Anxiety and depression thread (Please read OP)

Try_harder

Psycologist is tough- raking though my life today- I was a lonely weird little child lol

La.de.da

Try_harder wrote: »

Psycologist is tough- raking though my life today- I was a lonely weird little child lol

Me too. Hey at least we weren't boring
Hope you get some good from your sessions

Try_harder

La.de.da wrote: »

Me too. Hey at least we weren't boring
Hope you get some good from your sessions

I need to see where he is going with this

HalloweenJack

First panic attack in a long time. I had read about a meet-up for people in my profession so I decided to go. Got to the place and freaked out when I saw the amount of people.

It was a café so I sat down at a table beside the group and had a coffee while my brain was frazzled. I was really looking forward to it but I hate myself now. I actually want to meet new people but, once I got there and saw the size of the group, the idea scared the ****e out of me and I froze. I feel terrible now.

Tell me how

HalloweenJack wrote: »

First panic attack in a long time. I had read about a meet-up for people in my profession so I decided to go. Got to the place and freaked out when I saw the amount of people.

It was a café so I sat down at a table beside the group and had a coffee while my brain was frazzled. I was really looking forward to it but I hate myself now. I actually want to meet new people but, once I got there and saw the size of the group, the idea scared the ****e out of me and I froze. I feel terrible now.

Well done on arranging it and actually sitting down at the table beside them.

Could you arrange something with one of them one to one some time and take it slowly?

feelpablo

Hi All,


i was diagnosed with depression and anxiety a couple of months back.
Took a lot to get me into the dr and admit to it and he immediatly put me on antidepressants.


To be honest I know ive suffered with depression for the last 5-6 years but I have been able to keep ontop of it.


Had my first proper session of counselling today and by god was it tough.


I have to have a really hard conversation with my wife tonight but it needs to be done.


Anyway I just wanted to introduce myself and thats a bit about whats going on with me, hope every one is holding together the best they can.

Tell me how

feelpablo wrote: »

Hi All,


i was diagnosed with depression and anxiety a couple of months back.
Took a lot to get me into the dr and admit to it and he immediatly put me on antidepressants.


To be honest I know ive suffered with depression for the last 5-6 years but I have been able to keep ontop of it.


Had my first proper session of counselling today and by god was it tough.


I have to have a really hard conversation with my wife tonight but it needs to be done.


Anyway I just wanted to introduce myself and thats a bit about whats going on with me, hope every one is holding together the best they can.

Hello feelpablo. Glad you have started to get some care. Hope the conversation with your wife goes well. Go easy on yourself and her. Even thought it definitely can get better, unfortunately, it can take some time and we need the support of those around us.

You are on medication and counselling so it sounds like you are doing what you need to in order to get better.

Welcome to the thread.

Gremlinertia

HalloweenJack wrote: »

First panic attack in a long time. I had read about a meet-up for people in my profession so I decided to go. Got to the place and freaked out when I saw the amount of people.

It was a café so I sat down at a table beside the group and had a coffee while my brain was frazzled. I was really looking forward to it but I hate myself now. I actually want to meet new people but, once I got there and saw the size of the group, the idea scared the ****e out of me and I froze. I feel terrible now.

Ouch, nasty HJ, so close yet so far. I think well done for physically making it there, will there be another one happening in the future?.

Gremlinertia

feelpablo wrote: »

Hi All,


i was diagnosed with depression and anxiety a couple of months back.
Took a lot to get me into the dr and admit to it and he immediatly put me on antidepressants.


To be honest I know ive suffered with depression for the last 5-6 years but I have been able to keep ontop of it.


Had my first proper session of counselling today and by god was it tough.


I have to have a really hard conversation with my wife tonight but it needs to be done.


Anyway I just wanted to introduce myself and thats a bit about whats going on with me, hope every one is holding together the best they can.

Welcome to the thread and well done on making things happen.. We're all on different parts of the same road so you'll find support here if you want, hope things go well with your partner too.

trixiebust

feelpablo wrote: »

Hi All,


i was diagnosed with depression and anxiety a couple of months back.
Took a lot to get me into the dr and admit to it and he immediatly put me on antidepressants.


To be honest I know ive suffered with depression for the last 5-6 years but I have been able to keep ontop of it.


Had my first proper session of counselling today and by god was it tough.


I have to have a really hard conversation with my wife tonight but it needs to be done.


Anyway I just wanted to introduce myself and thats a bit about whats going on with me, hope every one is holding together the best they can.

Good on you. I had to do the same a while back too,but even expressing the emotions lifted such a weight from me.

Look after yourself, trust me,things will get better.

HalloweenJack

Gremlinertia wrote:

Ouch, nasty HJ, so close yet so far. I think well done for physically making it there, will there be another one happening in the future?.

Thanks, I'm not sure.

Tell me how wrote:

Well done on arranging it and actually sitting down at the table beside them.

Could you arrange something with one of them one to one some time and take it slowly?

I don't know. There seemed to be a lot of them there but I didn't know any of them. I also feel silly at the idea of not being able to do it "normally".

vg88

Would anyone have advice about bringing up anxiety and depression to a new partner? Taking a day or two off next week just as I need to nothing for a few days.

I mentioned it previous that I went through it, but how would you bring it up that it's starting to occur again? They're very approachable and said they'd help in the past, but I have no idea how to just say it.

BohsCeltic

moloner4 wrote: »

Would anyone have advice about bringing up anxiety and depression to a new partner? Taking a day or two off next week just as I need to nothing for a few days.

I mentioned it previous that I went through it, but how would you bring it up that it's starting to occur again? They're very approachable and said they'd help in the past, but I have no idea how to just say it.

It's a tough one mate. I am in a similar position again. I am basically just going to tell her the truth as honesty is a focal point of a relationship.
It's nothing to be ashamed of.

Gremlinertia

moloner4 wrote: »

Would anyone have advice about bringing up anxiety and depression to a new partner? Taking a day or two off next week just as I need to nothing for a few days.

I mentioned it previous that I went through it, but how would you bring it up that it's starting to occur again? They're very approachable and said they'd help in the past, but I have no idea how to just say it.

Maybe say that you are taking a few mental health days, it's simple and could or would lead to some conversation

Try_harder

Ive never felt better mentally- back boxing training which 1- endorphins 2-self esteem and 3 socialising

That is not meant as a gloating post but to show their is hope- I was in bed 18 hours a day 4 months ago

Tell me how

Try_harder wrote: »

Ive never felt better mentally- back boxing training which 1- endorphins 2-self esteem and 3 socialising

That is not meant as a gloating post but to show their is hope- I was in bed 18 hours a day 4 months ago

Love to see people recognize and highlight an improvement when they experience it.

Best wishes for 2019. Hope it continues.

BohsCeltic

Try_harder wrote: »

Ive never felt better mentally- back boxing training which 1- endorphins 2-self esteem and 3 socialising

That is not meant as a gloating post but to show their is hope- I was in bed 18 hours a day 4 months ago

Fair play mate.
I looked outside today and it was dark and wet.
Decided to go for a spin on my bike instead of sitting in the house all day. Felt really refreshing cycling in the rain even though i got soaked but felt much better after it.

Gremlinertia

Try_harder wrote: »

Ive never felt better mentally- back boxing training which 1- endorphins 2-self esteem and 3 socialising

That is not meant as a gloating post but to show their is hope- I was in bed 18 hours a day 4 months ago

I love this post, i'm often here to moan or give out and i forget to share the things that are good though i try to be somewhat positive at times. It's great to hear you are doing so well, long, long may it continue!.

Try_harder

Gremlinertia wrote: »

I love this post, i'm often here to moan or give out and i forget to share the things that are good though i try to be somewhat positive at times. It's great to hear you are doing so well, long, long may it continue!.

I've have my anxieties, my new job in Jan is one! But hopefully I'll be in a better frame of mind to deal with it

Try_harder

BohsCeltic wrote: »

Fair play mate.
I looked outside today and it was dark and wet.
Decided to go for a spin on my bike instead of sitting in the house all day. Felt really refreshing cycling in the rain even though i got soaked but felt much better after it.

Sometimes cycling/running in the rain can be cathartic

Deja Boo

On the positive, I have a good therapist who seems to get me.
I won't see her until mid-January (which feels a long ways away.)

What I seem to forget every winter is that problems (and anxieties) don't take breaks over the holidays, and that unconsciously gets me down - especially this year, when a few unexpected, undesirable things have occurred which exploit my vulnerabilities. Things are never as perfect as I would like to envision, and the subsequent comparisons I make with others also worsens my mood.

....ah don't mind me, am just not feeling it again this year - sadly it's supposed to be my favourite (short) season of the year - but it seems as if I miss the Christmas spirit every year anymore (and this one is no exception)...

Present mood: gloomy

Try_harder

Deja Boo wrote: »

On the positive, I have a good therapist who seems to get me.
I won't see her until mid-January (which feels a long ways away.)

What I seem to forget every winter is that problems (and anxieties) don't take breaks over the holidays, and that unconsciously gets me down - especially this year, when a few unexpected, undesirable things have occurred which exploit my vulnerabilities. Things are never as perfect as I would like to envision, and the subsequent comparisons I make with others also worsens my mood.

....ah don't mind me, am just not feeling it again this year - sadly it's supposed to be my favourite (short) season of the year - but it seems as if I miss the Christmas spirit every year anymore (and this one is no exception)...

Present mood: gloomy

Hey I had Christmases in bed, dont beat yourself up. Things will improve as the days, from today, slowly get longer and brighter

Deja Boo

Try_harder wrote: »

Hey I had Christmases in bed, dont beat yourself up. Things will improve as the days, from today, slowly get longer and brighter

^ That is where I am at.
Thank you TH, very kind of you to say.
May we all be kind to ourselves this Christmas

Try_harder

Deja Boo wrote: »

^ That is where I am at.
Thank you TH, very kind of you to say.
May we all be kind to ourselves this Christmas

The year Gary Jules Mad World was no 1

Try_harder

And now im watching it

Tell me how

Best wishes to everyone who both posts and reads this thread.
Very emotive time of year in every respect, often both ends of the spectrum at the same time.
If you can identify one little thing which gives you joy, then allow yourself to indulge in it.

If you find it difficult, know that it only lasts a few days. Hopefully 2019 will bring positive experiences to all.

RabbleRouser2k

Try_harder wrote: »

Hey I had Christmases in bed, dont beat yourself up. Things will improve as the days, from today, slowly get longer and brighter

i've had birthdays in bed-like, 3 birthdays in a row I was stuck in bed. (The flu, Food Poisoning, and a bad headcold/ mild flu).

Just discovered I'm missing a gift for someone, this Christmas. Darn thing was marked as dellivered (Amazon) but didn't turn up, or is missing somewhere.
Gonna have to do some last minute shopping tomorrow. Uggghh. :mad:

It's less 'depressing' and more 'Fer ****'s sake'. (Apologies, just need a vent every once in a while).

Gonna grab a stiff drink before going to bed.

TG1

Have been really really struggling for the last while. Im the biggest christmas lover going but havent even had the energy to put the decorations up this year.
I'm hoping the combination of a gp appointment in the morning, then heading to the family home for a few days might help, but I don't know. I'm a bit at sea this year with everything that's going on.

titan18

I'll assume I'm not the only one who hates this time of the year. This next week is probably the worst week of the year for me. Just a crap time of the year.

seamusk84

Been having a difficult few weeks mentally. Just the stress of this time of year and the pressure around work etc. Have been away with the wife for a few days abroad (which in fairness was nice) and coming home now.
I mean I love Xmas but just there is so much to do and limited time. Everyone expecting me to be somewhere or organize something. Working tomorrow doesn’t help and god knows there will be about 200 emails waiting for me.

Had reduced to just 3mg of Lexotan at night time but over the past few weeks had to start back taking a tablet around noon to help me deal with the heightened anxiety I have been managing.

Have relatives staying at my house the next few days too (last minute decision of theirs to invite themselves in the door...bloody hell) so no chance of locking the door in the evening times and relaxing in my lounge wear! Yes I’m a 34 year old man who likes to wear PJs

Best of luck to you all for the next few days, let’s try be kind to ourselves. I’ll check back in with you all