Do you intend to get married?

efb

If you are not currently married, do you intend/hope to?

Never on my radar now the referendum has changed that. I think I would like to marry. (pref Leo Varadkar! :P)

So single boardsies, do you intend to wed?

mad m

Live in sin I say!!!

The Backwards Man

I intend to go to the moon but I need a lift in a spaceship first.

Not a NSA agent

Probably will eventually, emigration is a bit easier as a couple when youre married.

Mightydrumming

I'd like to think by not getting married I would be sparing my self from brain damage.

Birneybau

I should have done...

the evasion_kid

Not a hope

jimmycrackcorm

Getting married is like signing into Mountjoy without the possibility of parole. There is no reason why two people can't just simply decide to stay together. Marriage exists to force people to stay together hence the long notice period if you want to divorce

c_man

I always thought I would, and indeed hope I do. I'd like to have someone to share my life with.

But I'm posting on boards on a Saturday night so, you know...

I don't "intend" to, it's not like "do you intend to go on holiday this year"
Find the first fella who'll do and march him up the aisle :pac:
But I wouldn't mind if it comes up like

jorex88

mad m wrote: »

Live in sin I say!!!

All very fine, but will your kids (or your family/friends) respect you?

368100

If Only I could fool someone ;-)

beks101

I predict this thread will be brimming full of responses from die-hard romantics writing sweet soliloquys about the beauty and benefits of the institution of marriage...

Zaph

efb wrote: »

So single boardsies, do you intend to wed?

I don't think you can ask someone if they intend to get married. They might like to at some stage, but if they never find the person they want to marry they can intend all they like but it ain't going to happen. I was 44 when I got married and would not unreasonably have assumed that being single at 40+ would mean I'd be staying single. I certainly would have liked to meet someone I loved to the extent that I wanted to marry her, and fortunately I did, but I couldn't say I intended to get married before I met my wife.

efb

in·tend
\in-ˈtend\
verb
: to plan or want to do (something) : to have (something) in your mind as a purpose or goal
: to plan for or want (someone or something) to do or be something

efb

To intend also means to want to guys

efb

Zaph wrote: »

I don't think you can ask someone if they intend to get married. They might like to at some stage, but if they never find the person they want to marry they can intend all they like but it ain't going to happen. I was 44 when I got married and would not unreasonably have assumed that being single at 40+ would mean I'd be staying single. I certainly would have liked to meet someone I loved to the extent that I wanted to marry her, and fortunately I did, but I couldn't say I intended to get married before I met my wife.

Some people do want to marry in life. Not just passive about it

efb

efb wrote: »

To intend also means to want to guys

I guess I'm trying to say that being with someone I'm happy with would be more important than intending to get married in and of itself and having to find someone to fill the position
In reverse order
If you're asking unmarried couples I suppose it makes more sense :pac:

blackbird 49

jorex88 wrote: »

All very fine, but will your kids (or your family/friends) respect you?

My brother and his partner are not married and their 3 children don't think any less of them

Cold War Kid

jimmycrackcorm wrote: »

There is no reason why two people can't just simply decide to stay together.

There is - they won't be next of kin if they don't get married, which could be really important (e.g. if one got ill and only next of kin could visit them). If they have children and the relationship goes awry and simply has to end, the father has zero parental rights.
I understand the idea of getting married not appealing to people who'd prefer just to be in a relationship (I'd kinda empathise tbh) but it's not true, when it comes to certain protections, that a committed relationship is the same as a marriage unfortunately.

efb

bluewolf wrote: »

I guess I'm trying to say that being with someone I'm happy with would be more important than intending to get married in and of itself and having to find someone to fill the position
In reverse order
If you're asking unmarried couples I suppose it makes more sense :pac:

Some single people want to get married too you know!

/sits in wedding dress and watches Muriel's Wedding for the 40th time...

Zaph

efb wrote: »

Some people do want to marry in life. Not just passive about it

I don't disagree, but my point is that no matter how firm their intentions, they're still dependent on another person to enable to them to meet their goal. It doesn't necessarily happen for everyone, no matter how much they may want it.

RobertKK

No, I don't want to ever get married.

jorex88

blackbird 49 wrote: »

My brother and his partner are not married and their 3 children don't think any less of them

So why didn't they bother marrying? Afraid of the public declaration bit?

efb

Zaph wrote: »

I don't disagree, but my point is that no matter how firm their intentions, they're still dependent on another person to enable to them to meet their goal. It doesn't necessarily happen for everyone, no matter how much they may want it.

thats why its an intention, not a definite!

efb

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X09M4YjeE78

Doctor Jimbob

jorex88 wrote: »

So why didn't they bother marrying? Afraid of the public declaration bit?

You seem to be getting very wound up by this

zaph is much better at saying what im trying to say

jorex88

Doctor Jimbob wrote: »

You seem to be getting very wound up by this

Excuse me for getting "wound up" when hearing about fathers who are unwilling to commit and mothers who are willing to spread their legs (3 times, no less) to uncommiting fathers.

Mod: rereg banned

efb

bluewolf wrote: »

zaph is much better at saying what im trying to say

You can intend to do something and for it never to come to pass. Thats why its referred to as an intention.

efb

jorex88 wrote: »

Excuse me for getting "wound up" when hearing about fathers who are unwilling to commit and mothers who are willing to spread their legs (3 times, no less) to uncommiting fathers.

Chill.

Doctor Jimbob

jorex88 wrote: »

Excuse me for getting "wound up" when hearing about fathers who are unwilling to commit and mothers who are willing to spread their legs (3 times, no less) to uncommiting fathers.

The hoors.

Cold War Kid

jorex88 wrote: »

Excuse me for getting "wound up" when hearing about fathers who are unwilling to commit and mothers who are willing to spread their legs (3 times, no less) to uncommiting fathers.

I'd say way more.

SEPT 23 1989

jorex88 wrote: »

Excuse me for getting "wound up" when hearing about fathers who are unwilling to commit and mothers who are willing to spread their legs (3 times, no less) to uncommiting fathers.

maybe they are happy?

I'd like to but I can't see it happen. Don't really want kids though.

efb

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7J-2EIvItVY

If the right one made himself known and was of a like mind, then I'd marry. I'd prefer marriage to living together if we had kids, for all kinds of reasons, but I'd also like the whole you and me against the world, declaring it in public and sticking together through thick and thin as next of kin scenario.

It is my intention to marry on 1st July next year

eternal

Strawberry Milkshake wrote: »

It is my intention to marry on 1st July next year

Massive thread invite to the afters which wouldn't be regarded as an insult? :pac:

corner of hells

I'm still married though the marriage ended long ago , I have a new partner who during the week asked if I would think about it further down the road.

I'm amazed that a second person would want to think about marrying me , when I said this with a teary expression on my face , she almost pissed herself laughing.

eternal

eternal wrote: »

Massive thread invite to the afters which wouldn't be regarded as an insult? :pac:

Haha now don't be pissed off that it's in Donegal!

eternal

Strawberry Milkshake wrote: »

Haha now don't be pissed off that it's in Donegal!

No complaints here. I love Donegal.

efb

Strawberry Milkshake wrote: »

Haha now don't be pissed off that it's in Donegal!

Christ imagine all the awkward interactions of boardsies! Close your account and save your wedding!

Duiske

Strawberry Milkshake wrote: »

Haha now don't be pissed off that it's in Donegal!

Afters and roadtrip ?? Whooohoooo !!:D

Hoping The Backwards Man will be my DJ.

Rubberlegs

Living in sin for 20 years now with 3 kids:). I've never had any desire to be married. Each to their own, but it's not for me. I don't need the public declaration to prove my commitment. Plus I'd hate being the centre of attention for the day, too much pressure !

eviltwin

I was never pushed about marriage but when you own a property it makes financial sense. I don't want to be hit with an inheritance tax bill I can't afford on a house I bought. Getting married seemed like a no brainer. We paid fifty euros, didn't have a reception and very few people outside close family and friends would even know

bnt

No, but mainly because of the assumption that you'll be having kids. If I could rule that out, I'd consider it with the right person. I might even get a vasectomy, just to be sure.

frostyjacks

"No union is more profound than marriage, for it embodies the highest ideals of love, fidelity, devotion, sacrifice, and family. In forming a marital union, two people become something greater than once they were."

Justice Kennedy, US Supreme Court.

I can't understand why two people who profess to love each other wouldn't get married. Just sounds like they're keeping their options open to me.

Simonigs1.0

Getting married in December to my girlfriend. We're 25 & 26, feels like the right time for both of us.

If you asked me a year or so ago I would have said no to be honest

Cold War Kid

73Cat wrote: »

I don't need the public declaration to prove my commitment.

That's not what it's about though (doesn't have to be public either) - it's about giving the couple (and family if they have one) protections.
Not saying there's something wrong with you not marrying (there isn't of course) but what it confers is really beneficial. Even important.

eviltwin wrote: »

I was never pushed about marriage but when you own a property it makes financial sense. I don't want to be hit with an inheritance tax bill I can't afford on a house I bought. Getting married seemed like a no brainer. We paid fifty euros, didn't have a reception and very few people outside close family and friends would even know

Yep, that's all that has to be done.