Anxiety and depression thread (Please read OP)

victor8600

Wanderer78 wrote: »

i personally find its the best way to jolt me out of a funk, every mental health professional ive met advocates for regular exercise, and it absolutely works....

Jogging works for me, because it needs no special equipment and can be done any time.

Tell me how

Wanderer78 wrote: »

i personally find its the best way to jolt me out of a funk, every mental health professional ive met advocates for regular exercise, and it absolutely works, just keep experimenting with different types of exercise, you ll eventually find the ones that suit you, is there any you d like to try?

Definitely agree. Cycling is my thing and I often find I think through issues that have been playing on my mind while I am on the bike and get to a moment of clarity.

Added benefit of helping you feel you achieved something on a particular day, is actually good for you, will help with any weight concerns and you can do it either alone (if that is what you feel you need) or with others as a social outlet (prior to covid). Same goes for swimming, running etc.

And, it doesn't matter your level. If walking 1Km is a success for you, then treat it as a success and don't measure yourself against anyone training for a marathon or whatever.

CBear1993

Had my first therapy session in over a year yesterday with a psychotherapist. After doing it I feel like I’m not sure if person centred therapy is for me. Is it possible to get a therapist who will engage more throughout the session , question or challenge your actions or thought processes?

They were a lovely person , and I’m sure if I commit to it he will be able to help me long term. I just know from previous experience that he seems like the type who will sit and listen and nod, and maybe say less than 5 mins worth at the end of the session.. ive been here before and don’t want to just turn up to someone once a week and offload my thoughts, for them to say nothing (is this their job? I don’t even know!)
I’m young enough and therapy is too expensive to not get the right treatment.

Anyone any suggestions on the type I would be after? Bear in mind I realise the first session is early days, and too quick to judge. But I am going to see 2 more next week before I make a decision on who to work with.

I asked him at the end of the session what methods he would use - person centred, CBT, thought management, integrative...

petes

You sure you aren't focusing too much on the therapist rather than dealing with the issues you may have?

Another two different ones next week? It does take time to click, for want of a better word with a counsellor but this is bordering on fixating on the cure rather than the cause.

I saw an addiction counsellor for a time but they also do normal counselling.

They are very engaging on your thought processes, decisions you made and why, what made you come to a conclusion etc. obviously from an addiction point of view but more interrogative I suppose.

CBear1993

Yeah I understand what you’re saying. I was actually told by other posters on here to see a few and see which one fits your personality best or who you would like to work with?

I have been up front with the person I saw yesterday saying I will come back and confirm next appointment with them, if they are happy to see me obviously, next week.

No, I was laid back and just let it flow, did as he asked yesterday or talked through the direction he guided the session. We got on very well.

I am maybe looking for too much from it myself as you say. Just trust the process and be patient I guess.

petes

CBear1993 wrote: »

Yeah I understand what you’re saying. I was actually told by other posters on here to see a few and see which one fits your personality best or who you would like to work with?

I have been up front with the person I saw yesterday saying I will come back and confirm next appointment with them, if they are happy to see me obviously, next week.

No, I was laid back and just let it flow, did as he asked yesterday or talked through the direction he guided the session. We got on very well.

I am maybe looking for too much from it myself as you say. Just trust the process and be patient I guess.

Definitely see more than one if one isn't particularly working for you but I think seeing them in such a short space of time might muddy the waters a bit.

BobCobb

I am seeing a CBT therapist and she doesn't let me ramble on like other previous counsellors I had been to. I don't know if this is common for all CBT therapists though or if it's just down to the personality of the therapist.


It could be harder to gauge this on the first session though as they might be just trying to get as much relevant information from you initially to get your background story.

CBear1993

CBear1993 wrote: »

Had my first therapy session in over a year yesterday with a psychotherapist. After doing it I feel like I’m not sure if person centred therapy is for me. Is it possible to get a therapist who will engage more throughout the session , question or challenge your actions or thought processes?

They were a lovely person , and I’m sure if I commit to it he will be able to help me long term. I just know from previous experience that he seems like the type who will sit and listen and nod, and maybe say less than 5 mins worth at the end of the session.. ive been here before and don’t want to just turn up to someone once a week and offload my thoughts, for them to say nothing (is this their job? I don’t even know!)
I’m young enough and therapy is too expensive to not get the right treatment.

Anyone any suggestions on the type I would be after? Bear in mind I realise the first session is early days, and too quick to judge. But I am going to see 2 more next week before I make a decision on who to work with.

I asked him at the end of the session what methods he would use - person centred, CBT, thought management, integrative...

Would anyone be able to identify what type of therapy the below was?:

Turns out person centred isn’t what suits me. I got a last minute cancellation today with a 2nd therapist (ex nurse) that I had tried to get in with first choice but they were booked up.

I’m confident after tonight that I will stick with this lady and delighted we have struck up a relationship that fits.

It was so refreshing to engage with a therapist who challenged me from the off. Granted; it may not suit everyone, this therapist told me they’d be challenging.
They asked me tough questions, challenged my thought processes - “why did you think like that” and repeating what I said out loud to give perspective, and giving solutions. It was a tough love sort of session, but I really enjoyed it. She ended the session with a “3,4,5” breathing / mindfulness technique, and it really helped. Also asked me to do something new and completely different before next week.

What do you call this type of therapy that I did with this woman tonight? I forgot to ask before I left.

One More Toy

CBear1993 wrote: »

Would anyone be able to identify what type of therapy the below was?:

Turns out person centred isn’t what suits me. I got a last minute cancellation today with a 2nd therapist (ex nurse) that I had tried to get in with first choice but they were booked up.

I’m confident after tonight that I will stick with this lady and delighted we have struck up a relationship that fits.

It was so refreshing to engage with a therapist who challenged me from the off. Granted; it may not suit everyone, this therapist told me they’d be challenging.
They asked me tough questions, challenged my thought processes - “why did you think like that” and repeating what I said out loud to give perspective, and giving solutions. It was a tough love sort of session, but I really enjoyed it. She ended the session with a “3,4,5” breathing / mindfulness technique, and it really helped. Also asked me to do something new and completely different before next week.

What do you call this type of therapy that I did with this woman tonight? I forgot to ask before I left.

CBT probably?

CBear1993

One More Toy wrote: »

CBT probably?

Really? I need to do my research. I had actually told her I’d did small bits of CBT a few years back in my home county with a counsellor. She didn’t say what she was doing.

One More Toy

I received some awful news today and don't think I'm processing it very well

Gremlinertia

One More Toy wrote: »

I received some awful news today and don't think I'm processing it very well

So sorry to hear that, take time, be gentle with yourself

One More Toy

Gremlinertia wrote: »

So sorry to hear that, take time, be gentle with yourself

Thank you, I will try my best

Tell me how

One More Toy wrote: »

I received some awful news today and don't think I'm processing it very well

Sorry to hear that.
Can you talk it out with someone in the real world?

One More Toy

Tell me how wrote: »

Sorry to hear that.
Can you talk it out with someone in the real world?

Yes my psych nurse I gave him a text just now I hope to hear from him in the morning

The Black Oil

One More Toy wrote: »

Yes my psych nurse I gave him a text just now I hope to hear from him in the morning

Did you hear back?

My sleep is still bad. However, had a breakthrough with my psych this week that was important and will help settle things given some time and further discussion.

One More Toy

The Black Oil wrote: »

Did you hear back?

My sleep is still bad. However, had a breakthrough with my psych this week that was important and will help settle things given some time and further discussion.

Yes I did thanks he was a good help, but to be honest the problem solved itself in a positive manner

Exam now coming up next month that's my focus now.

Have you asked your psych about non addictive Z-drugs for sleep?

statto25

My mother who hasn't spoken to me in 8 months has gone on holidays with my ex wife. I don't know whether to laugh, cry or throttle her. Tell me I'm not wrong in thinking this is not normal. For the record, the split was not amicable and my mother hasn't spoken to me for this reason after some very heated and upsetting arguments.

One More Toy

statto25 wrote: »

My mother who hasn't spoken to me in 8 months has gone on holidays with my ex wife. I don't know whether to laugh, cry or throttle her. Tell me I'm not wrong in thinking this is not normal. For the record, the split was not amicable and my mother hasn't spoken to me for this reason after some very heated and upsetting arguments.

What the.... Your ex wife and your ma went on holiday together? Jesus. That's not normal

statto25

One More Toy wrote: »

What the.... Your ex wife and your ma went on holiday together? Jesus. That's not normal

Ok so I'm not losing my mind completely. Yep headed off today with the ex and her mother and sister to just twist the knife a bit more. Yeah, no wonder my mind is like cotton wool!

Gremlinertia

That's a pretty ferocious kick in the teeth

statto25

Gremlinertia wrote: »

That's a pretty ferocious kick in the teeth

Yeah but not surprising at the same time. I have started to predict her next moves. My birthday was last month and I got the token text message. I also predicted them going away together. Next week, lotto numbers. It's pure and utter toxic stuff.

penovine

Dr wants to start me on Cymbalta - I am reluctant - but I also have neuropathic pain - as well as depression - so thats why he has chosen it.

For those of you who have been on it or are on it, what have your experiences been on it?

I am scared of nasty side effects.

TIA

Gremlinertia

penovine wrote: »

Dr wants to start me on Cymbalta - I am reluctant - but I also have neuropathic pain - as well as depression - so thats why he has chosen it.

For those of you who have been on it or are on it, what have your experiences been on it?

I am scared of nasty side effects.

TIA

Is this a GP?. Do you have a pain specialist at all? I was on it for a while years ago however it wasn't a good mix with various other things, no real side effects, my blood pressure went up marginally is all

The Black Oil

Psych mentioned my smile last week, that I always have one - usually when I comment on things like her newly painted office, etc.

Only remembered this last night. Other people notice things we can't see ourselves.

Tell me how

The Black Oil wrote: »

Psych mentioned my smile last week, that I always have one - usually when I comment on things like her newly painted office, etc.

Only remembered this last night. Other people notice things we can't see ourselves.

It's really big that you picked up on them saying that and remembered it.

fr336

Guys need help just started antidepressants - i took one today at 10am but want to take them in future earlier. Could i take at 9am tomorrow or even 8am? Or would this be too many in 24 hour period? I know none of you are doctors!

Gremlinertia

fr336 wrote: »

Guys need help just started antidepressants - i took one today at 10am but want to take them in future earlier. Could i take at 9am tomorrow or even 8am? Or would this be too many in 24 hour period? I know none of you are doctors!

Check the instructions, if it says once a day/morning you have leeway of a few hours either way. For a proper schedule get on to your doctor

One More Toy

fr336 wrote: »

Guys need help just started antidepressants - i took one today at 10am but want to take them in future earlier. Could i take at 9am tomorrow or even 8am? Or would this be too many in 24 hour period? I know none of you are doctors!

The time I take mine varies on bedtime an hour either way say and I don't notice a difference. But best check with your doc when to take them, eg. If some are sedating you'll be taking them at night etc

fr336

Thanks guys its just citalopram so pretty mainstream lol hope youre well