Secondary school detention concerns

Juan bu

spurious wrote: »

Would he perhaps need to be assessed for possible problems like dyspraxia?

If he had dyspraxia, no amount of trying on his side will make him better at following rules, instructions, organising himself - and it seems to be small things like that rather than major disciplinary issues he has.

You would be right in saying it's the smaller things and I will look into getting him assesed for dyspraxia don't think anybody has ever suggested this to me before so thank you,most people suggest adhd or dislyexia or the autism

Juan bu

Juan bu wrote: »

You would be right in saying it's the smaller things and I will look into getting him assesed for dyspraxia don't think anybody has ever suggested this to me before so thank you,most people suggest adhd or dislyexia or the autism

You really should consider changing schools and now is the time to start looking for one. He would have Transition Year to settle in, before knuckling down to Leaving Cert.

Juan bu

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You really should consider changing schools and now is the time to start looking for one. He would have Transition Year to settle in, before knuckling down to Leaving Cert.

We are hopefully moving very soon so he will be sitting his junior cert in the school he is in now and a new school in September everything going to plan but even if we don't end up moving ,
I'm changing him to a different school anyway ,if I'm stressed by the school so must my son which is not going to help his education

spurious

If it's a factor, some ETB schools have in-house facilities for assessment. I don't know how much a private assessment costs, but I would guess it's not cheap.

Juan bu

spurious wrote: »

If it's a factor, some ETB schools have in-house facilities for assessment. I don't know how much a private assessment costs, but I would guess it's not cheap.

Thank you for the info

80s Child

spurious wrote: »

If it's a factor, some ETB schools have in-house facilities for assessment. I don't know how much a private assessment costs, but I would guess it's not cheap.

Your child should be able to be assessed through the school through the S.E.N. Head. They have an allowance each year for a certain number of cases, based on the number of students in the school.

When you go in Monday to get everything sorted, be calm, maybe have everything written down for yourself as a checklist and make sure this is one of the points on the list, after you've discussed the more apparent detention issues!

Good luck with it!

byhookorbycrook

Who assessed for ADHD?ASD etc.?

Stheno

Juan bu wrote: »

I honestly do understand what your saying and yes there is an eportal set up but also if he is behaving in the way that he has been portrayed on here surely it would not be just one teacher I'm having these issues with I'm in contact with the school fairly regular as yes he did get if hard to settle into the whole secondary school programme and I do keep an eye on his progress which I might add has come a long way and plus he has come out as been gay in the last year so I do keep in contact with the school to make sure everything is ok , just this one teacher seems to have it in for him

Is it possible the teacher is homophobic?

Juan bu

Stheno wrote: »

Is it possible the teacher is homophobic?

I really don't think so but then again who knows

sryanbruen

I once got detention last month for nothing. I sent in a complaint to my school and they took it as that I was saying they weren't doing a good job and hurting them but I was actually hurting myself.

"Somedays I wish a car could run me over. Yes I am achieving something from doing this. I am getting out of this misery."

I should not have been in detention. The principal didn't even know I was on detention - I could of not went at all!

gormdubhgorm

This thread seems to have got even more layered and complicated. Wow! All sorts of side issues/potential issues.

Juan bu

gormdubhgorm wrote: »

This thread seems to have got even more layered and complicated. Wow! All sorts of side issues/potential issues.

Well been to the school and just as I expected twisting everything to suit themselves as far as I'm concerned they have shredded their credibility when it comes to me

SAMTALK

Juan bu wrote: »

Well been to the school and just as I expected twisting everything to suit themselves as far as I'm concerned they have shredded their credibility when it comes to me

Can you tell us more?

Mary63

Definitely change schools.

I can't make any sense of what your grievances are and I have read this thread from start to finish.If this is where you are at with the school despite as you say regularly going in there is no point to anymore dealings with the school staff.

You still haven't say what the teacher is doing to be called a bully,what exactly is your son doing with his hair and why can't he stop if its annoying the teacher,simple as.

You say your son has matured but he seems to have caused a lot of trouble in the early years and most students don't,he is now fifteen and still not doing what he is told,e.g. hair incident.The school are probably hoping if they adopt a zero tolerance policy now he will leave,the other students and their parents are hoping against hope he will leave too.

What size is the school,have you given any thought at all to how much time you and your ds are taking up in school time.Have you younger children coming up the line,would it be that the school are afraid if your ds doesn't move on they will have six more years of this with younger siblings.

SAMTALK

Mary63 wrote: »

Definitely change schools.

I can't make any sense of what your grievances are and I have read this thread from start to finish.If this is where you are at with the school despite as you say regularly going in there is no point to anymore dealings with the school staff.

You still haven't say what the teacher is doing to be called a bully,what exactly is your son doing with his hair and why can't he stop if its annoying the teacher,simple as.

You say your son has matured but he seems to have caused a lot of trouble in the early years and most students don't,he is now fifteen and still not doing what he is told,e.g. hair incident.The school are probably hoping if they adopt a zero tolerance policy now he will leave,the other students and their parents are hoping against hope he will leave too.

What size is the school,have you given any thought at all to how much time you and your ds are taking up in school time.Have you younger children coming up the line,would it be that the school are afraid if your ds doesn't move on they will have six more years of this with younger siblings.

I would hope that no school would judge children on previous siblings behaviour .

Mary63

I would think its a case of see one see them all.

haveringchick

Juan bu wrote: »

Well been to the school and just as I expected twisting everything to suit themselves as far as I'm concerned they have shredded their credibility when it comes to me

Juan I think you need to get some help with this issue
You need to contact the newb

http://www.newb.ie/about_us/contact_us.asp
Your son has quite a lot on his plate, and he needs to be just in school like all the other kids, not at the centre of a big row between you and the teachers
If you are going to the school to confront them, then it's you, not them that's the instigator
The Officer from your area will meet with you to discuss the situation
Then he'll meet with the school and will act as a mediator
Juan you will have to accept that to some degree your son has been uncooperative at school
Ask yourself this.
If all the kids at his school needed the amount of attention down there as he's getting, how could they manage?

seavill

Juan bu wrote: »

Well been to the school and just as I expected twisting everything to suit themselves as far as I'm concerned they have shredded their credibility when it comes to me

What exactly does this mean? This is why the thread went are ways last time cause of cryptic unclear posts

haveringchick

seavill wrote: »

What exactly does this mean? This is why the thread went are ways last time cause of cryptic unclear posts

I would love if the OP was completely honest st this stage and told us exactly what was said at this meeting today.
Not the OPs interpretation of what was said
But what actually did happen
I would also love if the OP could tell us what she hoped to achieve at the meeting today
What did she honestly hope would be the outcome

gormdubhgorm

SAMTALK wrote: »

I would hope that no school would judge children on previous siblings behaviour .

They shouldn't but some do to be honest! It is human nature I suppose.

dollyk

gormdubhgorm wrote: »

They shouldn't but some do to be honest! It is human nature I suppose.

Oh They can. One Teacher many years ago took a dislike to my second eldest son. He could never do right from wrong.
I was a young mother and could not get to the bottom of it for weeks
as I would get upset at every meeting, so I brought my brother with me
and it came out that the teacher believed my son was not trying to reach his potential as his older brother had .
The principle moved him to another class for that subject, and he settled well.
Looking back I dont think the teacher was being nasty, He just really believed he was being Lazy, which he wasnt.

Chezzielove.2

Nowadays you can get detentions for everything, my vice principle loves to give ones for hugging people, patting on the back, walking 'too' fast, not looking her in the eyes, God we can get detentions for sitting in corridors for lunch, even though there is no where to sit at all.