2016 brides!

stargazer 68

Our 2nd day is part of the package with the hotel. So I think we will put 2 boxes on the invite reply - one for the wedding and then one for the 2nd day. I have given my friends the option then of staying the night of the wedding and then going home the next day to collect the kids and coming back for the BBQ or not having the kids all weekend! Will do that verbally though lol

shortstuff!

Haven't seen a day 2 mentioned on wedding invites (always just been a casual txt - see yas in the pub tomorrow) before but obviously if you are booking a meal you'll need numbers so an rsvp seems necessary... are you doing little rsvp cards? Maybe include a line on the rsvp (could do seperate ones if all not invited), tick the box job with something like "We'll join you for a meal before heading home on xxx" or "Sorry we wont be able to make the meal". Think its alot of info to add to your actual invite.

alwaysadub

cronin_j wrote: »

Ladies,

How do you get away with not having a "First dance" at a wedding? It is literally my definition of hell!

Get the dj to announce that the bride and groom would love for everyone to be involved in their first dance and can they all join you on the dance floor. Say it to your bridal party/family beforehand too, once a few people are on the dance floor the rest should join in!
Or I know of a wedding where the "first dance" was actually later on in the evening,about 10 I think, cos they knew all their evening guests would have arrived by then too and there would be more people to get to join in

Milly33

We just mentioned it on the website and then when we were sending out the invites, we had a little information sheet with it.. We mentioned at the end that we would be there the second day if anyone wanted to join us

butterfly234

I think we will just be letting people know by word of mouth. We wont be inviting all the wedding guests.. just about 50 people who will be close family members & close friends & who ever made the effort to travel a long distance.
I recieved an invitation from a cousin a few years ago with a typed up information sheet folded into it, nothing fancy but it gave the direction to the venue & nearest airports & then at the bottom it said they will be having a BBQ the following day and they hoped everyone would be around to make it.
I thought it was nicely done..nothing too OTT just kind of thrown in with the rest of the information that people needed to know!

poledancer

Hi folks,

I have a question, I booked my venue, church and priest. November 2016
What do I need to do next? Getting a little overwhelmed with everything and trying to decide etc ..

Also because I'm getting married in November my mums suggests we should start looking now at dresses to get this season..
Does anybody know is there limits on how many people you can bring dress shopping? I have mums and fathers partners and bridesmaids that I'd love to involve them all, I'm looking at 8 people .

MIN2511

poledancer wrote: »

Hi folks,

I have a question, I booked my venue, church and priest. November 2016
What do I need to do next? Getting a little overwhelmed with everything and trying to decide etc ..

Also because I'm getting married in November my mums suggests we should start looking now at dresses to get this season..
Does anybody know is there limits on how many people you can bring dress shopping? I have mums and fathers partners and bridesmaids that I'd love to involve them all, I'm looking at 8 people .

Congratulations!

8 people??? Most bridal shops have a max of 3/4 so you might want to check with them first.
Next on your list in my opinion would be band, photographer & videographer (if you want one) are hard to find.

Faith

Remember, each person you bring with you will be giving you their opinion on every dress you try on. If you try on 5 dresses, that's 40 opinions, not including your own. I had 4 people with me the first day I went, and it was completely overwhelming. I only brought 1 person the next few times, until I had my dress picked out.

andreac

Yes most shops only allow maybe 3 or 4 max. 8 is way too many. Maybe bring a couple to each shop you go to. I can't see any salon allowing 8 people.

poledancer

Thanks b2b's

MIN2511 .. Forgot we have photographer .. Friend of ours so kinda forgot about him .. Hehe. Ok so next is band and videographer
Do you think I need to maybe look at church singer now then too?

Yep I was thinking 8 was a lot .. Just didn't want to leave people out.. Maybe your right .. Maybe I should do 2 sittings in 2 different shops with each side as in his and then mine or something like that and then just have my mum for them all, hehe mum has to be there

bearhugs

Anyone have an idea of when their hen/stag will be, meaning how long before the wedding? I'm travelling right now and trying to plan ahead but hard to know. Think it will either be just a few weeks before which may be too close for people, or else 8/9 months before. Is that too early?

emzibob

bearhugs wrote: »

Anyone have an idea of when their hen/stag will be, meaning how long before the wedding? I'm travelling right now and trying to plan ahead but hard to know. Think it will either be just a few weeks before which may be too close for people, or else 8/9 months before. Is that too early?

my wedding is 2nd weekend in march, hens is 1st weekend in feb but hubby to be's stag is last weekend this month due to the best man having a serious op coming up so I don't think it matters when you have it as long as people have a bit of notice and available you'll be fine

Abrean

bearhugs wrote: »

Anyone have an idea of when their hen/stag will be, meaning how long before the wedding? I'm travelling right now and trying to plan ahead but hard to know. Think it will either be just a few weeks before which may be too close for people, or else 8/9 months before. Is that too early?

I've had mine and it was 6/7 months before my wedding next April! Like you I was stuck for when I could have it and it was either that earlier or a rushed affair a few weeks beforehand so I went with early

And it was an absolutely fantastic weekend!!! And it made me really excited because now I really feel like wow I'm actually getting married, kind of made it more real if you know what I mean. So if you want to do it 8/9 months beforehand then I'd say go for it.

andreac

Mine is around 6 weeks before my wedding. My friend who is chief bridesmaid lives in Spain and only gets home about 2 weeks before the Hen date. She comes home each Summer with her kids to her family so i had to wait until she got home. I don't think it really matters when you have it to be honest.

ShaShaBear

Anyone giving their notice of intent to marry book their appointment online?
Just went to do it there (FINALLY got my birth cert sorted) and it was a mess! I genuinely couldn't figure out if I was booking a ceremony or an appointment and half the page wouldn't even load right (I was on Chrome, so not the IE issue). Tried ringing the office, as per usual no-one is available to answer (the office has been open for 45 minutes now)...

honerbright

ShaShaBear wrote: »

Anyone giving their notice of intent to marry book their appointment online?
Just went to do it there (FINALLY got my birth cert sorted) and it was a mess! I genuinely couldn't figure out if I was booking a ceremony or an appointment and half the page wouldn't even load right (I was on Chrome, so not the IE issue). Tried ringing the office, as per usual no-one is available to answer (the office has been open for 45 minutes now)...

I'm glad I'm not the only one! I haven't got my birth cert sorted yet, but I had a nose at the site and its all over the place and makes no sense

Milly33

Is this the HSE site or which site are ye talking about.. Found it relatively simple to do.. Ring the office get the email address and send in an email with the details... Found Cork very good to deal with

ShaShaBear

Milly33 wrote: »

Is this the HSE site or which site are ye talking about.. Found it relatively simple to do.. Ring the office get the email address and send in an email with the details... Found Cork very good to deal with

The official HSE site for booking an appointment. It tells you that the first step is to book your ceremony and then leads on from there as if you are booking a date. But we have already booked our date, had our venue approved and got the letter stating our date, time and solemniser for the day. I've been ringing the office since 9.30 when they opened, they are still not answering and they close in 30 minutes. I don't want to proceed trying to book on the site if its actually a ceremony date they are making me book first because obviously that date would be a bit late for the appointment :rolleyes:
There is no email supplied on the contact details for my local office, so if they don't answer I won't be able to give them details that way either!

Milly33

Bit lost now if ye have yer date booked, and the venue and all approved and ye have yer letters why are ye booking again? Genuine question now..

Here is the link http://www.hse.ie/eng/services/list/1/bdm/contactus/

Click on your local office and the email and the contact details come up...If none appear then maybe pick the next county and email asking them

ShaShaBear

Milly33 wrote: »

Bit lost now if ye have yer date booked, and the venue and all approved and ye have yer letters why are ye booking again? Genuine question now..

Here is the link http://www.hse.ie/eng/services/list/1/bdm/contactus/

Click on your local office and the email and the contact details come up...If none appear then maybe pick the next county and email asking them

Monaghan do not have an email address is what I am saying. There is only a phone number.

And I am trying to book the appointment to register intent to marry. It has to be done a minimum of three months before the wedding, but when I last spoke with them, they said it was better to do it as soon as possible in case there was a need for any more documentation.
The website will not allow you to book this appointment unless you also book your ceremony (which we have already done).

Milly33

This is kinda what I mean though, if ye have booked yer Ceremony already with them why do you need to register your intent to marry? Do they now already have this since ye have booked the ceremony with them. I don't remember it being difficult at all...

email this address and ask them crs.midwest@hse.ie

ShaShaBear

Milly33 wrote: »

This is kinda what I mean though it ye have booked yer Ceremony already with them why do you need to register your intent to marry? Do they now already have this since ye have booked the ceremony with them. I don't remember it being difficult at all...

email this address and ask them crs.midwest@hse.ie

No, it's the legal requirement that you have to do both. It is at this appointment that you actually have to pay for the service. It's also where you present all your documentation.

We provisionally booked our date over the phone and gave the venue. We were sent out a venue registration pack which our venue had to fill out in order to be inspected. They did that, we sent it back, it was approved after the inspection and we got a letter saying that the date, time and venue were approved and the wedding is officially booked. It gave the full cost of all services required on the back, which is to be paid at the booking appointment. Up until this point, we were not required to attend the office in person.

stargazer 68

ShaShaBear wrote: »

No, it's the legal requirement that you have to do both. It is at this appointment that you actually have to pay for the service. It's also where you present all your documentation.

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I have just spoken to the Registrars office (as the bit above confused me) and she said I didnt need to do anything other than the 3 month registration.

ShaShaBear

Dovies wrote: »

I have just spoken to the Registrars office (as the bit above confused me) and she said I didnt need to do anything other than the 3 month registration.

Well that's what I was told to do by the Registration Office in Monaghan. It even states on the letter I got a week ago that my next step is to make my "three months notice" appointment as soon as possible.
It mentions on the list of things I have to bring that I need the name of my appointed solemniser. When I asked over the phone how I would get one they told me that I would be appointed one after my venue and date were approved. This letter has her name on it?

Obviously different offices have different procedures but this is the one they've put me through.

Milly33

See now so you want to make your appointment to go in to meet them post is a little confusing..

I take you are getting married Jan then is it or early next year..This seems to be working fine http://137.191.241.51/CeremonyPlanner.Ireland/Default.aspx

or if you cant get onto them just email the address up above and say you are trying to contact the Monaghan office but the lines are busy etc..

Don't stress

Milly33

Mostly the same, think tis just how ye are picking it up

ShaShaBear

Milly33 wrote: »

See now so you want to make your appointment to go in to meet them post is a little confusing..

I take you are getting married Jan then is it or early next year..This seems to be working fine http://137.191.241.51/CeremonyPlanner.Ireland/Default.aspx

or if you cant get onto them just email the address up above and say you are trying to contact the Monaghan office but the lines are busy etc..

Don't stress

I don't really see what's confusing, obviously the different offices have different procedures but I was told to do things step by step and that this appointment is the final step. Not getting married until the end of next year actually, but she assured me over the phone that leaving it until May of next year could be a huge mistake if any further information was needed.
I'm guessing for some reason Monaghan require you to do all of the groundwork before the notification appointment. The letter I got off them last week after completing all of the steps outlined to me states clearly that now, and only now, am I fit and able to make my notification appointment, and that I should contact them to book such

"well over three months of the intended date of marriage".

Milly33

The confusing bit as such is that you have already done this, you have your date booked with them, you have your venue, now you just need to make the appointment to go in to meet with them. That's it I think maybe tis the wording.

Again email that address or just call into the office if they aren't answer the phone and make the appointment...

ShaShaBear

Milly33 wrote: »

The confusing bit as such is that you have already done this, you have your date booked with them, you have your venue, now you just need to make the appointment to go in to meet with them. That's it I think maybe tis the wording.

Again email that address or just call into the office if they aren't answer the phone and make the appointment...

Yeah that's where I was confused. It gives you the option to book your notification appointment only online if you live in certain counties. But for Monaghan/Louth/Cavan, you have to book the ceremony and the notification appointment. But obviously I've booked the ceremony through Monaghan already, so obviously I can't book it again because that date is gone :pac:

Talk about making it difficult for me!

Milly33

Ah all these forms are a bit confusing and waffle-ly... I just went through it there on the this link http://137.191.241.51/CeremonyPlanne...d/Default.aspx

Went through booking a civil marriage, at other venue and it works. Maybe give that a go and wait for them to contact you.. Like you say you have plenty of time as such for them to get back to you.

Twill all be grand

ShaShaBear

Milly33 wrote: »

Ah all these forms are a bit confusing and waffle-ly... I just went through it there on the this link http://137.191.241.51/CeremonyPlanne...d/Default.aspx

Went through booking a civil marriage, at other venue and it works. Maybe give that a go and wait for them to contact you.. Like you say you have plenty of time as such for them to get back to you.

Twill all be grand

Yeah it works fine, but when I click for Monaghan, it asks me to pick my venue type etc and the date. The date of my wedding isn't there and there are no time slots available. So obviously it won't let me move onto the next step because my date is not available because someone (aka me) is already getting married on that date.

Milly33

not sure then sorry youll just have to keep trying or email them

alwaysadub

ShaShaBear wrote: »

Anyone giving their notice of intent to marry book their appointment online?
Just went to do it there (FINALLY got my birth cert sorted) and it was a mess! I genuinely couldn't figure out if I was booking a ceremony or an appointment and half the page wouldn't even load right (I was on Chrome, so not the IE issue). Tried ringing the office, as per usual no-one is available to answer (the office has been open for 45 minutes now)...

We got ours sorted eventually for a few weeks ago but something happened and we couldn't make it. Tried ringing to cancel but of course there was no answer, and now when we try book it it says these details already exist and it won't let me rebook.
The site is a mess though, some offices seem to have no availability between now and next September. And of course if you try ringing no one answers!

honerbright

Went to dress shop number 2 today! One of my bridesmaids moved overseas since the last one (which now makes 2 in the UK ) so I took along my remaining bridesmaid and one of my friends. Think I've found *the* dress, like I can actually imagine myself wearing it and being beside himself on the day and it working in with the colours and everything.
It's also funny, cos the Bridal shop names all their dresses themselves and the name they gave this dress is one that we use in an inside joke/quote from something between us for the last few years

ShaShaBear

honerbright wrote: »

Went to dress shop number 2 today! One of my bridesmaids moved overseas since the last one (which now makes 2 in the UK ) so I took along my remaining bridesmaid and one of my friends. Think I've found *the* dress, like I can actually imagine myself wearing it and being beside himself on the day and it working in with the colours and everything.
It's also funny, cos the Bridal shop names all their dresses themselves and the name they gave this dress is one that we use in an inside joke/quote from something between us for the last few years

I'm counting down the days until I can even half-heartedly start dress shopping. Found the bridesmaid dresses, just have to measure my ladies and order them.

MIN2511

poledancer wrote: »

Thanks b2b's

MIN2511 .. Forgot we have photographer .. Friend of ours so kinda forgot about him .. Hehe. Ok so next is band and videographer
Do you think I need to maybe look at church singer now then too?

I dunno... I emailed 6/7 different harpists, all were available, prices differed especially if they have to learn a new song.

Perhaps start looking at singers that you'd want on the day and listen to playlists etc.

Personally, looking for a harpist, going through songs to play, listening to different albums was kinda stressful for me.

andreac

Picked our rings today. Got them in Neil Conway jewelers in town just off Dame Street. Had met them at the fair in City West 2 weeks ago so popped in today.
Looked at suits too so he just needs to go back with his brother to make a decision but more than likely will pick the darker navy one. Hoping he will pick that as the lighter blue one doesn't match with bridesmaids colour but the dark navy does.

butterfly234

I was asked today what I was thinking of wearing for the afters!! (I'm having a bbq in a bar with around 50 guests) What the heck does one wear!!? I never even thought about it!

ShaShaBear

butterfly234 wrote: »

I was asked today what I was thinking of wearing for the afters!! (I'm having a bbq in a bar with around 50 guests) What the heck does one wear!!? I never even thought about it!

Afters as in the evening reception or the party one throws the following day?

If its the following day, any I've ever been to the bride just wore an outfit appropriate to the venue aka nice going out dress or whatever.

westernlass

I bought a white dress online. It's lacy like a short wedding dress. It's from Zara That's my next days outfit.

We bought his suit this weekend and started booking our honeymoon. We should get the rings order in the next week or so.

Feel like we did a lot this past week but then again it's getting really close for us. Hitting the five month mark soon.

butterfly234

Well done you! I must have a look on Zaras website.. I never even thought of them.. I had a look on Asos but didn't see much.
I am getting married around this time next year and today my mum & I went for a quick look in a shop for outfit Ideas & colours for her - WELL! the shop assistants were so rude asking when the wedding was and then one in the background said OMG!! What the heck is wrong with being trying to be organised!!!!
Sorry about that haha , *Rant Over!!*

honerbright

Yesterday was exactly 1 year to go for us! Soooooo excited

westernlass

It's flying so fast. Organised is a good thing

emzibob

Organised is the way to go westernlass! don't let dissmissive sales assistants put you off! I have both my mother and the grooms mother dressed from head to toe it's one less thing to do nearer the time!

westernlass

My mam got her mother of the bride outfit yesterday. She's been watching a designer for ages she likes and then went and got it.

I'm not finding the wedding stuff stressful at all anymore. In fact work is much more stressful and the wedding is a nice break. We are also doing rather than researching so I like actually making progress.

I'm looking forward to the marriage though too as I think it'll be nice to be wedding free and plan something different after that. Maybe do up the house and stay addicted to pinterest

andreac

Im getting loads done too. I booked the date and venue/package for my hen already but was trying to decide what to do and where to go. Booked it for July so deposit has been paid. Im not going to tell people just yet, apart from my bridesmaids who already know. Might be too far yet to give out a date for July.

fits

westernlass wrote: »

I'm looking forward to the marriage though too as I think it'll be nice to be wedding free and plan something different after that. Maybe do up the house and stay addicted to pinterest

I found the first month - 6 weeks after we got back from honeymoon a total comedown. I just felt so bleugh for ages.

Things back to normal now thankfully but I totally didnt expect that.

poledancer

MIN2511 wrote: »

I dunno... I emailed 6/7 different harpists, all were available, prices differed especially if they have to learn a new song.

Perhaps start looking at singers that you'd want on the day and listen to playlists etc.

Personally, looking for a harpist, going through songs to play, listening to different albums was kinda stressful for me.

Hi MIN2511 .. Thanks for the feedback .. Might have little look then and see what's out there and what we like ...

poledancer

Hi everybody, we've been looking at bands now we've been looking at one in particular which I actually got the name from this trend there called The Rubix Band and the other is a band called Sway Social ..

Has anybody on here seen or booked sway social?

I like the fact The Rubix Band are lively can see everybody dancing to them, which is what we all want

Just not to sure how lively Sway Social are from there you tube clip, as in getting the crowd going...
Hope that makes sense

Thanks All

andreac

I have The Rubix booked for our wedding. They are brill. I highly recommend you go see both at a gig if possible. That's where we saw the rubix. At a gig in Drogheda and we made our minds up nearly straight away when they started playing. We only planned to stay about a half hour but ended up staying until the end as they were that good. The whole pub was up dancing. They are brilliant.

Can't comment on sway social but try and go and see both and compare them.