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dating and texting

  • 14-07-2014 12:51pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Ok,

    so I am totally new to the dating world after the end of a long term relationship.

    I asked a nice guy out. We were texting a small bit before the date - I initiated some of it. a few jokes and a bit of a giggle.

    Had fun on the date. I enjoyed his company. Not 100 percent how I feel about him romantically. We kissed but I didn't feel too comfortable. Weighing things up, I am interested in spending a little bit more time with him and see how I feel. A second date has been arranged.

    I get the feeling he really likes me though. He has sent me a nice text everyday and I respond.

    By responding to him and engaging in chit chat etc am I leading him on in a way or is it ok to just go with it?

    My last boyfriend used to just ignore texts I sent to him so I'm a bit out of touch when it comes to dating/texting.


Comments

  • #2
    bee06
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,514 ✭✭✭bee06


    How would you be leading him on? You've already agreed to a 2nd date so I would say it's normal to talk/text him before the date. The only way you'd be leading him on would be if you had no intention of turning up for the date.


  • #3
    Xterminator
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,768 ✭✭✭Xterminator


    i think you are overcomplicating a situation that is not complicated at all.

    I'd advise you to enjoy the chit chat and the date(s), and continue as long as you do enjoy them, then if you get to the point where you dont, & you make a decision; act accordingly.

    If he seems more attached, then just be kind. If it comes to it, let him down gently and don't string him along.

    X


  • #4
    ash23
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,791 ✭✭✭ash23


    I think you're still in the "testing the waters" stage. It might take two or three dates to figure out if you're interested in someone. Contacting them in between dates is no harm.

    But if you have a second date and you know there's nothing there, be honest and just tell him. It's only stringing someone along if you know there's no future in it but don't tell him.


  • #5
    Merkin
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,230 ✭✭✭Merkin


    How on earth would common courtesy be misconstrued as leading him on? He texts you and you text him back, you're not declaring undying love and making false promises. Relax, there's no issue here.


  • #6
    Teyla Emmagan
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,641 ✭✭✭Teyla Emmagan


    Don't worry about it. A few texts between dates totally the norm! If it was the other way around it would be much odder!


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