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Ashley Madison details now online

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  • #302
    meeeeh
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11,624 ✭✭✭✭meeeeh


    My name is URL wrote: »
    Still their own fault for shagging each other in a classroom while students were at school

    Any right minded person would realise how wrong that was and what the repercussions might be if they were caught.

    Like a girl who gets drunk at a party and realizes next morning she is not wearing knickers? She shouldn't get drunk.


  • #303
    PucaMama
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,129 ✭✭✭PucaMama


    meeeeh wrote: »
    Like a girl who gets drunk at a party and realizes next morning she is not wearing knickers? She shouldn't get drunk.

    are you seriously comparing being raped to being caught cheating?


  • #304
    meeeeh
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11,624 ✭✭✭✭meeeeh


    PucaMama wrote: »
    are you seriously comparing being raped to being caught cheating?

    No I am saying that victim blaming is a popular sport. Especially if victim's actions are not up to the highest moral standard. You decide to have a quickie at work, you deserve it to be broadcast all over the internet.

    That is the problem with people who moralize about everything. They have no empathy, of you did something wrong you deserve to be hounded down, preferably by people that know nothing about you. The response is disproportionate to the sin, who cares, they should know better.

    Oh and btw don't try with mock outage about trivializing rape it's a bit pathetic.


  • #305
    PucaMama
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,129 ✭✭✭PucaMama


    meeeeh wrote: »
    No I am saying that victim blaming is a popular sport. Especially if victim's actions are not up to the highest moral standard. You decide to have a quickie at work, you deserve it to be broadcast all over the internet.

    That is the problem with people who moralize about everything. They have no empathy, of you did something wrong you deserve to be hounded down, preferably by people that know nothing about you. The response is disproportionate to the sin, who cares, they should know better.

    this thread is about people being caught as members of a cheating website. the only victims are partners who were not aware, and possibly children. god forbid adults are expected behave in a good way. people caught cheating are not victims.


  • #306
    Yurt2
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 9,381 ✭✭✭Yurt2


    PucaMama wrote: »
    this thread is about people being caught as members of a cheating website. the only victims are partners who were not aware, and possibly children. god forbid adults are expected behave in a good way. people caught cheating are not victims.

    Welcome to the era of public shaming. Here be a member of the confederacy of dunces that thinks people's peccadilloes or weaknesses in private moments should be broadcast around the earth because of the cock sure self righteousness of a rabble.

    Someday you or somebody you care about may well make a mistake, it may display poorer aspects of their character. They or you may well be torn to shreds by an internet mob and pilloried on the street as a result.

    I'll be in a park or on a beach someday reading a book and a wind will blow across my face, and I'll look up for a moment and think myself 'huh, I guess that thing happened to Puca Mama then, I wonder has she learned anything'. 'Nah probably not', and I'll go back to my book.


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  • #307
    PucaMama
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,129 ✭✭✭PucaMama


    Yurt! wrote: »
    Welcome to the era of public shaming. Here be a member of the confederacy of dunces that thinks people's peccadilloes or weaknesses in private moments should be broadcast around the earth because of the cock sure self righteousness of a rabble.

    Someday you or somebody you care about may well make a mistake, it may display poorer aspects of their character. They or you may well be torn to shreds by an internet mob and pilloried on the street as a result.

    I'll be in a park or on a beach someday reading a book and a wind will blow across my face, and I may look up for a moment and think myself 'huh, I guess that thing happened to Puca Mama then, I wonder has she learned anything'. 'Nah probably not', and I'll go back to my book.

    no dont get me wrong its not up to me or anyone else outside the relationship to decide the consequences of all this. i just dont see how a general disapproval of cheating is a bad thing. i do think their partners had the right to be told.


  • #308
    K4t
    Closed Accounts Posts: 6,362 ✭✭✭K4t


    Anyone who signs up to a site with the slogan Life is short. Have an affair and hands over personal details, is not only taking a risk, but is a bit of an idiot tbh. This story is hilarious but obviously rip to the fallen cheaters. Life was even shorter than they or AM expected..


  • #309
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 17,378 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    wakka12 wrote: »
    I dont agree. As another poster pointed out, do you think it would be okay to 'out' every gay man on grindr if they were in a 'fake' straight relationship with a woman, but only to appease homophobic family members/friends etc? He's also being unfaithful but does that mean he has no right to privacy?

    See , most people would agree with your point on a moral basis, because we would all hate to be in that position! But really it just can't work that way, we can't just pick and choose when somebody is allowed privacy just because it might end up hurting other people.
    There's nothing wrong with being gay. There is something wrong with cheating so it's completely different. Do you wear a condom with your partner? Unlikely. It's disgusting.


  • #310
    bnt
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 13,077 ✭✭✭✭bnt


    Meanwhile, in news that should surprise no-one, thers are strong indications that Ashley Madison was used almost entirely by men, and that most "female" accounts were fakes created by company employees and were never used actively. (Gizmodo: Almost None of the Women in the Ashley Madison Database Ever Used the Site)

    You are the type of what the age is searching for, and what it is afraid it has found. I am so glad that you have never done anything, never carved a statue, or painted a picture, or produced anything outside of yourself! Life has been your art. You have set yourself to music. Your days are your sonnets.

    ―Oscar Wilde predicting Social Media, in The Picture of Dorian Gray



  • #311
    K.O.Kiki
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 18,824 ✭✭✭✭K.O.Kiki


    Making me more weary of the reality of those "Ashley Madison suicide" reports.


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  • #312
    KomradeBishop
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,981 ✭✭✭KomradeBishop


    K.O.Kiki wrote: »
    Making me more weary of the reality of those "Ashley Madison suicide" reports.
    Yea as I said on the other thread, at least one of them was suicide due to other issues (high stress/work issues), rather than AM - and how long does it take to 'confirm' an unconfirmed suicide report either? Been days now.


  • #313
    meeeeh
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11,624 ✭✭✭✭meeeeh


    Ah sure nobody topped themselves, so that makes everything ok?

    Btw if there were only a few women there, doesn't that mean only few men cheated unless they were gay. So why drag their names through the mud?


  • #314
    KomradeBishop
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,981 ✭✭✭KomradeBishop


    meeeeh wrote: »
    Ah sure nobody topped themselves, so that makes everything ok?
    Pointing out that people should get their facts straight before attributing suicides to this leak, is not the same as saying the leak is ok.


  • #315
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 17,378 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    meeeeh wrote: »
    Ah sure nobody topped themselves, so that makes everything ok?

    Btw if there were only a few women there, doesn't that mean only few men cheated unless they were gay. So why drag their names through the mud?

    Attempted cheating is fine in a marriage?


  • #316
    Samaris
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,544 ✭✭✭Samaris


    Deleted User wrote: »
    Attempted cheating is fine in a marriage?

    Is it any business of the rest of the world?

    It's like an international curtain-twitching contest.


  • #317
    meeeeh
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11,624 ✭✭✭✭meeeeh


    Deleted User wrote: »
    Attempted cheating is fine in a marriage?

    Where did I claim that. I think some here can't understand that cheating is not ok but at the same time none of your business. And even less if nothing happened. Btw should we also stone anyone who goes to a porn site. They are watching other people, oh the horror!


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