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Girlfriend adding a lot of weight fast

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  • #52
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Chemical Byrne wrote: »
    Do you two have sex? Perhaps you could try witholding sex from her until she realises it is a problem and makes an effort to change.

    FFS thats crazy advice!!! and it would be a very nasty and very mean thing to do, the OP said the relationship was good overall.


  • #53
    Dixie Chick
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,062 ✭✭✭Dixie Chick


    OP sounds very sensitive and really doesn't want to upset his GF and wants advise. This isn't a Health and Fitness forum so the diet advice has no place as he seems to have tried options.

    OP can I ask, is it proper weigh that we are talking about here, or vanity? Are you together long?

    I know it seems cruel but I do think you will need to speak to her. As you grow less attracted to her your respect for her and they way she treats herself might affect how you feel about her mentally as well as physically. By having a chat with her and being open while reassuring that you love her might be the push she needs to change


  • #54
    santana75
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,318 ✭✭✭santana75


    I was talking to a friend yesterday who has gone from 350lbs to 250lbs over the last couple of months. I know 250lbs sounds like a lot but hes 6ft 7 so he looks great now at his current weight. He told me that he has recently looked at pictures taken of him when he was 350lbs and he was shocked. He didnt even notice it at the time. He knew he'd like to be fitter and healthier but he had developed a form of myopia about his weight, he didnt see it because it was maybe so distressing a part of his brain blocked it out.
    OP your girlfriend might be just blocking it all out and doesnt see how big shes gotten. You cant change anyone though, thats her job. But you can look after yourself. I think if you're not attracted to her the way she is then you take yourself out of the game. Its not an ultimatum, you're not threatening her, your just make a decision for you.


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