Anxiety and depression thread (Please read OP)

emantrsu

Hi all,

Sorry to jump in on your thread and im not sure my question is allowed but here goes. I'll give a very very brief overview.

My sister suffers with mental health problems and has done for a very long time. She is having a bad time now owing to deaths in our family.

My question is this- short of ringing every gp in the greater dublin area we are at a loss as to who to go to. Our family gp relocated to the other end of the country and as such she has no doctor looking after her. Ideally we would like someone who might have a specific interest in mental health who can assess her initially and go from there.


Apologies to the mods if this is not allowed but we are at a loss and need some help/guidance. Or a recommendation of a gp in South Dublin.

Thank you!

jsms88

Tell me how wrote: »

If we are entirely focused on expecting bad things, we often simply don't see the good ones.

Easy to say though, to be fair. My head is wrecked the last few days with what if’s. I keep panicking and feeling like it’s only a matter of time before my life is ruined by something. I’m scared to have any long term plan in life for fear that it’s not going to be possible.

Tell me how

jsms88 wrote: »

Easy to say though, to be fair. My head is wrecked the last few days with what if’s. I keep panicking and feeling like it’s only a matter of time before my life is ruined by something. I’m scared to have any long term plan in life for fear that it’s not going to be possible.

I'm not suggesting it's easy.

Tell me how wrote: »

Just be open to that possibility.

Tell me how

emantrsu wrote: »

My question is this- short of ringing every gp in the greater dublin area we are at a loss as to who to go to. Our family gp relocated to the other end of the country and as such she has no doctor looking after her. Ideally we would like someone who might have a specific interest in mental health who can assess her initially and go from there.

Hi emantrsu.

Is your family going to identify a new GP in the area as a matter of course anyway, seeing as your last one has relocated?

I would suggest that identifying a new family Dr should happen anyway, taking other factors in to account such as distance, availability for new patients in the practice and so on. Then let your sister visit them as a normal patient. Most GP's provide initial mental health care but usually (in my experience) recommend specialists such as therapists, psychiatrists and psychologists as appropriate.

Was she being treated for mental health issues by the last Dr before they moved? Would it still be possible for that Dr to prepare a summary report which could be presented to her new Dr. That might help introduce the Dr to her case history.

Hope she gets help soon. Well done for trying to find ways to help her.

Foweva Awone

I'm in hospital these past few weeks and I'm just after bawling my eyes out to one of the nurses. I think she was in shock, I'm a regular patient here and have often stayed on this ward for weeks/months at a time the past couple of years, so she knows me well ... she has never known me to be so open and honest about how I'm feeling! In a way I feel better, however I also have a horrendous crying-headache (anyone else get those?)

I really really really miss my little boy. I want a brain-transplant to not have the head I have, he's not even 4 and I've been in hospital etc the past 2.5 years and will be for at least the next several months. I want to go back in time and not f*ck everything up, I want to go forward in time and everything to be better. I'm really struggling right now.

Tell me how

Foweva Awone wrote: »

I really really really miss my little boy. I want a brain-transplant to not have the head I have, he's not even 4 and I've been in hospital etc the past 2.5 years and will be for at least the next several months. I want to go back in time and not f*ck everything up, I want to go forward in time and everything to be better. I'm really struggling right now.

You're struggling but you're still fighting. Really well done, you've had it very tough and continue to try to get better.
Are you getting weekend release at the moment or is it something you feel ready for?

Foweva Awone

No I've been getting day leave, no overnights, don't want them either.

Just had an exceptionally tough day today. I'm annoyed too coz I had my weekly meeting with my consultant, I feel like I wasted it coz I was just moaning about how I didn't want to be here. She probably thinks I'm such an ungrateful brat now! (She's done an awful lot for me, and on the last two admissions she brought me in immediately ... usually there's a waiting list of a couple of weeks for a bed. So I should be just very happy and grateful to be here - not whinging about it.)

RubyXI

My anxiety levels are up during working hours.
I am pregnant and it's time to tell my boss.
I really can't do it. I know it's just 2 little words. I know I have to tell them. I just don't think I can actually do it.
I don't know how to word it. I don't know how they'll react. It's a very busy company so it's hard to find a quiet time. I feel so stressed and anxious knowing I have to do it. It's all I can think about.
Anyone have any advise? I'd be so grateful. Thanks.

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RubyXI wrote: »

My anxiety levels are up during working hours.
I am pregnant and it's time to tell my boss.
I really can't do it. I know it's just 2 little words. I know I have to tell them. I just don't think I can actually do it.
I don't know how to word it. I don't know how they'll react. It's a very busy company so it's hard to find a quiet time. I feel so stressed and anxious knowing I have to do it. It's all I can think about.
Anyone have any advise? I'd be so grateful. Thanks.

Maybe write down what you want to say first and read over it a few times before you tell your boss. Take deep breaths and you'll be fine. Best of luck & congrats on your pregnancy:).

Tell me how

RubyXI wrote: »

My anxiety levels are up during working hours.
I am pregnant and it's time to tell my boss.
I really can't do it. I know it's just 2 little words. I know I have to tell them. I just don't think I can actually do it.
I don't know how to word it. I don't know how they'll react. It's a very busy company so it's hard to find a quiet time. I feel so stressed and anxious knowing I have to do it. It's all I can think about.
Anyone have any advise? I'd be so grateful. Thanks.

Just ask them if you can have a word, in private, for a minute, tell them straight out but also tell them you hope that it will not affect your work in any way until you go on leave. How they react is their responsibility, not yours.

Ask a friend to be on standby either at work, or outside or on the phone so that you know you have someone you can get support from within a few minutes of talking to your boss.

Congratulations and best wishes.

RubyXI

Thanks, I know there's no way of doing it except just say it. I don't know why things like that are so hard for me to do. It makes me very frustrated with myself.

Gremlinertia

Like Can i Come Too said, write it down and rehearse, i do it when feeling stressed so i don't stutter and it helps a lot.

never_mind

One of my closest friends had major surgery recently for cancer. The prognosis is good but so many organs are now gone... there's barely anything left. I am very anxious since.. and feel selfish that I am making about me.

Lucyfur

RubyXI wrote: »

Thanks, I know there's no way of doing it except just say it. I don't know why things like that are so hard for me to do. It makes me very frustrated with myself.

Do you have a decent HR department you could email instead? That's what I did.

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never_mind wrote: »

One of my closest friends had major surgery recently for cancer. The prognosis is good but so many organs are now gone... there's barely anything left. I am very anxious since.. and feel selfish that I am making about me.

It's not you, it's the Anxiety & Depression latching on to any bit of negativity it can, it's how it survives, the selfish bugger. Hope you and your friend are ok:).

never_mind

Can I come too... wrote: »

It's not you, it's the Anxiety & Depression latching on to any bit of negativity it can, it's how it survives, the selfish bugger. Hope you and your friend are ok:).

Hope so. The op was on Monday morning for hours and hours. I am not family obviously so I am not being kept in loop. Very scary for all involved.

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never_mind wrote: »

Hope so. The op was on Monday morning for hours and hours. I am not family obviously so I am not being kept in loop. Very scary for all involved.

If you were really selfish, you wouldn't be thinking of your friend at all, but you are, so you are not . Could you ask with a family member of your friend to see how their are doing, which may help ease your own worries.

RubyXI

Lucyfur wrote: »

Do you have a decent HR department you could email instead? That's what I did.

There's no HR department. I suppose I could technically email it but I know it wouldn't be the right way of doing it here. I rather communicate through email but they don't really like it here.

never_mind

RubyXI wrote: »

There's no HR department. I suppose I could technically email it but I know it wouldn't be the right way of doing it here. I rather communicate through email but they don't really like it here.

I am trying to follow this and offer advice... is it that you want to quit or tell the boss you need to take mat leave earlier? Or just that you are too anxious for work at times?

RubyXI

never_mind wrote: »

I am trying to follow this and offer advice... is it that you want to quit or tell the boss you need to take mat leave earlier? Or just that you are too anxious for work at times?

Just letting them know about the pregnancy.

RubyXI

RubyXI wrote: »

Just letting know about the pregnancy.

Do you have any fears around this Ruby? Thoughts that are getting in the way of telling work?

RubyXI

Deleted User wrote: »

Do you have any fears around this Ruby? Thoughts that are getting in the way of telling work?

Yes I am absolutely terrified to do this. I don't think I actually can.

RubyXI

RubyXI wrote: »

Yes I am absolutely terrified to do this. I don't think I actually can.

I'm just wondering if there is something behind your fear? Thoughts like "what if I tell him and then...."

RubyXI

Deleted User wrote: »

I'm just wondering if there is something behind your fear? Thoughts like "what if I tell him and then...."

No my fear is always illogical. Fear of what they will think maybe. Although logically I don't care what people think. If I understood my fears I think they would be easier to deal with

RubyXI

RubyXI wrote: »

No my fear is always illogical. Fear of what they will think maybe. Although logically I don't care what people think. If I understood my fears I think they would be easier to deal with

Once upon a time I lived with a girl who I was friendly with. I accidentally broke a glass pyrex dish of hers. Ruby I was terrified to tell her! Now I was and still am a bit of a worrier. Back then all logic would disappear. It turned out though that I was actually intimidated by this person. Behind the friendship was my lack of self-esteem and seeing her as some kind of model of perfection who I compared myself to.

My point is that even though our fears can seem irrational on the surface there may be something going on underneath them.

RabbleRouser2k

Well this week was a f***ing s***show.

Our two dogs have picked up some form of a virus, or possibly ingested something. Despite taking them to the vets, getting antibiotics, tests, the lot...the small dog died this morning. (I don't want to go into too much detail right now-but I will say I'm rather angry about this).
It's upset me enormously-and I'm trying to cope.
We're doing all we can to keep the other one comfortable. It's in the lap of the Gods as to what happens now.

Wilberto

RubyXI wrote: »

My anxiety levels are up during working hours.
I am pregnant and it's time to tell my boss.
I really can't do it. I know it's just 2 little words. I know I have to tell them. I just don't think I can actually do it.
I don't know how to word it. I don't know how they'll react. It's a very busy company so it's hard to find a quiet time. I feel so stressed and anxious knowing I have to do it. It's all I can think about.
Anyone have any advise? I'd be so grateful. Thanks.

If you're close enough to your boss then you could email him asking him for a private meeting whenever they have time, and then tell him then?


I know from my own experience though that even sending any internal emails like that (for me it was a case of me leaving) can still be quite tough. I remember I had the email written and saved in my drafts folder for about 2/3 hours before I eventually hit "send"! :pac:

farmerwifelet

RabbleRouser2k wrote: »

Well this week was a f***ing s***show.

Our two dogs have picked up some form of a virus, or possibly ingested something. Despite taking them to the vets, getting antibiotics, tests, the lot...the small dog died this morning. (I don't want to go into too much detail right now-but I will say I'm rather angry about this).
It's upset me enormously-and I'm trying to cope.
We're doing all we can to keep the other one comfortable. It's in the lap of the Gods as to what happens now.

that is awful. Take it easy on yourself the death of a pet is hard at any time but in bad circumstances its just terrible! Hope the other one pulls through.

RabbleRouser2k

farmerwifelet wrote: »

that is awful. Take it easy on yourself the death of a pet is hard at any time but in bad circumstances its just terrible! Hope the other one pulls through.

I'm trying-she was a young dog-only two years old. I'm angry if they were poisoned-the vet seemed baffled, and suspects as such (that they were poisoned). She was a pet, a very friendly dog. Just absolutely a friend.

I'm hoping, and praying that the other one pulls through-to lose one dog is tragedy, to lose both-that will break me. Both are young, the other one is only 5 years old.

The other dog is a cattle dog-and also our guard dog. If this was down to someone trying to poison them...I will reign hellfire on them.

I'm hopeful, but I don't know. I've never been without a dog, ever. I'm keeping a vigil, I'm just absolutely disgusted with this-I want to grieve for one, and I'm trying to keep the other alive. It feels hopeless right now.

farmerwifelet

aw heartbreaking. Poor dogs hopefully it was accidental to think someone would do that deliberately is just horrible - pure scum.

cried for two days solid when my cat died. Still tear up when i find my dogs id disc in the press. Have two dogs now and their pen is near the road I cant wait to move it in front of the house and to a "safer" location.