Best way to meet someone offline

TerrorFirmer

I'm 28 and I've met all of my partners the past 3 years through Tinder or online dating. It's a great way to meet people you wouldn't otherwise meet, in my case most of my friends have moved abroad, and I don't get out that often.

Contrary to the above, slipping a pair of suave shoes and an expensive shirt is about the worst advice I've ever heard- if that's the market you're into, off with you, but most of us regardless of gender actually appreciate the person rather than what they're wearing.

ChippingSodbury

The Backwards Man wrote: »

Yup.

Doesn't matter if you have the personality of a wet newspaper, if you have a decent pair of Bruno Magli the world is your oyster.

WTF are Bruno Magli? I'm guessing they're shoes. I think I have 3 pairs of (non-Bruno Magli) shoes. And still my Imelda Marcos of a wife asks me my opinion on which of her many pairs best fit X outfit: I don;t think I'm best qualified to answer that...

Shelga

Lia_lia wrote: »

I know this is a cliche and everyone hates it, but it's true for me anyway. I never understood why so many single people are actively looking to be in a relationship all the time. I enjoyed being single and was never "looking" for a relationship. Never in my life gone on a dating website or out on the pull. Relationships have always just happened! Met my current boyfriend in college and any other ones have been through friends...

:rolleyes: Yeah like no offence, you met him when you were 24.

17-25 are the most amazing years for dating, having fun, not caring what happens either way. I even find it becoming noticeably more draining and less fun in the last 2/3 years, and I'm only 28! I can imagine what it's like when you're 38. Not that there is anything wrong at all with someone being single, but of course the loneliness increases when all your friends are coupled up and moving in to the next stage of their lives.

My best friend who's my age had a temporary split with her long term bf over the summer. Think before it happened she would have been like yourself, then when it did she fell apart and very quickly realised, it's cold out there.

jimmycrackcorm

Deleted User wrote: »

Have you tried Tinder in airplane mode

opportunities with hot air stewardesses unless you're flying Aer Fungus.

thattequilagirl

bruno1x wrote: »

Following the link to your web site, clocked on the About page and there you are in a photo.
You don't look "fun", too dour, doubt many many men would approach as you look like hard work.

Wow, you got all that from one photo.

Just to point out, the thread is about ways to meet members of the opposite sex, since I've been abroad for a long time, not "How can I be more attractive?"

Thanks for absolutely smashing my confidence though, that's helpful.

Shelga

bruno1x wrote: »

Following the link to your web site, clocked on the About page and there you are in a photo.
You don't look "fun", too dour, doubt many many men would approach as you look like hard work.
Smile,be cheerful when you are in pubs, a simple thing but it will work wonders. You will be beating the men off with a stick.

Not cool. Htf can someone look unfun from a photo. Mean.

thattequilagirl

thattequilagirl wrote: »

Wow, you got all that from one photo.

Just to point out, the thread is about ways to meet members of the opposite sex, since I've been abroad for a long time, not "How can I be more attractive?"

Thanks for absolutely smashing my confidence though, that's helpful.

Don't worry missus, he's not the type of lad you're after anyway

I, on the other hand had a look at your instagram profile because I'm one of those creepy weirdos, and I think you look like right craic! I'm very jealous of your travels

Tombi!

bruno1x wrote: »

Following the link to your web site, clocked on the About page and there you are in a photo.
You don't look "fun", too dour, doubt many many men would approach as you look like hard work.
Smile,be cheerful when you are in pubs, a simple thing but it will work wonders. You will be beating the men off with a stick.

Mod: Let's reign it in there with the personal comments and the thread isn't about her appearance so let's drop it.

Shurimgreat

Shurimgreat wrote: »

As a matter of curiosity how many girls are you currently in a relationship with?

Still the two. No intention of going higher.

kyeev wrote: »

1. Sitting down on a night out. Argh. Bloke is not going to come over and plonk himself down beside you, disrupting conversations. You have to stand for the whole night.

Funny you should say that. For whatever reasons some of my single friends had the idea I was good with women so started asking ME for pick up advice. So I made some up on the spot - and they implemented it and it worked.

And all I told them to do is look for girls who are sitting together - look like they know each other well - but have run out of things to talk about so are kinda awkwardly gazing around the place.

Approach THEM - and they will be glad, almost relieved, for the interlude into their awkwardness.

Simply made it up on the spot as I said - but the number of the lads coming back saying it worked wonders is amazing. Goes to show with all these "The Game" and PUA crap around the place - anyone can make up any old crap and it is likely to work if people make the effort to implement it.

bruno1x

Shelga wrote: »

Not cool. Htf can someone look unfun from a photo. Mean.

Is unfun a word?
Men will not approach a girl if see does not look "happy", thats the facts of the matter, why would a man waste time on someone who looks in a bad mood when the other girl is joking and laughing?

Shurimgreat

bruno1x wrote: »

Is unfun a word?
Men will not approach a girl if see does not look "happy", thats the facts of the matter, why would a man waste time on someone who looks in a bad mood when the other girl is joking and laughing?

Maybe to cheer her up? Some men won't approach a happy looking woman because they think she's happy, content, etc in her friends company.

I know what you are saying about sour looking women. Fair enough if you know them well and they always look sour and I do know such women. Some women on the other hand look sour occasionally when they are bored. I'd still give them a chance. If you chat to them and they are still sour and not giving you much back in the way of conversation, fine, move on.

Tombi!

bruno1x won't be posting in the thread anymore, folks. Thanks, Tombi!

Maximus Alexander

Jesus.

syklops

bruno1x wrote: »

Following the link to your web site, clocked on the About page and there you are in a photo.
You don't look "fun", too dour, doubt many many men would approach as you look like hard work.
Smile,be cheerful when you are in pubs, a simple thing but it will work wonders. You will be beating the men off with a stick.

I think she looks super cute.

Maximus Alexander

syklops wrote: »

I think she looks super cute.

And a cursory glance at her blog would suggest that she's anything but dour.

syklops

Maximus Alexander wrote: »

And a cursory glance at her blog would suggest that she's anything but dour.

That was a bizarre comment.

What timing
Guide to the dangers of offline dating

weldoninhio

syklops wrote: »

I think she looks super cute.

100% and has a brain in her head going by the blog

syklops

weldoninhio wrote: »

100% and has a brain in her head going by the blog

Yep. Eloquent and well spoken which is just as attacive IMO.

ChippingSodbury

thattequilagirl wrote: »

Wow, you got all that from one photo.

Just to point out, the thread is about ways to meet members of the opposite sex, since I've been abroad for a long time, not "How can I be more attractive?"

Thanks for absolutely smashing my confidence though, that's helpful.

syklops wrote: »

I think she looks super cute.

Maximus Alexander wrote: »

And a cursory glance at her blog would suggest that she's anything but dour.

weldoninhio wrote: »

100% and has a brain in her head going by the blog

syklops wrote: »

Yep. Eloquent and well spoken which is just as attacive IMO.

There you go Tequila, you must be brimming with confidence now. Get out there and knock 'em dead!!

shamrock2004

I much prefer approaching a girl on a night out. As long as I'm not drunk, I normally stand a chance. Salsa dancing is a really good and fun way to meet a bird also.

ygolometsipe

Lia_lia wrote: »

I know this is a cliche and everyone hates it, but it's true for me anyway.

Funny how life work, what a cliche