Falling in love

Snatchy

this is a "responsible and rational" adult asking the question:

- how do you know when it's happening to you and what does it mean to you?

Please discuss

whiskeyman

trouser tent

corner of hells

OP you male or female ?

maxwell smart

Snatchy wrote: »

this is a "responsible and rational" adult asking the question:

- how do you know when it's happening to you and what does it mean to you?

Please discuss

Are you asking how it happened to everyone else or do you want us all to psychoanalyse you and tell you if your in love?

biko

You go to a town where the river is called "the love" and you trip and fall in.

Molester Stallone II

I think the OP has a nice snatchy, that's enough to make me feel that I'm falling in love

Wibbs

IMH you just know it. If you're second guessing yourself you probably aren't.

DeadHand

Snatchy wrote: »

this is a "responsible and rational" adult asking the question:

- how do you know when it's happening to you and what does it mean to you?

Please discuss

Nothing rational or responsible about romantic love.

The feeling can't be described adequately, when it happens you just know.

It's a good feeling even though it more often than not results in nothing lasting and ends up hurting you. It was still worth feeling.

"Better to have loved and lost than never have loved at all"

Mesrine65

smash

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wXw6znXPfy4

castletownman

I think I was in love once. She was Brazilian, or Chinese, or something weird. I met her in the bathroom of a K-Mart and we made out for hours. Then we parted ways, never to see each other again.

WildWater

castletownman wrote: »

I think I was in love once. She was Brazilian, or Chinese, or something weird. I met her in the bathroom of a K-Mart and we made out for hours. Then we parted ways, never to see each other again.

Is that you Boris?

The Diabolical Monocle

Snatchy wrote: »

this is a "responsible and rational" adult asking the question:

- how do you know when it's happening to you and what does it mean to you?

Please discuss

You may feel well and happy in yourself, like everything is just dandy, although at the same time you will somehow retain the knowledge that the world is a shthole with only one way out and your lifes still technically a mess.

The voice that normally screams this to you in every waking hour and sometimes even when you close your eyes will have been reduced in volume to a mere whisper now requiring only half a bottle of whiskey to drown out.

This is achieved through the use of endorphins, these are a natural form of heroin released as a reward for pair-bonding from a part of your brain owned by evolution which you have no say over yet which guides 90% of your life.

The hugely unequal cost of this brief heroin high, which will soon be taken away, was all those years of perfecting yourself, socializing with people you didn't like and scheming the downfall of your competitors so that someone desperate enough would find a reason to mate with you.

Your brain/body will next command you to copulate with your mate at times again chosen by evolution/biology, you will be powerless against this order yet again but may choose to live in the denial that its really your free will.

Soon after you will have children and will have won the game only to discover that this is the only game that we have and you've finished the last level. Then the realization that you never really wanted any of this and that you were bribed into this situation by your genitals with the promise of drugs.

Maximus Alexander

Unfortunately, no one can be told what the love is. You have to see it for yourself.

I wanna know what love is.

cloud493

I think you'd know if you were in love. Like I'm certain that I've never been etc.

Maximus Alexander

Love is a system, Snatchy. That system is our enemy. But when you're inside, you look around, what do you see? Businessmen, teachers, lawyers, carpenters. The very minds of the people we are trying to save. But until we do, these people are still a part of that system and that makes them our enemy. You have to understand, most of these people are not ready to be unplugged. And many of them are so inured, so hopelessly dependent on love, that they will fight to protect it.

MistyCheese

I think the third Back To The Future movie is not as good as the first two.

That is what you wanted us to discuss, right?

If you have to ask that question, then you're NOT in love! You just know!

Invincible

[Deleted User] wrote: »

I wanna know what love is.

You want me to show you!

AdFundum

Head rush - bang, bang - big smiley penis face - fetching coffees - bonk, bonk - pulling hair from drain pipes - wham, bang, who's your.... - bringing out bins - Stockholm syndrome - totally fooked!

howamidifferent

Deleted User wrote: »

I wanna know what love is.

I want you to show me

Mister Vain

Or another good question is how long does the honeymoon phase last for?

howamidifferent

howamidifferent wrote: »

I want you to show me

I want to feel what love is....

DoYouEvenLift

When you don't need porn while fapping anymore

Mister Vain

DoYouEvenLift wrote: »

When you don't need porn while fapping anymore

Or when you start doing the slow sensual shagging like in those cheesy 80's movies, as opposed to the clatter fcuking.

DoYouEvenLift

Mister Vain wrote: »

Or when you start doing the slow sensual shagging like in those cheesy 80's movies, as opposed to the clatter fcuking.

Never!!!!!!

PizzamanIRL

When you feel guilty about **** about her, you know she's the one.

Mister Vain

DoYouEvenLift wrote: »

Never!!!!!!

Sometimes they want a lover with a slow hand and an easy touch.

Mister Vain

PizzamanIRL wrote: »

When you feel guilty about **** about her, you know she's the one.

Replace her with porn and I think you have a perfect answer for the OP.

chrysagon

you know when your in love when she taps you on the bum and says "your in , love"

AnonoBoy

Just be careful OP that you don't fall in love with someone you shouldn't fall in love with.

Has that ever happened to any of you guys?

Ever fallen in love with someone you shouldn't have fallen in love with?

Saralee4

I think a lot of people confuse Love with something called Limerence.

Limerence is like that kind of crazy romantic excited feeling where you think the person can do nothing wrong but its a bit deeper than infatuation. You think about the person a lot. It can last a few months or sometimes even a couple of years and can even last for decades. In love, you sincerely love a person irrespective of whether there is any reciprocation or not, but in limerence, happiness comes by reciprocation, however small it is. Limerence is like a drug. You get butterflies when you see the person. Its like how you feel in the honeymoon period.

Once you've transitioned out of infatuation/limerence, hormone levels dropping, you either attach or you do the opposite, you detach and move on. This attachment can then turn into love. Love is a kind of respect and kindship. Its like when you know the person so well and you know and love their faults, you will be there for them no matter what.

Love is like a friendship, companionship and trust. Limerence is like uncertainty, lust and desire.

corner of hells

Saralee4 wrote: »

I think a lot of people confuse Love with something called Limerence.

Limerence is like that kind of crazy romantic excited feeling where you think the person can do nothing wrong but its a bit deeper than infatuation. You think about the person a lot. It can last a few months or sometimes even a couple of years and can even last for decades. In love, you sincerely love a person irrespective of whether there is any reciprocation or not, but in limerence, happiness comes by reciprocation, however small it is. Limerence is like a drug. You get butterflies when you see the person. Its like how you feel in the honeymoon period.

Once you've transitioned out of infatuation/limerence, hormone levels dropping, you either attach or you do the opposite, you detach and move on. This attachment can then turn into love. Love is a kind of respect and kindship. Its like when you know the person so well and you know and love their faults, you will be there for them no matter what.

Love is like a friendship, companionship and trust. Limerence is like uncertainty, lust and desire.

Thats a real word ,I'm just after googling it!!!!!!!!! For a moment I thought you had been sniffing tippex.

diomed

Snatchy wrote: »

how do you know when it's happening to you and what does it mean to you?

The other person has

• mortgage-free house
• permanent pensionable job
• cash in the bank
• few hundred acres
• life insurance policy

Snatchy

Snatchy wrote: »

how do you know when it's happening to you and what does it mean to you?

I am not convinced it actually exists. I think "love" is one of these place holder terms that our species has a fetish for.

Like "hole".... I think "love" is a word that depends on context.

And that is not to belittle it. "Love" is as important to me as anyone. I just do not believe in some entity called "love". Rather I believe that one reaches a state of affairs with another person. A state that involves trust - experience - sexual attraction - shared goals - procreative desires maybe - or some mix of these things - and things I have not mentioned.

And - here is where i get controversial - we simply get lazy and put the word "love" on our commitment to this goal. And what "love" is to me - to you -or to anyone else - is about as arbitrary as walking into a group of people and just shouting out "who is into sport?????" and you watch some people line up for lawn bowling - a few look for a ball - while a few others look for a stick they can throw away or balance on

braddun

I fall in love after a few beers

Capt'n Midnight

some of the chemicals in chocolate produce the same responses