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Sexually incompatible?

  • 06-10-2015 2:01am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi, I am with my girlfriend over three years and our sexlife has become so limited that we might have sex once every two/three weeks which is starting to become a strain on me.

    I've always had a fairly high sex drive but she seems to not place as much importance on it as i do.

    We are considering having children in the future and I do love her but I don't think I can stay faithful in a sexless relationship.

    Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

    Thanks,

    Ned


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  • #2
    Mr. Incognito
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 9,798 ✭✭✭Mr. Incognito


    Speak to her and see why she is retreating sexually.

    Could be a quick fix, could be a natural diminishing of libido, could be anything.

    Explain to her that it is important to you and that once a month wont cut it.

    If she is unwilling to treat it seriously then consider the relationship


  • #3
    pookie82
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,217 ✭✭✭pookie82


    Have you spoken about it? Have you communicated that this doesn't work for you? Are you making regular advances that are rejected?

    Could be the pill, could be she always had a low libido but made more of an effort at the start, could be she doesn't feel appreciated enough/sexy/confident. Has there been weight gain? A change in circumstance? Do you still make time for each other outside of the bedroom, has the romance faded?

    There have been an enormous amount of threads on these boards about sexless marriages and it seems many men/women actually went INTO them in that situation and somehow expected it to change, yet despite repeated pleas and conversations it never did.

    Don't be one of those men, writing here in 5 years about how you thought it'd get better but it never did.

    The first step is talking about it.


  • #4
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Talk to her about it? It's not going to fix itself. Marriage,kids and cheating will definetly not do the situation any favours.
    If you had a chat to her and see how she feels it might make it clearer. Maybe she has no idea so you can't expect her to fix anything if she doesn't know it's broken


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