Short People Problems

Fat Christy

Desolation Of Smug wrote: »

You should just ignore anyone who is that blatantly rude and obnoxious. :eek:

They're only having a laugh. I am strong and I don't really find it offensive tbh.

I get enough compliments on how look so it's all gravy. And they're usually the truth. I have nice eyes and a fine ass.

shruikan2553

todders wrote: »

Some really hilarious people on here.

I wonder if "jokes" aimed at overweight people would be tolerated in the same way?

Dont worry, the jokes go over their heads anyway.

Mint Aero

Fat Christy wrote: »

Going to be honest here, at 5'9 I'm definitely put off by shorter guys. If I'm in a nightclub I will go for really tall guys but saying that my last 2 bf's, one was shorter and the other was the same height.

Going to be honest here. No one cares about your preferences. Short men dont like girls that are taller them.

It's a bit like coming on here and posting 'Going to be honest here, as a gay I'm definately put off by straight guys

Thanks for sharing love :rolleyes:

Desolation Of Smug

Mint Aero wrote: »

Going to be honest here. No one cares about your preferences. Short men dont like girls that are taller them.

It's a bit like coming on here and posting 'Going to be honest here, as a gay I'm definately put off by straight guys

Thanks for sharing love :rolleyes:

You're tiny, right?

Fat Christy

Mint Aero wrote: »

Going to be honest here. No one cares about your preferences. Short men dont like girls that are taller them.

It's a bit like coming on here and posting 'Going to be honest here, as a gay I'm definately put off by straight guys

Thanks for sharing love :rolleyes:

Eh.....I said initially, going just on appearance. And then I went on to say, my previous bf's, one was SHORTER[/B] and the other, the same height. If someone is a nice person and there's chemistry, looks go out the window.

Also, I find short guys are attracted to me, more so than taller guys tbh.

Peregrine

Mint Aero wrote: »

Going to be honest here. No one cares about your preferences. Short men dont like girls that are taller them.

Why so abrasive? You couldn't possibly speak for every short man and their preferences.

Earthhorse

Mint Aero wrote: »

Going to be honest here. No one cares about your preferences. Short men dont like girls that are taller them.

Not true. Generally speaking us shorties can't afford to be so discriminating.

Precious flower

Candie wrote: »

I'm 41kg, I'm lucky I'm not sucked out the extractor fan.

My God you're 6 stone 6 pounds, how is that possible?:eek: How old are you? How it is possible to be that light? Not giving out to you just generally curious! I'm only 5ft and I'm 51 kg i.e. 8 stone (fatty) :pac:

Being small is a challenge. People tend not to ntoice you as much when you are trying to push your way through crowds. On the other hand if you're in a group people are more aware that their is a small person amongst them and let you to the front. My bother always makes fun of my height my crouching down and pretending to be 'me' and how everything looks to me (as if he's a giant!). The struggle of getting things down/ reaching things is a pain when your short. However, I've mastered the art of hoisting myself up on things to reach other things and I've learned the art of persistence. Also, me being a girl guys think I'm cute rather than hot. You're rarely hot and small! There's more but I can't think of them right now.
Also I used to hate it when I'd read articles that said that height was down a lot to nutrition as well as genetics! It's genetic for me for certain!

Mint Aero

Desolation Of Smug wrote: »

You're tiny, right?

You're single, right?

corner of hells

todders wrote: »

Some really hilarious people on here.

I wonder if "jokes" aimed at overweight people would be tolerated in the same way?

Why not find an overweight person and try a joke on them , what gets me is left handed people thinking they are amazing with special qualities.

Mint Aero

Fat Christy wrote: »

Eh.....I said initially, going just on appearance. And then I went on to say, my previous bf's, one was SHORTER[/B] and the other, the same height. If someone is a nice person and there's chemistry, looks go out the window.

Also, I find short guys are attracted to me, more so than taller guys tbh.

Right, you're not as self absorbed as I initially mistook your post for.

anncoates

anncoates wrote: »

Being a shortarse should be a registered charity, with grants for stack heels, stilts and the like.

Feck off Ray! :P

Mint Aero wrote: »

Going to be honest here. No one cares about your preferences. Short men dont like girls that are taller them.

It's a bit like coming on here and posting 'Going to be honest here, as a gay I'm definately put off by straight guys

Thanks for sharing love :rolleyes:

So 'no one' cares about her preferences, but you immediately follow with yours, or the very least a blanket statment. Thanks for sharing, love.

Precious flower wrote: »

My God you're 6 stone 6 pounds, how is that possible?:eek: How old are you? How it is possible to be that light? Not giving out to you just generally curious! I'm only 5ft and I'm 51 kg i.e. 8 stone (fatty) :pac:

I'm 28 and very slight. I've a small frame, narrow shoulders etc. I've no idea why I'm so small, my family are all average and tallish. Whenever we watch It's Always Sunny In Philadelpia and Danny DeVito comes on, everyone says 'Candie look! Your daddy is on tv' .

Jokes about being small don't bother me, but it's fair to say that practical issues and blocked vents aside, it's a much bigger deal for short guys because girls do tend to prefer men to be taller. It's not their fault if that's their preference, but as Christy says if someone is nice enough and you click, preferences can be forgotten. I'd have a hard time finding anyone smaller than me though.

I hear Peter Dinklage is taken.

Fat Christy

Candie wrote: »

Feck off Ray! :P



So 'no one' cares about her preferences, but you immediately follow with yours, or the very least a blanket statment. Thanks for sharing, love.



I'm 28 and very slight. I've a small frame, narrow shoulders etc. I've no idea why I'm so small, my family are all average and tallish. Whenever we watch It's Always Sunny In Philadelpia and Danny DeVito comes on, everyone says 'Candie look! Your daddy is on tv' .

Jokes about being small don't bother me, but it's fair to say that practical issues and blocked vents aside, it's a much bigger deal for short guys because girls do tend to prefer men to be taller. It's not their fault if that's their preference, but as Christy says if someone is nice enough and you click, preferences can be forgotten. I'd have a hard time finding anyone smaller than me though.

I hear Peter Dinklage is taken.

That's it exactly. The funny thing is all my exes have been slim as well....I've been heavier than all of them too. Scarleh for me. But they were both amazing at martial arts so they could beat me up if they wanted to. :pac:

The same type of guys seem to like me. Slim. Athletic. Into martial arts. Runners. Like heavy metal and rock. Gamers.

Both of them. It's a bit mad, Ted.

Precious flower

Candie wrote: »

Feck off Ray! :P



So 'no one' cares about her preferences, but you immediately follow with yours, or the very least a blanket statment. Thanks for sharing, love.



I'm 28 and very slight. I've a small frame, narrow shoulders etc. I've no idea why I'm so small, my family are all average and tallish. Whenever we watch It's Always Sunny In Philadelpia and Danny DeVito comes on, everyone says 'Candie look! Your daddy is on tv' .

Jokes about being small don't bother me, but it's fair to say that practical issues and blocked vents aside, it's a much bigger deal for short guys because girls do tend to prefer men to be taller. It's not their fault if that's their preference, but as Christy says if someone is nice enough and you click, preferences can be forgotten. I'd have a hard time finding anyone smaller than me though.

I hear Peter Dinklage is taken.

Yeah I'd say, for a lot of girls especially the really petite girls taller guys are an attraction (they are for me anyway 5'11 upwards) even if it does look strange!:pac: If I was thinking about children I'd have to be with a taller guy because I'd be worried about my children being complete midgets! Someone mentioned guys carrying/holding things for you and that's definitely true since they think your incapable of lifting anything (which is only half true ). I find it really endearing though!:o

steddyeddy

I'm in no way short but my friend is 5 foot 6 and a considerable amount of women seem to find no problem saying "I won't date you because of your height". A more acceptable form of "I wouldn't date you cause you're fat" IMHO.

mark_jmc

At least you don't pay much tax as you probably get paid under the table

Fat Christy

steddyeddy wrote: »

I'm in no way short but my friend is 5 foot 6 and a considerable amount of women seem to find no problem saying "I won't date you because of your height". A more acceptable form of "I wouldn't date you cause you're fat" IMHO.

Doctor Jimbob wrote: »

Yeah, I for one love taller girls.

They often don't like me though :pac:

I just find that bizarre. As I said, I wouldn't initially go for shorter guys but I'd NEVER rule them out completely.

If they're funny, we get along and there's chemistry, why not? I have my preferences but really at the end of day, I'm not going to turn down someone I enjoy being with and am attracted to. I'm often more attracted to how a person carries themselves, their interests, how they are with other people, their sense of humour. All of those things would be much more important qualities to me, especially in a relationship.

Precious flower

Precious flower wrote: »

Yeah I'd say, for a lot of girls especially the really petite girls taller guys are an attraction (they are for me anyway 5'11 upwards) even if it does look strange!:pac: If I was thinking about children I'd have to be with a taller guy because I'd be worried about my children being complete midgets! Someone mentioned guys carrying/holding things for you and that's definitely true since they think your incapable of lifting anything (which is only half true ). I find it really endearing though!:o

I've always had people offer to carry things, but I try avoid taking them up on the offer unless I'm on the verge of collapse! I get called sweetheart and pet a lot, and people seem to assume I'm nicer than I am Finding shoes that aren't for children is an issue for me, so I wear a lot of Converse, and while its cheap to buy some clothes in the kiddies department, I don't really want to be wearing Disney Princess jammies into my 30's.

On the downside, I'm easily physically intimidated. I was picked up more than once out of the blue, and on one occasion a guy picked me up as I was walking out of a pub and literally threw me at his friend. Over a table full of glasses. Hilarious.

steddyeddy

steddyeddy wrote: »

I'm in no way short but my friend is 5 foot 6 and a considerable amount of women seem to find no problem saying "I won't date you because of your height". A more acceptable form of "I wouldn't date you cause you're fat" IMHO.

A slap of the mop for you, for ignoring the OP.

Earthhorse

Precious flower wrote: »

Also, me being a girl guys think I'm cute rather than hot. You're rarely hot and small!

It's the same being a small guy. When younger I used to get the "You're cute" thing a lot which generally resulted in a pat on the head rather than a pat in the bed.

Precious flower wrote: »

If I was thinking about children I'd have to be with a taller guy because I'd be worried about my children being complete midgets!

Whatever your preferences there's something called regression to the mean which basically means that you wouldn't expect to have short kids with a short guy.

steddyeddy wrote: »

I'm in no way short but my friend is 5 foot 6 and a considerable amount of women seem to find no problem saying "I won't date you because of your height". A more acceptable form of "I wouldn't date you cause you're fat" IMHO.

To be honest, as long as she's polite, I prefer when a woman is straight up about my height being a factor. The only question I have after that is if she's ever dated a short guy and if she has there's no further conversation to be had (in that regard anyway). It's nice and clean.

todders

Doctor Jimbob wrote: »

If they're as tame as the ones being made here about short people? Yes. Absolutely.

Tell me a comparable "tame" joke about overweight people

bb1234567

Mint Aero wrote: »

Going to be honest here. No one cares about your preferences. Short men dont like girls that are taller them.

It's a bit like coming on here and posting 'Going to be honest here, as a gay I'm definately put off by straight guys

Thanks for sharing love :rolleyes:

I like girls who are taller than me, I just don't ever get with them because theres a 98% chance they're already not interested lol

steddyeddy

Candie wrote: »

A slap of the mop for you, for ignoring the OP.

Sorry Candie I didn't see it. Well ignoring the fat women thing. It's a genuine problem for him to be called short when asking a girl out. How he balances it out in work with the girls who call him short is reminding them whenever they put on weight . Soon stopped the short comments.

steddyeddy

steddyeddy wrote: »

Sorry Candie I didn't see it. Well ignoring the fat women thing. It's a genuine problem for him to be called short when asking a girl out. How he balances it out in work with the girls who call him short is reminding them whenever they put on weight . Soon stopped the short comments.

I never do that kind of thing. If someone is ungracious to me that's their business, but I don't see it as a free pass to be ungracious back. I'm not responsible for how rude other people are, but I'm definitely responsible for how rude I am.

Earthhorse

Doctor Jimbob wrote: »

Growing a beard tends to help for this one :pac:

Funny you should say that; I grew a beard a few years back and it is definitely the focus of physical compliments when I do happen to get them.

Doctor Jimbob wrote: »

Do you often get told your height is the the reason you get turned down? I'm starting to wonder how often we just assume that's the reason since it's such an obvious 'flaw'.

Not often, no. But it's refreshing when it happens as long as it's polite like I say.

Candie wrote: »

I never do that kind of thing. If someone is ungracious to me that's their business, but I don't see it as a free pass to be ungracious back. I'm not responsible for how rude other people are, but I'm definitely responsible for how rude I am.

I don't know, I think it's fair to give people a taste of their own medicine now and again.

corner of hells

Candie wrote: »

I never do that kind of thing. If someone is ungracious to me that's their business, but I don't see it as a free pass to be ungracious back. I'm not responsible for how rude other people are, but I'm definitely responsible for how rude I am.

Candie , I think I have a solution , stop going into your bathroom.

anncoates

todders wrote: »

Tell me a comparable "tame" joke about overweight people

You need to stop being short with people

Earthhorse

Earthhorse wrote: »

I don't know, I think it's fair to give people a taste of their own medicine now and again.

It depends, I'm not a saint so if someone is really spiteful and out to hurt, I'll probably be less pleasant about it. If it's not intended to hurt I just let it go. Life is too short to be getting digs in for the sake of it, if people want to do it it's their issue. It takes a lot to rile me, I've lost my temper about twice in my life. Spectacularly.

Macavity.

todders wrote: »

Tell me a comparable "tame" joke about overweight people

Go up to the next fat person you see and poke their fatty cheek, make baby noises as you do it. "Hey there fatty, how are you today?" (make sure to say it in a patronising baby voice), "want some of this delicious cake, fatty?" then mash the cake violently into their face. "You like that fatty? You stupid cunt!". Begin to kick and punch them until they fall to the floor in agony. "Yeah, you like that fatty, don't yeah?".

steddyeddy

Candie wrote: »

I never do that kind of thing. If someone is ungracious to me that's their business, but I don't see it as a free pass to be ungracious back. I'm not responsible for how rude other people are, but I'm definitely responsible for how rude I am.

He's suicidal over it sometimes TBH. It's not taken seriously as an issue.

corner of hells

corner of hells wrote: »

Candie , I think I have a solution , stop going into your bathroom.

Then I'll just have another problem. B.O. and/or terminal constipation!

todders

Silence from Jimbob, look at that lol

corner of hells

Candie wrote: »

Then I'll just have another problem. B.O. and/or terminal constipation!

Meh ........

Earthhorse

Candie wrote: »

Life is too short...

Are you having a go, are ya?!? :mad:

/lunges at Candie

Peregrine

todders wrote: »

Silence from Jimbob, look at that lol

He's just being the bigger person here and backing off :P

steddyeddy

steddyeddy wrote: »

He's suicidal over it sometimes TBH. It's not taken seriously as an issue.

That's a tragedy for your friend. It's not like you can change your height by much (there is an agonising procedure that involves breaking your bones and painstakingly lengthening them).

And the pity is that I'm sure there is much, much, much, more to him than his size.

Earthhorse

Earthhorse wrote: »

Are you having a go, are ya?!? :mad:

/lunges at Candie

That swipe went straight over my head!

todders

Doctor Jimbob wrote: »

As if there would be any point in actually answering you :rolleyes:

Don't feel bad because your weak argument collapsed on itself jimbob

How about telling us all that "tame" joke about overweight people now?

No? Didn't think so....

steddyeddy

Candie wrote: »

That's a tragedy for your friend. It's not like you can change your height by much (there is an agonising procedure that involves breaking your bones and painstakingly lengthening them).

And the pity is that I'm sure there is much, much, much, more to him than his size.

He's the best looking out of all of us and a genius too. Would also give you the shirt of his back. In his head all he is is a short man.

Littlekittylou

steddyeddy wrote: »

He's suicidal over it sometimes TBH. It's not taken seriously as an issue.

I dated a guy who was one inch taller than me I think roughly. I am about 5'4. So i guess he was 5'5. He was terrified of being seen as 'the short guy'. Had terrible self esteem. But a lot of other issues surrounded that really. Whilst it was an issue for him it's more complicated than that.It was something that he was comfortable pinning his negative feelings on consciously and publicly when there were other darker issues in the back of his head and life experience that he felt he could not talk about.

But it got easier as he got older. He is married now with a two year old. He has a reasonable job etc. It's not on his mind so much.

I would never negate a person's self esteem further by demeaning their problems.

I would say 'you don't need to worry about this but I feel for you that you do'.

steddyeddy

Littlekittylou wrote: »

I dated a guy who was one inch taller than me I think roughly. I am about 5'4. So i guess he was 5'5. He was terrified of being seen as 'the short guy'. Had terrible self esteem. But a lot of other issues surrounded that really. Whilst it was an issue for him it's more complicated than that.It was something that he was comfortable pinning his negative feelings on consciously and publicly when there were other darker issues in the back of his head and life experience that he felt he could not talk about.

But it got easier as he got older. He is married now with a two year old. He has a reasonable job etc. It's not on his mind so much.

I would never negate a person's self esteem further by demeaning their problems.

I would say 'you don't need to worry about this but I feel for you that you do'.

That's a very clever thing to say Kitty. I think there could be other problems and the feeling of being short is "close to hand".

YFlyer

Candie is this you with your Russian friend?

steddyeddy

steddyeddy wrote: »

He's the best looking out of all of us and a genius too. Would also give you the shirt of his back. In his head all he is is a short man.

He needs to see himself as a whole person, that's the only thing he can work on that'll improve his life. His biggest barrier to happiness is reducing himself to the sum of his height.

That's really sad.

Precious flower

Earthhorse wrote: »

Whatever your preferences there's something called regression to the mean which basically means that you wouldn't expect to have short kids with a short guy.

But I understood height to roughly be the average of both of your parents, though sometimes it is influenced by heights of other family members like grandparents etc.?

Fat Christy

Precious flower wrote: »

But I understood height to roughly be the average of both of your parents, though sometimes it is influenced by heights of other family members like grandparents etc.?

Nahhh...My brother is 6 foot and my sisters are 5/5.1. So I don't think so.

Peregrine

Precious flower wrote: »

But I understood height to roughly be the average of both of your parents, though sometimes it is influenced by heights of other family members like grandparents etc.?

Well, myself and my brother are both around 6'1, our mam and dad are 5'4 and 5'7 and there's no one in the family over 5'10 so I don't think so.



Edit: And no, we weren't adopted

nokia69

Nim wrote: »

Well, myself and my brother are both around 6'1, our mam and dad are 5'4 and 5'7 and there's no one in the family over 5'10 so I don't think so.



Edit: And no, we weren't adopted

how tall was the milkman

Peregrine

nokia69 wrote: »

how tall was the milkman

:pac:

I thought I had all bases covered with that edit..

Luke92

Candie wrote: »

I'm 41kg, I'm lucky I'm not sucked out the extractor fan.

You must be absolutely tiny!

nokia69

its a combination of genetics and environment

we are on average a little taller than previous generations

north and south Korea are a good example of the difference nutrition makes to height