Regrets in life

Heckler

Not doing well enough to go to college (now stuck in a **** job)
Not appreciating my father before he died.
Mucking up my marriage to a wonderful woman.

ThinkProgress

I regret the time I caused permanent damage to my body in a completely avoidable incident, which now causes me constant pain and is a daily reminder of that moment of stupidity!

jaymcg91

abelard wrote: »

A question for those who have 'gone travelling' or are planning to do so - how did/can/will you afford it? All based on savings? I would love to pack it in and travel for a year or so just no idea how I'd finance it without building up a huge bank of savings first...

My best mate is on a gap year - a country a month - and every hostel he's been in so far has let him stay for free in return for working there (plus a small wage).Travelling means living on a strict budget, it's not 5* and limo transfers to the airport .

Apparently this is quite common.

Niemoj

I regret not taking that cute Croatian up on his offer for some NSA ana

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, actually I've said too much.:rolleyes:

wakka12

Regretting anything is horrible and useless and a waste of time, the only thing it does is make you feel worse about yourself. So stop regretting things, especially seeing as you're only 25..

wakka12

ThinkProgress wrote: »

I regret the time I caused permanent damage to my body in a completely avoidable incident, which now causes me constant pain and is a daily reminder of that moment of stupidity!

This is really going to annoy me if I don't ask..so Ill try at least! What did you do that avoidable and what was the damage??

MaroonAndGreen

ancapailldorcha wrote:

Not doing the J-1 when I had the chance. Parents talked me out of it. Never took a year out. Might do that when the current contract ends. Always been single. I've very low confidence there.

Your parents talked you out of it? That's actually horrible

galljga1

Too many roads, too many yellow woods but having two young children, I fear the butterfly effect too much to change anything before they were born: too much to risk.

ancapailldorcha

MaroonAndGreen wrote: »

Your parents talked you out of it? That's actually horrible

They were worried about me going over alone. I'm from the countryside so I thought Dublin was a massive city at the time.

Penny Tration

ancapailldorcha wrote: »

They were worried about me going over alone. I'm from the countryside so I thought Dublin was a massive city at the time.

Any possibility of you saving up and travelling for six months or something?

Tbh, it would probably help massively with your confidence issues.

ancapailldorcha

Jenny Thalia wrote: »

Any possibility of you saving up and travelling for six months or something?

Tbh, it would probably help massively with your confidence issues.

That's not a bad idea. I am trying to save at the moment anyway and I'm just over halfway through a 3 year contract that more than likely won't be renewed as it is a grant. The only 2 things putting me off the idea are 1) the idea of going alone and 2) securing an job for afterwards as I really don't want to live at my parents again.

Penny Tration

ancapailldorcha wrote: »

That's not a bad idea. I am trying to save at the moment anyway and I'm just over halfway through a 3 year contract that more than likely won't be renewed as it is a grant. The only 2 things putting me off the idea are 1) the idea of going alone and 2) securing an job for afterwards as I really don't want to live at my parents again.

Going on your own is the idea. Yeah, it's scary as fcuk, but it pushes you right out of your comfort zone, forces you to talk to strangers and socialise with people you don't know, immediately improving your confidence.

Getting a job probably wouldn't be too tough, because it's kind of expected that people between 20-30 will take a year out and travel. If your cv isn't full of gaps already, it won't be a big deal.

ancapailldorcha

Jenny Thalia wrote: »

Going on your own is the idea. Yeah, it's scary as fcuk, but it pushes you right out of your comfort zone, forces you to talk to strangers and socialise with people you don't know, immediately improving your confidence.

Getting a job probably wouldn't be too tough, because it's kind of expected that people between 20-30 will take a year out and travel. If your cv isn't full of gaps already, it won't be a big deal.

Thanks Jenny.

The only travelling I've done so far is a few holidays with friends. It might well be that it wouldn't be massively difficult to sort out a job home while approaching the end of it but I'm one of those people who needs to know where their next paycheck is coming from. A friend of mine working in an Irish hospital jacked in a full time job to do it. They offered him a senior position for when he returned and he turned it down for some reason.

BGozIE

ancapailldorcha wrote: »

That's not a bad idea. I am trying to save at the moment anyway and I'm just over halfway through a 3 year contract that more than likely won't be renewed as it is a grant. The only 2 things putting me off the idea are 1) the idea of going alone and 2) securing an job for afterwards as I really don't want to live at my parents again.

Coming from someone who left, a permanent full time (pension, health care...blah blah) job, just over a year ago to travel the world...do not let those things hold you back. I met so many people who did it alone its really not a big thing. Albeit I didnt go alone, I did learn so many life lessons and had so many cool experiences...i'm sure you'll learn even more about yourself going alone.

I'm back 1 month, started looking for a job 2.5 weeks ago and I start a new job on Wednesday. I would have to say traveling did me nothing but good and if somebody feels it's right for them they should give it a lash...what will be will be.

As for regrets...I have my share, but then again hindsight is a beautiful thing.

ancapailldorcha

BGozIE wrote: »

Coming from someone who left, a permanent full time (pension, health care...blah blah) job, just over a year ago to travel the world...do not let those things hold you back. I met so many people who did it alone its really not a big thing. Albeit I didnt go alone, I did learn so many life lessons and had so many cool experiences...i'm sure you'll learn even more about yourself going alone.

I'm back 1 month, started looking for a job 2.5 weeks ago and I start a new job on Wednesday. I would have to say traveling did me nothing but good and if somebody feels it's right for them they should give it a lash...what will be will be.

As for regrets...I have my share, but then again hindsight is a beautiful thing.

You found a job that quickly? Wow.

BGozIE

ancapailldorcha wrote: »

You found a job that quickly? Wow.

I'd say I got relatively lucky...first interview I got, 2 days later they came with an offer. When you job hunting full time it helps.

ancapailldorcha

BGozIE wrote: »

I'd say I got relatively lucky...first interview I got, 2 days later they came with an offer. When you job hunting full time it helps.

Fair enough. I work in a fairly specialised sector but I could probably get an office job easily enough. I was originally planning to take some time after my PhD, if I ever got one to go travelling.

BGozIE

ancapailldorcha wrote: »

Fair enough. I work in a fairly specialised sector but I could probably get an office job easily enough. I was originally planning to take some time after my PhD, if I ever got one to go travelling.

I suppose they are things you would have to weigh up before travelling. I work in IT so I was always relatively at ease with leaving a permanent job. I would say to most however, if you want to go travelling just go, jobs will come and go. Chances are if you are thinking of travelling, it means more to you then your job.

ancapailldorcha

BGozIE wrote: »

I suppose they are things you would have to weigh up before travelling. I work in IT so I was always relatively at ease with leaving a permanent job. I would say to most however, if you want to go travelling just go, jobs will come and go. Chances are if you are thinking of travelling, it means more to you then your job.

That makes sense. I don't want to regret it when I'm older. As you say, I'll weigh it up when leaving a job such as my current contract role becomes less of a big deal.

Menas

I do wish I had done the saving and then travelling for a year thing. But never got it together enough to do that. Maybe in the next life.