Is my girlfriend cheating on me?

LegacyUser

You are going to hate this horrible truthful answer but I think you need to hear it.

There is literally no question that she's cheating on you. And her friends know it. And the guy she was getting plowed by the other night knows it. And they'll never tell you and happily let it carry on because it's a nice bit of gossip for the group. And she's letting it all happen and is actively trying to keep it like that. Let that sink in for a second.

Call a solicitor and go from there.

Never marry again.

pookie82

Let me get this straight.

You drop her off, and notice before you drive away she doesn’t go INTO the pub you dropped her to.
You ask why not, she says she’s going to another pub to meet the girls, last minute change of plan.
You spot on messenger hours later that in fact she’s in the apartment of a male friend, guzzling wine, sending pictures to her mates, who are encouraging this and calling them a lovely couple.
You text her on the spot telling her you can see what’s going on.
Instead of panicking and rushing home, she brushes you off and still stays out until 4….???

Oh god. This is staring you in the face, OP, much as you don’t want to admit it. And what’s worse, almost, than the lies and the cheating, is that her friends are complicit and encouraging. What a poisonous bunch. There are kids involved.

ahnowbrowncow

Stop being so naive OP, its pretty clear she's cheating.

Did you actually see her male friend get sick after you'd heard the moans? Could have just been quick thinking on his part if they were up to something and heard you coming?

If you were suspicious before her night out what are you going to be like after it? You'll drive yourself crazy wondering what she's up to, if she's where she said she is. A suspicious, trustless relationship is a lot worse than ending a 10 year relationship. Plus it sounds like she has let her friends in on it which makes things even worse, you really are getting taken for a fool.

You sound like a nice guy, maybe too nice to make the very tough decision that is needed here which is to end the relationship. In a year, two or even 5 when you finally catch her in the act you'll be wishing you could have those years back

castle

She is upset that she got caught believe me she is cheating and will lie through her teeth like you wont believe , this is not the girl you you met years ago she has changed and dont convince yourself any different,
If she on a bill pay phone then get her to go online in front of you and check if she has been messaging and ringing a certain number, it will hurt knowing the truth but it is better than living with a cheat,
best of luck mate

JJJJNR

You did the right thing confronting her, she is getting intimate with someone - major red flag. you've got to ask - why wouldn't she want to spend her most enjoyable moments with you and not away from you.

blueb

Any Update Paudy man, how are you keeping ?

Taltos

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