The "Gender Wall"

imitation

Excuse the title n all, its all I could think of..

So like, I'm curious, do people find there is still the ole parish dance mentality going on between a lot men and women these days ?

I was reminded of it again the other day when a female friend was telling a male friend which of her friends she would introduce to him and which ones she wouldn't lest he might start randomly making dirty jokes. It was a joke conversation I guess but it was a bit weird.

Likewise I have other other friends who are married, but I would hardly ever see the other half, the husbands got his friends, the wife's got her friends and never the twain shall meet. I do have other married friends who would have a big group bbq or bring along a mix to the cinema or pub which does make the other attitude seem a bit weird.

Mr. Incognito

I am confused.

Could you articulate that a bit clearer please.

hadepsx

My friend over there wants to shift ya./ thread

Molester Stallone II

hadepsx wrote: »

My friend over there wants to shift ya./ thread

I saw that ninja edit!

bee06

I think your friends are just weird.

Daveysil15

imitation wrote: »

Excuse the title n all, its all I could think of..

So like, I'm curious, do people find there is still the ole parish dance mentality going on between a lot men and women these days ?

I was reminded of it again the other day when a female friend was telling a male friend which of her friends she would introduce to him and which ones she wouldn't lest he might start randomly making dirty jokes. It was a joke conversation I guess but it was a bit weird.

Likewise I have other other friends who are married, but I would hardly ever see the other half, the husbands got his friends, the wife's got her friends and never the twain shall meet. I do have other married friends who would have a big group bbq or bring along a mix to the cinema or pub which does make the other attitude seem a bit weird.

Like the girls on one side of the dance floor, boys on the other side?

Is it the Irish fear of intimacy?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PaXFsHMvTWk

--LOS--

ye someone asked me the other day, why is it that when they go to Ireland/Uk, that girls and guys go out separately on a night out, I thought that was pretty funny that they noticed that.

imitation

Yeah thats the one, sorry thought most people who remember the whole parish hall dance thing with girls on one side boys on the other.

Daveysil15

--LOS-- wrote: »

ye someone asked me the other day, why is it that when they go to Ireland/Uk, that girls and guys go out separately on a night out, I thought that was pretty funny that they noticed that.

Yeah people do tend to socialise in same sex groups here. After a certain amount of scoops you fall into someone and hope it all works out.

catallus

So it's an actual wall you stand up against?

Sugar Free

I thought this was going to be some sort of glass ceiling discussion. Still confused.

Hande hoche!

It's the harmful influence of internet pornography and rom-coms.

padd b1975

Mr. Incognito wrote: »

I am confused.

Could you articulate that a bit clearer please.

Ross and Rachel were on a break.

catallus

No they weren't.

bnt

I don't know about the "parish" dance specifically, but having a relatively "safe" environment in which young people can get acquainted isn't necessarily a bad thing, in my opinion. Got to be a better option than getting s#!t-faced in Copper's some Saturday night, "pulling" someone equally-drunk who doesn't care that s/he can't hear you over the noise, who will then proceed to share his/her Chlamydia with you. :pac:

Gongoozler

Dunno if I'm just different or what but over the age of 18 or 19 I would have always gone out in a mixed group. Yis do it to yourselves if ye only have friends of your own gender.

my teapot is orange

There are people who go through their entire education from five to eighteen in a single sex school and go to college with very little experience of having spoken to someone their own age of the opposite gender. They are sometimes intimidated by mixing with the opposite gender and don't choose to do it as a social activity. Segregating for years is unhealthy imo.

Daveysil15

Gongoozler wrote: »

Dunno if I'm just different or what but over the age of 18 or 19 I would have always gone out in a mixed group. Yis do it to yourselves if ye only have friends of your own gender.

It's not like you can choose who to be friends with though. Lads generally hang around with lads. The only time I'd go out with a mixed group is if its something to do with work like the Christmas party.

Gongoozler

Daveysil15 wrote: »

It's not like you can choose who to be friends with though. Lads generally hang around with lads. The only time I'd go out with a mixed group is if its something to do with work like the Christmas party.

Crazy talk. You can't choose who you're friends with??

Daveysil15

Gongoozler wrote: »

Crazy talk. You can't choose who you're friends with??

No you can't. It happens naturally. If I see a few interesting people, I can't just decide to be friends with them.

mickydoomsux

The problem is that in general, men and women tend to have very few shared interests and men (being men) will inevitably want to get up on most of their female "friends".

Chocolate Lions

mickydoomsux wrote: »

The problem is that in general, men and women tend to have very few shared interests and men (being men) will inevitably want to get up on most of their female "friends".

Ya, those poor innocent creatures...
I like having women friends, they're actually people too, ya know? Lots of shared ground there. Everything about your post is just "off". You come off like a weirdo. Try talking to the ladies a bit more, they're just lovely like.

Gongoozler

Daveysil15 wrote: »

No you can't. It happens naturally. If I see a few interesting people, I can't just decide to be friends with them.

I can't argue with that kind of logic.

Daveysil15

Gongoozler wrote: »

I can't argue with that kind of logic.

Well put it this way, you can't be friends with someone who doesn't want to be friends with you. So therefore you can't choose your friends. It's like saying I can choose any woman I want. The woman needs to be interested in me too. This is pretty basic stuff here.

NegativeCreep

My best friend is a woman and I have loads of close female friends from college. When I go out there's be a mixture of male and female in the group. I don't see how this would be considered awkward? Unless you desperately want to shag all your female friends then its grand.

TheBeardedLady

--LOS-- wrote: »

ye someone asked me the other day, why is it that when they go to Ireland/Uk, that girls and guys go out separately on a night out, I thought that was pretty funny that they noticed that.

I'm not a fan of "girly" nights/days out at all. I don't mind going out with just women and I do quite often but making a specific point of it irritates me when I know my male friends are off out somewhere else. It's a strange thing. Can we not all just meet up together, like?

TheBeardedLady

mickydoomsux wrote: »

The problem is that in general, men and women tend to have very few shared interests and men (being men) will inevitably want to get up on most of their female "friends".

That hasn't been my experience.