Biggest regrets in life?

imurdaddy

Pushing away and hurting the most beautiful and amazing woman I have ever known, the only one I could see myself marry! All gone now due to my stupidity. Ill thake that feeling to grave with me, miss u E x

Dave!

Dave! wrote: »

I guess I regret not being better able to deal with having bad acne in secondary school. It fcuked me up for a long time, and had a knock-on effect on my college years, which weren't as good as they could have been due to the residual confidence problems and shyness. I'm sure it's still lingering in my head today, though I've managed to have a pretty good life since then; maybe it's something I'll explore with a therapist some day!

On the other hand, if it weren't for those experiences, I'd probably be a different person today. Not sure if that'd be better or worse.

I had same problem. I was told by people I had the worst acne they have ever seen I went on the Roaccutane for a while and it helped but still didn't clear it up. It did definitely effect confidence which I think I drank to help combat that as a teenager.

MultiUmm

Not learning how to swim. It irks me to this day that that I can't experience swimming in the ocean because it would endanger my life. Compared to some of the other stuff here my regret is pretty light. Guess I should be thankful for that.

Noo

lilblackdress wrote: »

I organised a disco for a youth club I was part of when I was 16 to raise funds for the club, a mother and her daughters friend were killed on the way to it..... no matter how many times people have told me its not my fault I can never forgive myself for organising that disco.... will always be my biggest regret

Such a tough thing to have to live with since you were 16

An elderly guest at my parents wedding (30 odd years ago) had a little too much to drink and went for a wander...he ended up having a fall and died. No one told my folks until after they came back from their honeymoon. Ive no idea what feelings theyve gone through over the last 30 years over that.

Choppersticks

Are you for real you tick stupid idiot. Don't ever let your parents here you talk like that. You said people can enjoy drugs and have a good time without becoming addicted you really need to go and see someone. What about all the people who have died from drugs on there first time using. The amount of people who took Es or coke or other designer drugs who never got the chance to become addicted because they died on there first night. There parents never got the chance to say goodbye or don't do it. It annoys you does it well I hope the next drug you take gives you a good fright. You never know when it's going to strike and everyone thinks it's not me well it can be you. Your comment is the
Best I have heard in years A real lack of world experience.I was going to say I wish you luck but I guess you don't need luck. Unbelievable

SeantheMan

Choppersticks wrote: »

Are you for real you tick stupid idiot. Don't ever let your parents here you talk like that. You said people can enjoy drugs and have a good time without becoming addicted you really need to go and see someone. What about all the people who have died from drugs on there first time using. The amount of people who took Es or coke or other designer drugs who never got the chance to become addicted because they died on there first night. There parents never got the chance to say goodbye or don't do it. It annoys you does it well I hope the next drug you take gives you a good fright. You never know when it's going to strike and everyone thinks it's not me well it can be you. Your comment is the
Best I have heard in years A real lack of world experience.I was going to say I wish you luck but I guess you don't need luck. Unbelievable

Wow, you are really going to start of by calling someone a stupid idiot ?

here you talk like that -> hear you talk like that
there first time -> their first time

You use 'there' instead of 'their' least 3 times, it's driving me mental.

Also, you should quote the post you are replying to so as people have a reference, otherwise they have to scroll back through the posts to see which one you are replying to.

On a side note, the person posting the original is probably referring to hard drugs , which can devastate lives.
The person you are replying to, in saying that some people can use drugs responsibly has a point. Alcohol is a drug, cannabis is enjoyed the world over, and legal in many places...so in these cases drugs can be enjoyed.

I enjoy alcohol all the time, but I'm not addicted, as do many Irish people.

mrkiscool2

Choppersticks wrote: »

Are you for real you tick stupid idiot. Don't ever let your parents here you talk like that. You said people can enjoy drugs and have a good time without becoming addicted you really need to go and see someone. What about all the people who have died from drugs on there first time using. The amount of people who took Es or coke or other designer drugs who never got the chance to become addicted because they died on there first night. There parents never got the chance to say goodbye or don't do it. It annoys you does it well I hope the next drug you take gives you a good fright. You never know when it's going to strike and everyone thinks it's not me well it can be you. Your comment is the
Best I have heard in years A real lack of world experience.I was going to say I wish you luck but I guess you don't need luck. Unbelievable

Not going to comment on the grammar, pointless.

Anyway. Yes, you have A point. The a is capitalised because people who try drugs for the first time (Cannabis being an exception) have to be very careful with what they are taking. When people take drugs off people they do not know that's where the problem lies. Because some people are scumbags who will sell crap they know is dangerous to people who don't have a clue because they want to make money. And they don't care if the people taking them live or die as long as they get their money.

As a person who has taken E in my life, I was fully aware of this. Hence I did it in the company of very close friends who had been doing it before me. And it was grand. I'm not addicted, I don't need it. Because, as the poster you were replying to it said, I did it safely and responsibly. And I am not addicted. I enjoyed it and very occasionally, when I am with said friends, take some (and by some I mean at most 1). I don't think you can compare some tragic deaths to the actual drug themselves, it's the people cutting the stuff that are the problem.

All of that being said I wouldn't either encourage or discourage people from experiencing what they want. It's their decision ultimately and telling people never to do drugs is not going to stop people doing it or wanting to do it. In fact, it's actually more likely to make people do it stupidly (as mentioned above). The way we go about preventing deaths like the UCD incident is by encouraging people to only do it with friends who have done it before from people they trust.

Choppersticks

Choppersticks wrote: »

Are you for real you tick stupid idiot. Don't ever let your parents here you talk like that. You said people can enjoy drugs and have a good time without becoming addicted you really need to go and see someone. What about all the people who have died from drugs on there first time using. The amount of people who took Es or coke or other designer drugs who never got the chance to become addicted because they died on there first night. There parents never got the chance to say goodbye or don't do it. It annoys you does it well I hope the next drug you take gives you a good fright. You never know when it's going to strike and everyone thinks it's not me well it can be you. Your comment is the
Best I have heard in years A real lack of world experience.I was going to say I wish you luck but I guess you don't need luck. Unbelievable

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Ande1975

I regret taking out a mortgage for a house that's an hour outside Dublin. If I didn't I'd be able to buy an apartment in Dublin and have a life but instead I'm moving back down the country to a job that I'm terrified I'm going to hate so may have another regret waiting in the wings.

I regret not making more of an effort to meet someone, settle down and have kids.

I regret as an 18 year old joking that I'll be the spinster that my friends will be taking out for Sunday drives to give her parents a break. Thing is my life is heading in that direction and I can't stop it.

I regret waiting for my life to start and not actually living it.

ArielAtom

Not nailing the 45yr stunner old who put it up to me (19) when I was fitting her washing machine in one of those big house's in Mt Merrion all those years ago!!!!

Green Giant

Being born

JC01

MaroonAndGreen wrote: »

Kinda annoys me when people say things like this.

Plenty of people can use drugs responsibly and have fun and not become addicted and have them ruin their lives. Sorry it went bad for you, but its like alcohol, its works for some and doesnt work for others...

Well said. I know plenty of people that dabble on the odd occasion and it has no effect on there day to day lives. At the same time I know a few people who became addicted to everything from weed to pills to coke and it's destroyed them coz there too pathetic to do anything with themselves rather than worry about where the next bag of green or few yokes is coming from. Then ya have these born again clowns saying that drugs ruined there lives when actually it was a total absence of self control and responsibility that did.

My own regret: Not copping the fluck on when I finished school. Pissed away two years before I finally grew up and started to build a future for myself.

whiskeyman

Years and years ago, had a leaving do in a place I used to work.
I always got on great with a girl there who was an absolute stunner and flirted with her for a long time. Nothing ever happened, and I didn't takes things further as I was going out with someone at the time for a couple of months.
That night, she pretty much comes up to me asking me to come home with her.
I turned her down as things looked good in my new relationship.... that relationship ends a month later... bloody wish I had taken my chance!!

henryporter

whiskeyman wrote: »

Years and years ago, had a leaving do in a place I used to work.
I always got on great with a girl there who was an absolute stunner and flirted with her for a long time. Nothing ever happened, and I didn't takes things further as I was going out with someone at the time for a couple of months.
That night, she pretty much comes up to me asking me to come home with her.
I turned her down as things looked good in my new relationship.... that relationship ends a month later... bloody wish I had taken my chance!!

Is that when you turned to the whiskey?

Roquentin

whiskeyman wrote: »

Years and years ago, had a leaving do in a place I used to work.
I always got on great with a girl there who was an absolute stunner and flirted with her for a long time. Nothing ever happened, and I didn't takes things further as I was going out with someone at the time for a couple of months.
That night, she pretty much comes up to me asking me to come home with her.
I turned her down as things looked good in my new relationship.... that relationship ends a month later... bloody wish I had taken my chance!!

Thats not really a regret, just a poor choice. regret is where you feel like ****, usually because you have done something wrong

Miss.Mayhem

I had this friend that got a serious addiction to computer games. It all started back in around '02 or '03. She got a bunch of game systems and would spend all of her time playing them. Her computer games came first before anything else. When I tried to talk to her about it and offer her some friendly advise, she would disregard it. Every time a new edition of "final fantasy", "tomb raider", "Evil Resident" or another one of those major computer games came out, she would buy it the day it was released and then disappear for weeks - even months sometimes. She had a habit of ignoring me for weeks or sometimes even for months – no phone calls, no texts, no emails, no nothing – then she'd get back in touch with me just before I was about to give up on her completely.


She used to turn her mobile phone off when she was playing computer games so she wouldn't get "disturbed" while she was playing so it was impossible to get a hold of her most of the time. She'd be up all night playing those games until the very early hours of the morning. Once she sent me an email saying she been playing some computer game for over 30 hours in a row with a bunch of smiley faces like that was something to be proud of!


She began letting me down multiple times. Whenever we made plans to meet up, she would frequently cancel plans because she wanted to stay home and play her games. Sometimes she'd get caught up playing her games and forget to call me to cancel, so I'd end up standing around waiting her to show up.


Me and this girl were best friends at one point but over the years, because of her addiction, we grew further and further apart. Because she was always planning those stupid games, I'd only met up with her 3 or 4 times a year. I finally fell out with her for good in May '07 when she stood me up on my birthday. I didn't want anything to do with her after that.


I bumped into her a two years after we'd fallen out during the summer of '09. She came over to me and said she really missed me and said she really needed a friend right now and that she wanted to be friends again. The thing was: we were in HMV at the time and this girl was holding 5 or 6 computer games in her hand while she said that, so I figured nothing had changed with her. So I said no, that I didn't think that would be a good idea. I did miss her but I didn't want to put up with her carry on again.


Just before Christmas '12, I found out she died the year before. I found out that she'd had cancer for a few years. I worked out that she'd discovered she had cancer a few months before that time I bumped into her in HMV. I found out she'd gone though the cancer alone. She didn't have any friends left at that point. Everyone had given up on her over her antics with the computer games. I think I was the last one to give up on her. I feel so guilty about it. I wished I'd known she was ill! I hate that she had to go through that all alone.

whiskeyman

^^^
Ow, that's tough.
You weren't to know I guess and you really shouldn't feel guilty. Even if you did rekindle that friendship to a point, who's to say she'd still have letyou down and putting the games ahead of you?
I just hope her immersion into the games provided a huge distraction from the treatment and pain she went through.

wp_rathead

Nib wrote: »

Haven't talked to my Dad in 8 years. My parents split when I was 16 and we kind of lost touch. Has his own family now. We were best friends when I was growing up, we used to play football in the garden for hours on end and he was manager of all the teams I played on up until I was 14. A man I looked up to. I think about him every single day.

I always have this image in my head of me standing in the back of a church at his funeral, looking on from the outside as if I was his local barman and not his son.

The strange thing is he only lives 30 minutes away.

SeantheMan wrote: »

What are you waiting for ?!
Go for it OP !!!

You are still part of his family too, maybe he feels the same way. This is heartbreaking to know that you're both so close but neither will pluck up the courage to do anything.

What's the worst that can happen ?
If he welcomes you with open arms...as I assume he would...he's you father..then you have him back
If he doesn't, well at least you know, and you're as you were before.

Sean is right Nib - I know it is tough after it being so long but don't let your fear of "standing in the back of a church at his funeral" come true mate. Best of luck

Miss.Mayhem

whiskeyman wrote: »

^^^
Ow, that's tough.
You weren't to know I guess and you really shouldn't feel guilty. Even if you did rekindle that friendship to a point, who's to say she'd still have letyou down and putting the games ahead of you?
I just hope her immersion into the games provided a huge distraction from the treatment and pain she went through.

I wish she hadn't of had to go through having cancer alone. When I heard she died all I could think about was how she'd said she'd "really needed a friend right now" that time I bumped into her. But at the time, all I could focus on was those stupid pc games in her hand and I was remembering the hell I went through with her while we were friends when she was addicted to those games! She wanted to go have a coffee and chat but I wanted to get rid of her as quickly as possible because I was going on holiday the following day and only popped out for a few things. I still had tons of packing to do. I do regret dismissing her right away and not taking the time to chat with her and finding out what was bothering her. If I'd known she had cancer I would have been with her until the end. Before she got interested in those games, she was a really kind, funny, sweet and caring friend. I did - and still do - really miss the "old" her.

Dick phelan

Taking drugs, nothing to heavy but it had a bad effect on me for about 2 years or so, fell in with the wrong sort of people, as a result i left a lot of friends behind and stopped doing a lot of hobbies, i've since seen sense and don't hang around with those people now, problem is i have very few close friends now since i had left many of the old ones behind in that 2 year period i really regret it.

Dracula!

Taking up smoking. Im off cigarettes a year but have cigars sometimes when drinking. When your addicted from a young age they leave a mark on you. Has been the hardest thing I have ever done/am doing the struggle to be free of smoking.