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Porn Superstar James Deen Accused Of "Rape" On Twitter Faces Ruin. Is This Fair?

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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,536 ✭✭✭Kev W


    kjl wrote: »
    I don't know, I've seen a few videos that prove that Stoya likes to be taken a little rough.

    ...and is therefore unrapeable?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 34,734 ✭✭✭✭Penn


    Penn wrote: »
    b) They may have known that, because of the industry they're in, their accusations would probably be shrugged off as "Pfft... you're in porn", which, not for nothing, is exactly what's happening
    kjl wrote: »
    I don't know, I've seen a few videos that prove that Stoya likes to be taken a little rough.

    Oh good, I was going to go to the trouble of looking to prove my point, but you've saved me the hassle. Thanks.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 9,358 ✭✭✭nozzferrahhtoo


    kjl wrote: »
    I don't know, I've seen a few videos that prove that Stoya likes to be taken a little rough.

    Ah well, in that case I have seen a few videos that prove that Daniel Craig likes to be shot at. :)


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11,790 ✭✭✭✭BattleCorp


    I think if you are raped, the first place you should go is to the police or hospital - not twitter or facebook.


  • Moderators Posts: 51,922 ✭✭✭✭Delirium


    Gyalist wrote: »
    I don't have a dog in this rather unseemly and sordid affair but I can't help but notice that the "accused" man's real name was used in the OP while his "accusers" hide behind pseudonyms.
    James Deen is his porn name, and all parties involved have their real names available online.
    Ah, right. Yeah I don't see what's stupid about that tbh. Given the industry they're working in, allegations like this are quite common, and the fact is that because they treat the issue of rape so trivially, by making allegations of this nature on social media, and considering the industry they work in, there's nothing stupid IMO about suggesting this is nothing more than a stupid publicity stunt.
    So you see nothing stupid in saying that a pornstar is more likely engaging in a PR stunt if she states she has been raped? And given the attitude you've displayed, do you not think that might be part of the reason the rapes may not have been reported?

    I mean why any pornstar report rape if the response is going to be "just a PR stunt"?
    If they had made a report to the authorities, I might be inclined to take their allegations seriously, but as it stands? Not particularly.
    So if women don't report rape (for whatever reason) then they're a liar?
    From what I read of the story last night already, the allegations were shown to be false, but the women maintain that their point was that anyone who makes an allegation of rape against someone should automatically be believed. To me that sounded like backtracking. Their efforts don't do anyone who has been raped, any favours, because they are promoting a recent trend where people are able to exaggerate the perception that false allegations are actually that common, when really, they aren't.
    And saying women who work in certain industries are to be disbelieved by default is a help to people who have been raped???
    That's why I detest the idea of anyone making these sorts of allegations against a person on social media, and that's why I considered the industry they're working in that all they seem to want to do is make a name for themselves at someone else's expense, and at the expense of people who have been raped but are too afraid to make a report to the authorities.
    And yet you've no problem suggesting that women who work in porn are more likely to be engaging in PR stunts than actually be telling the truth about being raped.
    If you want to ignore context, by all means, as is yours and anyone else's right. I simply choose to question the motives of the people making the allegations in this case, not only in the context of their chosen careers, but also in the context of the way in which they made these allegations.
    I've not ignored the context. Three women who work in porn stated they've been raped by a former boyfriend and/or co-star. I've just decided not to suggest they're lying purely because of their profession.
    Tee-shirt wearing scientist, Tim Hunt, etc, it's not beyond the bounds of possibly that these women are simply lying to further their own careers. I'm simply unwilling to believe anything actually happened without so much as a shred of evidence in this particular case.
    You realise that rape of a girlfriend/boyfriend is going to be almost certainly a case of "he said, she said" if they've an active sex life, even more so if they also make porn together.

    You're not just "unwilling to believe anything happened without evidence", you're engaging in mudslinging regarding the women making the allegations (i.e. "the pornstars are possibly lying to further their careers").

    If you can read this, you're too close!



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,536 ✭✭✭Kev W


    How exactly is it good PR for a woman in porn to claim she was raped anyway? For those claiming it as a "PR stunt"?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,431 ✭✭✭MilesMorales1


    BattleCorp wrote: »
    I think if you are raped, the first place you should go is to the police or hospital - not twitter or facebook.

    Cos its really that simple?

    I'll tell you guys for nothing, and I don't usually talk about this, I have been sexually assaulted. And I will tell you, your first thought is not 'to the hospital, to the police, to social media' whatever, your first thought is crazy fear, anxiety, curl up into a ball and just be afraid. Just because these guys didn't immediately run to the police doesn't make it attention seekers, and I'll say again, you guys and your poor attitude is not a good thing.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,003 ✭✭✭Hammer89


    I think Kjl was joking to be fair.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,536 ✭✭✭Kev W


    Hammer89 wrote: »
    I think Kjl was joking to be fair.

    Oh as long as it's just a joke at the expense of a possible rape victim then that's just lovely.


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 24,449 ✭✭✭✭One eyed Jack


    Penn wrote: »
    There are a number of possible factors at play here:

    a) They may have known that there likely wouldn't be enough evidence to make a report to the authorities
    b) They may have known that, because of the industry they're in, their accusations would probably be shrugged off as "Pfft... you're in porn", which, not for nothing, is exactly what's happening
    c) They may have realised that their only course of action given an official report would probably have come to nothing would be to blacken his name publicly through social media
    d) They likely did so even in the knowledge that they would be opening themselves up to a world of online abuse, which is exactly what's happening

    Now, whether they were right or wrong to name him, and whether the accusations are true or not, saying that they're calling this guy a rapist for their own publicity, is quite the accusation to level at them with no basis other than "Pfft... you're in porn"


    I think tbf my assertion was based on quite a bit more than just the fact that these women are porn stars. It was also the way in which they made these allegations, and I clarified that I would feel the same way about anyone who chose to make allegations against someone in this way.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 3,553 ✭✭✭Tarzana2


    Red Kev wrote: »
    Well, there is. If proven incorrect then it's defamation and/or libel and he can sue them into bankruptcy.

    Do you mean making statement on social media or in court? If it emerges that false accusations were made, then there should be consequences for the accuser. And definitely no statements should ever be made on social media.

    But cases of sexual assault can be difficult to prove and I'd hate to think of genuine victims being dissuaded from reporting sexual crimes for fear that there might not be enough evidence for conviction and that they might then be accused of making a false allegation.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 390 ✭✭VisibleGorilla


    Cos its really that simple?

    I'll tell you guys for nothing, and I don't usually talk about this, I have been sexually assaulted. And I will tell you, your first thought is not 'to the hospital, to the police, to social media' whatever, your first thought is crazy fear, anxiety, curl up into a ball and just be afraid. Just because these guys didn't immediately run to the police doesn't make it attention seekers, and I'll say again, you guys and your poor attitude is not a good thing.
    What attitude are you talking about? There is an allegation, nothing more... there is no reason to believe it is true or false at this stage.

    Too often people cry rape with zero evidence and the accused is judged guilty, same thing seems to be happening here.

    If she was raped she should have went directly to the police - she didn't, why?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,431 ✭✭✭MilesMorales1


    What attitude are you talking about? There is an allegation, nothing more... there is no reason to believe it is true or false at this stage.

    Too often people cry rape with zero evidence and the accused is judged guilty, same thing seems to be happening here.

    If she was raped she should have went directly to the police - she didn't, why?

    Did you read my post?

    The gross attitude of 'She might be faking' 'Might be a PR stunt for her career' 'if she didn't go to the authorities straight away it clearly didn't happen' 'they could get sued for libel' etc

    Its actually gross. Of course we shouldn't assume this chap is guilty till proven innocent, but we shouldn't also start diminishing the accusers before any sort of legal process, like what you guys are doing.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,666 ✭✭✭tritium


    Penn wrote: »
    There are a number of possible factors at play here:

    a) They may have known that there likely wouldn't be enough evidence to make a report to the authorities
    b) They may have known that, because of the industry they're in, their accusations would probably be shrugged off as "Pfft... you're in porn", which, not for nothing, is exactly what's happening
    c) They may have realised that their only course of action given an official report would probably have come to nothing would be to blacken his name publicly through social media
    d) They likely did so even in the knowledge that they would be opening themselves up to a world of online abuse, which is exactly what's happening

    Now, whether they were right or wrong to name him, and whether the accusations are true or not, saying that they're calling this guy a rapist for their own publicity, is quite the accusation to level at them with no basis other than "Pfft... you're in porn"

    It might be said that your (entirely hypothetical) scenarios above, given they all point to only one conclusion about the allegation, are also quite the accusation in the absence of anything but a twitter allegation.....


  • Moderators Posts: 51,922 ✭✭✭✭Delirium


    orubiru wrote: »
    But wouldn't you agree that Twitter is the wrong place to make such allegations?

    A lot of people have done a lot of work to encourage victims of sexual assault to speak up and speak out. However, the intention was not to encourage people to just publicly start flinging allegations around. The intention was to have them report these crimes to police and have them investigated.

    People are not saying "speak up about abuse" to raise awareness that these crimes happen. The goal is to put rapists and abusers in prison, get their names on a sex offenders register, and protect other people from them. The goal is not to just shame them and allow them to keep their head down until it all blows over.

    If there are no criminal charges then you are basically giving this guy the opportunity to "play the victim" himself by saying that he has been falsely accused by people looking to push a political agenda. He will get sympathy. Other potential victims will be discouraged from speaking out.

    If there are no criminal charges then everybody loses and the discussion just goes around in circles. He said, she said. Nobody is going to change their point of view. Everyone seems to be just become further entrenched in their views.

    Nobody wins in this situation and the absolute worst case scenario is that they are just putting the idea in people's heads that false allegations are far more widespread and common than they actually are.

    The best case scenario is that the police investigate the allegations and the whole situation reaches a correct and legal conclusion.

    I don't know if he did it or not. Only the people directly involved can know that.

    We are talking about a serious crime here. The police should be involved, if they are not already.

    Taking any kind of serious criminal allegation to Twitter is, in my opinion, absolutely counter productive and, as witnessed on this thread, totally detrimental to the society wide discussion that needs to be had regarding rape.

    The correct procedure would be contact the police and report the rape when it happened.

    We don't know why the women didn't report it. Maybe they considered the possibility of not being taken seriously due to them working in porn (as evidenced in this thread), which is what I was challenging.

    If you can read this, you're too close!



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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11,790 ✭✭✭✭BattleCorp


    Cos its really that simple?

    I'll tell you guys for nothing, and I don't usually talk about this, I have been sexually assaulted. And I will tell you, your first thought is not 'to the hospital, to the police, to social media' whatever, your first thought is crazy fear, anxiety, curl up into a ball and just be afraid. Just because these guys didn't immediately run to the police doesn't make it attention seekers, and I'll say again, you guys and your poor attitude is not a good thing.

    Sorry to hear that you were sexually assaulted, not a nice thing to happen and I wish only bad things to whoever did that to you.

    That said, I don't think that I have a poor attitude. Surely it's good advice to go to hospital or the police or both after being raped?

    I agree with you that somebody who was raped would suffer from fear, anxiety and would be in a confused state. I do think that the girls made a mistake in not going to the police with their allegations before they went to social media. Maybe being confused caused the girls to go through the wrong channel to make allegations against James Deen.

    I'm not saying that their allegations are without foundation, I simply don't know.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 24,449 ✭✭✭✭One eyed Jack


    Delirium wrote: »
    The correct procedure would be contact the police and report the rape when it happened.

    We don't know why the women didn't report it. Maybe they considered the possibility of not being taken seriously due to them working in porn (as evidenced in this thread), which is what I was challenging.


    No, there's a world of a difference between not taking their allegations on social media seriously, and not taking a report to the authorities seriously.

    The fact that they thought they wouldn't be taken seriously by the authorities is on them, nobody else. They're perpetuating that myth, not anyone else.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 1,290 ✭✭✭orubiru


    From the linked article

    "A few people with whom I’ve shared this story over the years have asked me why I didn’t call the police as soon as it happened, or publicly speak up about it shortly thereafter. The reason for that is because people—including the police—tend to believe that sex workers have placed themselves in harm’s way, and therefore can’t be assaulted."

    So there you go. Judging by some of the disgusting attitudes in this thread in fact, I can believe it.

    One of the mechanisms that allows crime to flourish and prosper in certain communities is the perpetuation of the belief that the authorities are either unwilling or unable to help.

    It is an undeniable fact that people are charged, tried and found guilty of rape and sexual assault etc. They are sent to prison and they are put on sex offenders registers. Saying that "the police can't do anything" is not only false but HIGHLY counter productive.

    Look at the Ched Evans case in the UK. The victim went to the cops and, despite the fact that many believe he was innocent, the case went to court, he was found guilty and sentenced to five years in prison and will be on the sex offenders register indefinitely.

    If she had not gone to the cops then the guy would have been free to just continue doing whatever he was doing.

    Perpetuating the myth that the police won't or can't do anything basically just makes the situation a whole lot worse, doesn't it? You are effectively giving the criminals free rein to continue committing their crimes unimpeded.

    There is a contradiction there that we have to untangle before any real progress can be made. We are basically saying "Victims, please speak up and speak out" while simultaneously telling them that nobody can, or will, do anything to help them. "Speak out against injustice but remember that nobody is going to help you when you do".

    Going to the police allows for the possibility that a rapist will be caught, convicted and punished. Going to Twitter allows for the possibility that a rapist can "play the victim" and garner sympathy from those who fear that they will one day be falsely accused.

    Going to the police creates a chance that potential future victims will be protected and it increases the ability to prevent further crimes. Going to Twitter perpetuates the idea that future victims can't turn to the authorities for help.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,536 ✭✭✭Kev W


    They're perpetuating that myth, not anyone else.

    Really? Not anyone?
    Who believes them, other idiots on twitter?

    There aren't going to be too many will take a blind bit of notice of anyone in this scenario tbh.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,431 ✭✭✭MilesMorales1


    orubiru wrote: »
    One of the mechanisms that allows crime to flourish and prosper in certain communities is the perpetuation of the belief that the authorities are either unwilling or unable to help.

    It is an undeniable fact that people are charged, tried and found guilty of rape and sexual assault etc. They are sent to prison and they are put on sex offenders registers. Saying that "the police can't do anything" is not only false but HIGHLY counter productive.

    Look at the Ched Evans case in the UK. The victim went to the cops and, despite the fact that many believe he was innocent, the case went to court, he was found guilty and sentenced to five years in prison and will be on the sex offenders register indefinitely.

    If she had not gone to the cops then the guy would have been free to just continue doing whatever he was doing.

    Perpetuating the myth that the police won't or can't do anything basically just makes the situation a whole lot worse, doesn't it? You are effectively giving the criminals free rein to continue committing their crimes unimpeded.

    There is a contradiction there that we have to untangle before any real progress can be made. We are basically saying "Victims, please speak up and speak out" while simultaneously telling them that nobody can, or will, do anything to help them. "Speak out against injustice but remember that nobody is going to help you when you do".

    Going to the police allows for the possibility that a rapist will be caught, convicted and punished. Going to Twitter allows for the possibility that a rapist can "play the victim" and garner sympathy from those who fear that they will one day be falsely accused.

    Going to the police creates a chance that potential future victims will be protected and it increases the ability to prevent further crimes. Going to Twitter perpetuates the idea that future victims can't turn to the authorities for help.


    I'm not denying that. Doesn't make it any easier to do once its happened to you though.


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 34,734 ✭✭✭✭Penn


    Penn wrote: »
    There are a number of possible factors at play here:

    a) They may have known that there likely wouldn't be enough evidence to make a report to the authorities
    b) They may have known that, because of the industry they're in, their accusations would probably be shrugged off as "Pfft... you're in porn", which, not for nothing, is exactly what's happening
    c) They may have realised that their only course of action given an official report would probably have come to nothing would be to blacken his name publicly through social media
    d) They likely did so even in the knowledge that they would be opening themselves up to a world of online abuse, which is exactly what's happening

    Now, whether they were right or wrong to name him, and whether the accusations are true or not, saying that they're calling this guy a rapist for their own publicity, is quite the accusation to level at them with no basis other than "Pfft... you're in porn"
    tritium wrote: »
    It might be said that your (entirely hypothetical) scenarios above, given they all point to only one conclusion about the allegation, are also quite the accusation in the absence of anything but a twitter allegation.....

    I've highlighted parts of my post which were made intentionally with the purpose of making the point that we don't know what happened or didn't happen, or their reasoning behind making these accusations on Twitter. My point was, their accusations, whether true or not, are largely being dismissed because of who they are as opposed to what they're saying.


  • Moderators Posts: 51,922 ✭✭✭✭Delirium


    No, there's a world of a difference between not taking their allegations on social media seriously, and not taking a report to the authorities seriously.
    But you went beyond that....

    Sorry, no, of course I don't think porn stars can't be raped, and of course it's important that a person who is raped is taken seriously. I'm just not inclined to take anyone too seriously that makes those sorts of allegations against anyone else on social media.

    Considering the industry they're all in, it strikes me as more a stupid publicity stunt than anything I should be likely to get too worked up over is all.
    The fact that they thought they wouldn't be taken seriously by the authorities is on them, nobody else. They're perpetuating that myth, not anyone else.

    So you see no problem with people suggesting that "women are lying about rape to further their career" / "well it's probably a PR stunt"?

    Does that sort of attitude not increase the likelihood that women won't report when they've been raped?

    If you can read this, you're too close!



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 24,449 ✭✭✭✭One eyed Jack


    Kev W wrote: »
    Really? Not anyone?


    That point was based on the fact that they made the allegations on social media. I wouldn't have made the same point at all if they had made a report to the authorities.

    Why would I lend any weight to allegations made by someone on social media without having first made any attempt to approach the authorities?

    If they were worried about not being believed by the authorities, then what would suggest that they would be taken any more seriously by anyone on social media who can do absolutely nothing about their allegations?

    What do you think that's supposed to achieve?

    I don't see it achieving anything only encouraging people to make allegations on social media, instead of going to the authorities.

    That's what's stupid IMO, and puts back work done by victim support organisations and the authorities, decades.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 488 ✭✭smoking_kills


    That point was based on the fact that they made the allegations on social media. I wouldn't have made the same point at all if they had made a report to the authorities.

    Why would I lend any weight to allegations made by someone on social media without having first made any attempt to approach the authorities?

    If they were worried about not being believed by the authorities, then what would suggest that they would be taken any more seriously by anyone on social media who can do absolutely nothing about their allegations?

    What do you think that's supposed to achieve?

    I don't see it achieving anything only encouraging people to make allegations on social media, instead of going to the authorities.

    That's what's stupid IMO, and puts back work done by victim support organisations and the authorities, decades.

    Twitter or Facebook is going to get Sued over something like this. The sooner the better too.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 24,449 ✭✭✭✭One eyed Jack


    Delirium wrote: »
    But you went beyond that....






    So you see no problem with people suggesting that "women are lying about rape to further their career" / "well it's probably a PR stunt"?

    Does that sort of attitude not increase the likelihood that women won't report when they've been raped?


    It's like you can't tell the difference between an allegation against a person made on social media, and an actual report to police that they were raped. Given that they made no report to the authorities, I can assume that the women in this case were engaging in a publicity stunt.

    No I don't think that attitude discourages anyone (man or woman) from making a report to the authorities, because those men and women aren't working in the porn industry where allegations of rape and sexual assault are often trivialised by performers.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,536 ✭✭✭Kev W


    That point was based on the fact that they made the allegations on social media. I wouldn't have made the same point at all if they had made a report to the authorities.

    Why would I lend any weight to allegations made by someone on social media without having first made any attempt to approach the authorities?

    If they were worried about not being believed by the authorities, then what would suggest that they would be taken any more seriously by anyone on social media who can do absolutely nothing about their allegations?

    What do you think that's supposed to achieve?

    I don't see it achieving anything only encouraging people to make allegations on social media, instead of going to the authorities.

    That's what's stupid IMO, and puts back work done by victim support organisations and the authorities, decades.

    If you read the actual tweets, Stoya got sick of people praising her rapist as a feminist and boy-next-door sweetheart and having to "just(...) nod and smile when people bring him up". She felt she had to say something and Twitter is a venue for saying things.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,536 ✭✭✭Kev W


    It's like you can't tell the difference between an allegation against a person made on social media, and an actual report to police that they were raped. Given that they made no report to the authorities, I can assume that the women in this case were engaging in a publicity stunt.

    No I don't think that attitude discourages anyone (man or woman) from making a report to the authorities, because those men and women aren't working in the porn industry where allegations of rape and sexual assault are often trivialised by performers.

    You can indeed assume that. You should not and have no reason to, but you are clearly capable, for whatever reasons you may have.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 4,436 ✭✭✭c_man


    Kev W wrote: »
    If you reads the actual tweets, Stoya got sick of people praising her rapist as a feminist and boy-next-door sweetheart and having to "just(...) nod and smile when people bring him up". She felt she had to say something and Twitter is a venue for saying things.

    Well I guess it works at least. His guilt has already been decided.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,536 ✭✭✭Kev W


    c_man wrote: »
    Well I guess it works at least. His guilt has already been decided.

    I was speaking in the terms given in the tweet.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 24,449 ✭✭✭✭One eyed Jack


    Kev W wrote: »
    You can indeed assume that. You should not and have no reason to, but you are clearly capable, for whatever reasons you may have.


    Thanks Kev, I appreciate your giving me permission to think for myself ;)


    Seriously though, I gave my reasons, numerous times in this thread already, and people are still attempting to twist what I've said and try amd put words in my mouth.

    I don't have any bad attitude towards women, I just don't have any time for anyone who makes allegations of rape against anyone on social media rather than going to the authorities first.


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 1,290 ✭✭✭orubiru


    I'm not denying that. Doesn't make it any easier to do once its happened to you though.

    No doubt but this is where society has to step in and help.

    Victims need support.

    Forget random jokes or tweets from "misogynists". It's all just background noise. Ignore it.

    What we need to see is a process where society actively teaches people how to deal with situations like this.

    Yeah, it's never easy for the individual to cope with what has happened but the culture we live in can certainly make it easier.

    When someone takes to Twitter to make an allegation of rape and doesn't go to the police based on the, demonstrably false, belief that they can't or won't help then that is a failure of our culture. The culture itself has managed to convince a woman that calling the police is useless but speaking out on Twitter is to be applauded. It's a miserable state of affairs.

    So who is responsible for that? Who has been telling women and girls that the police can't or won't help rape victims? Who has been telling them that the law condones rape and just lets rapists walk away without facing any consequences?

    That's where the problem lies. We need to dismantle that kind of delusional and negative thinking and teach people about the reality of dealing with these kinds of things. We need to stop telling women that nobody cares enough to help them and start giving them rational, functional, advice.

    Otherwise, we just go around and around. The problem with Twitter is than when something as serious as this is posted you are still gonna get daft idiots who think a bit of trolling is a good laugh. It creates a false impression of the world. It's depressing as f*ck. Most people are more than willing to help, the police are absolutely willing and well equipped to help.

    Victims should be encouraged to reach out to the authorities that can offer the most effective assistance. Instead they are, apparently, encouraged to post statements on social media.


  • Moderators Posts: 51,922 ✭✭✭✭Delirium


    It's like you can't tell the difference between an allegation against a person made on social media, and an actual report to police that they were raped. Given that they made no report to the authorities, I can assume that the women in this case were engaging in a publicity stunt.
    Because those are the only two options? That falls back to the position that anyone who claims to be raped and doesn't report it is a liar.

    That's not going to help people who have been raped feel confident of reporting if they're working from the default of being classed as liars.
    No I don't think that attitude discourages anyone (man or woman) from making a report to the authorities, because those men and women aren't working in the porn industry where allegations of rape and sexual assault are often trivialised by performers.
    And the people who work in porn be damned even though they may never have made porn that contains a rape scene?

    By introducing the qualification that some people are not to be believed due to profession, that means others may rethink reporting due to their work or having an active sex life.

    If you can read this, you're too close!



  • Closed Accounts Posts: 34,809 ✭✭✭✭smash


    It's not just a single tweet, there's been multiple allegations now, including this one:

    "Lux alleged that Deen assaulted her. "He proceeded to straddle my chest, pinning down my arms with his knees," she recalled. "Then, he raised his hand high above his head, swinging it down and hitting me in the face and head with an open palm. He did this five or six times—hard—before finally getting off of me."

    https://broadly.vice.com/en_us/article/after-rape-accusations-female-porn-stars-stand-in-solidarity-against-james-deen


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,134 ✭✭✭Lux23


    I don't think its fair at all. If he is guilty then its not fair that his victims may not see real justice, if he is innocent then its unfair to drag his name through the dirt.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,536 ✭✭✭Kev W


    Thanks Kev, I appreciate your giving me permission to think for myself ;)

    I agreed that you can come to your own conclusions. Agreeing isn't the same as giving "permission". But if you need that win, you can have it.
    Seriously though, I gave my reasons, numerous times in this thread already, and people are still attempting to twist what I've said and try amd put words in my mouth.

    Quoting you isn't putting words in your mouth. The words come from you.
    I don't have any bad attitude towards women,

    You are of course the best person to make that judgement. :)
    I just don't have any time for anyone who makes allegations of rape against anyone on social media rather than going to the authorities first.

    Enough time to insinuate multiple times that they are liars and should not be listened to, but no more than that, right?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 24,449 ✭✭✭✭One eyed Jack


    Delirium wrote: »
    Because those are the only two options? That falls back to the position that anyone who claims to be raped and doesn't report it is a liar.

    That's not going to help people who have been raped feel confident of reporting if they're working from the default of being classed as liars.


    You're making it very hard to have any chance of a discussion if you're not even willing to read what I wrote, instead of substituting it for your own script.


    And the people who work in porn be damned even though they may never have made porn that contains a rape scene?

    By introducing the qualification that some people are not to be believed due to profession, that means others may rethink reporting due to their work or having an active sex life.


    That's the only possible outcome? I'm not the person who introduced that belief btw, that belief was perpetuated by these women themselves.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,536 ✭✭✭Kev W


    That's the only possible outcome? I'm not the person who introduced that belief btw, that belief was perpetuated by these women themselves.

    Why do you suppose they held that belief?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,613 ✭✭✭newport2


    Lux23 wrote: »
    I don't think its fair at all. If he is guilty then its not fair that his victims may not see real justice, if he is innocent then its unfair to drag his name through the dirt.

    If he is guilty then this may get him off the hook for this and any other similar offences. His defense could surely now rightly claim that there is no way for him to get a fair trial after all the media attention generated by the social media allegations.


  • Moderators Posts: 51,922 ✭✭✭✭Delirium


    You're making it very hard to have any chance of a discussion if you're not even willing to read what I wrote, instead of substituting it for your own script.
    you said:
    Given that they made no report to the authorities, I can assume that the women in this case were engaging in a publicity stunt.
    How is asking a question substituting anything?

    I asked if those were only two options, i.e. make a report or lying (based on what you posted). Granted I expanded a bit on the lying part of the question, but it was still a question nonetheless.

    Is it not also possible they are telling the truth about their rapes?

    That's the only possible outcome? I'm not the person who introduced that belief btw, that belief was perpetuated by these women themselves.
    Never said it was the only outcome, just that some people who have been raped may not report their rape due to statements such as the type expressed by yourself.

    If you can read this, you're too close!



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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,068 ✭✭✭LoonyLovegood


    I saw Stoya's tweet and wasn't surprised, there's been rumours online for a while that Deen wasn't the nicest human being. But to criticise someone for their alleged rape because of their career is ridiculous. People are forgetting that at the time they were in a relationship, and it wasn't too long ago that people thought you couldn't be raped by a romantic partner.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 3,389 ✭✭✭NachoBusiness


    Considering the industry they're all in, it strikes me as more a stupid publicity stunt than anything I should be likely to get too worked up over is all.

    Idiotic thing to say. A female porn star making an accusation of rape would be considered career suicide as no production company would want to work with them for fear that they might make a similar accusation about a male co-star while working on one of their films. A publicity stunt is the very last thing an accusation like this would be.

    When I first heard these accusations I thought it was just residue from her relationship with him and her attempt at hurting him and perhaps bringing him down, given that he has even appeared in mainstream films (The Canyons) but reading some of the people that have come out to back Stoya up makes me wonder. Especially so in the case of Princess Donna, as she was a director at Kink (where some of these assaults / rapes were said to have occurred).

    https://twitter.com/PrincessDonna/status/671508192191361024

    James Franco made a docu about them awhile back. The reason I put credence in the fact that she has backed Stoya up is because she is more than au fait with the whole rape fantasy scenario based films, how girls choose their safe words, how they can stop filming at any time (should they choose to) how they get to choose which male talent they will work with and how they even get to come up with the ins and outs of the rape fantasy themselves. On that basis, it is pretty damning that she seems to be suggesting that Deen is guilty of what Stoya and others have accused him of.

    Also, Kink have released the following statement:
    For the Kink.com community, as well as the larger BDSM community, consent and respect are sacrosanct. Effective immediately, Kink.com will cease all ties with James Deen, both as a performer and a producer.

    Our performers deserve not only safe sets, but the ability to work without fear of assault. Rape or sexual assault, with or without a safe-word, off-set or on, should never be accepted as a hazard of adult production. While many of the allegations against Deen are new, the pattern is alarming.

    Been dropped/agreed to step down from an Adult Performers group which he sat on the board of also.

    In short: No idea if he's is guilty of what's he's been accused of or not but it sure doesn't look good for the guy. One things for sure, he's about to become the Bill Cosby of the porn industry.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 26,578 ✭✭✭✭Turtwig


    there's been rumours online for a while that Deen wasn't the nicest human being.

    See, this is something that truly perplexes me. None of us here, I assume, know either of the parties involved in this. Yet this thread has many examples of presumption of character. Why do people on the internet even presume to believe any form of rumours about someone famous are true? If evidence comes to light then by all means, but just rumours? Nozz referred to the Shermer incident. That was a serious indictment of this internet age. People form opinions on things far too prematurely. Regardless of how all parties in this are behaviour wise, it doesn't actually mean the allegations made are true or false. Deen or his accuser could mostly be an angel or a scumbag but it doesn't actually mean very much. Certain events either occurred or they didn't.

    Presumption of guilt based on perceived character is one of the weirdest things about the human race. Nobody wants it to ever happen to them, yet, just about every single time there's somebody else in the spotlight we make presumptions one way or the other. When people just makes those kind of presumptions I just pray to fck their right. :(


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 1,284 ✭✭✭StewartGriffin


    Turtwig wrote: »
    See, this is something that truly perplexes me. None of us here, I assume, know either of the parties involved in this. Yet this thread has many examples of presumption of character. Why do people on the internet even presume to believe any form of rumours about someone famous are true? If evidence comes to light then by all means, but just rumours? Nozz referred to the Shermer incident. That was a serious indictment of this internet age. People form opinions on things far too prematurely. Regardless of how all parties in this are behaviour wise, it doesn't actually mean the allegations made are true or false. Deen or his accuser could mostly be an angel or a scumbag but it doesn't actually mean very much. Certain events either occurred or they didn't.

    Presumption of guilt based on perceived character is one of the weirdest things about the human race. Nobody wants it to ever happen to them, yet, just about every single time there's somebody else in the spotlight we make presumptions one way or the other. When people just makes those kind of presumptions I just pray to fck their right. :(

    Well put, but the inverse is also true. We can't just assume they're innocent either. Of course the old "innocent until proven guilty adage" tells us to do just that, but people can't be told what to think and nowadays everyone can publish their opinion.

    Does this mean all the James Deen movies will now be removed from Xhamster? :eek::eek:


  • Posts: 0 [Deleted User]


    Is it fair?

    No.

    Of course, it's not.

    I don't know anything about this guy or what he's like, but the way I see it is that he's innocent, until the allegations are proven or not, so to go on social media and essentially destroying his character just isn't on.

    Could it not also possibly destroy their case? I mean, I know we're not allowed to discuss ongoing criminal cases here.


  • Moderators, Music Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 25,734 Mod ✭✭✭✭Boom_Bap


    This thread is being closed.

    There is so much wrong with what has been posted and there is no real direction in the discussion. There are multiple tangents of discussion now such as
    - what constitues rape
    - it's social medias fault
    - they are porn starts, screw them
    - law

    This is going nowhere.


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