What is your first love up to?

Cupcake_Crisis

We don't keep in touch but as far as i can gather he's in Australia with his long term gf. Best of luck to him! We had our fun.

zcorpian88

She used to be a down to earth, timid but a nice girl, we ended it mutually pretty much because I didn't like her friends, she fell in with a bunch of hipster idiots (That used the word "Random" all the f**king time, they were a bunch of freaks that got on my nerves) and she started following them like a sheep. They had some obsession with those stupid hemp shops that opened up all around the country, she used to be something of a health freak, then all of a sudden she's smoking and trying to get this mad cocaine alternative from the hemp shops.

She's a lesbian now apparently living in Dublin I think, has some stupid buzz cut on the sides and a mad fringe now. Anytime I see her in town I take the nearest alley or side street so I don't have to talk to her, her personality had changed that much.

All I thought when the hemp shops closed down "Aaaah haaa she's sickened!" can't help but begrudge her, she went from being pretty a cool person where other people didn't influence her into something stupid to being a hypocrite that would do anything to fit in with a bunch of rejects in no length at all. Hate when people change for the worse.

hagoonabear

first love currently is 2 years deceased, his 23rd birthday is tomorrow, bit of a sad story there was never mentally right but broke up 2 weeks later committed suicide, still blamed for his death to this day, I hope he's in a better place but on a better note my first boyfriend is working with my partner sits right next to him in the office (they avoid talking to each other)

marienbad

hagoonabear wrote: »

first love currently is 2 years deceased, his 23rd birthday is tomorrow, bit of a sad story there was never mentally right but broke up 2 weeks later committed suicide, still blamed for his death to this day, I hope he's in a better place but on a better note my first boyfriend is working with my partner sits right next to him in the office (they avoid talking to each other)

Not your fault and don't let anyone tell you otherwise.

realdanbreen

up for anything wrote: »

Mine is married with two daughters in their early 20s. I had a nice fling with him last year. I pity his wife though. He has never been faithful to her. She according to him is a bit of a head case and very suspicious and jealous. I wonder why! She should have cut her losses years ago. I'm so glad that I didn't end up with him although at the time he smashed my heart to smithereens.

So basicly he dumped you,got married and yet you went back and had an affair with him.And you pity his wife?

Yamanoto

realies wrote: »

My first love was a Cavan girl, she my broke my heart, heard she married a garda,

Saw Doctors will have that if you don't protect it.

hagoonabear

marienbad wrote:

Not your fault and don't let anyone tell you otherwise.

Thank you took awhile to realise it for myself, greatly enjoying this thread

marienbad

hagoonabear wrote: »

Thank you took awhile to realise it for myself, greatly enjoying this thread

I know a girl in the same position as you, don't have any of it and don't shy away from speaking up for yourself.

Everybody loves a scapegoat to ease their guilt , don't take it on board.

Loving this thread also, takes me back decades into the olden times

Bassfish

Mine became a coke head for about two years after we split up, she's copped on since. She powerlifts and runs half marathons. Strange girl that one!

smurgen

Living in Dublin with her boyfriend. Getting on great and I'm genuinely delighted for her.she's one of the nicest people I've met to date.suffers with depression and has low self esteem And doesn't realise what a top person she is. Things seem to be going well right now for her and long may it continue.its good to see good people getting on in life.

efb

The first girl I kissed? No idea hopefully sorted that facial hair thing

First guy I went out with? Still living in London we stay in touch

Venus In Furs

up for anything wrote: »

Mine is married with two daughters in their early 20s. I had a nice fling with him last year. I pity his wife though. He has never been faithful to her. She according to him is a bit of a head case and very suspicious and jealous. I wonder why! She should have cut her losses years ago. I'm so glad that I didn't end up with him although at the time he smashed my heart to smithereens.

You... pity his wife yet you had a fling with him?

(I'm not judging regarding the affair - sh-t happens, but I don't understand how you can criticise him when you enabled his cheating).

Crooked Jack

currently spurning my attempts to get back with her

mitresize5

Married with two kids to a really decent guy. Went out with her for 5 years and she more or less saved my life.
Battled cancer for 2.5 years and rebuilt me as a person for another year after that.

A real phenomenal human being who is still bump into occasionally and still get on really well with.

I love my wife and son more than words can say but that girl will always have a huge piece of my heart

Katgurl

My first love was pre-online life so we didn't keep track... I know he became a successful classical guitarist, I once saw him on tv playing for the queen. I looked him up on fb once a few years ago, he had photos of himself with a baby so I said hello & congrats. He wrote back and said it was lovely to hear from me and apologised for our unpleasant breakup a million years so. That was the last I heard of him (might have a nose now I've been reminded).

feargale

whiskeyman wrote: »

My first love is still in the same place I left them... in a box up in my parents attic, no longer needed and probably in an awful state.


We're talking about first teddy's here, right?
What's with all those sirens outside?

That's a relief. Having read the first sentence, I thought you were talking about your wife's corpse/skeleton. I was about to call the guards.

Sam Quentin

She's still seeing a psychiatrist!

feargale

MRnotlob606 wrote: »

I am only 19. So I am but a puppy compared to some people here.I am still much in love with my first love. We are good friends. But I want to be closer to her.

"She bid me take life easy, as the grass grows on the weirs;
But I was young and foolish, and now am full of tears."
- Down by the Sally Gardens by W.B. Yeats.

Hurricane-Dean

Back in Ireland after leaving me with 28k of debt in Aus last year.
Hated by everyone and hanging around in different areas now....it's a start

Jen Pigs Fly

All I know is he's in Australia.

My very first "boyfriend" (and I say that very loosely) was when I was 12 ... He's gay now that's all I know!

Ihatecuddles

I think my first love is my husband. I did go out with someone for four years but ge was abusive so I don't think that was real love.

So it must be my husband I'm definitely his which is nice, seeing as he's 10 years older. We got married last May, after meeting less than a year before that, and I was only 22. I think everyone was a bit worried, but we're so so happy, and our good friends are getting divorced after being together ten years and married a few months. You just never know.

My husband has really calmed me down, I don't take anti depressants anymore, and he's my best friend

Zanablue

My first love is at work at the moment. Twenty years and a few kids later and we are still together. We have had our ups and downs but that happens in all relationships. I love him to bits and he still makes my heart flutter:)

sbsquarepants

Ihatecuddles wrote: »

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My husband has really calmed me down, I don't take anti depressants anymore, and he's my best friend

Sounds like you could use a new username:D

Ihatecuddles

sbsquarepants wrote: »

Sounds like you could use a new username:D

I mean.....he's alright like

Chickentown

up for anything wrote: »

Mine is married with two daughters in their early 20s. I had a nice fling with him last year. I pity his wife though. He has never been faithful to her. She according to him is a bit of a head case and very suspicious and jealous. I wonder why! She should have cut her losses years ago. I'm so glad that I didn't end up with him although at the time he smashed my heart to smithereens.

Very apt username

realdanbreen

Ihatecuddles wrote: »

I think my first love is my husband. ...
So it must be my husband ... and he's my best friend

Not telling you what to do but I hope you spice up the old Valentines day card a bit better tahn the above ;)on Saturday next!

quad_red

My first love moved to a remote spot on the other side of the world a few years ago. Had no contact with her for the guts of 15 years but appeared quite sudden from what I heard.

Noticed in local paper a few months ago that her father has been charged with something terrible. Was sickened when I saw it.

Ihatecuddles

realdanbreen wrote: »

Not telling you what to do but I hope you spice up the old Valentines day card a bit better tahn the above ;)on Saturday next!

We won't be doing valentines day. Which is funny because the ones not doing it are usually more annoying than the ones that do.

We're disgustingly soppy every day, so I think we'll risk vomiting on each other if we added gifts and cards to the mix.

Mehaffey1

First love was the first girl I dated. Fancied each other for two years before I plucked up the courage to ask her out. On and off relationship before it ended. Just too nervy and inexperienced to have a relationship together.

Still the nicest girl I've ever met looks and personality wise. Seen she recently qualified as a nurse, put up a new FB photo with some fella and unfriended me.

Living overseas now but would move back tomorrow given half a chance with her, this 5 years after we broke up. Makes me glad and sad to hope she's happy with someone else, would think about her everyday though.

Must have what they call a spaniel's heart lol

scdublin

We broke up around 7 years ago and he's in his first serious relationship since that now...very happy for him as they seem a much better match than he and I were. We kept in touch although more infrequently as the years went on. Always hope him and his family are doing well though.

retro:electro

He's still chasing around chungwans pretending he doesn't have a receeding hairline

Wacker The Attacker

I had a fling with my french teacher when I was 17. I'm nearly 40 now and I still think about her. I bumped into her a couple of months back and she's still gorgeous despite being in her fifties. I'd jump into bed with her again in a heartbeat.

Windorah

I remember spending all night talking on the phone to my first love and if he sent me a voicemail I would listen to it again and again..
My family made me finish with him after (in hindsight!) a very silly incident. I always regretted breaking up with and often thought about him.
We are from the same town so I would have had some idea what he's up to but recently we came face to face for the first time in years. We were both like awkward nervous teenagers again! Stuttering and both bright red!

We are both happily in long term relationships now but it was quite the head melt... I suppose you never fully get over your first...

sammyjo90

Living it up in san Francisco, he's a few years older than me and we were on and off for about five years and I haven't seen him for 4 but he he walked in the door now id probably marry the man!

Reebrock

According to FB, it looks like she has a new BF and I'm happy for her. A good person who deserves the best.

HughWotMVIII

I wouldn't say he was my first love as 17 year old, angst-ridden me wasn't capable of anything even remotely close to love but I was definitely obsessed with him.

I did everything I could to get him to notice me and when he finally did, we dated for a little while. Our relationship was as dramatic as you can imagine. And then as fast as it had come on, whatever I felt disappeared. Just like that. I went from wanting him so badly I couldn't eat, couldn't sleep, couldn't live to wanting to vomit when he kissed me.

He is now happily married to a Welsh woman and they live somewhere in England. I am not sure what he does. We are facebook friends and from his posts, he seems happy enough. I am glad for him. He was a lovely guy who had the misfortune of being sucked into my path.

djflawless

djflawless wrote: »

Mines unknowingly waiting for me to propose to her valentines day

Just in case anyone is wondering...she said yes
Broke down crying but still, she said yes

Wing126

I actually saw her a couple days ago. She broke up with her latest boyfriend for no real reason, so I assume she's just being her usual heartless self down in Limerick.

Menas

djflawless wrote: »

Just in case anyone is wondering...she said yes
Broke down crying but still, she said yes

Well done lad! Exciting times ahead.

rob316

My best friend since I was 15 started going out with her when we were 18. Where is she? Lying in bed next to me separated by our 5 year old son 10 years later. Getting married next year couldn't be happier.

It almost never happened but we took a chance. Greatest decision we ever took.

evilberry

Amazing thread!

My first and only real love lives in Italy now, didn't want to stay in Ireland anymore after we broke up. Our break up left him in bits and he did a lot of stupid things. We broke up over three years ago and I (we? no idea.) had partners in the meantime yet still I miss him and go through all what-ifs most of the days. I made silly mistakes and so did he, pride separated us. Great life lesson, don't take anyone or anything you have for granted, once you do it's really easy to lose it.

walkingshadow

I've never had a girlfriend, never been in love.

BeerWolf

Dead, who happy now OP?!

:mad:

quad_red

sammyjo90 wrote: »

Living it up in san Francisco, he's a few years older than me and we were on and off for about five years and I haven't seen him for 4 but he he walked in the door now id probably marry the man!

Sounds like there is unfinished business there!

Larbre34

Teaching away at a school in the midlands, id say shes found her bliss job wise, a great communicator.

Unfortunately the man she married has a very serious degenerative illness and they aren't destined for a long life together, which she deserved. Life can be pretty cruel. They have a lovely little boy by all accounts.

I wish her nothing but goodness.

kylith

Moved to the UK and last I heard got married, is working as a paramedic, and has a rake of kids.

Good for him, but you can't help feeling wistful.

Ghost Buster

Shes at work. Im picking up the kids around 4 and then we're going to see Age of Ultron.

Pherekydes

Gone to work.


But she'll be home this evening...

walkingshadow

I saw a video of my first love on the internet the other day. She was helping several gentlemen to relax.

Sleepy

My first proper girlfriend I haven't seen since college. Heard through the grapevine that she joined the civil service after dropping out of college and after a quick google for the purposes of this thread, her Facebook page indicates that she's still single and has developed rather an obsession with Leinster Rugby... It was one of those juvenile relationships where she broke up with me yet I was somehow the "bad guy" for wanting a clean break at the time. Looking back we were terribly incompatible. Hope she's happy whatever she's up to.

My first love was a few years later than that and, tbh, I treated her terribly as I was in a pretty messed up place at the time. It's years since we've seen each other we'd still be in contact on Facebook. She will probably always be my "what if?" but if I'm totally honest, she was always far too good for me. She got married last year to a photographer that seems to make her extremely happy and I'm honestly delighted for her. Maybe he's just a wonderful photographer but I like to think she's as happy as she appears in the photos that pop up in my newsfeed.