Trying to Conceive 2016 onwards Chat Thread

xDisneyDivax

Four times in week should hit it though- if you want to boost chances you can always force your libido to shut up and do it lol

lunamoon

My period isn't due until Friday/Saturday but I'm getting my usual pain in my right shoulder before it comes so think it must be coming early this month.

lunamoon

Got my period I know I haven't been trying very long but I'm already feeling really deflated, drained and like there's something wrong with me.

I think I'll take next month off from trying.

Neyite

Really sorry to hear that luna. It can get very mechanical and stressful very quickly, and it's probably the most unsexy you feel at the time.

I had 29 unsuccessful cycles, and for the last three, was on Clomid. So for the third, I was already resigned to the Clomid not working and doing my research on the next fertility ladder. I actually didn't realise how much of a mental load it was until.. well.. I got the positive test and that mental load was gone. It is hard and if you need to just be kind to yourself and not think about it, that's what you need to do.

How long are you trying? do you think it would help after your break to start the GP bloods/ preliminary referrals? Sometimes it can help to 'do' something about it - other times it doesn't but you are the best judge of how you feel right now.

mirrorwall14

lunamoon wrote: »

Got my period I know I haven't been trying very long but I'm already feeling really deflated, drained and like there's something wrong with me.

I think I'll take next month off from trying.

I’m sorry lunamoon, that’s tough.

Cycle 6 nearly over for me and the temps and negative test this morning tell me i’ll be on my period like clockwork on Wednesday. Cycle 7 here I come.

Currently playing with a Yono an amazing Canadian sent me for free. Temps have been decent, clear ovulation. My own order temp drop is with customs unfortunately so I guess I’ll spend cycle 7 playing with data. The maths teacher in me likes data

mirrorwall14

Cycle 7 for me, 11 since we started. Tempdrop arrived and I’m disappointed because I really don’t like it, it’s uncomfortable and leaves a mark on my arm. Way too much money to not try it I guess

GaGa21

Another failed cycle for me. 10 months of tracking, opks, timing sex. And that's not including the months of whatever happens happens. I started accupuncture 2 months ago thinking that would do the trick so it's hard to take.
I had my AMH blood test done yesterday and booked in for internal scan on Wednesday. Go from there then and see if there's anything else I can do. It's just so disappointing.

lunamoon

GaGa21 wrote: »

Another failed cycle for me. 10 months of tracking, opks, timing sex. And that's not including the months of whatever happens happens. I started accupuncture 2 months ago thinking that would do the trick so it's hard to take.
I had my AMH blood test done yesterday and booked in for internal scan on Wednesday. Go from there then and see if there's anything else I can do. It's just so disappointing.

I know the feeling

I'm not actively trying as long as you but I feel so disheartened already. We needed to take this month off for a medical reason and I hope the break from a schedule will do us good.

lunamoon

Has anyone here been diagnosed with endometriosis? And if so did you go on to conceive?

GaGa21

lunamoon wrote:

Has anyone here been diagnosed with endometriosis? And if so did you go on to conceive?

I have endo and am still trying to conceive, I am stage 4 and in my late thirties. But I know of plenty of women with endo who have conceived naturally. Have you had a recent diagnosis?

lunamoon

I have been getting a pain in my right shoulder before my period is due since I came off the pill which is a symptom. My doctor sent me for the regular blood tests to rule out everything else before sending me for a laparoscopy. In the meantime, I had some bleeding from my umbilical and they removed a clot which they just informed me was endometriosis.

GaGa21

lunamoon wrote:

My doctor sent me for the regular blood tests to rule out everything else before sending me for a laparoscopy.

Yes, a laparoscopy is really the only way of a definitive diagnosis. Please join the EAI group on Facebook (Endometriosis Association of Ireland) if you haven't already. You will find lots of information and support from other endo women. Be as informed as you can going to your consultant as unfortunately the treatment in Ireland is not as advanced/specialised as in other countries. So the more prepared you are to ask questions, then you can make decisions that are right for you, especially if you plan to conceive.

lunamoon

Doctor is referring me to a gyane for a lap. He said if I had it at my belly button there's a good chance I have it elsewhere.

Hopeful2016

Hopeful2016 wrote: »

Just to give an update on this post, unexpectedly got pregnant again on the next cycle and will be 7 weeks tomorrow. Have a scan booked for next weekend and am crossing everything that there’s a heartbeat! Nervous times m, wishing away the weeks.

Best of luck to all x

Just to provide a final update on this as I’m closing this account, currently 12 weeks pregnant and all going well. Had dating scan during the week and baby is measuring right on target and was kicking and waving around. Hard to believe really we have made it to this stage.

Wishing you all the best of luck xx

brokensoul

Hopeful2016 wrote: »

Just to provide a final update on this as I’m closing this account, currently 12 weeks pregnant and all going well. Had dating scan during the week and baby is measuring right on target and was kicking and waving around. Hard to believe really we have made it to this stage.

Wishing you all the best of luck xx

Lovely to hear good news!

Best of luck with your pregnancy.

Newlymrs

Hey gals, quick question for ye, what do you think of the tesco digital pregnancy tests - good / bad?

GaGa21

Hi all,
If anyone is looking, I found the best price on fertility products with Inish free pharmacy. Based in Donegal but online and deliver. Hope that helps.

mirrorwall14

Another cycle start for me. Cycle 8 now since the miscarriage. The joys. Not looking forward to the start of December. On the plus side one of the major stresses in our life for the last year has been removed. The company my husband worked for finally went under and he has started a new job. Who knows. Maybe it will help

Millem

Newlymrs I found the normal
Tesco tests excellent and very sensitive. I used them when trying for my first boy.
I used the first response ones (the early ones) when trying for my second and found them terrible! But people swear by them!! I had to wait ages for a result.

Mirrorwall best of luck next cycle. December was my lucky month last year

mirrorwall14

Newlymrs wrote: »

Hey gals, quick question for ye, what do you think of the tesco digital pregnancy tests - good / bad?

Never tried the digital. I use internet cheap stocks and usually take a first response or clear blue when I’m officially late. Digital are known to have a higher concentration required though so will take longer to register a positive than a bog standard dip stick

mirrorwall14

Cycle 9 seems to have started two days early. What a wonderful Christmas present at almost my expected due date. Bawled my eyes out but coping ok I guess. We’ve had some of the big discussions at this stage and since we have one I don’t really want to go into any major interventions. We’ll go get checked out at the end January as we’ll have been trying a year at that stage with just the one (GP was happy with that) but unless there’s something obviously fixable wrong we may just continue to NTNP for the next few years. If it doesn’t happen we’ll be happy with our little lad (not that we’ll forget what we lost)

Nerd Queen

Long time no post. So after 20 odd months of physio for what was suspected vaginismus I am now being referred to a hymenectomy (which was suggested as a possibility at the start and was actually my preferred option but it was decided physio should be exhausted first) as there is a structural issue that is causing the difficulty for me and OH! So fingers crossed 2018 will be our year! Its great to see the good luck stories here and as always sending hugs to everyone still hoping for their bfp!

mirrorwall14

Nerd Queen wrote: »

Long time no post. So after 20 odd months of physio for what was suspected vaginismus I am now being referred to a hymenectomy (which was suggested as a possibility at the start and was actually my preferred option but it was decided physio should be exhausted first) as there is a structural issue that is causing the difficulty for me and OH! So fingers crossed 2018 will be our year! Its great to see the good luck stories here and as always sending hugs to everyone still hoping for their bfp!

Fingers crossed for you!

lunamoon

Has anyone any experiences with Repromed? I'm torn between them and the Rotunda Private for IUI/IVF.

GaGa21

I haven't tried either but I have been recommended Repromed. I went to Merrion for tests and consult only and am looking to change to Repromed or Sims now for treatment. To be honest, I think these clinics seem to be more advanced than those attached to hospitals but that is only my opinion from research that I've done and the experience I have had so far.

LegacyUser

Going anon for this as I'd rather not post here under my usual username - at least not yet!

Repromed is the only clinic that VHI will cover. We'd already gone to Rotunda IVF for initial tests when I discovered this. We haven't worked out the nitty gritty of price difference yet as we have a little while to decide on our next course of action (IVF or IUI) but I think on first glance when you take the tax back element into consideration, they are somewhat the same. If you can get tax back on a cost already partially covered by VHI (i.e. the portion they don't cover) then Repromed is less expensive.

That said, Rotunda IVF have been very lovely to deal with so far, very practical and reassuring and everything has been explained to us. In fact I just had a call from them there to check up to see how we're doing and if we have any questions or anything we need more info on. Now I know that was a bit of a "sales call" as well but it's nice to have the nurse on the other end of the phone, same nurse who took my bloods last time I was there.

mirrorwall14

I’m due to go in to my GP in January. Does anyone know how it works?

Lucyfur

mirrorwall14 wrote: »

I’m due to go in to my GP in January. Does anyone know how it works?

Generally a referral to a gynae or fertility clinic. You can get bloods done with your GP, which is cheaper than a clinic. Day 3/Day 21 to begin with. I'd encourage anyone to ask for thyroid bloods too. Some clinics want TSH to be under 2.5, especially if recurrent miscarriages have occurred. A semen analysis is needed for your partner. A HSG can be requested as a public patient too, to see if your fallopian tubes are clear.

Besta luck x

happy_out15

So I had two miscarriages in the space of six months. We have been trying for one year. I have a little girl who is two whom I conceived no problem-I know I'm lucky but I really want to give her a sibling. I went to the Beacon yesterday to see if they run any tests on me and the Dr wasn't really keen on it. He recommended to wait for three before running any. He said he would do them if I really wanted to but stated a lot of women have two miscarriages and then go on to have a healthy pregnancy-I just find it hard to believe that nothing is wrong and it's just bad luck.... I don't know what to do-do we try again or go for tests. I asked for a prescription for Progesterone but told me there was no real evidence that would help and was more mental security-he didn't give me one in the end. I'm just so disappointed with the appointment-it really wasn't what I hoped for and I'm just left with not knowing what to do

LegacyUser

happy_out15 wrote: »

So I had two miscarriages in the space of six months. We have been trying for one year. I have a little girl who is two whom I conceived no problem-I know I'm lucky but I really want to give her a sibling. I went to the Beacon yesterday to see if they run any tests on me and the Dr wasn't really keen on it. He recommended to wait for three before running any. He said he would do them if I really wanted to but stated a lot of women have two miscarriages and then go on to have a healthy pregnancy-I just find it hard to believe that nothing is wrong and it's just bad luck.... I don't know what to do-do we try again or go for tests. I asked for a prescription for Progesterone but told me there was no real evidence that would help and was more mental security-he didn't give me one in the end. I'm just so disappointed with the appointment-it really wasn't what I hoped for and I'm just left with not knowing what to do

Hi, I just wanted to try to give you some hope. I’ve had 3 mc and am now 18 weeks pregnant without any intervention except progesterone and baby aspirin. I had basic testing done of mc no. 2 which I didn’t show up any problems. I was also on the progesterone and aspirin for Mc no. 3 but still misscarried.

There was nothing done differently for this pregnancy medically speaking, but I had just started going to accupuncture one a week for a couple of weeks before this pregnancy. That’s probably pure coincidence.

I went to a private consultant to get the progesterone after mc 2, I think I asked upfront before appointment if he presecibed it, if yours doesn’t, I would find one that doesn’t. I don’t know if it helps or not but where is the harm in trying. Once I had the initial prescription my gp would hen prescribe repeat prescriptions.

The maternity hospital kept me on it until 15 weeks on this pregnancy so they must see some value in it.

I had an appointment booked with a fertility clinic for further testing when I unexpectedly got pregnant this time so things really did just work out on their own this time, so far anyway. I’ve no idea why this one stuck while the others didn’t

Sorry to hear how things are now but try to stay hopeful xx