Wedding Gift ideas

Cold War Kid

For close friends and family, I give money and a little gift, like a nice painted glass ornament or picture-frame etc.

A weekend away/a decent voucher - good alternatives to cash too IMO.

I don't think cash is tacky, but I know some people would prefer to give the couple a "thing". I like to combine both.

PARlance

rainbow kirby wrote: »

Friends of mine requested that donations be made in their name to two charities of their choice rather than people giving them cash gifts for their wedding a few years back. This would be awkward if it wasn't specifically requested like that though!

And despite their best efforts, savetheceltictiger.org failed to raise enough to save the poor animal from extinction.

Cold War Kid

homerjay2005 wrote: »

As they are a good friend, you SHOULD be giving them cash...

homerjay2005 wrote: »

If a good friend of mine gave me a dinner set for a wedding, I'd find it tacky, disrespectful and cheap. Just give them the cash and job done.you can be pretty sure that if you give your friends that present, they will be insulted.

Cash is the best (and only) wedding gift you should give anybody, can't believe there's people out there who are so out of touch to think otherwise.

Dinner sets as wedding gifts went out of fashion 20 years ago

Need to stop projecting there with the "shoulds". Your opinion is not everyone else's opinion, nor can you force it to be.
It's far more tacky, disrespectful and cheap to have the attitude your posts display (if you're being serious). A really nice dinner-set might be something a couple would love - again, you don't speak for everyone (thank feck).

Wtf does "fashion" matter too btw?

For close friends I'm more inclined to give a gift, because I know them well and know what they'd like. It's the people whom I'm not as close to that I give cash (not that there's anything wrong with giving cash to close friends/family - I've also done that).

One of the nicest ways it worked out was going shopping with my friend and her picking out her gift (a lamp) with me there. She was really keen on doing it that way; it was sweet.

Tarzana2

homerjay2005 wrote: »

If a good friend of mine gave me a dinner set for a wedding, I'd find it tacky, disrespectful and cheap.

Cheap? You sound very grasping. I always give cash but really dislike attitudes like yours. Some people buy gifts instead of give cash because they are broke and feel self-conscious giving a small amount. With attitudes like yours, no wonder some people feel such pressure to stump up large gifts they might not be able afford. Attending weddings is expensive. They're your friends and guests, not cash cows.

PARlance

Cold War Kid wrote: »

Need to stop projecting there with the "shoulds". Your opinion is not everyone else's opinion, nor can you force it to be.
It's far more tacky, disrespectful and cheap to have the attitude your posts display (if you're being serious). A really nice dinner-set might be something a couple would love - again, you don't speak for everyone (thank feck)..

You "should" take each poster's post as their own opinion.

Cold War Kid

PARlance wrote: »

You "should" take each poster's post as their own opinion.

When they don't use phrases like "you can be pretty sure that if you give your friends that present, they will be insulted. Cash is the best (and only) wedding gift you should give anybody, can't believe there's people out there who are so out of touch to think otherwise"... I always do.

PARlance

Cold War Kid wrote: »

Need to stop projecting there with the "shoulds". Your opinion is not everyone else's opinion, nor can you force it to be..

Did you mean to say "in my opinion, you need to stop projection...."

I don't think he needs to stop

SparkySpitfire

PARlance wrote: »

Did you mean to say "in my opinion, you need to stop projection...."

I don't think he needs to stop

Nah it's pretty clear he's telling people that this is what society perceives as acceptable behaviour. If he meant it was his own personal opinion he would have said so, and if he didn't well then it's hardly the fault of the readers that he didn't express himself properly is it?

Pretzill

I don't like the idea of giving cash - I would feel uncomfortable accepting cash from anyone other than a very close relative.

Something bespoke that suits the couple if you know them really well -

Or something no other guest would think, that's practical like a wheelbarrow.

Or a special dinner dated for their first Anniversary.

osarusan

Voucher for a presumption-free paternity test.

mikeym

Luc01 wrote: »

Hi, does anyone know of anywhere I can get a nice wedding present for a friend? As its a good friend I don't want to give cash. They've just bought a house. Any ideas welcome!

Money.


I got married last year and I prefered money.

SparkySpitfire

Pretzill wrote: »

I don't like the idea of giving cash - I would feel uncomfortable accepting cash from anyone other than a very close relative.

Something bespoke that suits the couple if you know them really well -

Or something no other guest would think, that's practical like a wheelbarrow.

Or a special dinner dated for their first Anniversary.

Images of someone strolling up to a hotel reception with a wheelbarrow with a massive bow on it haha :pac:

Pretzill

SparkySpitfire wrote: »

Images of someone strolling up to a hotel reception with a wheelbarrow with a massive bow on it haha :pac:

Not at all you leave it in their new back garden complete with bow and a nice bottle of champagne! And instructions for wheeling the new bride/groom over the threshold!

SparkySpitfire

Pretzill wrote: »

Not at all you leave it in their new back garden complete with bow and a nice bottle of champagne! And instructions for wheeling the new bride/groom over the threshold!

Now to me, that seems like the kind of fun gift I'd love to get from a friend. The sentiment would be more meaningful than money in my opinion

Cold War Kid

SparkySpitfire wrote: »

Nah it's pretty clear he's telling people that this is what society perceives as acceptable behaviour. If he meant it was his own personal opinion he would have said so, and if he didn't well then it's hardly the fault of the readers that he didn't express himself properly is it?

Aye, people who act as if their view is what everyone shares *do* need to quit it. They may speak for some people but they don't speak for everyone!

I attended a wedding last year and was pretty strapped for cash. So I shopped around for a nice hotel for their first valentines night as a married couple and because I was booking so far in advance, I wasn't hit with crazy prices for the weekend that was in it. As they already had kids I also included babysitting for them while they were away.

The babysitting cost me nothing but they were so grateful for that in it's own.

Dozer Dave

4 gallons of magnolia paint, that should cover it.