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May 2016 Babies Club
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It ain't a fecking picnic that's for sure :rolleyes:
I guess as long as you are getting rest that's something...
Will you get much of a break over Christmas?
I have no idea how my mil had 7 kids. I think my OH is rethinking his numbers considering how sick I've been etc... although i know seeing the baby may reset him lol!0 -
It ain't a fecking picnic that's for sure :rolleyes:
I guess as long as you are getting rest that's something...
Will you get much of a break over Christmas?
I have no idea how my mil had 7 kids. I think my OH is rethinking his numbers considering how sick I've been etc... although i know seeing the baby may reset him lol!
Newborn phase is no party either I'm afraid! I'm looking forward to a point in time about 4-6 months after the baby's born, so about 1 year from now - then life will have gone back to normal! Only a year to go !!
Have to say my 1 year old is a source of such joy and craic now though....man the laughs we have with her every day. For me the newborn phase sucked and was way worse than pregnancy, but once they get to a few months old the nice part starts :-) She's seriously hilarious
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I have no idea how my Mam had 5 !!! I asked her that before and she said ''back then it was easier coz it was what everybody did'' plus she didn't work - your MIL probably didn't either. They were probably made of tougher stuff than us as well, life was generally more physically hard back then, more physical labour, more effort required to do everything, we've been too pampered!0 -
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I'm the same Kathy there is always someone to say don't eat that or don't do that. Our mothers might have been tougher but they were just able to get on with it! I always seem to find out half way through something or afterwards that is bad! :mad: Pretty sure my mam drank tea like a fish and had runny eggs every day when she was preggers with us! And we turned out ok!
Haven't even thought about when we'd have the next one!:eek:
Started getting period like cramps yesterday afternoon and again this morning, all i want to do is grab a hot water bottle!
Getting Christmas eve off for the prophets birthday so will have a long weekend if we didn't have 14 people for dinner on Christmas day it might even be relaxing! 0 -
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I'm the same Kathy there is always someone to say don't eat that or don't do that. Our mothers might have been tougher but they were just able to get on with it! I always seem to find out half way through something or afterwards that is bad! :mad: Pretty sure my mam drank tea like a fish and had runny eggs every day when she was preggers with us! And we turned out ok!
Haven't even thought about when we'd have the next one!:eek:
Started getting period like cramps yesterday afternoon and again this morning, all i want to do is grab a hot water bottle!
Getting Christmas eve off for the prophets birthday so will have a long weekend if we didn't have 14 people for dinner on Christmas day it might even be relaxing!
Hosting 14 while preggers & still feeling nauseous....man you are a sucker for punishment!
I didn't know the prophet & ol jeebus shared a b'day....that is very convenient! I'm sure you're not complaining about long weekend off
Those period type pains are probably your womb stretching. I had them all the time on my first, and zero, zilch, nada this time. I mean when you think about it it's no wonder you have stretchy pains, things are stretching that have never had to stretch before! I'm clearly all stretched out now there's no tautness left in anything hence no womb stretching pains! :eek:
I also experienced the most desperate itchiness around my torso on no.1 as the skin stretched. It was so awful. Particularly around my lower back for some strange reason. I tore the hide off myself and was lathering on creams and lotions and ended up taking an anti-histamine. This time around - nothing!0 -
Hosting 14 while preggers & still feeling nauseous....man you are a sucker for punishment!
I didn't know the prophet & ol jeebus shared a b'day....that is very convenient! I'm sure you're not complaining about long weekend off
Those period type pains are probably your womb stretching. I had them all the time on my first, and zero, zilch, nada this time. I mean when you think about it it's no wonder you have stretchy pains, things are stretching that have never had to stretch before! I'm clearly all stretched out now there's no tautness left in anything hence no womb stretching pains! :eek:
I also experienced the most desperate itchiness around my torso on no.1 as the skin stretched. It was so awful. Particularly around my lower back for some strange reason. I tore the hide off myself and was lathering on creams and lotions and ended up taking an anti-histamine. This time around - nothing!
I love a bit of punishment:D! Well it was supposed to be 6 of us, and i agreed to it during the summer, but it sort of snowballed to all the strays that aren't going home. Will be nice to have a crowd on the day will feel a bit more like home! I'm really glad to have thursday off so i can have my prep done, will just be timing stuff on the day and everyone is bring/doing something. 4 of us are preggers so will let the boys handle it mostly! Its only this year they have the same birthday, its randomly the 2nd birthday for the prophet this year, they have a different calendar. So nice to have the long weekend, i can carry over leave so not taking any days if i can help it!
Yeah, stretching make sense, it just feels so like a period it makes me nervous. At least that's one less thing for you to deal with this time! Every little helps!
Can't wait for my scan on sat!0 -
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I haven't had any stretching pains but get random pain when i sneeze or laugh hard. Like I have pulled a muscle. No movement here either but I think I am a week or so behind some of you guys. 19 weeks today. I went out for a 3 course lunch yesterday and over indulged slightly, felt like my mini bump doubled in size. I've been doing small meals often so far. I have another dinner tonight so better watch the portions or Ill be too stuffed to move again!!!
Can't wait to hear when you guys get movement. I'm living for that moment. My big scan is still 2 weeks or so away as it got pushed out due to the Xmas holidays 0 -
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Whats your due date Kathy?
Mine is May 15th. At my 12 week scan, their dates matched mine and there was definitely only one baby so we'll just have to wait and see!
My husband's family has a LOT of twins!!
We're in two minds about finding out the sex. We said we'd wait and decide on the day. I have a feeling we will ask though
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Whats your due date Kathy?
Mine is May 15th. At my 12 week scan, their dates matched mine and there was definitely only one baby so we'll just have to wait and see!
My husband's family has a LOT of twins!!
We're in two minds about finding out the sex. We said we'd wait and decide on the day. I have a feeling we will ask though
My original date was May 15th but my consultant has me as two days earlier than that. I'm still kind of going off the May 15th date though! We are the same. Going to decide on the day. I have this feeling I am having a boy. Just seems to have come on me the last week or so. Is this your first teggers? So tired after this week, we have had something on every evening and visitors for the weekend. Another busy day tomorrow. Dying for some peace and quiet!0 -
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Thanks ladies, hope all goes well for yer scans!
Kathy thanks for the websites will have a look, will check out next, had forgotten about them and they actually deliver here.
Lucuma hope you get to take it a bit easy over christmas, I'd be a wreck with so little sleep working full time.
Rant!
Had my Mat leave chat, fecking disaster, boss's other kid now has chicken pox so he decided to talk to me from my open office door, basically i can take an extra 6 weeks unpaid leave. Then the fecker gave me a great appraisal... feeling very emotional and upset over the whole thing. I'm just in an utterly ****e position because of oil prices, 3 years ago they doubled my salary to keep me, should have gotten preggers then! I feel if i push i'll get a pink slip when i head off on mat leave and no mat leave pay at all...which i feel after 5years I've earned it. I know it's all manageable and could be worse I just feel completely ****e about it!
I will be organising all my appointments during work hours from now on! :mad:0 -
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We decided we would find out but keep it a secret for a while. We will have them write whether its a boy or girl in a card - pop it in an envelope and open it on Christmas Day
Its our first Christmas Eve & Day just the two of us so we thought it would be something nice to look forward to! 0 -
So that's 6 paid weeks, 6 unpaid weeks is it wuffly? 12 weeks in all. Where I work in Europe the mat leave is 16 paid weeks and you have to finish work 2 weeks before you're due so it's 14 weeks with your babs.
It's hard when you're comparing yourself to Ireland because Scandanavia aside, Ireland has one of the best mat leave in Europe. It's better than UK, Holland, France etc. 26 paid weeks (plus 16 unpaid weeks) is totally amazeballs compared to most other countries in the world and irish people take it completely for granted!
Yep Xmas will be easier with no '''school'' run (i.e. childminder run) and no work definitely! Hubby is also banished to the spare room & will prob be there til babs is born now. He goes to sleep around 11 or 12 and wakes me up when he's going to bed. As that occurs during the only block of sleep I get these days, he had to go!
I don't have to finish up early so will be doing my best to last until I pop. I am comparing to home to a certain degree but also to a lot of friends at a similar level here who managed to top up with twice as much unpaid leave, no one gets more than 6 weeks paid except for one of the freezones which is 12 weeks. I don't mind the the unpaid part at all, I don't paid tax so I don't expect any social services. I'm just disappointed with how the how things went, talking about it across the office was not what i had in mind and I feel like I didn't get to justify myself at all as I was lamped. Just feel very undervalued:( I spent the afternoon fighting back tears after he fecked off early to see star wars and went home and bawled for two hours. Anyway it was it is and at least now I know where I stand! I got offered a job at home last week and its looking very tempting! Very emotional at the moment! fecking hormones!
Enjoy the break and take it as easy as you can! Enjoy those precious hours of sleep!:D 0 -
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Bluebell, Cloud13 welcome and best of luck with your scan. I wish I had pushed to have mine this week. I have 2 more weeks to wait but they should be even bigger then so will get a good look. Hard to believe I am 20 weeks this week. 5 months! Although time is going rather slowly.
Wuffly I am sorry to hear about your dissapointment on you Maternity leave. I realise how lucky we are in Ireland, many of my colleagues in the states who obviously work for the same company don't get half the leave we do. My husbands company offer 4 weeks paternity which is good as the normal in Ireland is 3 days. Shame there is no consistency on what is offered.
I am exhausted! Went to finish my Christmas shopping last night and I have aches in my legs, I also had a sore back which I think was from carrying bags. Fell into bed and still achy today. I'ts not the bump so no idea why i am so bloody tired!
Lucuma enjoy the break, hope Santa brings you some sleep 0 -
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Thank you Kathy, I am a bit calmer today! Ahh i knew it would be like this I think i just let myself believe they might be different because of the experience of all of my friends here getting extended leave (14 and counting!) I think i would find it very hard to deal with getting less then other staff in the same company, I don't go in for the taking something just because your entitled to it unless you need it but this really got to me. Who know's i may be glad to be getting back to work! I know where I stand at least.
I am not as tired as I was at the beginning but it doesn't take much to wear me out these days. I need nap after anything social! Hope those aches go away, i keep tweaking my back but i can't figure out what's causing it/what i am doing, doesn't last too long though can usually walk it off.
Won't be long til your scan Kathy its great, they check so much you get to see them for ages!
Hope everyone has a good relaxing Christmas! 0 -
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Wuffly I am sorry to hear about your dissapointment on you Maternity leave. I realise how lucky we are in Ireland, many of my colleagues in the states who obviously work for the same company don't get half the leave we do. My husbands company offer 4 weeks paternity which is good as the normal in Ireland is 3 days. Shame there is no consistency on what is offered.
Lucuma enjoy the break, hope Santa brings you some sleep
Wowzers!! What does paternity leave mean - unpaid leave? Can ye afford for him to take 4 weeks unpaid?
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Ah that's a balls, other friends working there getting 14+ unpaid weeks and you only getting 6, no wonder you're really p!ssed off! I mean it sounds like they're only giving you the bare minimum. I know things are really tough in the oil industry at the moment with the price of a barrell at an all time low isn't it? That sucks, sounds like you're possibly the victim of bad timing or else just an unsympathetic boss. It's horrible working in a country where maternity leave isn't valued.
I told you before I went back to work 4 days a week when my dd was 10 weeks old and it all went fine, she's happy and normal and very sociable. But this time around i'm hoping to take the full 26 weeks (although I work in Europe, I pay PRSI in Ireland so I get irish mat benefit (230 p/w less marginal rate of tax) so last time around I only drew it for 16 weeks (I finished up 6 weeks before due date). The Dept of Social welfare was happy with me I'm sure voluntarily giving up 10 weeks of mat benefit!
This time around I again have to finish work 6 weeks before due date (Aer Lingus won't let me fly past 34 weeks) flying back to Cork to have the babs. Then hoping to take the 20 weeks after babs is born. I actually had an argument with hubby last night he wants me to go back to work early again to get the money coming back in again as we're buying a house this year. I told him I'm really hoping to spend those 20 weeks with the baby this time around. We'll see.
I didn't that write that very well I have 14 friends (there's a large gang of couples we slotted into when we got here, I'm the last of them to be preggers) and all the girls got their mat leave topped up to 6 months some of them 7/8 months. I was really hoping for 4months and dreaming of 5! Just want to out of here for the summer, its so hot you can't go for a walk etc.. Yep oil prices at an all time low and set to get worse. Pay cuts looking likely in the new year. My OH is starting a business at the moment so literally all our eggs are in my basket for the time being! I was in such a state yesterday he was going to drop it and look for a job, hopefully all will be up and running soon. I think if we had his income to fall back on I wouldn't feel so trapped. It's all sunshine and roses in my camp lol!
Hope you don't have go back to work any sooner than you want to. I don't know anyone that regretted taking time off to be at home with baby. Even the ones that loved going back to work. Going back to Cork to have your baby I'm a little jealous!
Do you mind me asking, do you pay Irish PRSI because you have your own company? Is it registered in Ireland?
Lost all will be productive this week! 0 -
Do you mind me asking, do you pay Irish PRSI because you have your own company? Is it registered in Ireland?
Lost all will be productive this week!
Yeah we're both self employed. Used to work in Ireland as self employed but now we work abroad (better money). The PRSI (social security) in the country we work in is 14% and irish PRSI is only 4%. If you're an EU citizen working in the EU you have the option to pay social security in your home country, so we opted for that to increase our take home pay! You can do it for 2-3 years (used to be 5!) and then you need to go into the social security system of the country you work in.
One of the plus of it is that I get irish maternity benefit, one of the few benefits self employed get! We're also keeping up our stamps to one day get the irish contributory state pension0 -
Wowzers!! What does paternity leave mean - unpaid leave? Can ye afford for him to take 4 weeks unpaid?
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No its paid leave with his full salary. I know my company gives 2 weeks full paid leave for new fathers which I thought was great so delighted he gets 4 weeks. Going to try space it out over the 1st 2 months.0 -
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