Would you take your girlfriend back if she cheated on you?

Mister Vain

Piliger wrote: »

Almost everyone cheats. The only difference is between the ones that get caught. And the ones that are most outraged by the idea are the ones most likely.

Rubbish. I've never cheated. Although I haven't exactly been in a lot of relationships so it hasn't been an issue.

Earlgreyhot

Mister Vain wrote: »

Rubbish. I've never cheated. Although I haven't exactly been in a lot of relationships so it hasn't been an issue.

As Chris Rock once said, men are basically as faithful as their options.

Earlgreyhot

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3psB9nG75sM

Mister Vain

Earlgreyhot wrote: »

As Chris Rock once said, men are basically as faithful as their options.

That's just it. A lot of people have feck all options.

Piliger

Earlgreyhot wrote: »

As Chris Rock once said, men are basically as faithful as their options.

Yet women do most of the cheating.

Earlgreyhot

Piliger wrote: »

Yet women do most of the cheating.

Well I don'the think there is any proof that they cheat any more than men, if men had the options women had they'd cheating around the clock. Well suppose they wouldn't bother with a relationship then.

Piliger

Earlgreyhot wrote: »

Well I don'the think there is any proof that they cheat any more than men, if men had the options women had they'd cheating around the clock. Well suppose they wouldn't bother with a relationship then.

You mean like your Chris Rock proof ?

BlatentCheek

Unless I thought that there was no chance of ever pulling someone I liked again I wouldn't consider it. You see so many guys and girls putting up with so much cheating crap from their other half and you never see it end happy ever after, they just string out the misery for longer.

Piliger

BlatentCheek wrote: »

Unless I thought that there was no chance of ever pulling someone I liked again I wouldn't consider it. You see so many guys and girls putting up with so much cheating crap from their other half and you never see it end happy ever after, they just string out the misery for longer.

Lots of happy marriages continue for decades despite one or other having cheated at some time but never discovered. This rosy image of relationships is a romantic lie that has been sold by the media and the church for an age.

Putin

When they cheat throw them on the street. Because anyone I know that forgave a cheater, ended up regretting it later.

PucaMama

Piliger wrote: »

Yet women do most of the cheating.

proof? are women cheating by themselves? are women "almost everyone" now? or are you just looking for attention with stupid generalisations

Piliger

PucaMama wrote: »

proof? are women cheating by themselves? are women "almost everyone" now? or are you just looking for attention with stupid generalisations

No who is the one with stupid generalisations.

Matt_Trakker

DellyBelly wrote: »

Glenda Gilson

*pukes

jonnny68

GalwayGuitar wrote: »

Only the most beta of beta males would take a cheating whore back.

what in the name of jaysus is a "beta male" :eek:

Mesrine65

jonnny68 wrote: »

what in the name of jaysus is a "beta male" :eek:

An unremarkable, careful man who avoids risk & confrontation.

Beta males lack the physical presence, charisma & confidence of the Alpha male.

jonnny68

back on topic - i did before after we had a row she went out got locked and shagged some other bloke, took a while but i took her back but i couldnt get it out of my system and i then ended up shagging someone else, she never actusally found out but the relationship had ran it's course anyway.

the evasion_kid

Mesrine65 wrote: »

An unremarkable, careful man who avoids risk & confrontation.

Beta males lack the physical presence, charisma & confidence of the Alpha male.

Who normally picks up the tab later in life

RDM_83 again

Mesrine65 wrote: »

An unremarkable, careful man who avoids risk & confrontation.

Beta males lack the physical presence, charisma & confidence of the Alpha male.

The thing is anybody that actually is an "alpha" male, and I personally don't believe that a person can be like that all the time (as its very situationally dependent) probably doesn't know what an "alpha" male is and if they did wouldn't have the need to classify themselves as such.
Anybody at the top of this pseudo-scientific pecking order won't actually be concerned about some theoretical social hierarchy

donegaLroad

what if she was cheating on you with another girl?

Could you take her back then?

shrewd

donegaLroad wrote: »

what if she was cheating on you with another girl?

Could you take her back then?

Threesome or GTFO

btw, what's wrong with the D

Tony EH

No.

Irishguy16

Irishguy16 wrote: »

Have you seen relationships survive after a partner had cheated?

Several.

As for the question of whether I would survive it - I can not answer it. It would be MUCH too contextual.

For me communication and honesty are the prime in a relationship for me. If they are breached there is no going back. Nothing is more important to me in the relationship than this - even fidelity.

So for example if either of the girls cheated on me and I found out about it somehow - or it had been an ongoing affair thing - there would be no coming back from this. Deal breaker - end of.

If however it happened and SHE came to ME after an incident and informed me of it quickly - openly and honestly - then there is hope. It would be contextual then - depending on who it was - why and how it happened - and much more.

Not saying the relationship would survive this - but there would at least be some hope that it might if she was entirely open and honest about what had happened. A case could be made for it.

But I would genuinely be more forgiving of a sexual indiscretion that she was open and honest about - than even a mere snogging that I found about indirectly. Because it is the breach of communication and honesty that would cut me deeper than a breach of fidelity.

BlatentCheek wrote: »

Unless I thought that there was no chance of ever pulling someone I liked again

Not sure that is a useful caveat really - at least for me I mean. Forget cheating entirely for a moment and just consider the general point you are making. It sounds like you would accept being with anyone rather than just be with no one at all.

Not sure I could live like that - whether it be cheating or some other reason I wanted to break up with someone - I would just break up with them. I would not stay with them for fear of being single.

I would rather live the single life until I die - than just concede to be with someone who is less then the standard of person I wish to be with.

theintern

That's the crux of things there. Behind the back ruins the whole thing, a drunken mistake may be recoverable from but once the trust is shattered I feel like that's the end of things really.

mickydoomsux

How hot is this hypothetical girlfriend?

PNA

No a F chance

RonanP77

I think different people have different ideas on what actually counts as cheating.

If she had sex with another guy I'd be pretty pissed off, however, a child, a joint mortgage and negative equity means breaking up wouldn't be a great option.

theboy1

Id Batista bomb her.

Littlekittylou

Irishguy16 wrote: »

Just curious about what everyone thinks about this one?

I wouldn't, I feel that the trust would be damaged as a result.

Have you seen relationships survive after a partner had cheated?

Personally No.

I don't cheat so why would I accept it. I wouldn't take him back.

RonanP77

Littlekittylou wrote:

Personally No.

Littlekittylou wrote:

I don't cheat so why would I accept it. I wouldn't take him back.

Some of the rest of us could be hideously ugly though and it's our only shot at escaping a life of loneliness.

Littlekittylou

RonanP77 wrote: »

Some of the rest of us could be hideously ugly though and it's our only shot at escaping a life of loneliness.

Yeah well I am not....I am sure no one here is either.

I would say being cheated on makes you feel fiercely lonely!

And just looks does not mean you are not worthy of respect ... if you are going to be with someone treat them right full stop.

I would lose respect for a person who cheated on me I wouldn't want them anymore.

receyman

AS a bloke who may have cheated on his GF (p.s. don't tell her)

I would say it is not a binary decision, context and meaning and individual circumstances need to be considered.

for instance, i love my GF, but for some reason feel a need to be with other women aswell....i know she wouldn't like that so i lie to her....simple eh?

I am being considerate of her feelings for not telling her, and what is the real harm anyway......it makes me happier, and when I'm happier the relationship is better. everyone wins.

So consider the reasons, consider if she loves you, and if she does, try and understand if you can, and forgive it if it is in fact meaningless

just me two cents.......and seriously DONT tell my GF !!!!

Shanotheslayer

receyman wrote: »

AS a bloke who may have cheated on his GF (p.s. don't tell her)

I would say it is not a binary decision, context and meaning and individual circumstances need to be considered.

for instance, i love my GF, but for some reason feel a need to be with other women aswell....i know she wouldn't like that so i lie to her....simple eh?

I am being considerate of her feelings for not telling her, and what is the real harm anyway......it makes me happier, and when I'm happier the relationship is better. everyone wins.

So consider the reasons, consider if she loves you, and if she does, try and understand if you can, and forgive it if it is in fact meaningless

just me two cents.......and seriously DONT tell my GF !!!!

Based on this post. You're not old enough to have a girlfriend.

Cookie_Dough

receyman wrote: »

AS a bloke who may have cheated on his GF (p.s. don't tell her)

I would say it is not a binary decision, context and meaning and individual circumstances need to be considered.

for instance, i love my GF, but for some reason feel a need to be with other women aswell....i know she wouldn't like that so i lie to her....simple eh?

I am being considerate of her feelings for not telling her, and what is the real harm anyway......it makes me happier, and when I'm happier the relationship is better. everyone wins.

So consider the reasons, consider if she loves you, and if she does, try and understand if you can, and forgive it if it is in fact meaningless

just me two cents.......and seriously DONT tell my GF !!!!

Did you resurrect this thread just to brag that you cheated on your gf (but don't want anyone to tell her?)

FizzleSticks

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Tombi!

Cookie_Dough wrote: »

Did you resurrect this thread just to brag that you cheated on your gf (but don't want anyone to tell her?)

mod: zombies can't talk. He's safe.

But let's no go resurrecting any more threads, thanks.