Ever seen an opposite-sex friend naked?

JanaMay

Not exactly the question OP asked but it reminded me of a conversation I had the other day with friends about going topless at the beach...

People involved: group of friends, some male some female, some married / in relationships and some not. We spend a lot of time at the beach:

Woman 1: always topless. Nay bother on her. Will chat away happily.
Woman 2: said she would hate anyone, male (apart from her partner) or female, to see her topless. (Not because of confidence issues but because she thinks breasts are sexual or intimate part of the body.)
Me (aka Woman 3): will sunbathe topless alone or with my husband. Or else if we're all just lying there taking the sun. BUT, if I have to get up and go for a swim, or sit up chatting, I'll cover up if there's anyone I know around. Absolutely no problems with someone getting a glimpse of my saggy baps, but I'd feel uncomfortable sitting there chatting with my boobs out.
Man 1: doesn't care. Yeah he'll look, but doesn't cause him any embarrassment.
Man 2: doesn't like it. Doesn't know where to look. Feels uncomfortable.
Man 3: my husband. Doesn't give a ****e either way. He probably knows that nobody is looking at my spaniel ears and it gives him a chance to see things he doesn't get to see at home!

I have to elaborate on Woman 2: she has the best body of all of us, and doesn't have hangups (she says) but when I said that I don't care that people see my boobs and that X,Y and Z have seen them on the beach she doesn't get the difference between them seeing me while I find my bikini top and put in on, and me feeling uncomfortable sitting on the beach chatting about work with my boobs hanging out. For her, it's a situation that she doesn't want anyone other than her partner(s) to see her girleens. But she says that she is very uncomfortable talking to a topless woman and doesn't know where to look!

So wise people of AH, who is right? Or is it a case of to each their own?

MrMorooka

JanaMay wrote: »

So wise people of AH, who is right? Or is it a case of to each their own?

For a complete answer, we'll need to see pics of all involved.

tastyt

JanaMay wrote: »

Not exactly the question OP asked but it reminded me of a conversation I had the other day with friends about going topless at the beach...

People involved: group of friends, some male some female, some married / in relationships and some not. We spend a lot of time at the beach:

Woman 1: always topless. Nay bother on her. Will chat away happily.
Woman 2: said she would hate anyone, male (apart from her partner) or female, to see her topless. (Not because of confidence issues but because she thinks breasts are sexual or intimate part of the body.)
Me (aka Woman 3): will sunbathe topless alone or with my husband. Or else if we're all just lying there taking the sun. BUT, if I have to get up and go for a swim, or sit up chatting, I'll cover up if there's anyone I know around. Absolutely no problems with someone getting a glimpse of my saggy baps, but I'd feel uncomfortable sitting there chatting with my boobs out.
Man 1: doesn't care. Yeah he'll look, but doesn't cause him any embarrassment.
Man 2: doesn't like it. Doesn't know where to look. Feels uncomfortable.
Man 3: my husband. Doesn't give a ****e either way. He probably knows that nobody is looking at my spaniel ears and it gives him a chance to see things he doesn't get to see at home!

I have to elaborate on Woman 2: she has the best body of all of us, and doesn't have hangups (she says) but when I said that I don't care that people see my boobs and that X,Y and Z have seen them on the beach she doesn't get the difference between them seeing me while I find my bikini top and put in on, and me feeling uncomfortable sitting on the beach chatting about work with my boobs hanging out. For her, it's a situation that she doesn't want anyone other than her partner(s) to see her girleens. But she says that she is very uncomfortable talking to a topless woman and doesn't know where to look!

So wise people of AH, who is right? Or is it a case of to each their own?

I wouldn't be too comfortable with my wife having the boobs out in front of my mates on holiday to be honest.

No judgement whatsoever, just wouldn't feel right to me

cloud493

Never fully naked, underwear though, a couple of friends.

Menas

tastyt wrote: »

I wouldn't be too comfortable with my wife having the boobs out in front of my mates on holiday to be honest.

No judgement whatsoever, just wouldn't feel right to me

Yeah, I would be the same. Would not want my mates to see the wives boobs and I would not particularly want to see their wives boobs either.

Buona Fortuna

Funny how the Germans have a completely different attitude to nudity.

Years ago while on a winter sports holiday in Austria I picked up the annual injury.

The sauna seemed to ease the pain. So I used to toddle down there after the slopes. Thankfully none of our group would join me as it was full nakee.

Anyway, I'm in the sauna with this German wan. It was like bunk beds and we were at right angles to each other, just chatting away.

She was on the top bunk and I was on the middle - looking up . After some while she says "I don't know how you take it." Having attracted my gaze, I'm looking up just to be polite. She slides off the top bunk, legs akimbo, and there I am staring at the meaning of life.

I was a gibbering gibbon.

MrMorooka

A sauna is a great place to be naked, all the heat, it ensures the opposite of the shrinkage problem. No worries.

Yes, the whole sauna scenario again. Wasn't weird, but it all depends on where you are I suppose.

Buona Fortuna

Candie wrote: »

Yes, the whole sauna scenario again. Wasn't weird, but it all depends on where you are I suppose.

Trouble was, as hot as the place was it was some time before I could leave

Day Lewin

Lots of times, though in fairness, often in situations where we all knew it was on the cards, e.g. naturist beach, or hippy weekend.

When I was much, much younger than I am now, I didnt understand that much about how males operate *cough*

Once me and a gang of fellow students, in Wales, were walking by a riverside on a lovely sunny day. We decided to go swimming although we had no togs, being as it was back in the 70's we just flung everything off and waded in.
And indeed, it was wonderful, and memorable, lovely water for swimming;
WE couldn't understand why none of the lads would join us, they all said it would be too cold, too uncomfortable, they preferred to just sit on the bank and "keep a lookout"

Ha ha ha. Wiser now!

mad muffin

Yes. We were fûck buddies.

nicki11

Yeah had this problem 2 years ago my male roommate would get drunk and take his pants off, he only did it when his girlfriend was around and/or drunk, definitely not my cup of tea though.

retro:electro

Ya a friend of both myself and my boyfriend was mid way through ridin some young one when he barged into the sitting room where me and my bf were watching a film. He was bollock naked and pleasuring himself to keep it erect and wanted my bf to give him a condom. Traumatising.

lazybones32

katemarch wrote: »

back in the 70's ...

Do you need large print to be able to see the words?

steddyeddy

tastyt wrote: »

There's no such thing as opposite sex friends....

There's no such thing as opposite sex friends you're attracted to.

Day Lewin

@lazybones - I graduated to joined-up writing. It's easy, you should try it.

Asmooh

lazybones32 wrote: »

I could elaborate and explain the motivations for the thread but we must retain the veneer of modesty.


Bonus thread for men: how do you feel about women who leave their breasts pressed up against you for erection-inducing amounts of time?

Don't have th issue, I have seen enough breasts but if they are just friends they are just friends, doesn't mean you get erection because you just see a pair of boobs.. thats so #fail

One More Toy

Asmooh wrote: »

Don't have th issue, I have seen enough breasts but if they are just friends they are just friends, doesn't mean you get erection because you just see a pair of boobs.. thats so #fail

Is this Twitter?

JanaMay

JanaMay wrote: »

So wise people of AH, who is right? Or is it a case of to each their own?

I do not think there is a right or wrong in this at all. But I can certainly not get myself into the headspace of some people with issues about nudity. I would never call them "wrong" but I simply can not get myself into the space of being bothered by - or made uncomfortable by - nudity.

Around summer time when my girlfriends are sunbathing in our garden naked my neighbour does seem to rediscover his love of telescopic star gazing - though what stars he expects to see by day in the general direction of our garden remains a mystery to me. But it does not bother me or them enough to stop doing it. The same is true for beaches and areas where it is the "done thing". And at home we and the kids are generally in some various states of undress to nudity at the best of times anyway.

As for friends of either sex it is common enough too - and when I was celebrating my personal achievement of having installed a garden jacuzzi single handedly at a fraction of the cost of having it done by professionals - I threw two opening house parties for it - one all nude and the other not - to facilitate friends who were into that and those who were not. The majority of people invited went to both. Some went to one and not the other. No questions were asked - or judgements made.

So no in general I have no issues with nudity - being nude - seeing friends nude - or having friends see my partners nude. I have no issue with those that DO either - but as I say while being perfectly fine and accepting it - I find myself incapable of getting into their head space and understanding it.

lazybones32

katemarch wrote: »

@lazybones - I graduated to joined-up writing. It's easy, you should try it.

It's on my bucket list.

Asmooh wrote: »

Don't have th issue, I have seen enough breasts but if they are just friends they are just friends, doesn't mean you get erection because you just see a pair of boobs.. thats so #fail

Lovely contribution. The bonus thread wasn't about "seeing" boobs, it was about a woman purposefully pressing her melons against you (well, maybe not you) and remaining in the position long enough to inspire a physical reaction. #readthethreadcorrectlyifpossible

One eyed Jack

steddyeddy wrote: »

There's no such thing as opposite sex friends you're attracted to.

Oh there is, I'm attracted to all my opposite sex friends. I find them all attractive, because I'm shallow like that, I graduate towards people I find attractive, can't really handle being around people I don't find attractive tbh. Einstein's explanation of relativity covers it well -

“When you sit with a nice girl for two hours you think it’s only a minute, but when you sit on a hot stove for a minute you think it’s two hours. That’s relativity.”

One More Toy

Deleted User wrote: »

I do not think there is a right or wrong in this at all. But I can certainly not get myself into the headspace of some people with issues about nudity. I would never call them "wrong" but I simply can not get myself into the space of being bothered by - or made uncomfortable by - nudity.

Around summer time when my girlfriends are sunbathing in our garden naked my neighbour does seem to rediscover his love of telescopic star gazing - though what stars he expects to see by day in the general direction of our garden remains a mystery to me. But it does not bother me or them enough to stop doing it. The same is true for beaches and areas where it is the "done thing". And at home we and the kids are generally in some various states of undress to nudity at the best of times anyway.

As for friends of either sex it is common enough too - and when I was celebrating my personal achievement of having installed a garden jacuzzi single handedly at a fraction of the cost of having it done by professionals - I threw two opening house parties for it - one all nude and the other not - to facilitate friends who were into that and those who were not. The majority of people invited went to both. Some went to one and not the other. No questions were asked - or judgements made.

So no in general I have no issues with nudity - being nude - seeing friends nude - or having friends see my partners nude. I have no issue with those that DO either - but as I say while being perfectly fine and accepting it - I find myself incapable of getting into their head space and understanding it.

So ehhh, any chance of an invite?

One More Toy

One More Toy wrote: »

So ehhh, any chance of an invite?

Quite a number of my house parties have people wander in and I have no idea where they came from or who they are. So invite yourself I guess. I rather suspect at least two of them who showed up once were boardsies who found there way there after me mentioning it on here a couple of times. But they did not out themselves.

stephenl15

Deleted User wrote: »

Quite a number of my house parties have people wander in and I have no idea where they came from or who they are. So invite yourself I guess. I rather suspect at least two of them who showed up once were boardsies who found there way there after me mentioning it on here a couple of times. But they did not out themselves.

Jasus. Is that not a bit dangerous? Pervs and whatnot

osarusan

Deleted User wrote: »

But they did not out themselves.

Was it not obvious from my complete lack of social skills?

Riskymove

Buona Fortuna wrote: »

Funny how the Germans have a completely different attitude to nudity.

I'm afraid that all those years of catholic guilt and repression won't easily be cast off by Irish society.

being taught that the body is something dirty to be ashamed of for so long is a big factor in our taboos.

stephenl15

stephenl15 wrote: »

Jasus. Is that not a bit dangerous? Pervs and whatnot

In fairness I did not advertise the nude house party around the place that much. It was a one off. Not ALL my house parties end up with people legging it around stark naked.

They would probably be disappointed really though. One of the reasons people have hang ups about nudity I suspect is they over sexualise it. But as most people who show up in saunas or free body beaches looking forward to seeing nude bodies everywhere will report to you - human nudity is not actually as sexual as they showed up expecting and it gets rather mundane after awhile.

I guess one of the reasons I have no hang ups about nudity is that me and my friends when I was much much younger were also quite open about it. And the friends I have now are quite similar with me and my partners. So I never really developed this sexualisation of nudity that many people have.

So every topic that comes up on forums like this from seeing people nude - to public breast feeding - and much more which tend to have people expressing opinions rooted in that very thing - are opinions I simply can not get into the head space of. Most of the time when I disagree with people I can at least put myself in their head space and see it from their perspective - even if I disagree with it. But issues rooted in nudity - I simply find myself not able to even get into their head space.

I guess when nudity is shared with me and people I know I do not see it as sexual very much at all. I am not devoid of ANY reaction to it either - and perhaps some of my reaction to it is based in sexuality - but nudity among my friends is more of an intimacy than a sexual thing.

osarusan wrote: »

Was it not obvious from my complete lack of social skills?

Oi - I represent that remark

TomBtheGoat

lazybones32 wrote: »

Ever seen an opposite-sex friend naked?

Yes and we weren't friends after that. Our relationship entered a new phase.

Buona Fortuna

Deleted User wrote: »

Quite a number of my house parties have people wander in and I have no idea where they came from or who they are. So invite yourself I guess. I rather suspect at least two of them who showed up once were boardsies who found there way there after me mentioning it on here a couple of times. But they did not out themselves.

Maybe they (Boards) could introduce Boardsie trunks or for that special party Boardsie Mankinis.

Could be a great money spinner.

jobbridge4life

TomBtheGoat wrote: »

Yes and we weren't friends after that. Our relationship entered a new phase.

That also happened to me only in a gay way.

Lyaiera

I saw a friend's butt. It was hairy and horrific.

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Yes.

Probably my closest male friend sent me a naked pic of him once but it was a side shot, still could see everything though. I don't know why he sent it to be honest, he said it was because he thought he looked good.

I lived in a crazy party house with 5 boys and when they'd get wrote off, they'd strip off. I saw too much of them one weekend. They would usually wander around in their boxers too so I'm not sure if semi naked counts.

I've had some "friends" that I used to get naked on a regular basis too. All good

steddyeddy

Lyaiera wrote: »

I saw a friend's butt. It was hairy and horrific.

All my friends see my ass but it's great so they don't mind.

lazybones32

Lyaiera wrote: »

I saw a friend's butt. It was hairy and horrific.

Any pimples on it?

Menas

Lyaiera wrote: »

I saw a friend's butt. It was hairy and horrific.

I hope you told her that she should shave her butt?

conorh91

Lyaiera wrote: »

I saw a friend's butt. It was hairy and horrific.

Fr Fluffy Bottom, we called him.