Potential bullying problem

Caceyjones

Hi, my daughter was involved in an incident in school recently which could lead her to be bullied in the future. She was getting changed in a cubicle for P.E when a girl started taking pictures of her getting undressed. My daughter challenged the girl and the girl and her group of friends laughingly said they deleted the photos. This was an extremely serious situation, so I went to the school and explained to her form teacher and the principle what had happened and my concerns. They were horrified and the principle assured me that the girl in question would be suspended and her phone searched. Now that the girl has been suspended her friends are starting to be hostile towards my daughter. This girl was very popular (we all know that one child that seems to hold sway over the others) and now that she has been suspended her friends (there is a lot of them) have started to act hostile towards my daughter. I don't know what to do or how to handle this situation. My daughter has never been bullied before and she is a soft girl. I don' t want this escalate, but what can I do? I knew I would potentially alienate my daughter from those girls by reporting what happened but it was far to serious of a situation to have let it go unreported. The school can only do so much in my eyes. Any have any advice? Or experience with a similar situation?

skallywag

I think that ye are just going to have to ride this one out, once this girl was suspended there was always going to be a backlash of sorts.

Was your daughter supportive of you speaking to the school on the topic? It must be a very difficult situation for her, she has my sympathy.

listermint

She is going to have to ride this out, Ultimately if any of them approach her she will just have to be matter of fact about it.

Look talking photos of someone changing in the changing room is not on, If i did it to you what would you do.

End of story. The win here is that your daughter has put a shot across the bow. Whilst the girls may be hostile in a sense they can clearly see that there is consequences and that your daughter is strong enough so speak up about any incident.


If she keeps that up they will leave her alone.

LegacyUser

Yeah I thimk you'll have to sit with it OP.Just make sure she keeps talking to you about what's going on.
That's a fairly shocking thing to do to anyone, totally unacceptable behaviour.At least the school are giving good support on it too.

Gatling

Would taking photos of a minor undressing or in a state of undress be considered a criminal offence ie Child porn .

The school should have a talk with all students actually about similar situations

Sunny Dayz

Make sure to keep the communication channels open with your daughter on this matter. If the other girls start on her, that she can feel that she can tell you straight away. Also be prepared for when the girl comes back from suspension in case she wants "revenge" or blames your daughter for telling or getting her suspended.


I agree there should be a school assembly or at the very least a newsletter home reiterating the school policy on camera phones and their usage.