Dating ....

Meauldsegosha

shoes34 wrote: »

No where did I say he had problems.

This would indicate that he has issues(problems) about relationships.

shoes34 wrote: »

... that he had started to panic about things on his car journey ... Said that he will probably be single forever.

ima_believer

tinz18 wrote: »

While I would agree with it being pre-emptive- as a girl there's a phenomen that occurs where a guy goes into man cave mode for any time period between a few days and a month no contact. When they come out they don't understand why you've written them off as a lost cause cos 'sure I like ya a lot and just needed me alone time'.
Here comes the issue - what's an acceptable time to wait before you move on? I'm the type of girl who can't date more than one guy at a time (don't have the time nor the attention span)... am I meant to wait a month to see if maybe that guy is going to call me or after a week do I move on and suffer name calling and guilt tripping when the man emerges from the cave a month later to find I'm dating someone else.
Trailing off (also known as fading out) imo is a pretty lousy way to let someone know you don't like them- whether male or female. If you aren't interested tell the people straight away- its common courtesy and being on both the receiving and giving end I find there's a lot less drama than what the fading invokes.

+1 on everything you said here. Personally having met so so many flakes myself, it's hard not to react in a certain way. If someone's not into you for heavens sake just say it. Dont leave the other person questioning everything!

Shoes dont berate yourself. Happens to the best of us

Est28

ima_believer wrote: »

+1 on everything you said here. Personally having met so so many flakes myself, it's hard not to react in a certain way. If someone's not into you for heavens sake just say it. Dont leave the other person questioning everything!

Shoes dont berate yourself. Happens to the best of us

I tend to disagree.

Unfortunately it's just the way it is nowadays. With online and tinder and all that stuff people have lots of options. It's no pleasant to be on the receiving end of someone flaking or fading if you kinda do like them but without a relationship established... this is unfortunately how it goes nowadays.

I'm NOT saying it's right or ok or pleasant, I'm just saying thats how it is. People would rather let something fade out than go through all the drama like with the OP and how she blew this whole thing up about a guy she doesn't know all that long.

You have to leave it go. If someone's not responding to you then persisting only look bad on you for not just letting it go.

ima_believer

Totally see where you're coming from. So many options in the dating world. I suppose just from a personal point of view i've always been honest with people and i'd like the same in return.

Although getting a pfo isnt that nice either, and could open a hole other can of worms. Depends on the wording I suppose.

Anyway OP it's the weekend...loads of other potentials :P