Anxiety and depression thread (Please read OP)

Gremlinertia

In a heap today. Everything around me is lovely which is just making it feel worse. Like i am selfish for feeling bad.

Hugo Stiglitz

Gremlinertia wrote: »

In a heap today. Everything around me is lovely which is just making it feel worse. Like i am selfish for feeling bad.

*hugs* Sorry to hear that, Grem.

You're not selfish at all. That's just how our heads mess with us. Like it's a survival mechanism for the bad thoughts to continue.

Hope things ease off for you there soon.

jsms88

Gremlinertia wrote: »

In a heap today. Everything around me is lovely which is just making it feel worse. Like i am selfish for feeling bad.

It's not selfish. I'm sure you'd prefer not to be feeling that way, right?

The nicer and more wonderful the things and people around me are, the worse I feel sometimes. I think it's an inbuilt fear I have of disappointing people and losing things I love.

I'm not good with change, good or bad, which doesn't help either. Even though some changes that I was dreading in the past turned out to be fantastic for me.

Hugo Stiglitz

jsms88 wrote: »

It's not selfish. I'm sure you'd prefer not to be feeling that way, right?

The nicer and more wonderful the things and people around me are, the worse I feel sometimes. I think it's an inbuilt fear I have of disappointing people and losing things I love.

I'm not good with change, good or bad, which doesn't help either. Even though some changes that I was dreading in the past turned out to be fantastic for me.

For myself, seeing people being happy can really bum me out. Like there's a lot of resentment as I feel like I'm missing out.

Shpudnik

Hugo Stiglitz wrote: »

For myself, seeing people being happy can really bum me out. Like there's a lot of resentment as I feel like I'm missing out.

I feel the same way sometimes. Like how can they be happy and I cant.

Hugo Stiglitz

Shpudnik wrote: »

I feel the same way sometimes. Like how can they be happy and I cant.

I'm very bitter. All my own fault though. I isolated myself from the world yet I complain about being lonely.

jsms88

Hugo Stiglitz wrote: »

For myself, seeing people being happy can really bum me out. Like there's a lot of resentment as I feel like I'm missing out.

Yea, how come they are able for all the different challenges of life when I find it so difficult.

cazzer22

Saw a comedian performing last weekend that began his set with 'I've been suffering from anxiety and depression for many years' which I thought was incredible. He also asked the crowd if anyone was in therapy, loads of hands shot up and it even got a clap. You could see he was visibly nervous, but I loved his set and he was so open and honest. He got a great reception. It's amazing that there are so many people suffering from this that we may not even realise. We are finally beginning to talk about it and it's amazing.

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cazzer22 wrote: »

Saw a comedian performing last weekend that began his set with 'I've been suffering from anxiety and depression for many years' which I thought was incredible. He also asked the crowd if anyone was in therapy, loads of hands shot up and it even got a clap. You could see he was visibly nervous, but I loved his set and he was so open and honest. He got a great reception. It's amazing that there are so many people suffering from this that we may not even realise. We are finally beginning to talk about it and it's amazing.

Lovely post, thanks for sharing! That's the thing with anxiety and depression it can you make you feel very isolated and alone. So even though you wouldn't wish it on another person it is nice to know that you are not the only going through it.

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jsms88 wrote: »

Yea, how come they are able for all the different challenges of life when I find it so difficult.

It's the depression talking. Even though I love to hear other peoples good news, I always find myself saying to myself afterwards, how come there life is so good and how come things come to them so easily when my life is a constant struggle.

Hope you have a good day:)!

Tell me how

jsms88 wrote:

Yea, how come they are able for all the different challenges of life when I find it so difficult.

I would echo what Can I Come too said.

Also, it's yours/our perception that others are coping well. In reality, one of those who you see coping well could also be reading and posting here. We have no idea what's truly going on in a person's life.

inca2

Tell me how wrote: »

I would echo what Can I Come too said.

Also, it's yours/our perception that others are coping well. In reality, one of those who you see coping well could also be reading and posting here. We have no idea what's truly going on in a person's life.

Agreed. I recently discovered that many people viewed me as a person who coped well with all of life's challenges, always seemed to be enjoying myself etc. Far from it, and it's not the case for anyone. We ALL fight our own battles day in, day out. Some just put on a better show than others. Social media just fuels this too. How many people do you know who post about the negative aspects of their life? Very few, I'd imagine. We're all struggling, but we'll all get there. The fight can be so worth it.

jsms88

Thanks for the responses everyone. Yea, I know that you never know what is really going on in people's lives.

But some people really do a great job of appearing like there flying high all the time. Social media definitely doesn't help.

Although, I'd say lots of people think my life is pretty great but they just don't know.

Shpudnik

inca2 wrote: »

Agreed. I recently discovered that many people viewed me as a person who coped well with all of life's challenges, always seemed to be enjoying myself etc. Far from it, and it's not the case for anyone.

So true. The amount of people would say I'm loving life but that's because they only see me at school and not when I'm feeling down.


On the other hand I'm very open on my social media which had gotten me in trouble in the past.

Hugo Stiglitz

Is hope a dangerous thing?

Tell me how

Hugo Stiglitz wrote:

Is hope a dangerous thing?

No. It's a good thing. It keeps us going until it turns in to belief that things will be better.

Hugo Stiglitz

Tell me how wrote: »

No. It's a good thing. It keeps us going until it turns in to belief that things will be better.

I'm on the fence. Like I agree with you there but a part of me feels that having hope just makes the regular tripping up really painful, and that maybe trying to accept and come to peace with this might be less painful in the long-term.

I'm sorry. I'm just very funky lately. I really hope my recent posts aren't offensive or anything.

Gremlinertia

Hope is a broad word, sometimes we go to work or bed or wherever thinking we are pretty ok only for it to go sour, other times we are managing to be somewhat positive, thing is - we all differ hugely, we just try to do what we are individually capable of at the time..

Shpudnik

Why can things go from being so good to crashing down so fast?

Tell me how

Hugo Stiglitz wrote:

I'm sorry. I'm just very funky lately. I really hope my recent posts aren't offensive or anything.

Never offensive Hugo.
Hopefully (that word again) your low period will come to an end soon.

Gremlinertia

Shpudnik wrote: »

Why can things go from being so good to crashing down so fast?

I have no real answer for that other than it really just does.. For all of us, i've woken up wanting some popcorn i'm so happy, only to want to sit on a rock on my own minutes later. That's why, for me, i keep in touch with others when i can

Shpudnik

Absolutely no motivation to do anything today. I wish I could just hide away from the world.

Hugo Stiglitz

Gremlinertia wrote: »

Hope is a broad word, sometimes we go to work or bed or wherever thinking we are pretty ok only for it to go sour, other times we are managing to be somewhat positive, thing is - we all differ hugely, we just try to do what we are individually capable of at the time..

Very well put. I suppose we should really just live in the moment and try make it work. Worrying about the future never gets us anywhere.

Hugo Stiglitz

Tell me how wrote: »

Never offensive Hugo.
Hopefully (that word again) your low period will come to an end soon.

Thanks, TMH. Feeling pretty good at the moment thankfully.

Hopefully ye all are doing well at the moment.

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I worry far too much about other people think and it only wrecks my own head and adds to my A&D. But I am thankfully slowly beginning to realize that what people think, have or do is none of my business and vice versa. I am responsible for my own life and happiness and if people don't like it or approve, it is their own tough titties:D!

Hope.. Myself and hope have a bit of love hate relationship and it has been both a blessing and a curse. But I'm a 35 year old single parent so I am as well to stick with it as to have nothing else.

We all have a cross of some sort to carry in life, so just because someone looks to be happy and have it all doesn't mean they are, looks can and are very deceiving. We deserve to be happy and hopefully one day we will be.

Wishing everyone a great day! And as Winston Churchill once said:

"If you are going to hell, keep going."

:):):):):):):)

Mam of 4

Can I come too... wrote: »

I worry far too much about other people think and it only wrecks my own head and adds to my A&D. But I am thankfully slowly beginning to realize that what people think, have or do is none of my business and vice versa. I am responsible for my own life and happiness and if people don't like it or approve, it is their own tough titties:D!

Hope.. Myself and hope have a bit of love hate relationship and it has been both a blessing and a curse. But I'm a 35 year old single parent so I am as well to stick with it as to have nothing else.

We all have a cross of some sort to carry in life, so just because someone looks to be happy and have it all doesn't mean they are, looks can and are very deceiving. We deserve to be happy and hopefully one day we will be.

Wishing everyone a great day! And as Winston Churchill once said:

"If you are going to hell, keep going."

:):):):):):):)

Well said Can I come Too

Appearances can be so very deceptive , and the ones we think that have it all together and are happy , are often the ones who are falling apart internally ..

Stay safe all

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Can I come too....

Thank you for such a positive post, its given me bit of a lift!

Shpudnik

Proper downer from the effects of painkillers tonight. I wish I could stop taking them but the consequences would be worse. I wish I had a doctor that listened.

crispycrisps

I cried myself asleep last night, just burst out crying for no specific reason when I got into bed.

I feel completely hopeless lately and feel like I have nothing to live for. That I just exist.

And I'm exhausted. Even getting out of bed and dressed is a struggle

Tell me how

Shpudnik wrote:

I wish I had a doctor that listened.

What do they say when you talk to them? They are the professionals, it can be difficult but they need to be listened to or its a very slippery slope down hill.