do you like your online self?

WILL NEVER LOG OFF · 23-10-2014 1:49am #1

it appears to me that many boardsies are nothing like real-world people.

90% of people i meet in the real world seem kind, warm, and non-argumentative

whereas 50% of the online world seems hostile and looking for a fight

so i think a significant amount of onliners must lead a double life of hostility.

i'm not trying to demonize anyone. i've noticed myself that i am far more reactionary online than i would be in public.

so, AH, are you different online? and would you befriend your online self?

endacl · 23-10-2014 1:50am

Yeah? Sez you!

:mad:

The Backwards Man · 23-10-2014 1:51am

I'm a walking REM song, I am

endacl · 23-10-2014 1:52am

The Backwards Man wrote: »

I'm a walking REM song, I am

You're the end of the world as we know it?!?

:eek:

The Sidewards Man · 23-10-2014 1:52am

Its ok could be better.

endacl · 23-10-2014 1:53am

The Sidewards Man wrote: »

Its ok could be better.

The sincerest form of flattery?

The Backwards Man · 23-10-2014 1:54am

endacl wrote: »

You're the end of the world as we know it?!?

:eek:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iCQ0vDAbF7s

B-52s fan actually

endacl · 23-10-2014 1:55am

The Backwards Man wrote: »

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iCQ0vDAbF7s

B-52s fan actually

Kate Pierson fan here.

kfallon · 23-10-2014 1:56am

endacl wrote: »

Kate Pierson fan here.

Me In Honey is a much better REM/Katie duet imo

endacl · 23-10-2014 1:57am

kfallon wrote: »

Me In Honey is a much better REM/Katie duet imo

Kate Pierson in honey..... :pac:

The Backwards Man · 23-10-2014 1:57am

endacl wrote: »

Kate Pierson fan here.

Seriously?

This is just between you and me, right?

I admitted on national TV that I was a B-52s fan, on Blackboard Jungle many moons ago. The ridicule I got for it was unreal, I thought I was alone in the world, so glad to meet a kindred spirit.:)

Roam if you want to, roam around the world!!

kneemos · 23-10-2014 2:01am

Frankie says...

WILL NEVER LOG OFF · 23-10-2014 2:02am

BOYS

get a room

KungPao · 23-10-2014 2:02am

The Backwards Man wrote: »

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iCQ0vDAbF7s

B-52s fan actually

That song gets a bashing, but the verses have a great melody.

The Backwards Man · 23-10-2014 2:04am

WILL NEVER LOG OFF wrote: »

BOYS

get a room.

Good man

Tell it tell it tell it like it T I S

endacl · 23-10-2014 2:07am

The Backwards Man wrote: »

Seriously?

This is just between you and me, right?

I admitted on national TV that I was a B-52s fan, on Blackboard Jungle many moons ago. The ridicule I got for it was unreal, I thought I was alone in the world, so glad to meet a kindred spirit.:)

Roam if you want to, roam around the world!!

Just between us? Yep. Big fan.

Do you think anybody reads this site? We could be in for a slaggin'...

Without wings, without wheels!

TeddyTedson · 23-10-2014 2:11am

I have no idea how I come across online but I don't think I'm argumentative or disrespectful or anything like that so, yeah.

The Backwards Man · 23-10-2014 2:12am

endacl wrote: »

Just between us? Yep. Big fan.

Do you think anybody reads this site? We could be in for a slaggin'...

Without wings, without wheels!

This is like being on a psychiatrist's couch.

I had my Eureka moment in LC Economics whilst listening to Revolution Earth on a tacky Goodman's Hi-Fi

And we know that we're alive if we weren't sure before!

Rolling under us!
Doo do do, doo do do!!

J Mysterio · 23-10-2014 2:12am

I'd say i'm hard to get to know?

The Backwards Man · 23-10-2014 2:14am

J Mysterio wrote: »

I'd say i'm hard to get to know?

What's your opinion on Hot Pants?

J Mysterio · 23-10-2014 2:15am

Big fan

The Backwards Man · 23-10-2014 2:17am

J Mysterio wrote: »

Big fan

Ooo I've seen London and I seen France
But I never saw nothin' so hot as you in your hot pants

See?

We're getting to know you already, through the medium of the B-52s

catallus · 23-10-2014 2:18am

The thing is is that when you're online you have time to digest responses and formulate a response.

In the real world that dynamic is much more immediate, and biased by other factors.

I'm perfect, either way.

J Mysterio · 23-10-2014 2:18am

The Backwards Man wrote: »

Ooo I've seen London and I seen France
But I never saw nothin' so hot as you in your hot pants

Understandable

evo2000 · 23-10-2014 2:18am

WILL NEVER LOG OFF wrote: »

it appears to me that many boardsies are nothing like real-world people.

90% of people i meet in the real world seem kind, warm, and non-argumentative

whereas 50% of the online world seems hostile and looking for a fight

so i think a significant amount of onliners must lead a double life of hostility.

i'm not trying to demonize anyone. i've noticed myself that i am far more reactionary online than i would be in public.

so, AH, are you different online? and would you befriend your online self?

Id say a good 90% of people on here are full of ****, know it alls that get off on trying to catch people out and the virtual pats on the back "Thanks" they get from there online buddies

To go against the grain or even have a unpopular opinion on boards and u will be beset by most! insulted on a personal level by masses,

Should an Admin go against you re opinion watch the amount of pats on the back he will get from his/her (more if its a her) fan boys!

But thats just my 2 cents...do with it what you will!

J Mysterio · 23-10-2014 2:21am

Two cent sweets

Macavity. · 23-10-2014 2:23am

The Sidewards Man wrote: »

Its ok could be better.

:eek:

Your name?

Lalealea · 23-10-2014 2:34am

I'm not actually sure how I come across online .

The Backwards Man · 23-10-2014 2:36am

Lalealea wrote: »

I'm not actually sure how I come across online .

Shake your honeybuns!

One eyed Jack · 23-10-2014 2:37am

Much the same as real life, sometimes I can come out with something that when I look back on it later, I'll kick myself for my own stupidity, and then there's the odd moment when I make someone feel good about themselves that tends to overshadow my many, many, more thoughtless moments when I wasn't so guarded and made a tit of myself.

I'm not happy with it, but I'm working on it, it's an ongoing process much like my life offline, of learning from my mistakes and trying not to repeat the same mistakes again.

Lalealea · 23-10-2014 2:56am

The Backwards Man wrote: »

Shake your honeybuns!

The B-52's?

:-)

The Backwards Man · 23-10-2014 2:56am

Lalealea wrote: »

The B-52's?

:-)

Indeed!

Lalealea · 23-10-2014 3:12am

The Backwards Man wrote: »

Indeed!

Cosmic thing?
Awh you're so sweet. :-)

I am probably more emotional and fragile in life. And I'm very very loyal.

I'm a nice person I deserve to like me :-)

Most people are nice ...the online stuff we should not take too serious.

It's nice to be nice even online though.

I'm just a sensitive soul.

Macavity. · 23-10-2014 3:15am

My online self is better than my in real life self.

WILL NEVER LOG OFF · 23-10-2014 3:17am

mental note

never start a thread at 2am.

Paulownia · 23-10-2014 3:17am

In life we use masks to hide behind even to those closest to us, online people tend to be more raw I think. It is strange and not always pleasant

darkpagandeath · 23-10-2014 3:20am

Give people access to semi anonymity and you create dicks. Half the stuff spouted on here people would never say to someone face to face. You know like walking into “insert dole office name” and calling everyone scrounging scumbags and alike.

Lalealea · 23-10-2014 3:25am

darkpagandeath wrote: »

Give people access to semi anonymity and you create dicks. Half the stuff spouted on here people would never say to someone face to face. You know like walking into “insert dole office name” and calling everyone scrounging scumbags and alike.

What can I say to make you feel a happy right now?

Paulownia · 23-10-2014 3:26am

darkpagandeath wrote: »

Give people access to semi anonymity and you create dicks. Half the stuff spouted on here people would never say to someone face to face. You know like walking into “insert dole office name” and calling everyone scrounging scumbags and alike.

I got to know a guy from here who was looking for an exercise buddy and I walk with him from time to time and he is not a bit like his boards persona. I asked him why that is so and he just said he loves winding people up and if he did it in real life he would have no friends

Lalealea · 23-10-2014 3:35am

Paulownia wrote: »

In life we use masks to hide behind even to those closest to us, online people tend to be more raw I think. It is strange and not always pleasant

Give a person a mask and you see their true self? Somewhat I still think you see a lot in RL.

Lalealea · 23-10-2014 3:36am

Paulownia wrote: »

I got to know a guy from here who was looking for an exercise buddy and I walk with him from time to time and he is not a bit like his boards persona. I asked him why that is so and he just said he loves winding people up and if he did it in real life he would have no friends

Does he not feel empathy for people online?

If not I would imagine his empathy for people in life is well limited?

Paulownia · 23-10-2014 3:38am

Lalealea wrote: »

Give a person a mask and you see their true self? Somewhat I still think you see a lot in RL.

In that case you have to wonder which is the real person when they are so different

How Soon Is Now · 23-10-2014 3:49am

Same on here as i am in person always have been. Imagine the effort of having to pretend to be someone else online !

Lalealea · 23-10-2014 3:51am

Paulownia wrote: »

In that case you have to wonder which is the real person when they are so different

There is that question.

I do know people can have contrasting sides or aspects. When they are both generally benevolent or well intentioned that isn't an issue.

It's when one isn't. Or to what degree or how far that will go. Eventually if it goes too far it negates the other.

If you are really really really nasty online ..you are not nice in life ..you are a liar in life.

Paulownia · 23-10-2014 4:26am

Lalealea wrote: »

There is that question.

I do know people can have contrasting sides or aspects. When they are both generally benevolent or well intentioned that isn't an issue.

It's when one isn't. Or to what degree or how far that will go. Eventually if it goes too far it negates the other.

If you are really really really nasty online ..you are not nice in life ..you are a liar in life.

My pal is not really nasty online, he just tells people things in a very direct way if he disagrees with what they are saying, one example was someone was moaning about their work colleagues and he told them to feck off and find another job that they were probably deserving being given a hard time at work etc.
The sort of thing you would never say to a friend

Lalealea · 23-10-2014 5:55am

Paulownia wrote: »

My pal is not really nasty online, he just tells people things in a very direct way if he disagrees with what they are saying, one example was someone was moaning about their work colleagues and he told them to feck off and find another job that they were probably deserving being given a hard time at work etc.
The sort of thing you would never say to a friend

ah :-) i see

Akrasia · 23-10-2014 8:40am

The Backwards Man wrote: »

Seriously?

This is just between you and me, right?

I admitted on national TV that I was a B-52s fan, on Blackboard Jungle many moons ago. The ridicule I got for it was unreal, I thought I was alone in the world, so glad to meet a kindred spirit.:)

Roam if you want to, roam around the world!!

In first year of secondary school, on the first week, before anyone knew each other, one of the teachers asked everyone what their favourite band was. Most people answered from the following list 'Oasis, Blur, Prodigy, Oasis, Scooter, Oasis, Oasis, Oasis....'

I answered 'Meatloaf'

For the next 5 years I was called 'meatloaf' by some of the meatier headed people in the school.

gugleguy · 23-10-2014 8:56am

OP, talk to Joe on liveline. To balance it out, get somebody from Peoples Republic of Cork to call joe as a counterbalance.

DiegoCosta · 23-10-2014 9:02am

Lalealea wrote: »

Does he not feel empathy for people online?

If not I would imagine his empathy for people in life is well limited?

People often need to interact with people in real life to feel empathy. When all of your senses interact with someone it is much easier to empathise.

Women are better at empathising on average as they have neural circuitry that is better built to do so. Their mirror neurons are more sensitive.

Barely There · 23-10-2014 9:09am

DiegoCosta wrote: »

Their mirror neurons are more sensitive.

As are their nipples.

Frank Lee Midere · 23-10-2014 9:11am

WILL NEVER LOG OFF wrote: »

it appears to me that many boardsies are nothing like real-world people.

90% of people i meet in the real world seem kind, warm, and non-argumentative

whereas 50% of the online world seems hostile and looking for a fight

so i think a significant amount of onliners must lead a double life of hostility.

i'm not trying to demonize anyone. i've noticed myself that i am far more reactionary online than i would be in public.

so, AH, are you different online? and would you befriend your online self?

My friends talk about football. In general I don't do politics offline. More heat than light.

do you like your online self?

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