One nights stands

Brian from Bray

Whats your thought on ONS. Have you had one ? If not would you ?

I myself have never had one in fear of picking up an STI or getting someone pregnant. Also not to mention the awkwardness the following morning.

The_Valeyard

Going to hump, cover the stump

Fleawuss

A description of a most excellent virgin.

Wouldn't have one, married. Have married friends who regularly have them so wouldn't be that judgemental either. Each to their own. As for single friends who do it, good for them. Have a couple of friends that have them pretty much every other weekend, and they seem to escape without the STD or pregnancy thing. So not sure I'd worry too much about those aspects if I was inclined to go for it.

Brian from Bray

Fleawuss wrote: »

A description of a most excellent virgin.

I'm asking for a friend :pac:

Seriously though I was in a relationship for just under a year, just never had ONS.

Fleawuss

The_Valeyard wrote: »

Going to hump, cover the stump

Ahem....stump? I'm sorry for your troubles.

Sunnyisland

I had a one night stand before, it was very tiring especially on the legs :-)

dan1895

I'd much rather two night stands, one either side of the bed for symmetry.

qo2cj1dsne8y4k

I've had a couple one night stands, but drift off then before things get awkward the next morning. If you've just met them, don't know them, I don't see what's to be gained sleeping next to them the entire night. Do the deed and go home before he wakes up.

The only time I ever ended up staying over was one night about 2 weeks after I lost my dad, went out, wrote myself off, woke up about 6am still absolutely plastered and fell over when I was trying to get dressed. At that point I was so unsteady on my feet and so drunk I had to get back into bed. It was about 4pm before I was sober enough to make a move, and by then I was so sick I wasn't able. to be fair to him, it wasn't as awkward as I expected a ons to be the next day and he took really good care of me in my delicate state.

ElleEm

Brian from Bray wrote: »

Also not to mention the awkwardness the following morning.

Anyone with any sense bolts after they're done. No awkwardness! "Eh, thanks for that. See ya.".

NachoBusiness

ONS are like Lucky Bags.

Aint Eazy Being Cheezy

It's only awkward if you're a social retard.

"Morning! Making coffee, would you like one?"


20mins later..

I'm just gonna go brush my teeth then I'll drop you home."

Job done.

frostyjacks

Wouldn't have one. A girl prepared to put out after only meeting a guy is most likely carrying or has carried an STI.

Aint Eazy Being Cheezy

frostyjacks wrote: »

Wouldn't have one. A girl prepared to put out after only meeting a guy is most likely carrying or has carried an STI.

If only there was a way of avoiding STIs...

One eyed Jack

Brian from Bray wrote: »

Whats your thought on ONS. Have you had one ? If not would you ?

I myself have never had one in fear of picking up an STI or getting someone pregnant. Also not to mention the awkwardness the following morning.

I've had... ehh, one or two :pac:

If they're not your thing OP, they're not your thing. I've never experienced any awkwardness the following morning though - we've just had sex, it doesn't get any more intimate than that

eviltwin

If I was single I would, don't see anything wrong with them once you use condoms.

One eyed Jack

frostyjacks wrote: »

Wouldn't have one. A girl prepared to put out after only meeting a guy is most likely carrying or has carried an STI.

And the guy prepared to put out after only meeting a girl?

The thing with STI's is that even if a person were carrying an STI, they may not be aware of it themselves, and six months dating down the line when they decide to have sex is the same as if they'd had sex on the first night.

It's best to encourage people to be responsible for their own sexual health rather than spreading idiotic myths about sex and sexuality.

Kev W

One eyed Jack wrote: »

And the guy prepared to put out after only meeting a girl?

Morally unassailable and a stone cold stud to boot.

High five, bro!

Rachiee

I don't have ONS but it's just because I need to trust someone before I can relax enough to enjoy sex. I'm in my early 30s the vast majority of my friends do have them do engage in ONS though. I don't see the problem in two consenting adults enjoying each others company. Re: STI's I don't see it a particularly riskier other than you are increasing you're number, really unless you see someone else's results in black and white, you don't know what the other person has so waiting a month and to get to know them a bit before sex doesn't mean they are going to be STI free !

Medusa22

Ah I had a few alright when I was single, and I never felt awkward the next day either. Usually I was still a bit drunk and talking shyte

With regards to STDs, just use a condom. To be honest though, I don't think I ever had really good sex with a ONS, relationship sex is the best

Kev W

Medusa22 wrote: »

Ah I had a few alright when I was single, and I never felt awkward the next day either. Usually I was still a bit drunk and talking shyte

With regards to STDs, just use a condom. To be honest though, I don't think I ever had really good sex with a ONS, relationship sex is the best

+1

Fat Christy

Jaysus Brian, you're some man for the threads.

Had a ONS once, never again!! I was deceived!! I thought your wan was a beaut and the next morning I noticed her face was on the pillow. Makeup, the great deceiver. I wont be doing that again.

Mantis Toboggan

I've had a lot of one night stands, especially in the last 3 years. Can't beat sex with a stranger.

Also I'd just like to take this opportunity to thank shows like desperate housewives and sex in the city for allowing women to feel the need to be complete hoors. Sex has gotten so much better in the last 10 years and also so much easier, thank you very much.

Brian from Bray

Fat Christy wrote: »

Jaysus Brian, you're some man for the threads.

Had a ONS once, never again!! I was deceived!! I thought your wan was a beaut and the next morning I noticed her face was on the pillow. Makeup, the great deceiver. I wont be doing that again.

Someone has to keep the forum alive :pac:

speedboatchase

I had two a couple of years ago, within a fairly short span of each other, and in both cases I was back at the girl's place.

Personally I always enjoy the thrill of the conquest and the fact that you can go from strangers, to finding someone attractive, them finding you attractive, and then ending up in bed - all within a few hours - is a bit of a rush.

However, both occasions did feel kinda empty. You're essentially just providing a service. There's no real intimacy and whenever I'm been in a relationship I really enjoying the aspect of cuddling, napping and or relaxing afterwards, rather than getting out of there either instantly or a few hours later.

Whitewinged

Fat Christy wrote: »

Jaysus Brian, you're some man for the threads.

Had a ONS once, never again!! I was deceived!! I thought your wan was a beaut and the next morning I noticed her face was on the pillow. Makeup, the great deceiver. I wont be doing that again.

Ah dont let it get you down, you just had a bad case of something that was explained to me another thread. Its called "buyers regret"

Did it once. Wasn't for me, didn't like the emptiness of it all. I remembered feeling dirty too.

qo2cj1dsne8y4k

Feeling dirty after sex is a plus, no?

LexieOnRale

LexieOnRale wrote: »

Feeling dirty after sex is a plus, no?

Maybe I was too immature to appreciate it! :pac: I was 20 but had a very sheltered upbringing.

ALiasEX

Deleted User wrote: »

Wouldn't have one, married. Have married friends who regularly have them so wouldn't be that judgemental either. Each to their own. As for single friends who do it, good for them. Have a couple of friends that have them pretty much every other weekend, and they seem to escape without the STD or pregnancy thing. So not sure I'd worry too much about those aspects if I was inclined to go for it.

That they know of. How is a girl supposed to know/remember who/where every guy she slept with around the time of conceiving in order to contact them all for a paternity test?

Most of the time there may be only 1 possible father but if she was too drunk to remember, they went back to hers and she only knows his first name, etc.

If you have a ons you should start leaving calling cards.

One eyed Jack

ALiasEX wrote: »

That they know of. How is a girl supposed to know/remember who/where every guy she slept with around the time of conceiving in order to contact them all for a paternity test?

Most of the time there may be only 1 possible father but if she was too drunk to remember, they went back to hers and she only knows his first name, etc.

If you have a ons you should start leaving calling cards.

Perhaps they reduced their risk, or even avoided conceiving in the first place, with contraception?

Shrap

Dennis Reynolds wrote: »

Also I'd just like to take this opportunity to thank shows like desperate housewives and sex in the city for allowing women to feel the need to be complete hoors. Sex has gotten so much better in the last 10 years and also so much easier, thank you very much.

I'd personally like to thank my mother, rather than a TV show, for never passing on some misplaced sense of shame about enjoyment of sex. I think you'll find Dennis, that it's less a case of anyone or anything "allowing" women to feel the need to be complete hoors and more a case of society no longer holding them back from their natural desires. You can thank the Mammies of the generation you're riding for that one, not some crappy tv show. Cheers. :cool:

KERSPLAT!

Have had a few ONS, not near as enjoyable as sex when in a relationship IMO. I was usually plastered so I'm sure that didn't help.

The Randy Riverbeast

I would be up for a ons but my girlfriend would probably complain.

Kev W

The Randy Riverbeast wrote: »

I would be up for a ons but my girlfriend would probably complain.

And we all know how hypocritical that would be.

arayess

I find the drunken 3am sex is exciting but as sex goes it's rarely up there with the best. the sober casual sex though can be pretty intense with the right lady


I think STI's are over hyped to be honest. The media make it sound like there is a plague out there. But in reality when you break the numbers down it's quite low like a few hundred in a city of over a million is small change.
Not saying the consequences aren't serious or advocating not using condoms though

Penny Tration

I've never had one and probably never will, just because I don't like the idea of shagging someone I don't know.

Fair play to anyone who likes them, though.

the evasion_kid

arayess wrote: »

I find the drunken 3am sex is exciting but as sex goes it's rarely up there with the best. the sober casual sex though can be pretty intense with the right lady


I think STI's are over hyped to be honest. The media make it sound like there is a plague out there. But in reality when you break the numbers down it's quite low like a few hundred in a city of over a million is small change.
Not saying the consequences aren't serious or advocating not using condoms though

Compare St James sti clinic from 10 years ago to present day...its quite frightening

One eyed Jack

the evasion_kid wrote: »

Compare St James sti clinic from 10 years ago to present day...its quite frightening

They can even download weekly reports from
Health Protection Surveillance Centre.

youtube!

One eyed Jack wrote: »

They can even download weekly reports from
Health Protection Surveillance Centre.

Well that killed the bloody thread stone dead didn't it??

the evasion_kid

youtube! wrote: »

Well that killed the bloody thread stone dead didn't it??

It ain't no joke when you're sitting in there with a couple of hundred people all locked in tunnel vision...trust me

asherbassad

Brian from Bray wrote: »

Whats your thought on ONS. Have you had one ? If not would you ?

I myself have never had one in fear of picking up an STI or getting someone pregnant. Also not to mention the awkwardness the following morning.

How would you avoid this with a non-ONS?

Aisling(",)

I've had a few but most were with people I already knew like a lad from college or an old friend.
Never really found them awkward the next day you just get on with it.

I just find it annoying that mindset of a girl who sleeps with someone she dosen't know is a slut where as the lad sleeping with the unknown girl gets off scot free.Two consenting adult using protection isn't anyone's business bar theirs.

A Primal Nut

Brian from Bray wrote: »

Whats your thought on ONS. Have you had one ? If not would you ?

I myself have never had one in fear of picking up an STI or getting someone pregnant. Also not to mention the awkwardness the following morning.

Yeah right, as if a guy is gonna turn down sex.:p

arayess

the evasion_kid wrote: »

Compare St James sti clinic from 10 years ago to present day...its quite frightening

10 years ago I met a nice girl from the james hospital used to do some work in the STI clinic too.
nice memories...:)

I'd go private for a test so I guess I don't know james.

10 years ago your one told me they'd a lot of repeat offenders , who went back to the same person who infected them in the first place.
I guess the "only enough blood for your brain or your cock to function" is right

I read the papers and they saw some STI is rising dramatically and the you see there were 300 cases in the year ..and I'm thinking that's not a huge number.
Plus I don't associate with risk groups like IV users

asherbassad

frostyjacks wrote: »

Wouldn't have one. A girl prepared to put out after only meeting a guy is most likely carrying or has carried an STI.

Yeah, like you'd know.

This is the usual excuse from people who are crap at pulling women.

One eyed Jack

Aisling(",) wrote: »

I've had a few but most were with people I already knew like a lad from college or an old friend.
Never really found them awkward the next day you just get on with it.

I just find it annoying that mindset of a girl who sleeps with someone she dosen't know is a slut where as the lad sleeping with the unknown girl gets off scot free. Two consenting adult using protection isn't anyone's business bar theirs.

I find it a good barometer for someone I wouldn't have an ONS with. I think either the person themselves buys into that crap, or doesn't. I'm a guy and in the past I certainly didn't get off anything like scot free, but then I just figured well those people making those sort of judgments, would I want to sleep with them anyway?

No, I really wouldn't, tbh.

Fat Christy

Aisling(",) wrote: »

I've had a few but most were with people I already knew like a lad from college or an old friend.
Never really found them awkward the next day you just get on with it.

I just find it annoying that mindset of a girl who sleeps with someone she dosen't know is a slut where as the lad sleeping with the unknown girl gets off scot free.Two consenting adult using protection isn't anyone's business bar theirs.

I think it comes from the old age misconception that women do not enjoy sex and men are whore mongering savages when it comes it. I think the concept that men are much hornier than women is misconstrued tbh. Both sexes are pretty much on par with one other IMO or Ann Summers/Miss Fantasia and other sex shops would be out of business.

As you said, you should be able to sleep with whoever the hell you want to sleep with, without some busybody passing judgement on it. It doesn't affect them so they should jog on.

eviltwin

Aisling(",) wrote: »

I've had a few but most were with people I already knew like a lad from college or an old friend.
Never really found them awkward the next day you just get on with it.

I just find it annoying that mindset of a girl who sleeps with someone she dosen't know is a slut where as the lad sleeping with the unknown girl gets off scot free.Two consenting adult using protection isn't anyone's business bar theirs.

I don't know anyone who thinks like that anymore. No one under 70 anyway. If that attitude was persistent in the people I know I'd be distancing myself from them tbh. That kind of prudish, outdated thinking based solely on gender lines has no place in a modern society. Sex is a good thing, a pleasurable experience. It's sad some people still use it as a way of judging others

Menas

Fat Christy wrote: »

I think it comes from the old age misconception that women do not enjoy sex and men are whore mongering savages when it comes it. I think the concept that men are much hornier than women is misconstrued tbh. Both sexes are pretty much on par with one other IMO or Ann Summers/Miss Fantasia and other sex shops would be out of business.

As you said, you should be able to sleep with whoever the hell you want to sleep with, without some busybody passing judgement on it. It doesn't affect them so they should jog on.

If the past has taught us anything it is that those who are quick to pass judgement and condemn are the ones with the most to hide. The church in ireland is a good example of this.

Schwiiing

Aint Eazy Being Cheezy wrote: »

If only there was a way of avoiding STIs...

Not sticking your dick in diseased skanks would be a start.