Do you look your age?

Stheno

I used get ided buying booze in my mid thirties.

Now in my mid forties, it never happens, so I must look like a raddled old hag

Witchie

The Backwards Man wrote: »

People ask me all the time how many grandkids I have. I think they must take me for a cranky old man

I love cranky old men....seem to have a knack for making them less cranky!

One of the downsides of looking younger is that quite often men, not much older than me will be quite patronising and call me a "good girl" or treat me like am just out of school so won't have a clue what they are talking about.

I love when I shut them down with great knowledge and bamboozle them with language beyond them.

Stheno

Witchie wrote: »

I love cranky old men....seem to have a knack for making them less cranky!

One of the downsides of looking younger is that quite often men, not much older than me will be quite patronising and call me a "good girl" or treat me like am just out of school so won't have a clue what they are talking about.

I love when I shut them down with great knowledge and bamboozle them with language beyond them.

I remember once in my mid thirties, I was classed as a senior consultant and the lead consultant was ancient (and looked it)

One old fart customer asked if I was his PA!!!! When told no, she's your senior consultant, he nearly died.

Calibos

When I tell people I'm 42 invariably I get ,"Fcuk Off!! I thought you were about 26..."


26.

Always 26.

Everyone without fail says 26.

Even that Microsoft age guessing thingy doing the rounds on Facebook a few months ago guessed....26

WTF is it with 26??

I was 26 a few days into the new Millenium.

I put it down to good genes and the fact that I am almost allergic to the Sun. Not a Sun Worshipper at all. Theres nothing that will age skin faster than the Sun.

Funnily enough I happened to read the interview with Catherine Zeta Jones in the Indo last week and she put her youthful looks at 46 down to her Irish and Welsh heritage and how the lack of Sun in Wales and Ireland meant so many Irish and Welsh 30-40 somethings look about.................26

Azalea

Stheno wrote: »

I used get ided buying booze in my mid thirties.

Now in my mid forties, it never happens, so I must look like a raddled old hag

Tis all it could mean indeed.

Azalea

JupiterKid wrote: »

There are people who gradually grow into their looks and get better with age. Helen Mirren is a prime example of a person who looks better with age.

I think she looks old, which of course she would - shes 70. She's lovely looking for sure, looks great at 70, but she looked a lot better imo when she was younger. When she was in her 20s/30s she was incredible.

jimgoose

Azalea wrote: »

I think she looks old, which of course she would - shes 70. She's lovely looking for sure, looks great at 70, but she looked a lot better imo when she was younger. When she was in her 20s/30s she was incredible.

Check out Jan Leeming - she's 74, and a properly beautiful-looking woman.

wakka12

JupiterKid wrote: »

There are people who gradually grow into their looks and get better with age. Helen Mirren is a prime example of a person who looks better with age.

Better? She still looks great, but she was obviously better looking in her 20's/30's

Clearlier

On an Erasmus year in Switzerland at the age of 20 I played with the local rugby team. Towards the end of the year one of them asked me how old I was. Out of curiosity I kicked it back and when he said 35 sent it around the table. The youngest guess was 32 :eek: and that was before I lost all my hair! It did help explain why I've never been age ID'd in my life.

Canard

I'm 21 next week and I don't really look it. Probably because while I'm not short, I'm definitely not 'tall', and I don't grow a whole lot of facial hair It's always very patchy. That said, just before I turned 20 I was on a flight and they asked if I was over 16 to operate the emergency exit doors... that was a new low :pac:

My ID often gets looked at quite closely and everything but I'd rather this than looking really old I think. I don't really mind looking a bit younger, I have my ID so it's not like it causes problems. I look at photos of myself when I was younger and I really don't know why I look older now than I used to... as a few people have said, I think it's the eyes for some reason. Can't really see what else has changed sometimes, besides hair/clothes.

wakka12

Canard wrote: »

I'm 21 next week and I don't really look it. Probably because while I'm not short, I'm definitely not 'tall', and I don't grow a whole lot of facial hair It's always very patchy. That said, just before I turned 20 I was on a flight and they asked if I was over 16 to operate the emergency exit doors... that was a new low :pac:

My ID often gets looked at quite closely and everything but I'd rather this than looking really old I think. I don't really mind looking a bit younger, I have my ID so it's not like it causes problems. I look at photos of myself when I was younger and I really don't know why I look older now than I used to... as a few people have said, I think it's the eyes for some reason. Can't really see what else has changed sometimes, besides hair/clothes.

I was trying to work this out as well. I look pretty much the same as I did when I was about 16, but now I look about 19 or 20. Its not like Ive got more wrinkles since then or anything, maybe its something very subtle or a combination of subtle factors like skin pigment and slightly less fat in the cheeks

Peregrine

Canard wrote: »

I'm 21 next week and I don't really look it. Probably because while I'm not short, I'm definitely not 'tall', and I don't grow a whole lot of facial hair It's always very patchy. That said, just before I turned 20 I was on a flight and they asked if I was over 16 to operate the emergency exit doors... that was a new low :pac:

My ID often gets looked at quite closely and everything but I'd rather this than looking really old I think. I don't really mind looking a bit younger, I have my ID so it's not like it causes problems. I look at photos of myself when I was younger and I really don't know why I look older now than I used to... as a few people have said, I think it's the eyes for some reason. Can't really see what else has changed sometimes, besides hair/clothes.

Is that where the name came from?

pq0n1ct4ve8zf5

Canard wrote: »

I'm 21 next week and I don't really look it. Probably because while I'm not short, I'm definitely not 'tall', and I don't grow a whole lot of facial hair It's always very patchy. That said, just before I turned 20 I was on a flight and they asked if I was over 16 to operate the emergency exit doors... that was a new low :pac:

One time I was helping my brother and his friend move some musical equipment. 'Well hello' the friend said 'I didn't know he had a little sister'

I'm SIX years older than him. Poor friend nearly dropped to the ground with embarrassment when he realised he was talking to an adult :pac:

Canard

Peregrine wrote: »

Is that where the name came from?

No!! :P Despite also having had an eyepatch for like 6 months as a child, it wasn't that either :pac:

Eddie Bumpy Cabinetmaker wrote: »

One time I was helping my brother and his friend move some musical equipment. 'Well hello' the friend said 'I didn't know he had a little sister'

I'm SIX years older than him. Poor friend nearly dropped to the ground with embarrassment when he realised he was talking to an adult :pac:

Hahaha I've had similar moments when I was younger. I have a twin sister and for years people could never tell who was answering the phone! And when I had longer hair (not really girl long, like if I was a girl it'd have been really short), "hello ma'am" when a guy at a tourist thing was checking my ticket, I said "thanks" after and he was like "my apologies, sir", oh the shame :pac: :pac:

dollyk

I had my last child when I was 40. and my eldest son was 23.
My Husband was working when I had to go for my scan, so My son came with me.
His new girlfriend at the time pmsl, rang him to say that it was finished
cause her friend seen him with his pregnant" slut " coming out of the hospital.
I must have looked like a young wan, He said thats my mother.
She said that was the best excuse she ever heard.
Aw they married now 12 years later.

I look every bit my age now.

wakka12

dollyk wrote: »

I had my last child when I was 40. and my eldest son was 23.
My Husband was working when I had to go for my scan, so My son came with me.
His new girlfriend at the time pmsl, rang him to say that it was finished
cause her friend seen him with his pregnant" slut " coming out of the hospital.
I must have looked like a young wan, He said thats my mother.
She said that was the best excuse she ever heard.
Aw they married now 12 years later.

I look every bit my age now.

Haha who knew being called your sons pregnant slut could turn out to be a compliment

Got asked again today am I in college
It's been a long time since college

dollyk

wakka12 wrote: »

Haha who knew being called your sons pregnant slut could turn out to be a compliment

Pmsl, It was her friend that called me that, MY D.I.L
only has really nice things to say about me ha ha :pac:

kfallon

dollyk wrote: »

I had my last child when I was 40. and my eldest son was 23.
My Husband was working when I had to go for my scan, so My son came with me.
His new girlfriend at the time pmsl, rang him to say that it was finished
cause her friend seen him with his pregnant" slut " coming out of the hospital.
I must have looked like a young wan, He said thats my mother.
She said that was the best excuse she ever heard.
Aw they married now 12 years later.

I look every bit my age now.

Does he get bunny stew every night for dinner when he comes home?

LeeLooLee

I'm 30 and apparently I look about 24-25 and even a bit younger than that without make-up. While it's nice to look youthful, it's quite annoying being constantly patronised and treated like a silly young girl. Someone the other day asked me if I was doing my undergrad. I finished my undergrad in 2006, my Master's in 2007 and have been working for 8 years!

LeeLooLee

LeeLooLee wrote: »

I'm 30 and apparently I look about 24-25 and even a bit younger than that without make-up. While it's nice to look youthful, it's quite annoying being constantly patronised and treated like a silly young girl. Someone the other day asked me if I was doing my undergrad. I finished my undergrad in 2006, my Master's in 2007 and have been working for 8 years!

I have to say that even when I was much younger than 24 -25, and looked younger again, I was never treated like a silly young girl, or constantly patronised.

Peregrine

Canard wrote: »

No!! :P Despite also having had an eyepatch for like 6 months as a child, it wasn't that either :pac:

Damn. I thought I had a penny-dropping moment there.

Alas, I'll find out one day :P

LeeLooLee

Candie wrote: »

I have to say that even when I was much younger than 24 -25, and looked younger again, I was never treated like a silly young girl, or constantly patronised.

Well, bully for you.

Maybe you don't work in my field, which is 90% men and people well into their thirties?

LeeLooLee

LeeLooLee wrote: »

Well, bully for you.

Maybe you don't work in my field, which is 90% men and people well into their thirties?

No, I work in a field that's about 80% men and they're all > twenty years my senior. I'm 29 now.

I just think it's unusual for an adult to be treated like a silly young girl, and constantly patronised in this day and age. I'm sure it's very difficult for you.

Canard

Peregrine wrote: »

Damn. I thought I had a penny-dropping moment there.

Alas, I'll find out one day :P

Tell me if you ever find out, I don't even know at this point :P

Renegade Mechanic

Some cheeky git asked if he could use my bus pass. If I could have caught him, I'd ram my walking stick down his neck. Sideways.

Lia_lia

LeeLooLee wrote: »

I'm 30 and apparently I look about 24-25 and even a bit younger than that without make-up. While it's nice to look youthful, it's quite annoying being constantly patronised and treated like a silly young girl. Someone the other day asked me if I was doing my undergrad. I finished my undergrad in 2006, my Master's in 2007 and have been working for 8 years!

I was at a hen night last summer and one of the Bride's Aunts asked if I had just finished my leaving cert...I am 27!

LeeLooLee

Candie wrote: »

No, I work in a field that's about 80% men and they're all > twenty years my senior. I'm 29 now.

I just think it's unusual for an adult to be treated like a silly young girl, and constantly patronised in this day and age. I'm sure it's very difficult for you.

Do you live in Southern Europe? Most people here haven't even finished college by 25. So imagine trying to be taken seriously in a professional context, as a woman, when you look as young as I do. Most of our clients assume I'm either the intern or the receptionist, and/or look right through me to talk to one of the men (some of whom I manage!)

Maybe I took you up wrong, but your comment was very patronising and snide, IMO.

La.de.da

Erm. I'm 31. Apparently I don't look it most people think I'm around 25.

No grey hair yet but a few little lines appearing on the aul mug lately.

LeeLooLee

LeeLooLee wrote: »

Do you live in Southern Europe? Most people here haven't even finished college by 25. So imagine trying to be taken seriously in a professional context, as a woman, when you look as young as I do. Most of our clients assume I'm either the intern or the receptionist, and/or look right through me to talk to one of the men (some of whom I manage!)

Maybe I took you up wrong, but your comment was very patronising and snide, IMO.

You took her up wrong

LeeLooLee

bluewolf wrote: »

You took her up wrong

Apologies if so! People doing my head in daily have me in a bit of a rotten mood by the time I get home!

McChubbin

I'm 28 this year and I don't wear a lot of (if any) make-up at the best of times.
My skin is generally clear and good save for a tiny bit of redness around my T-zone and I moisturise almost daily.
If I had a euro for every time I got carded in Tesco whilst trying to buy alcohol, I'd be a rich woman!
Often been told I look very young for my age, which is nice. Youngest I've been mistaken for is 19! I was made up that day!

Kiwi in IE

My sister is nearly 6 years younger than me. I'm 39 she is 34. I've been mistaken for the younger sister a few times by people who don't know. I love it! She certainly doesn't look older than her age either.

tomthetank

Why is literally every woman convinced she looks younger than she is? Because she gets ID'd once every so often (store policy/force of habit/someone with a general poor judgement of age) or because some fella guessed she was a decade younger (fancies her/charming chit chat/general poor judgement of age)

Most women I know look their age. Whether they're 25 or 35 or 45, it'll come as no surprise and if I was asked I'd hit the right decade more often than not. It's rare I'd be flabbergasted that a woman in her 30s was in her 30s, for example. That doesn't mean they look haggard or old - I know tonnes of gorgeous women at all ages. Some 35 year olds are more attractive than 25 year olds etc. But this obsession with looking younger and harping on about looking younger - why? What's wrong with looking your age?

Ice Maiden

I've no wrinkles (although I have grey/white hairs but I'm always dying my hair anyway) just some very fine lines, so I do look younger and people are surprised at my age... but that said, I agree with you tomthetank! Still ensured to get the bit in about looking younger though.
I haven't been ID'd in years however, so no doubt I don't look that young, just younger than how I'm expected to look for my age.

KungPao

I'm 97 but i was ID'd yesterday! Like lol hello!? Is this mic even on? Hello?

LeeLooLee

tomthetank wrote: »

Why is literally every woman convinced she looks younger than she is? Because she gets ID'd once every so often (store policy/force of habit/someone with a general poor judgement of age) or because some fella guessed she was a decade younger (fancies her/charming chit chat/general poor judgement of age)

Most women I know look their age. Whether they're 25 or 35 or 45, it'll come as no surprise and if I was asked I'd hit the right decade more often than not. It's rare I'd be flabbergasted that a woman in her 30s was in her 30s, for example. That doesn't mean they look haggard or old - I know tonnes of gorgeous women at all ages. Some 35 year olds are more attractive than 25 year olds etc. But this obsession with looking younger and harping on about looking younger - why? What's wrong with looking your age?

There's nothing wrong with looking your age. I can only speak for myself. Virtually everyone guesses I'm 24-25ish. People with absolutely no ulterior motives. I can tell by the way they treat me that they think I'm much younger (thinking I'm a student, saying stuff like 'oh once you're in your thirties, you'll be X/Y/Z'). And I don't think many people are talking about looking decades younger, just a few years, in most cases.

JasmineJasmine

Probably I look about my age, but I don't care about that.

razorblunt

tomthetank wrote: »

Why is literally every woman convinced she looks younger than she is? Because she gets ID'd once every so often (store policy/force of habit/someone with a general poor judgement of age) or because some fella guessed she was a decade younger (fancies her/charming chit chat/general poor judgement of age)

Most women I know look their age. Whether they're 25 or 35 or 45, it'll come as no surprise and if I was asked I'd hit the right decade more often than not. It's rare I'd be flabbergasted that a woman in her 30s was in her 30s, for example. That doesn't mean they look haggard or old - I know tonnes of gorgeous women at all ages. Some 35 year olds are more attractive than 25 year olds etc. But this obsession with looking younger and harping on about looking younger - why? What's wrong with looking your age?

Also need to add in, if you're asked to guess their age you're always going to go waaaaay lower than what you actually think.

Joe prim

Nicolas Cage wrote: »

I've got greying hair, slight thinning on the crown and a bear with a grey chin. 31, but look probably closer to 40. Haven't been asked for ID in 2 years, and that was in Vegas.

If you habitually wander around with a bear with a grey chin, I suspect the last thing people will think, as they flee in terror, is "that lad with the Grizzly is fierce-young looking, so he is"

Joe prim

LeeLooLee wrote: »

I'm 30 and apparently I look about 24-25 and even a bit younger than that without make-up. While it's nice to look youthful, it's quite annoying being constantly patronised and treated like a silly young girl. Someone the other day asked me if I was doing my undergrad. I finished my undergrad in 2006, my Master's in 2007 and have been working for 8 years!

u ok hun?xxx

maudgonner

Joe prim wrote: »

If you habitually wander around with a bear with a grey chin, I suspect the last thing people will think, as they flee in terror, is "that lad with the Grizzly is fierce-young looking, so he is"

I think he misspoke. He actually meant he's got a chin with a grey bear. See...



(If this isn't peak beard by the way, I don't know what is)

Boom_Bap

I've shaved off my beard so I'm being confused for an infant the past few days.

alwaysadub

When I was in my 20s I used to look very young. When I was 22 or 23, myself my mam, my sister and my nephew were out for a meal when we were in Spain or somewhere. At the end of the meal they brought out a complimentary glass of ouzo for my mam and sister. My nephew and I got a lollipop each

Now I'm in my mid/late 30s I've a few grey hairs but people still think I'm in my early 30s so its not too bad. I've a feeling I'm going to wake up one morning though and look about 20 years older than I am.

LizT

I'm 25 and I'd say I look it, if not a bit older. I haven't been IDed in years, even when I was 18/19 I was rarely IDed. Joys of being tall

tomthetank

LeeLooLee wrote: »

There's nothing wrong with looking your age. I can only speak for myself. Virtually everyone guesses I'm 24-25ish. People with absolutely no ulterior motives. I can tell by the way they treat me that they think I'm much younger (thinking I'm a student, saying stuff like 'oh once you're in your thirties, you'll be X/Y/Z'). And I don't think many people are talking about looking decades younger, just a few years, in most cases.

A lot of people think "in your thirties" means married, 2.5 kids, white picket fence type of thing. Proper "adulthood". Especially younger people. Think 30 is ancient so it is, shur their parents had them at that age etc.

You're probably 30 and still living a 20-something lifestyle by their books, as many/most 30 yera olds are these days.

StripedBoxers

I'm mid twenties but often pass for younger. I am always asked for I.D when buying alcohol/cigarettes.

A few years ago I opened the door one summer morning about 7.30 and it was a courier, I'd no make up on or anything and he asked me "if I was finished school for the summer", he got a surprise when I told him I finished a good few years previously. He looked at me blankly and just said "no way?!!" in a really surprised voice. I always find it funny when I get that reaction.

I don't think I look that much younger but apparently I do

beks101

tomthetank wrote: »

A lot of people think "in your thirties" means married, 2.5 kids, white picket fence type of thing. Proper "adulthood". Especially younger people. Think 30 is ancient so it is, shur their parents had them at that age etc.

You're probably 30 and still living a 20-something lifestyle by their books, as many/most 30 yera olds are these days.

Actually there's something to this.

I work for a pretty young company, many of my colleagues are 24/25 just out of college sort of thing and "30" is definitive adulthood to most of them. "I'll be married/making millions/having kids at 30".

I'm not married, no kids, still renting and my lifestyle is not dissimilar to many of theirs (minus the binge drinking, hangovers definitely worse at 30!) so it's always a shock when I tell them my age. Especially the males for some reason. I take care of myself, sure, probably look better at 30 than I did at 24 or 25 if I'm honest but don't think I look exceptionally young or anything.

People really do have a skewed view of age. I think 30 these days is the equivalent of 20 decades ago, lifestyles have changed for women in massive ways but the societal thing is still sort of lagging behind.

My answer is always "this is what 30 looks like love" :P

Donutz

I look my mid 30s age at the moment but if i shaved off my beard, I'd probably be asked for ID in the pubs and off licence.

LeeLooLee

beks101 wrote: »

Actually there's something to this.

I work for a pretty young company, many of my colleagues are 24/25 just out of college sort of thing and "30" is definitive adulthood to most of them. "I'll be married/making millions/having kids at 30".

I'm not married, no kids, still renting and my lifestyle is not dissimilar to many of theirs (minus the binge drinking, hangovers definitely worse at 30!) so it's always a shock when I tell them my age. Especially the males for some reason. I take care of myself, sure, probably look better at 30 than I did at 24 or 25 if I'm honest but don't think I look exceptionally young or anything.

People really do have a skewed view of age. I think 30 these days is the equivalent of 20 decades ago, lifestyles have changed for women in massive ways but the societal thing is still sort of lagging behind.

My answer is always "this is what 30 looks like love" :P

30 is definitely a milestone. I used to think it was old when I was 24/25 as well. The way the cost of living and economy are now, though, most 30-year-olds would be lucky to afford to settle down even if they wanted to. Back when I was a teenager, I always thought I'd be living like Carrie Bradshaw at 30 - in my own little flat, long weekends in New York, a well-paid job. I'm waaaay off any of that. I currently live in Spain and people grow up very, very late in here so as it happens, people are quite impressed that I live alone (renting) and support myself. Most people my age are unmarried and still living at home. It sounds silly but it takes a lot of pressure off....no questions of the 'when are you settling down?' type that I get back home!