And Sex...without having to play ninja getting past your mammy and daddy. There are plenty of horror stories about living with other students.
2.Not connecting with students on Interests/Hobbies?
Don't just stick to finding friends that are students. There is no need for it. Focus on the hobbies and Join groups in the college or outside it relating to those hobbies. This will give you confidence in college. You'll also find new interests as you go through college and life. So you don't have to box yourself off to the interests you currently have.
3.On peripheral or out groups?
People love the underdog or the wildcard. Being on the peripheral isn't actually that bad. You can come and go as you please. You don't have to conform. Who doesn't love the fonz??? Be unique. Enjoy it. You'll soon find that groups or gangs fizzle out after college anyway.
4.Frustrated with being quiet?
You weren't quiet when you met the missus. It's probably not as bad as you think. Do you want to be popular?
5.Nervous with new relationship(first time)?
Relax with this anyway. She's probably as nervous as you are. It's early days. Wait and see what you've in common. You really don't have to do anything. Just be nice to her regardless of how things go.
6.Not enough close friends to talk about missus to?
Plenty of people on here. You're anonymous. Say what you can. Close friends(good friends) pop up at different stages of your life. It just happens. No one goes out looking for best friends and finds them.
7. Sister isn't well
Sorry to hear about this. Talk to her as much as you can. She may have went through the same as yourself. Talk to your parents as well. You're not a problem. That's a part of family life. Trust and Love.
8.Missed chances to talk to peers?
I think everyone in the world had this at one time or another. I bet you thought you'd speak and a load of gobbledy gook would come out?
A few things..
1. I don't know if it is my thing, I just feel a bit resentful of living so far away from potential new friends and I think my family are starting to bear the brunt of that. 'Alone' time with my girlfriend is tough to come by also as she is in a similar situation.
3/4. I don't mind being on the outside, I think it suits me. But I also feel lonely at times as many people in college seem to have groups to attend things with, plan summers with etc, whereas I don't as much. I don't want to be popular, but I don't want to fade out and be at the back of everyone's mind. Sometimes it'd be nice to be at the front.
Think the relationship thing will be fine, we do love each other and I guess I'm finding that situation overwhelming/overthinking things as its my first proper relationship.
Talking anonymously has helped already. I don't feel I need a whole load of help, just a little.
And yes, I feel fearful of speaking sometimes due to 'gobbledy-gook' syndrome and stumbling over my words/not knowing what to say.
Thanks for your help and advice
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Well least the tests were ok I know your possibly miffed even frustrated but he just doesn't want to give you pill unless its a last resort, I had panic attacks years ago granted I don't think they were cripplingly major and they fecked of after a few years. A lot of people get them.
The more you work yourself up the worse you make it on yourself unfortunately it can't be helped sometimes. Try do what he suggested least you tried if its not for you then go back for the pills.0 -
Well least the tests were ok I know your possibly miffed even frustrated but he just doesn't want to give you pill unless its a last resort, I had panic attacks years ago granted I don't think they were cripplingly major and they fecked of after a few years. A lot of people get them.
The more you work yourself up the worse you make it on yourself unfortunately it can't be helped sometimes. Try do what he suggested least you tried if its not for you then go back for the pills.
my problem is battling it for the whole day.. 6 hours trying to stay calm isnt easy0 -
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Hi. Thanks for posting.
What age is your little one? I have a small girl who is 2 and I mind her on my own for three days. I would get the same way sometimes as she is very busy. Best bet is to just take little time outs. If i'm upset or feeling down she picks up on it. I suspect that's the same for you. The bond between a mother and child being even closer. I'd bet she'd be a lot different with you if you felt a bit better in yourself.
Have you tried counselling? How's your diet?
Could you start with some light walks?
She's 15 months. She's starting to defy me and it's so frustrating because she's still young enough that she doesn't fully understand but I feel like tearing my hair out. I try and take time out but she just screams n that makes me more tense. The only time out I get is when she sleeps n a lot of the time I feel I'm watching the clock waiting for nap/bed time
I'm currently in cbt, I have been for the last 2 years. I've cut it down to once a month as I thought I was ready but maybe I'm not. Feel like a failure for still needing it. There's a lot of stuff going on for me at the moment.
My diet is awful. That's another thing that gets me down - n I'm terrified my little girl is gonna end up obese because of me. Even though I do cut her up fruit, n rarely give her junk, I just wish I could put the same care into my own diet.
I walk nearly every day but I feel I need to get fit. I'm very overweight so another thing to make me too reluctant to do some exercise.0 -
She's 15 months. She's starting to defy me and it's so frustrating because she's still young enough that she doesn't fully understand but I feel like tearing my hair out. I try and take time out but she just screams n that makes me more tense. The only time out I get is when she sleeps n a lot of the time I feel I'm watching the clock waiting for nap/bed time
I'm currently in cbt, I have been for the last 2 years. I've cut it down to once a month as I thought I was ready but maybe I'm not. Feel like a failure for still needing it. There's a lot of stuff going on for me at the moment.
My diet is awful. That's another thing that gets me down - n I'm terrified my little girl is gonna end up obese because of me. Even though I do cut her up fruit, n rarely give her junk, I just wish I could put the same care into my own diet.
I walk nearly every day but I feel I need to get fit. I'm very overweight so another thing to make me too reluctant to do some exercise.
Can you ask your family to take over for a day. Just enough to get some rest. You sound like you really need a break. Maybe go for a swim and clear your head.
No harm in still doing CBT. No failure in it. You're grand there.
If you're walking everyday then your diet is the main problem at the moment. Have you tried doing a plan or motivations or something like that? A little weight loss would be a great kick start.0 -
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