What Do You Look For In The Opposite Sex? Are You Fussy?

RoyalCelt

Magaggie wrote: »

Ah jeez, they're not that OTT are they?!

I've seen other threads like this, with big long lists, which just made me think "My ideal partner is someone who doesn't make big long lists of ideal partner traits" but I don't think this thread is anywhere as bad.
The only particularly fairy-tale one (with the triangular thigh gap thing - basically a blow-up doll was being described) was deleted.

i misread your post at the start as "big long tits" and i was like jeez that is over the top!!

KKkitty

NickMondo wrote: »

women are ridiculous in their expectations, they all want to be smitten but the ultimate charmer and never think to themselves "what do I actually have to offer"

I'd be happy for any women who isn't bat**** crazy, doesn't talk to much and looks after herself somewhat, slightly overweight is fine but folds can't be having

Whatever about aesthetics if you can't keep a conversation going with a loved one you might as well be passing acquaintances in my opinion. Conversation is paramount in any relationship but if sex is more important maybe it's time to let go.

Shakespeare's Sister

NickMondo wrote: »

women are ridiculous in their expectations, they all want to be smitten but the ultimate charmer and never think to themselves "what do I actually have to offer"

It was inevitable.
A good few posts before it though, fair dues all - I guess a good-natured, non gender warring thread would have been too much for some to handle though.

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anncoates wrote: »

While I also consider compassion and intelligence essential, its always amusing the amount of people that will conspicuously avoid admitting they have to really fancy somebody physically too.

Could you not just take that as read though? If you asked someone what they like to do in the garden and they didn't mention "well first of all, I have to be conscious, and I always wear clothes" it wouldn't mean they were conspicuously avoiding mentioning it.

And physically fancying somebody doesn't necessarily mean that they conform to your "type" or even that they're particularly good looking, it's hard to predict what you're going to fancy, and the other types of attraction you feel towards a person will really influence how physically attracted you are in a lot of cases.

The Hill Billy

Intelligence, kindness, honesty, loyalty & the ability to make a good sandwich.
Tall & blonde are a bonus.

K-9

Wibbs wrote: »

Physically? I've come to the conclusion I do have a "type" alright, but that varies for people all over the place, so it's of little import save to the individual.

Personality? Much more "fussy" I am. *Yoda voice*. Integrity. Loyalty. Self awareness. Intelligence. The capacity to love, rather than the capacity to be loved. All too often confused in my humble. That lot would be a given for me and rarer to find IME.

Integrity and loyalty are important, Wibbs nails it again. Integrity would mean pointing out my faults (many), but love for me is when their weaknesses is part of why we love them. Able to laugh at themselves a big plus. Physically I've my type, decent pair of elbows a superficialness I can't shake!

anncoates

K-9 wrote: »

Wibbs nails it again

LizzieJones

Someone with more then half a brain.

greenflash

creolebelle wrote: »

My mom wants me to marry a catholic man with a grad degree

As opposed to a 'Catholic' man?

Your mam is right to want to avoid religious types.

dgt

If she can do rings at a roundabout

creolebelle

KKkitty wrote: »

I look for what I've found in my fiance. He makes me happy by just being him. He tries to act like he's a hard man but he's a softie at the back of it. He's made me stronger emotionally than I've ever been. Before him I wanted to please everyone at the same time but now I don't do that. I know it may sound cheesy but I found him again at the exact time when I needed him the most.

This was such a heartwarming post. Many blessings to you and your fiancé

creolebelle

greenflash wrote: »

As opposed to a 'Catholic' man?

Your mam is right to want to avoid religious types.

Lol. No my mam is super religious but a snob. She wants me to marry a high earning, highly educated, practicing catholic man.

greenflash

creolebelle wrote: »

Lol. No my mam is super religious but a snob. She wants me to marry a high earning, highly educated, practicing catholic man.

Capital C

creolebelle

fleet_admiral wrote: »

Why would you want someone involved in an evil and extremely dangerous cult?

So you're not a fan of the church?
The answer to your question is tradition

creolebelle

greenflash wrote: »

Capital C

Thank You. Auto type doesn't automatically capitalize the C.

RoyalCelt

What do I look for in a girl?

Her virginity.

AlanS181824

I'm not single so for the fake of my girlfriend seeing this... A nice personality...

House of Blaze

AlanS181824 wrote: »

I'm not single so for the fake of my girlfriend seeing this... A nice personality...

Bit of a Freudian slip there eh?

BetterThanThou

I'm gay, and therefore find this topic quite offensive and I demand it be stricken from the records.

RoyalCelt

BetterThanThou wrote: »

I'm gay, and therefore find this topic quite offensive and I demand it be stricken from the records.

I'm a good Catholic and I demand you be stricken from the records

Micky Dolenz

fleet_admiral wrote: »

Why would you want someone involved in an evil and extremely dangerous cult?

Mod

Infracted.

It's inflammatory for the sake of it. Be tolerate of personal beliefs even if you think they are nonsense.

RoyalCelt

fleet_admiral wrote: »

Why would you want someone involved in an evil and extremely dangerous cult?

Yeah imagine going out with one of those hardliner atheists. There fairly dangerous alright and will burn you like a witch if they see you going to church

obplayer

Micky Dolenz wrote: »

Mod

Infracted.

It's inflammatory for the sake of it. Be tolerate of personal beliefs even if you think you are nonsense.

KKkitty

creolebelle wrote: »

This was such a heartwarming post. Many blessings to you and your fiancé

Thanks so much. I think for the first time in my life I found someone that I bounce off in all aspects of a long term relationship. Feck thinking actually I know I have. I don't need to be all over him 24/7 and neither does he to me. I can be as as weird as I want and he doesn't bat an eyelid. He's also accepted my first child as his own so that was a big gesture in itself. He's been put through the mill with my emotions. I was fresh with losing both parents and since we got back together we've lost 2 babies and he's still been my rock.

Micky Dolenz

obplayer wrote: »

Heh

AlanS181824

House of Blaze wrote: »

Bit of a Freudian slip there eh?

Haven't a clue what that means haha :pac:

_Redzer_

I'm extremely fussy. That's probably the only reason why my encounters with the opposite sex aren't working out

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_Redzer_ wrote: »

I'm extremely fussy. That's probably the only reason why my encounters with the opposite sex aren't working out

Is that the new version of "just hasn't met the right girl yet?"

_Redzer_

Zayn Thundering Terrapin wrote: »

Is that the new version of "just hasn't met the right girl yet?"

She's being an awfully hard bitch to find in fairness!

Will I ever find my soulmate?

Aint Eazy Being Cheezy

_Redzer_ wrote: »

She's being an awfully hard bitch to find in fairness!

Will I ever find my soulmate?

She? I thought.... Never mind

Macavity.

I'm going to assume that this is in the context of a relationship, rather than just in a club or something.

Preferably slim, but as long as they are a healthy weight. In terms of facial looks, if I don't find them attractive I'm not going to bother pursuing them. I just feel attraction is very important. Now, that's not to say they have to be a super model or anything.

They don't have to be highly intelligent, just as long as they are in the average range. I think sometimes people over emphasise traits such as intelligence to look as if they're not shallow or something, which I've always found odd considering a person's intelligence, like looks, is largely dependent on genetics.

For personality, just someone who is sound in general I guess. Some women have a very sexy attitude and demeanor which drives me insane, it's just so attractive. I knew a girl who was attractive enough visually, although not absolutely stunning, but her whole body language and attitude made her one of the sexiest people I've ever known. I actually know a good few people like that. This is more of a bonus thing though, and not a requirement.

_Redzer_

Duracell Bunny wrote: »

She? I thought.... Never mind

Well, we can't all be into both

Augmerson

Looks - not picky at all, but just be healthy. Don't be smoking 40 fags a day, doing loads of drugs, drinking heavily and eating tonnes of ****. Other than that, have a nice smile.

Personality - much more important. Be kind, respectful (to yourself and others), be intelligent (doesn't mean the person would have to know Quantum Physics but just be world smart), be considerate, want to learn and grow as a person and have her own goals, be funny, be able to stand on their own feet, be themselves and not afraid what others think of them.

I think my girlfriend has all of these qualities. She's a really special woman and I'm very glad to have met her and very lucky to still be going out with her.

Thank you YOU!

Galwayguy35

Slim
Attractive face.
Long hair.
Nice arse.

Teyla Emmagan

Pheromones. A man who makes you want to spend your life with your nose buried in his armpit. Like you're spaced out on catnip. Delicious.

Renegade Mechanic

I havent showered in two weeks and smell like rotting nappies. That count?:o

Snoweagles

A nice smile

Aphex

Nice face, nice hair, nice personality.

professore

creolebelle wrote: »

I can overlook a lot of things if he's super rich.
JK. Looks don't matter that much to me.
A man's eyes are Important. They have to be magnetic. I also like men with very masculine auras. He should be educated and catholic

The opposite of my perfect woman - and I bet she's lying about the looks!

professore

Someone who's not needy.

Teyla Emmagan

Renegade Mechanic wrote: »

I havent showered in two weeks and smell like rotting nappies. That count?:o

Eeeeeeeeeeee..

Sounds in no way sexually attractive, sorry :-)

Muise...

Teyla Emmagan wrote: »

Pheromones. A man who makes you want to spend your life with your nose buried in his armpit. Like you're spaced out on catnip. Delicious.

Oh yuuuusss, or just behind his earlobe, or the space between his shoulder blades.

*fans face with morning post.

worded

Wimmins ...... What do they want ?

Shania Twain - That Don't Impress Me Much - YouTube

Http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=mqFLXayD6e8

creolebelle

professore wrote: »

The opposite of my perfect woman - and I bet she's lying about the looks!

You mean I'm not the woman of your dreams? That hurt my feelings
I really don't care about looks

Shakespeare's Sister

professore wrote: »

The opposite of my perfect woman - and I bet she's lying about the looks!

Why though? I genuinely don't feel it's necessary for a man to be gorgeous. Sure, it would be a nice bonus, but e.g. I find Sean Penn extremely attractive, and he's not a man who'd be deemed gorgeous. Not ugly either (very few people are ugly IMO) but personality makes up a huge amount of what leads to someone being attractive IMO.
Apart from him not being extremely overweight (the health aspect, not just the physical) there are no physical must-haves/must-have-nots that are essential to me, but there are character traits that are.
And then there is that spark, chemistry, whatever it's called, that obviously has to be there, and isn't necessarily going to be, even if everything else seems perfect.

Judging from my history I'm only attracted to girls who aren't interested in me. Wouldn't have said I'm fussy though.

Sauve

Someone who makes my world a better place by simply being a part of it.
That's all I'd ever want

Shakespeare's Sister

Sauve wrote: »

Someone who makes my world a better place by simply being a part of it.
That's all I'd ever want

Although that could probably be broken down into a bunch of things but yeh, that's the bottom line really.

cactuspaw

I could give you a very long list, but I'll keep it simple. Man who is funny, has some sort of care for others and a bit of depth within him. I'm a simple person and somebody who shares that outlook on things is quite attractive to me.

Looks? Tall, dark and usually some sort of facial hair.

ChunkyLover54

green_screen wrote: »

A pulse. I can overlook a lack of one, when desperate enough, however.

Pfft. High maintenance snob.