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Settling in at creche

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  • 19-11-2014 12:56pm
    #1
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    Hello,

    My lo is at creche, currently day 3. There were loads of tears yesterday, both him and mine. Today he will stay there for three hours. I know it will take time to settle, but what have your experiences been?

    Thanks


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    Neyite
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    Same as yourself by day 3.

    By day 5 I was probably more tearful than he was. Generally now after nearly 2 years in creche, he is happy to go in, occasionally throws a tanty and wants to stay at home watching telly, but tbh, we all have days like that. I found that when he was coming down with something, then he tended to get more clingy in the mornings. Every once in a while I get the guilts and wish I worked part time to give it a bit more balance. He gets to do so much more creative play, and socialise than he would if we were at home full time..

    What surprised me was that in the first year, the amount of times he was off sick. He was exposed to more bugs and sniffles with other children than he would have at home, but that's eased off a lot now his immune system is built up. But that shouldnt be a reason to rethink the creche. If you kept them at home until school going age they'd only succumb to the various illnesses then so you you are only putting off the inevitable.


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    Boom_Bap
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    Next week he will be running into the creche and not even saying goodbye.


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    Rose35
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    He will settle in don't worry, it is all new to him at the moment.
    My son is in creche since he was 5.5 months old, he was too young to notice at that stage thankfully. He is now two years old.
    Only yesterday he cried when I left him off because it is usually daddy that does the drop off and he
    thought we were heading somewhere else. It is so hard to leave them there crying but at this stage I am
    confident that after 5 mins he is all settled and looking forward to the day with his little friends, it gets easier.


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    bp
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    Mine took months to settle, or appeared to, I would look in the window two minutes after drop off and not a bother - the tears were for my benefit alone!!!


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    pwurple
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    Both mine were different. First baby was a few days. Second lady was much more reluctant. 3 weeks it took. I only left her in for an hour at a time and stayed with her the first week. Made it worse maybe? She had been fine since. She settled. In for 3 months now and one sore throat in that time. Eldest hasn't been sick since last feb.


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    LegacyUser
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    Neyite wrote: »
    What surprised me was that in the first year, the amount of times he was off sick. He was exposed to more bugs and sniffles with other children than he would have at home, but that's eased off a lot now his immune system is built up. But that shouldnt be a reason to rethink the creche. If you kept them at home until school going age they'd only succumb to the various illnesses then so you you are only putting off the inevitable.

    I don't know why this is allowed to be continually posted here as a benefit of the creche, it is total rubbish.


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    Neyite
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    NoScents wrote: »
    I don't know why this is allowed to be continually posted here as a benefit of the creche, it is total rubbish.

    Where did I say its a benefit? You clearly took my post up wrong.

    If anything its a massive hindrance and one I could have well done without, considering it looks great to miss loads of work days because of a sick child right after a long maternity leave stint doesn't it?

    My point is that some people avoid crèches for this reason, and its kind of pointless because kids will get sick with most of those things anyway.


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    Rose35
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    Anytime a creche is mentioned here lately there seems to be a lot of unreg/guest users ready to pounce with the negatives!!!!!


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    IvyTheTerrible
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    It took my fella a few weeks to properly settle in (he went at 18 months) - he only cried the first day I left him, then he just had to get used to a different nap routine. Now he runs in without even saying goodbye, and sometimes on weekends he even asks if he can go.


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    newtoboards
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    Our creche won't let us stay with the crying ever unless the child has been home sick for a couple of days. We are told to drop and go. Someone else said about the child being fine in minutes after leaving and it's so true. I was away with work and my son didn't want to stay in creche when I came back because he was afraid I was going again and they handle it. A quick phonecall after leaving always settles the nerves. There is a new girl after starting in the creche and she cries every morning without fail but they kick the dad out and sit with her with a toy and her soother til she's ready to socialise


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