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  • 06-07-2014 11:34am
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    Mandzhalas
    Registered Users Posts: 451 ✭✭


    I do not want to upset people - but I have nowhere else to ask...
    My wife is 23 weeks pregnant with twins and curently in labour. As you know yourselves, labour at this stage of pregnancy is not going to go well... I was told by doctors that we will be lucky if our babies will live for 3 hours. Needless to say we are absolutely heartbroken. Devastate

    I would like to forget today's events asap and move on with life...
    Do people have funerals for very premature babies? We simply can't afford one at the moment


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    Suucee
    Registered Users Posts: 1,816 ✭✭✭Suucee


    Oh my. I dont even know what to say. I just had to reply. Thinking of you both.
    X x


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    Dildo S. Trap
    Registered Users Posts: 28 ✭Dildo S. Trap


    This is awful, so sorry to hear about this terrible situation. Hope ye can pull together at this hard time. If ye would like to have a funeral, it could give you and your wife a lot of closure, even if it was just the two of ye attending it. I ye can't afford it I do know that the health board do some sort of funeral grant, or at least they used to. Please look into it and see what they can do for ye. Best of look, much love xxx


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    Dildo S. Trap
    Registered Users Posts: 28 ✭Dildo S. Trap


    This is awful, so sorry to hear about this terrible situation. Hope ye can pull together at this hard time. If ye would like to have a funeral, it could give you and your wife a lot of closure, even if it was just the two of ye attending it. I ye can't afford it I do know that the health board do some sort of funeral grant, or at least they used to. Please look into it and see what they can do for ye. Best of look, much love xxx


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    gozunda
    Registered Users Posts: 18,996 ✭✭✭✭gozunda


    This is an information leaflet from the Rotunda that may be if some use unfortunately the social welfare grant is no longer available

    http://www.rotunda.ie/Portals/0/Documents/Maternity%20S/BereavInf.pdf


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    pwurple
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    So sorry. Please use any and all counselling you and your wife can get. try to support eachother. Public health nurse, priest, community services are all available.

    Can family help?


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    NIMAN
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    You are in my thoughts today, may you both find the strength to cope with this.
    Take care.


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    beauf
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    Theres a lot of info here and people to contact.

    http://www.isands.ie/have-you-been-told-your-baby-has-died-or-will-die
    http://www.isands.ie/a-little-lifetime-book-for-parents-aamp-families-mainmenu-32

    I would suggest its important to talk to someone in the hospital about counselling.


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    Chattastrophe!
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    I am so very sorry. My thoughts are with you and your wife.

    I know that the immediate instinctive reaction might be to put this into the past as soon as you can, but I honestly think it would be healthier for both of you to take the time to acknowledge and grieve this loss.

    Please liaise with the hospital in the coming days, weeks, months. They have resources there that might help a lot.


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    tayto lover
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    I hope you and your wife get the strength to deal with this. I will be thinking of you both.


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    December2012
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    If you do have to have a funeral I think the hospital have a bereavement team who can help you.

    If you need to do it privately it's likely that undertakers will be sympathetic with timing.

    You're in my thoughts.

    Also to add I know of two separate children born in the early 20s weeks. One is a teenager and the other is 11.

    I hope you all make it.


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    Mandzhalas
    Registered Users Posts: 451 ✭✭Mandzhalas


    December2012 wrote: »
    If you do have to have a funeral I think the hospital have a bereavement team who can help you.

    If you need to do it privately it's likely that undertakers will be sympathetic with timing.

    You're in my thoughts.

    Also to add I know of two separate children born in the early 20s weeks. One is a teenager and the other is 11.

    I hope you all make it.

    No,they didn't made it.


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    nikpmup
    Registered Users Posts: 2,510 ✭✭✭nikpmup


    I'm so very sorry Mandzhalas x


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    eviltwin
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    oh man, my deepest condolences to you and your wife, you'll be in my thoughts tonight xx


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    Chattastrophe!
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    So very sorry to hear that.


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    January
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    I'm really sorry to hear that OP, as someone else posted, the bereavement team in the hospital and ISANDS will be a great source of support for you at this time.

    As this post is very sensitive and you've updated us with your devastating news I'm going to close the thread.


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