Going to bed with partners

witzky

Sorry if the title suggests a more interesting subject... but.. im curious, for those with partners do you go to bed the same time?? Over the last few years I normally go to bed a few hours after my wife, id watch a movie, play the Playstation etc.... probably 5 nights a week.

To add, we normally get the bedroom business sorted in mornings or when we get back form work..

So, is this normal or what...???

Kintarō Hattori

My missus goes hours before me. I couldn't possibly go at the same time so I lie with her until she gets sleepy and then get up..... only to go to bed a few hours later.

It works for us.

Kevin McCloud

Are you over 40 op?

Uriel.

What is normal? Normal is what normal is to you.

I tend to go to bed a few hours later than my OH, especially at weekends.

I also tend to watch Netflix or a boxset in bed. We have compromised on that one - she wears a sleep eye mask thing and I use a set of wireless earphones... Damn good set up all round

Grab All Association

http://www.blogcdn.com/www.engadget.com/media/2010/10/familyguybradybunch600.jpg

That's what his bed looks like.

PandaPoo

We go at the same time, we chat and cuddle and then he sleeps and I go on my phone for a few hours.

conorh91

We never sleep at the same time. Sometimes she works nights, and when she's working days, she has to sleep early. In these cases I just go to bed with her until she falls asleep, and then go downstairs and tidy up or read.

She needs way more sleep than I do, because my job is less stressful and also… maybe women need more sleep? Seems to be the pattern on this thread, anyway.

Varies totally - sometimes yes sometimes no. Sometimes we even go to different bedrooms as each other - sometimes the same ones. All comes down to how the day has been - and what the coming day has planned for it - or if I or they feel they need company or a night sprawled out in a bed by ourselves - mine all mine

Mr. Incognito

I go to bed with my oh at the same time most nights. I might stay up on the i pad or fall asleep together but generally same time.

witzky

Kevin McCloud wrote: »

Are you over 40 op?

No im 29.. are you 40?

Lapin

Brothbraise wrote: »

My wife and I have different bedrooms so makes no difference.

Me and my mot have different time zones so I'm not sure.

whiskeyman

Lapin wrote: »

Me and my mot have different time zones so I'm not sure.

reminds me of this

ZiabR

I go to bed after my OH. I could not go to bed with her all the time, it is just to early and it is the only time I get to give the Xbox a go or watch some documentaries that she would never watch in a million years.

upandcumming

logik wrote:

Watch some documentaries that she would never watch in a million years.

Anything good?

_Brian

We seem to be in the minority in that we usually retire at the same time.
Don't have games consol which seems a common reason not to, no interest in one either. We'd watch similar TV stuff and TV usually only goes on when were both finished jobs.

Balmed Out

normally 4 or 5 nights the same the rest id go later. At the moment shes pregnant and going to bed at half seven.
I'm up at six every day but thats still way too early for me.

The Peanut

_Brian wrote: »

We seem to be in the minority in that we usually retire at the same time.
Don't have games consol which seems a common reason not to, no interest in one either. We'd watch similar TV stuff and TV usually only goes on when were both finished jobs.

We'd be very similar to this. We don't watch much tv though. Lying in bed is usually where we catch up on chatting about the day and planning out the following day. It's generally one of the few times when we don't have kids climbing over us so I guess it's an important chat time for both of us.

anncoates

Of course we do. Being a single organism and all that.

Baron Kurtz

What's with all the adults and their games consoles in this thread?! Gas.

Dog of Tears

The OH likes her sleep.
I like watching an hour or so of extra Netflix in the evenings.

So usually different times, unless she entices me upstairs for specific reasons.

Neamhshuntasach

Uriel. wrote: »

What is normal? Normal is what normal is to you.

I tend to go to bed a few hours later than my OH, especially at weekends.

I also tend to watch Netflix or a boxset in bed. We have compromised on that one - she wears a sleep eye mask thing and I use a set of wireless earphones... Damn good set up all round

Sounds shít actually. What happens when you wake her up from the tugging motion?

Neamhshuntasach

Baron Kurtz wrote: »

What's with all the adults and their games consoles in this thread?! Gas.

I know. They probably still eat sweets and cycle bikes too. Fecking eejits.

Turtyturd

Would normally go a while after she does. Think it started after we had kids as that time would be only time I would have to play the Xbox or watch stuff you wouldn't with them around.

o1s1n

Baron Kurtz wrote: »

What's with all the adults and their games consoles in this thread?! Gas.

I know, its as if people enjoyed playing videogames or something, gas. :P

You'd love my house, I've three arcade machines in my kitchen. I used to stay down and play them when the ex missus went to bed. The new missus stays up and kicks the **** out of me in Soul Calibur 2.

suicide_circus

Due to conflicting work shift patterns I would often be getting up for work two hours after she got into the bed...ships in the night!

Titzon Toast

Baron Kurtz wrote: »

What's with all the adults and their games consoles in this thread?! Gas.

Perhaps we're young adults as apposed to old farts?!

Wacker The Attacker

_Brian wrote: »

We seem to be in the minority in that we usually retire at the same time.
Don't have games consol which seems a common reason not to, no interest in one either. We'd watch similar TV stuff and TV usually only goes on when were both finished jobs.

TV would be something of a letdown if its the Jobs I'm thinking of.

Rosy Posy

When I'm pregnant or have a newborn I tend to go to bed early out of sheer exhaustion, but all things being equal I'm more of a night owl. I like the space to potter around without having to answer a million questions or attend to little people. My oh goes through phases of getting up at the crack of dawn to exercise which means that he sometimes goes up very early.

I read somewhere that one of the best things you can do to improve your sex life is to go to bed at the same time. I might have read that in some terrible women's mag so I can't vouch for its authenticity.

witzky

Neamhshuntasach wrote: »

I know. They probably still eat sweets and cycle bikes too. Fecking eejits.

I do eat the odd sweet, and we both cycle bikes a lot... shame on us all......!

Thanks for your input

PARlance

Rosy Posy wrote: »

I read somewhere that one of the best things you can do to improve your sex life is to go to bed at the same time. I might have read that in some terrible women's mag so I can't vouch for its authenticity.

100% of the time when she's upstairs asleep and I'm downstairs watching telly we are not having sex.

Mallagio

Like most blokes I stay down after she's gone up and put on the porn channel with the sound down.

daheff

Rosy Posy wrote: »

I read somewhere that one of the best things you can do to improve your sex life is to go to bed at the same time. I might have read that in some terrible women's mag so I can't vouch for its authenticity.

It certainly makes it a lot easier than if you go to bed at different times

Turtyturd

I reckon the people complaining about adults with games consoles are the same people who have trouble recording stuff from the tv, using printers, and type texts solely with their index finger averaging a word a minute.

PandaPoo

Mallagio wrote: »

Like most blokes I stay down after she's gone up and put on the porn channel with the sound down.

Are you not allowed watch porn or something?

mariaalice

Always go to bed at the same time, we lock up, get glasses of water and go to bed, read for a bit, have a cuddle and say I love you to each other then turn off the light and go to sleep.

seamus

PARlance wrote: »

100% of the time when she's upstairs asleep and I'm downstairs watching telly we are not having sex.

Well, one of you isn't anyway

Yeah, myself and the missus pretty much go to bed at the same time. It kind of just morphed into that. I used to always just go to bed whenever. Could be 1am even if I was up at 7am. Whereas my wife has a bedtime ritual that takes about 30 minutes, and she's very particular about getting enough sleep.
So when we moved in together we discovered that she often can't get to sleep if she's gone to bed first and I'm still up and about. And to be fair it's the same for me - if she's out, I can't sleep until she gets home. So now we go to bed at the same time.

If I was left to my own devices it would be midnight or later every night and I'd be in a permanent zombie state.

On weekends I'll sometimes stay up later having a few beers and watching a movie or playing a game, but with a child in the house that's really just asking for a horrible morning.

ZiabR

upandcumming wrote: »

Anything good?

In to space, so Wonders of the Solar System, Wonders of the Universe and many others, and then alot of the Nat Geo documentaries, Planet Earth, Life on Earth, anything with Attenborough really.

Been watching docs about space and nature since I was a nipper.

the evasion_kid

Mallagio wrote: »

Like most blokes I stay down after she's gone up and put on the porn channel with the sound down.

We've all been there!

Lucena

PandaPoo wrote: »

Are you not allowed watch porn or something?

Some people are strange in that they'd rather their partner had sex with them rather than staying up late on their own jerking off to porn.

PandaPoo

Lucena wrote: »

Some people are strange in that they'd rather their partner had sex with them rather than staying up late on their own jerking off to porn.

Could you not just watch it together? Or do it for him?

Or just live in denial that he doesn't do it behind your back

Malari

I usually go to bed earlier as I like to read for a bit before I sleep and I'm up an hour or so earlier than him. Only half an hour to an hour earlier usually, so I'm still awake when he comes to bed and we chat for a while before sleeping.

Cat is last to bed. Always. He likes to stay up and watch porn :cool:

Tar.Aldarion

It was usually the same time, as it's quite nice to fall asleep together.

Penny Tration

PandaPoo wrote: »

Are you not allowed watch porn or something?

It's not as surprising as you'd think!

I don't care if my boyfriend watches porn, because I'd be a hypocrite as I watch it myself the odd time, and i don't care cause i know he's attracted to me anyway.

But, every single one of my female friends would dump a partner for watching porn because they think he should only ever get off to thoughts of them. :rolleyes:

Dog of Tears

PandaPoo wrote: »

Could you not just watch it together? Or do it for him?

What's wrong with watching porn on your own?

PandaPoo

Dog of Tears wrote: »

What's wrong with watching porn on your own?

Absolutely nothing!

AllGunsBlazing

Baron Kurtz wrote: »

What's with all the adults and their games consoles in this thread?! Gas.

Hardly suprising. The first generation of videogamers would be either approaching, or, are already middle aged.

razorblunt

During the week it's around the same time alright, on Friday and Saturdays she tends to head early so I catch up on MOTD or with the playstation, tend to get up earlier too and do likewise. It works well.

She wants to get a tv in the bedroom, but I'm completely against watching tv in bed (not even sure where it came from - I just hate the idea of sitting on a bed and then lying down in the same spot x minutes later).

Generic Dreadhead

logik wrote: »

I go to bed after my OH. I could not go to bed with her all the time, it is just to early and it is the only time I get to give the Xbox a go or watch some documentaries that she would never watch in a million years freaky freaky porn.

FYP

ZiabR

Cormac... wrote: »

FYP

Now now, that is only at weekends... :pac::pac:

PARlance

Dog of Tears wrote: »

What's wrong with watching porn on your own?

Absolutely nothing, I prefer it that way.

Gone are the judging stares, silly questions, shouts of dissaproval from other commuters/shoppers etc.

NachoBusiness

anncoates wrote: »

Of course we do. Being a single organism and all that.

Single? Lucky you.

My wife won't let me sleep until she has multiples.