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ShaShaBear

sinead81 wrote: »

ladies does anyone else feel very unbridey!? I am getting married in 2 months and I am not enjoying it all, seems like such a big fuss/expense and trying to keep the politics at bay is doing my head in. Doesn't feel like our wedding anymore really. I would much rather elope on a beach somewhere and that is not what I wanted when I booked our venue!

Sometimes I go through wee spats of wishing we'd just done it legally in an office with witnesses and fecked off on a honeymoon. But people keep promising me when the day comes and everything is out of my hands that I'll enjoy it much more. Chief bridesmaid is only 19 and never involved in a wedding before, the best man is single and would be one of the most naive people going and both our folks have utterly different ideas about how a wedding is supposed to be so we're literally winging it. I suppose the realisation that myself and OH are totally responsible for the running of things on the day is what gets me down.

ShaShaBear

On a side note, have any of you ladies bought Mori Lee bridesmaid dresses? I have a specific budget set for my dress and the bridesmaid ones so it would be nice to get a rough idea of how much I'd have left over for me and if I need to re-adjust at all!

sinead81

Thanks girls and yes everyone keeps saying its going to be the best day ever but I feel a lot of pressure to make it amazing for everyone and in turn making myself stressed. I am holding back talking about it to family and friends and just going with my own ideas for now. My fiance is amazing, will agree to everything which is great!

Milly33

Oh Sinead try to keep that way just think of you and you alone.. With you on this one i wished we had done ours quicker as by the time it came around everyone had their own ideas... Just try and enjoy your day. And dont pay attention to people as believe me they quickly forget about whatever they say or do to you once the day comes around

tt2014

sinead, been there done that, never mind what anyone thinks or says, this is yours and your hubby to be big day! I remember people saying oh its such an anti climax after the wedding and I almost was anticipating it but that's a reflection on them, married life is fantastic, I highly recommend it!

Neyite

sinead81 wrote: »

ladies does anyone else feel very unbridey!? I am getting married in 2 months and I am not enjoying it all, seems like such a big fuss/expense and trying to keep the politics at bay is doing my head in. Doesn't feel like our wedding anymore really. I would much rather elope on a beach somewhere and that is not what I wanted when I booked our venue!

I got this feeling before I even got the engagement ring resized. It put me right off when I had about 7 people in my ear telling me what I need to do for my wedding. So I stopped planning a wedding entirely. Myself and the OH are in no rush. And I know when I start the planning it will all rear its head again. That's why I'm sorely tempted to do something like this and just come back married.

Milly33

Bargin!! Id so go for it Neyite....So are ye still waiting to marry then?

I got married last year and while i was kind avoiding saying earlier I think if you dont feel it (besides from stress and that thats just natural) but unless your well into the whole big wedding day, the big plan for the bride can be a bit well there goes that..And just too much of something that is not wanted in the first place. Not the getting married to the sweet cheeks but the day itself.

So wish we had done something like aloped or just had our family and friends, while we did we done it on a bigger scale.. I hated camers, i hated the limelight and i hated what it done to people close to me with like well you have to do this and invite this person...

sinead81

Oh this is so refreshing to talk to you all and not feel like I was alone!!!! I felt so guilty about not feeling on cloud 9 about it all.

Neyite

Milly33 wrote: »

Bargin!! Id so go for it Neyite....So are ye still waiting to marry then?

I got married last year and while i was kind avoiding saying earlier I think if you dont feel it (besides from stress and that thats just natural) but unless your well into the whole big wedding day, the big plan for the bride can be a bit well there goes that..And just too much of something that is not wanted in the first place. Not the getting married to the sweet cheeks but the day itself.

So wish we had done something like aloped or just had our family and friends, while we did we done it on a bigger scale.. I hated camers, i hated the limelight and i hated what it done to people close to me with like well you have to do this and invite this person...

Not waiting as such. We decided to put all wedding plans aside to try for a baby. I've only a few years left in that regard, whereas we can get married any time.

I admire the women who can plan a traditional wedding, but I'm not one of them. :P There is something so chilled out about heading to a tropical destination, and just having a tiny service on a beach somewhere. But there is bound to be some fallout from that type of elopement I'm sure. No need to think about that now though.

Princess Peach

sinead81 wrote: »

Oh this is so refreshing to talk to you all and not feel like I was alone!!!! I felt so guilty about not feeling on cloud 9 about it all.

Oh I am the same! Had to be talked into a small family wedding, would have preferred to just sign the paper! Most excited for the honeymoon

I just had to learn to tune out all the people who had opinions on no church, no extended family, no wedding party, no wedding dress But to be fair no matter what you do some people will moan anyway.

Milly33

best of luck with the baby planning Neyite ..Ye are dead right to do what ye feel is important...

Your never alone Sinead with boards haha I must say after spending a lot of time on this forum last year people are very helpfull and theres the freedom you can let it all out.....

And so true someone will be bound to find something to moan about.. I just loved the Oh sure why didnt ye do this, after ours.. even though as said it was a relaxed affiar for guests and for himself but for me i just felt ahhh Im A celebrity get me out of here!!!

I love the idea of having a wedding and just not telling everyone, invite people with the premise they are going to a party of something and then surprise..No pressure on anyone....

michellie

The shop phoned me this evening to say my dress arrived today.... (AGHHHHHH... Deep breaths) gonna go try it on saturday week. Knew it was coming soon,but nearly died when I got the call!

The_Stranger

Collected my dress today! It was fantastic getting to see it and try it on again. I had forgotten so much about the detail on it. Also 5 months to go today!

ShaShaBear

First dress appointment on Friday
(Bet y'all are sweating at me starting looking 6 months before the wedding :pac: )

Took all advice on board and am going to look at the dresses that fit me now. Praying they have The Dress when I get there (on sale) so I can move on to our final item - the suits!

Preset No.3

First wedding of the season and its great to be back in Ballymagarvey Village. I really had forgotten what a lovely venue this is. If anyone is here this year, I am guessing it really will be a magical day!!!

ElleEm

ShaShaBear wrote: »

First dress appointment on Friday
(Bet y'all are sweating at me starting looking 6 months before the wedding :pac: )

I have 5 weeks to go and my dress hasn't been delivered yet. I have never even tried it on!

SarahMollie

Preset No.3 wrote: »

First wedding of the season and its great to be back in Ballymagarvey Village. I really had forgotten what a lovely venue this is. If anyone is here this year, I am guessing it really will be a magical day!!!

One of my best friends just booked BMV for Nov next year - very excited to see the place in person as anything I've seen online looks amazing!

andreac

ElleEm wrote: »

I have 5 weeks to go and my dress hasn't been delivered yet. I have never even tried it on!

Wow, are you not up the walls? I couldn't cope with that lol.

Milly33

Don't stress you have loads of time for the dress. A lot don't come in until the week beforehand.. I got my own 2 days before the big day

ShaShaBear

Milly33 wrote: »

Don't stress you have loads of time for the dress. A lot don't come in until the week beforehand.. I got my own 2 days before the big day

I'd actually die.
Im looking at the sample dresses so if I do find one, itll be coming home with me. How long would it take a dressmaker to do alterations do you know? I obviously don't know how much weight I will lose before the big day but I imagine there is a cutoff point that Ill need to consider. If I only lost 1lb between now and the wedding Ill have dropped 2 dress sizes and I'm losing 2-3 per week at the minute!

Faith

You can space them out as much as you like. Many people get the first fitting 3 months in advance. Some wait until 8 weeks before. I got all 3 fittings done in a week out of necessity

ShaShaBear

Faith wrote: »

You can space them out as much as you like. Many people get the first fitting 3 months in advance. Some wait until 8 weeks before. I got all 3 fittings done in a week out of necessity

Oh 8 weeks isn't too bad. I was just thinking I hope it's not miles beforehand that I could end up losing another stone and having no time to get it altered again. My dressmaker lives a 2 minute walk from the house so I'll pop into her once we score a dress and see what she thinks!

Princess Peach

I'm 5 months away and I don't know what I'll wear :pac:

ShaShaBear

Princess Peach wrote: »

I'm 5 months away and I don't know what I'll wear :pac:

I was spotting tons of bridesmaid dresses that I loved and was starting to think I'd just order three, two in gold and one in white for myself :pac:

Princess Peach

I won't be wearing a wedding dress anyway, I'm sure I'll find something I like in the meantime

irishgirl19

Shashabear I'm not sure where you're based but smart brides in portlaoise have a large section of sample dresses for sale. The most expensive one is 800. They'll hold it for a month.
I heard the bridal outlet in baldoyle have a sale room but I haven't been there

ShaShaBear

irishgirl19 wrote: »

Shashabear I'm not sure where you're based but smart brides in portlaoise have a large section of sample dresses for sale. The most expensive one is 800. They'll hold it for a month.
I heard the bridal outlet in baldoyle have a sale room but I haven't been there

Based in Monaghan but I have a very lovely OH that doesn't mind hauling ass for a bargain
Thanks so much for letting me know - that is definitely my second visit!

Milly33

You don't have to go for the typical dress if you don't want to.. Is it Folkstone do loverly fancy dresses but they wouldn't be the typical bridal style.... Or maybe call to a dressmaker get one made...

Alterations I think just depends on how busy the dressmaker is at the time. Might be handy to find out whos best close to you and ring and ask.. I know my chap had like the most of my own made in a week... Or just ask in the bridal shop if you find the dress there..

SarahMollie

Milly33 wrote: »

You don't have to go for the typical dress if you don't want to.. Is it Folkstone do loverly fancy dresses but they wouldn't be the typical bridal style.... Or maybe call to a dressmaker get one made...

Alterations I think just depends on how busy the dressmaker is at the time. Might be handy to find out whos best close to you and ring and ask.. I know my chap had like the most of my own made in a week... Or just ask in the bridal shop if you find the dress there..

Folkster - they're in Dublin and Kilkenny, but I think their bridal is Kilkenny only.

baby and crumble

If you can find a good dressmaker/seamstress rather than an "alterations" place, they'll likely be able to do more and I'd feel safer with something important. If you contact a few around your area and tell them what you're looking for and tell them the time of year you'll be looking at they'll give you a timetable.

Milly33

Princess Peach wrote: »

I won't be wearing a wedding dress anyway, I'm sure I'll find something I like in the meantime

Have you had a look at folkstone they had some loverly dresses, or Verso also

Princess Peach

Folkster, pass the window everyday going to work :pac: And I have verso on my instagram. I might not be ready to shop but I have it all on my radar

ShaShaBear

So no luck today, unfortunately! Only had 4 within budget and only one I really liked. It was utterly gorgeous and very flattering but it didn't really feel like "the" dress to me.

Milly33

Ah shame but it does take a while..I am sure youll find the one soon

emzibob

this day next week I'll be married!!! eek!!!

Shashabear just a word of advise if buying a sample check out a good seamstress near you as the shop I bought mine in recommended two to me one was a wrong number the other asked me to bring the dress into the shop and when I got there she had gone home ( I only got off the phone with her 10 mins earlier)

ShaShaBear

I am finally not a dressless bride!!!!!!!!!!!
What an emotional experience!

westernlass

Having a nightmare with our venue last minute. Does anyone else find the admin and dealing with stupid queries ruins all the fun?

Neyite

ShaShaBear wrote: »

I am finally not a dressless bride!!!!!!!!!!!
What an emotional experience!

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Faith

westernlass wrote: »

Having a nightmare with our venue last minute. Does anyone else find the admin and dealing with stupid queries ruins all the fun?

I was totally unprepared for our last meeting with the wedding coordinator at the hotel. She wanted to know things we had never considered, like what exact time we'd be arriving at the hotel so they could be waiting for us. I was like "Uhhh.... the ceremony is at 2... so sometime after that? Probably before 5, if that helps?".

It was definitely stressful!

ShaShaBear

Neyite wrote: »

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I have a picture of it on a mannequin and that's it. The model picture actually ruins it as she wears it loose! I'll pop it up later this evening for 5 minutes so my partner doesn't see it! :pac:

ElleEm

Faith wrote: »

I was totally unprepared for our last meeting with the wedding coordinator at the hotel. She wanted to know things we had never considered, like what exact time we'd be arriving at the hotel so they could be waiting for us. I was like "Uhhh.... the ceremony is at 2... so sometime after that? Probably before 5, if that helps?".

It was definitely stressful!

I feel like they should have a list FAQs or prompts for you to have prepared for meetings with them to save time. I mostly email my coordinator but I feel like she must get asked the same things all the time (what time does the DJ have to finish, can the flowergirls throw petals, who collects all the stuff the next day, etc.).

westernlass

ElleEm wrote: »

I feel like they should have a list FAQs or prompts for you to have prepared for meetings with them to save time. I mostly email my coordinator but I feel like she must get asked the same things all the time (what time does the DJ have to finish, can the flowergirls throw petals, who collects all the stuff the next day, etc.).

Yeah ours has been bigger things than that. Himself is dealing mostly with it as I was finding it too much work and he has more flexibility.

stargazer 68

ElleEm wrote: »

I feel like they should have a list FAQs or prompts for you to have prepared for meetings with them to save time. I mostly email my coordinator but I feel like she must get asked the same things all the time (what time does the DJ have to finish, can the flowergirls throw petals, who collects all the stuff the next day, etc.).

We meet with ours again a couple of weeks ago - new girl! We had a long list of questions etc and so did she which was great!! She was so enthusiastic - maybe because she's new to the job!

SarahMollie

A lot of the wedding websites have "snag lists" that you could print off go through with your planner to make sure you're not missing anything.

tea_and_cake

SarahMollie wrote: »

A lot of the wedding websites have "snag lists" that you could print off go through with your planner to make sure you're not missing anything.

Thanks I was wondering if there was something like that.

Oswin

I'm so frustrated, we were planning in getting married in December with a small ceremony and lunch for our families followed by an informal evening reception for friends and extended family. Found loads of places that would suit us but nowhere will take a booking for a Friday in December because it's Christmas party season Its looking like we'll be going for November instead which isn't really a problem I know but it's our anniversary is in December and it would have been all christmassy and festive so I'm feeling a bit sad about it!

michellie

I tried on my dress yesterday, it was perfect, fit lovely a little big in places as I've lost some weight but I'm thrilled with it. Going back in June to try it on again for Alterations :)

Do evening invites go out at the same time as day ones?

SarahMollie

Strawberry Milkshake wrote: »

Do evening invites go out at the same time as day ones?

Anytime I've gotten invited to an afters (granted it was only 3 times) I've never actually received a formal invite, I was just asked personally. Typically a work situation or an acquaintance.

ShaShaBear

Strawberry Milkshake wrote: »

Do evening invites go out at the same time as day ones?

We're not sending them all out together. There's people we are inviting to our evening part that we simply can't afford to invite to the whole do unless people we ARE inviting to the whole do can't attend. So when we get the RSVPS back from some full day guests and have any no's, we can fill out more full invites for our shortlist on the evening list. Basically we wouldn't want to send out evening invites and then contact people to say "Yeah, um, our first choice can't go, so I suppose you just got upgraded to the whole wedding"...