Awkward

LegacyUser

This is beyond trivial compared to some of the threads on here but really I am searching for the right etiquette here for a bit of an awkward situation.

Just started college and was out last night for freshers week. Went out with a society last night and ended up kissing one of the guys there who is on the committee for the society. Brought him back to my place, just kissing happened and he eventually left and didn't spend the night.

The awkward part is that he has a girlfriend. Before he left he started on the whole "I am such a bad person" tangent but proceeded to keep kissing me and even kissed me goodbye at the door.

I know I shouldn't have kissed him as he has a girlfriend but I had drank a few drinks and I feel that it was his commitment to honour not mine.I don't know his girlfriend and she isn't in the society. Last night was my first time meeting this guy.

I don't know if I should go to the society next week? It is in a specialist area that I am very interested in and I got along so ell with everyone else in the group. No one saw us kissing and I said I wouldn't tell anyone when he was leaving.

Should I go next week? I really want to go but I feel maybe I have burnt a bridge here? I feel really disappointed. I don't fancy the guy or anything, I think he is very handsome but there isn't any personality spark there, I would like to be his friend maybe.

What to do?

LuckyLloyd

Of course you go. You did nothing wrong. Go and enjoy yourself with the people you hit it off with and enjoy engaging in whatever activities are involved that you're interested in. You may not want to get involved with the guy in question, but don't let that put you off engaging in the society in anyway. Best of luck.

CaraMay

Definitely go and don't let him hold you back

giggle84

You're only starting college so I assume you're 18/19? I promise you.. you are going to have WAY more awkward experiences than this over the next few years haha :-)

Yes it will be awkward the first time you see him, but once the ice is broken it will be fine. He's probably feeling way more awkward about it than you are, he's the one with the girlfriend.

You can go and pretend nothing happened and be friendly to him, or you can go and have a word with him and just say look just want to clear the air, let's just forget it ever happened and be friends. Either way you should definitely go!

kylith

Go! Pretend it never happened and if he says anything about what happened just say that you don't want to get between him and his girlfriend. Chances are that now the booze has worn off he'll be happy to forget it ever happened too.

Heat_Wave

Kissing a guy knowing that he has a partner.

It really amazes me how people can say this isn't wrong.

That's bad form.

R.D. aka MR.D

Definitely go. It's college. Don't let it stop you doing what you enjoy. It'll be forgotten about soon enough!

desertcircus

Heat_Wave wrote: »

Kissing a guy knowing that he has a partner.

It really amazes me how people can say this isn't wrong.

That's bad form.

The OP doesn't owe anything to the guy's girlfriend. Any blame is his.

stargazer 68

desertcircus wrote: »

The OP doesn't owe anything to the guy's girlfriend. Any blame is his.

Sorry but I agree with heat wave. Yes he is to blame here as he is the one with the girlfriend but she know he wasn't single and went ahead anyway!
But to answer your question Op go and just forget about it.

OneOfThem

desertcircus wrote: »

The OP doesn't owe anything to the guy's girlfriend.

Sure she should probably dip her hand into the girl's handbag if she gets a chance so. May as well make a few quid off her, college can be expensive.

Tasden

desertcircus wrote: »

The OP doesn't owe anything to the guy's girlfriend. Any blame is his.

The betrayal is entirely on his head as he should be loyal to the girlfriend yes, but that doesn't absolve the single person of their wrongdoing either imo.

I would think everybody owes other people a bit of decency and respect regardless of whether you know them or not, and knowing she probably wouldn't like her partner kissing another woman, i think this does fall under the disrespectful category. Again imo.

Op i would go and act like nothing happened. Its done now, cant change it but dont let it get in the way of anything you would otherwise be doing.

awkwardawkward

awkwardawkward wrote: »

I know I shouldn't have kissed him as he has a girlfriend but I had drank a few drinks and I feel that it was his commitment to honour not mine.

I've thanked the post that actually answered your question but, for future reference, this is not cool and your attitude will bring you nothing but trouble. Raise your standards and don't be the person who thinks it's ok to get with someone who's in a relationship because it's "their commitment to honour, not mine".

Merkin

OneOfThem wrote: »

Sure she should probably dip her hand into the girl's handbag if she gets a chance so. May as well make a few quid off her, college can be expensive.

Unhelpful posting like this won't be tolerated. You should know this given you've been warned previously.

meeeeh

People in late teens, early twenties acting up. That is a shocker.

Just ignore the whole thing, he will too. I doubt you spoiled some big romance that had potential to last for another 70 years.