Sick of being single, i need a woman

Madame_Diem

If you had the cash maybe a visit to an escort is in order. Not sure if Swedish law has been enacted here yet. A female friend of mine who work as escort in a past life told me most men visited her because they were lonely.

Mister Vain

Madame_Diem wrote: »

If you had the cash maybe a visit to an escort is in order. Not sure if Swedish law has been enacted here yet. A female friend of mine who work as escort in a past life told me most men visited her because they were lonely.

That would help satisfy a physical need but its not really going to help him find a partner. No the Swedish law hasn't been passed here, not yet anyway.

Satori Rae

Banjodave1930 wrote: »

Hi all,

Right so thought I give this a go. Im sick of being single, im a 25 year old alright looking fella. I moved to from Donegal to Dublin about a year a go. I don't really know anybody down here, well apart from the fellas at work, but cant really see myself going out for a pint with them well maybe if I made the effort but anyway, I really want and need to meet someone, id be fairly shy so I don't know to go about it. I know a nightclub would be best but theres bound others places?? Im not on tinder or anything I've a brick of a phone and couldn't be arsed with online dating, any suggestions?

Thanks.

Your best bet would be to get involved in local community events if you have time join a club, nightclubs may not be the best venue to meet someone.

And also this would help you interact with more people then just in your work

Hercules99

I've put up similar posts such as this one on this website before. I don't think the answer is on here though. My circumstances are similar to yours opening poster - mid twenties no more than kissed a girl in all those years and the thought of getting this far in life with so little romantic & sexual experience tortures me. If I let myself think about it too much, I get depressed.

My own problem is obvious though. I've never asked a girl out. I don't even think I've made my feelings known to any girl I've ever liked. It's a weird sort of personality trait I think I have. The more I like someone the more paralyzed I become. I was out the other night and I knew a girl I fancied would be there. I planned the whole night as best I could, then I got there and I ended up not even saying hello to her. Vintage me really!! I'm trying to overcome it.

I've been lucky too in the sense that I know there's a few girls I've liked and they've liked me. The fear of what to do next has crippled me. Maybe I'm stronger for it. All I can say is to keep doing your best and keep trying to do things that will increase your chances. That's I do! I look after myself very well, I work out and eat well, I try to dress well, I keep an eye on here for threads like this where I might pick up some good advice and I look out for social opportunities which I think I'd like.

I think anyone with a goal in mind - my ultimate one is to meet a really nice girl - will always get satisfaction out of doing their best. Even if you never achieve it. If I die a virgin, I hope I can at least say I did my best.

NI24

Not sure if the op is still reading this, but a lot of the advice in here is right on target, particularly the part about "getting a life". Kind of a harsh way to put it, but very true. The more hobbies, life experience, and good personality traits you accumulate, the better your chances. Just make sure to socialize with as many women as you can to gain confidence. Talk to women of every color (hard in Ireland, I know), shape, and size--even old, unattractive women. After awhile, approaching attractive women will become second nature.
And to the young men posting their dating difficulties, just remember this--the older you get, the more options you have. Some men's dating lives don't even begin until they hit their 30s, so relax. Take it one day at a time and keep in mind that your time will come.

NI24

Hercules99 wrote: »

I've put up similar posts such as this one on this website before. I don't think the answer is on here though. My circumstances are similar to yours opening poster - mid twenties no more than kissed a girl in all those years and the thought of getting this far in life with so little romantic & sexual experience tortures me. If I let myself think about it too much, I get depressed.

I think anyone with a goal in mind - my ultimate one is to meet a really nice girl - will always get satisfaction out of doing their best. Even if you never achieve it. If I die a virgin, I hope I can at least say I did my best.

If you don't mind my asking, what makes you say the answer isn't on here?

Madame_Diem

Hercules99 wrote: »

I've put up similar posts such as this one on this website before. I don't think the answer is on here though. My circumstances are similar to yours opening poster - mid twenties no more than kissed a girl in all those years and the thought of getting this far in life with so little romantic & sexual experience tortures me. If I let myself think about it too much, I get depressed.

My own problem is obvious though. I've never asked a girl out. I don't even think I've made my feelings known to any girl I've ever liked. It's a weird sort of personality trait I think I have. The more I like someone the more paralyzed I become. I was out the other night and I knew a girl I fancied would be there. I planned the whole night as best I could, then I got there and I ended up not even saying hello to her. Vintage me really!! I'm trying to overcome it.

I've been lucky too in the sense that I know there's a few girls I've liked and they've liked me. The fear of what to do next has crippled me. Maybe I'm stronger for it. All I can say is to keep doing your best and keep trying to do things that will increase your chances. That's I do! I look after myself very well, I work out and eat well, I try to dress well, I keep an eye on here for threads like this where I might pick up some good advice and I look out for social opportunities which I think I'd like.

I think anyone with a goal in mind - my ultimate one is to meet a really nice girl - will always get satisfaction out of doing their best. Even if you never achieve it. If I die a virgin, I hope I can at least say I did my best.

Its all about confidence. Women love it in men. Get used to speaking with women. I know it might sound difficult but when you go out just try and speak to as many women as possible. You will gradually build up your confidence around them.