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Girlfriend not paying for anything

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  • #52
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    CaraMay wrote: »
    The op chose to move out of the family home so technically she is not an au pair any more, she is a child minder. I'll bet the family are paying her now what they paid her then except her room and board was free. She is now their employee and should be registered for taxation purposes. She is not an au pair anymore. That's her choice.

    The OP isn't the au pair, he's the BF. His GF is not an EU national and is here on a visa to work as au pair and study so chances are either she isn't going to push for change in job description for fear of it effecting her visa or she doesn't know what her rights are.

    The OP asked was he been taken for a mug and while there's lots of discussion on who, what and where of the GF nothing he's posted makes it sound like he's been taken for a mug. Like I said there are loads of things she could have asked him to pay for if she was trying to take him for a mug. She either thinks as he's her BF he would like to spend money on them going on dates etc and the OP has not said anything to make her think otherwise or her cultural background that expects men to pay for these sort of things. Easy solution OP should talk to his GF


  • #53
    CaraMay
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 4,652 ✭✭✭CaraMay


    can't log in wrote: »
    The OP isn't the au pair, he's the BF. His GF is not an EU national and is here on a visa to work as au pair and study so chances are either she isn't going to push for change in job description for fear of it effecting her visa or she doesn't know what her rights are.

    The OP asked was he been taken for a mug and while there's lots of discussion on who, what and where of the GF nothing he's posted makes it sound like he's been taken for a mug. Like I said there are loads of things she could have asked him to pay for if she was trying to take him for a mug. She either thinks as he's her BF he would like to spend money on them going on dates etc and the OP has not said anything to make her think otherwise or her cultural background that expects men to pay for these sort of things. Easy solution OP should talk to his GF



    Yeah sure all that was crystal clear 3 pages ago. Op talk to her but don't feel guilty. We all have to pay our way in the world.


  • #54
    Littlekittylou
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,357 ✭✭✭Littlekittylou


    power pants wrote: »
    this is getting over exaggerated. The woman is an adult. She can accept a job or not accept a job. she can choose to live in the au pairs house or choose to share a bedroom on a blow up mattress. she can choose to see her boyfriend or not see him. She can choose to go home or stay here.
    this is true however i think it is in her best interests to go home and he should consider preparing for this.


  • #55
    ratmouse
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,856 ✭✭✭ratmouse


    Bottom line, the OP is fed up if the fact that, on the whole, she doesn't pay for anything. Regardless of her financial situation and what she can and cant afford, she should at least have the decency to have come straight out and spoke of how she may not be able to contribute much financially rather than just sitting back and being in receipt of luxuries that she would not supposedly be able to afford. Regardless of how much you love someone, nobody should be expected to quietly carry the financial burden for everything.


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