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Bereavement and Meaning of Life

  • 01-01-2015 2:24pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi,

    I hope I can explain this well. I lost my mother suddenly nearly 2 years ago and the shock and sorrow is still very raw. I really miss her and I know it will take a long time for me to accept it. However, and maybe this is a side effect, the death of my mother has also shaken my whole outlook on life. I used to be very positive and full of life but I feel that joie de vivre has been sucked out of me. I am constantly questioning what is the point of life and I am a very very aware now about how short it is. I see life as a struggle with some high points but essentially it will be over before I know it and we'll all be forgotten soon enough. I have 2 children and I kind of feel sorry for them thinking that at some point they might experience the same realisation that I have. I am atheist and I guess at this point religion would be a great crutch but I would only be fooling myself to fall back into some comfortable belief system.

    Am I losing it? Anyone else feel the same?


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  • #2
    December2012
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,695 ✭✭✭December2012


    I'm a bit like you.

    I've lost a parent too, and a sibling as well.

    Personally I think life has a huge value - abd that is to enjoy it whatever you you can right now. I know some people want a legacy, I dont (although I know that the time I spend with my children will be a comfort to them when I eventually die). I hope they laugh and remember my traditions, my weirdness, my love for them, our family times.

    I'm also determined to live a healthy lifestyle and not to wait until my retirement to do fun things. My folks did that, and then got very sick just before retirement. No travelling for them. No holidays, no walks, no fun.

    Life is finite and fast; you only get one chance at it.


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