Online dating

FGR

I'm wondering if I'm too old to be doing this at 32.

I also need to find a way to get a lot of pics of me taken as I feel some man selfies would make ladies think I'm vain or hiding something. I don't have the kind of friends you could trust with such a task.

Tell me how

FGR wrote:

I'm wondering if I'm too old to be doing this at 32.

You're definitely not. Think advice re relaxed pics showing not just you but something which might provoke conversation about an interest you have is good way to go.

Witchie

Dial Hard wrote: »

Nah, catfishes usually use fake photos. I've had to report four different POF profiles over the years for using my pics. Also a Facebook profile, which I can only assume was set up to give a catfish a bit more legitimacy.

I know people will say that some people don't put pics up because of their job or whatever but in my (extensive) experience, there's only one reason why people don't do it.

I've had professional athletes message me who didn't feel the need to hide their faces, so I don't accept the whole "Oh my job is very sensitive thing". You're a teacher, not working for MI5.

Well on POF I don't have a picture for a different reason. An ex of mine who attempted to assault me in a pub last year is on there and I know if he saw me and recognised me the hassling and stalking would begin again. I can do without that.

Deleted User wrote: »

A fine man of 6'4 with a hairy face and a hairy chest who can fling me over his shoulder

Hate hairy chests and am not a fan of the beard trend. I like them smooth baby. But yeah basically I am looking for a less green and ripped version of the Hulk.

Silverman. wrote: »

I know so many women that DO NOT like that type.

Exactly. I am weird in that I like a bear of a man but as hairless as possible!

FGR wrote: »

I'm wondering if I'm too old to be doing this at 32.

Quit it! I am 10 years older, don't make me feel odd!

Esel

Silverman. wrote: »

Ah now, don't be like that.

'Funny' how your last quote of me 'lost' the second 'paragraph'.

I repeat: Were you here before by any chance?

Apropos of nothing; Lose the Lynx; get back to the books. The exams are starting very, very soon....

armaghlad

What's the story with women on tinder using wedding photos as their profile pic!?

CelticRambler

Silverman. wrote: »

But old people aren't cool. I want to be cool.

My son tells me his friends think I'm pretty cool, as old people go - that's good enough for me :cool:

And one of the cool things we old people know/remember is that once upon a time, cameras used to be able to take pictures all by themselves. You plonked them down on a table, pushed the button and ran to get in position before the ten-second-beeping stopped.

Funnily enough, my smartphone has exactly the same function. My DSLR is better - it can take a whole load of pictures all on its own. No outstretched arms and weird head postures needed.

Esel

When I was 15, my dad knew nothing.
Now, at 25, I'm amazed at all he's learned in 10 years.

Karmella

Porkpie wrote: »

I'm on plentyoffish (guy) but honestly, it seems as though every girl is an athlete and globetrotter. Nearly every profile description is the same: "I do circuit training 6 days a week. I also do pilates, yoga and boxercise. I've been to every continent in the world. My most recent trip was trekking around Bhutan. Next on the list is the Camino trail! - can't wait!" The profile pics will consist of gym selfies and pics of all these exotic locations that just make me think "how the f..k did they get the money to travel all over the world?"

My profile seems so dull in comparison. The whole thing just seems like one big competition. Sorry, just feel like a moan!

If it's any consolation a fair amount of the guys profiles are the same. And personally it's the kind of thing that I find dull so I'd be avoiding them anyway.

I guess it's the nature of the online dating because you want your profile to stand out from the others. How to do this without coming across as self obsessed? I don't know - it's a fine line.

Esel

Esel wrote: »

When I was 15, my dad knew nothing.
Now, at 25, I'm amazed at all he's learned in 10 years.

I had you pegged for someone much older than 25. A sage like gentleman of 44 sitting on a rock imparting riddles of wisdom :pac:

working fool

I'm meeting someone this evening

Been on a dating site a year now
Met some lovely people

Met some very damaged and dangerous people too

Pet hates

Car selfies " possibly married "
Wedding pics " doesn't go out much "
Sporting challenges " fitness freak "
Group pics with family & friends
" am I supposed to pick which one you are ?"

Quote memes " no self opinion "

Pics skiing " no particular reason . I just hate people who ski "

Felix Jones is God

No wonder it took you a year to find someone!😉
I jest, glad you've clicked with someone and hopefully it's onwards and upwards for you both from here on in.

working fool

Felix Jones is God wrote: »

No wonder it took you a year to find someone!😉
I jest, glad you've clicked with someone and hopefully it's onwards and upwards for you both from here on in.

Thanks
I'm just very careful
Don't want to waste anyone's time
I'm in my Late 40's
And in no panic to jump into the fire after the frying pan

When u reach a certain age some people panic if they're single

[Deleted User]

[Deleted User] wrote: »

Man beast
Man beast
Man beast
Man beast.


:pac:

I found him! 6'5!!

Now to craft the perfect message

qo2cj1dsne8y4k

I'd say go with sleezy.
"Sure aren't we all the same height lying down?" And a big pervy winky emoji

Shint0

Deleted User wrote: »

I had you pegged for someone much older than 25. A sage like gentleman of 44 sitting on a rock imparting riddles of wisdom :pac:

I think he may have been quoting one of his own offspring....without the quotes

working fool wrote: »

Thanks
I'm just very careful
Don't want to waste anyone's time
I'm in my Late 40's
And in no panic to jump into the fire after the frying pan

When u reach a certain age some people panic if they're single

....and when you reach a certain age looks start to become less relevant when old Chronos starts to catch up with us. There's actually a very short window across the life span when people are at their peak in terms of physical attractiveness which some of the youngest posters here will one day discover and the older the fiddle the sweeter the tune.

working fool

Shint0 wrote: »

I think he may have been quoting one of his own offspring....without the quotes



....and when you reach a certain age looks start to become less relevant when old Chronos starts to catch up with us. There's actually a very short window across the life span when people are at their peak in terms of physical attractiveness which some of the youngest posters here will one day discover and the older the fiddle the sweeter the tune.

Having collected nice things
Makes up for it

working fool

working fool wrote: »

Having collected nice things
Makes up for it

What sort of nice things?

Esel

[Deleted User] wrote: »

I had you pegged for someone much older than 25. A sage like gentleman of 44 sitting on a rock imparting riddles of wisdom :pac:

I should have put quotation marks around that. I heard/read it years ago.

working fool

[Deleted User] wrote: »

What sort of nice things?

Lol

The kind of things people loses in divorce settlements

Mr. CooL ICE

cantdecide wrote: »

WTFF is it with these jumping in front of landmarks pics?

Looks like a pic from a tampon advert

Esel

Shint0 wrote: »

I think he may have been quoting one of his own offspring....without the quotes

I haven't gone to the dogs yet, but it's on my list.

"The race is not always to the swift, but that's the way to bet" - Jimmy the Greek, possibly.
(or something close to that, like a paraphrase type of thing)

qo2cj1dsne8y4k

speaking of tampons, the first one of youse to get married from this thread have got to wear this dress.

http://ris.fashion.telegraph.co.uk/RichImageService.svc/imagecontent/1/TMG8009008/p/YVES-SAINT-LAURENT_1718441a.jpg

It gets to a point on Tinder where the people all blur into one, because the majority just use the same kind of photo/pose/angle.

LexieOnRale

LexieOnRale wrote: »

speaking of tampons, the first one of youse to get married from this thread have got to wear this dress.

http://ris.fashion.telegraph.co.uk/RichImageService.svc/imagecontent/1/TMG8009008/p/YVES-SAINT-LAURENT_1718441a.jpg

Sweet divine Jesus. Anyway I already have my wedding dress picked out.

#scary

maudgonner

tomwaterford wrote: »

Where do ya fall on a ginger beard

I'm all about the Game of Thrones references lately on this thread. But I can't stop giggling at the thought that tomwaterford might have a ginger beard and <very mild GoT spoiler ahead>

be like Tormund, just waiting for his Brienne

http://images.hellogiggles.com/uploads/2016/05/23034044/Screen-Shot-2016-05-23-at-10.44.05-AM-500x375.jpg

working fool

Forgot one

Profile pics from that event
To hell and back

Or something like that

That could be anyone covered in slurry

Dial Hard

LexieOnRale wrote: »

speaking of tampons, the first one of youse to get married from this thread have got to wear this dress.

http://ris.fashion.telegraph.co.uk/RichImageService.svc/imagecontent/1/TMG8009008/p/YVES-SAINT-LAURENT_1718441a.jpg

And people think "normal" wedding dresses are hard to go to the jacks in.

endabob1

Mister Vain wrote: »

She has 14 photos and every one of them is duckface.

PandaX9 wrote: »

I suppose you could look at it that that is how she sees herself as her most attractive. Which is her prerogative but kinda sad to me. It's times like these that I have the semi "arrogant" thought that I wish my friends took more photos of me when I amnt aware so maybe I would more photos to choose from that aren't selfies or group shots for online dating.

Here's a tip - If she has a boat load of pictures and they are all that ludicrous pout and not one of a natural smile/laughing then back-away slowly.
It tells me one of 2 things, either as Panda says this is how she sees her self as most attractive, or from my experience, she simply doesn't know how to smile/laugh let go and enjoy life a little.

Another thing that bugs me on Pictures; You get to an age where you realise that a lot of the people will have kids, no worries, good to be honest and mention it upfront. But don't have pictures of them on your tinder/pof/okc profile!! It's just wrong.

Another vote against the multiple group pictures, I'm too old to play where's wally, or Wallette I guess, have at least one proper face shot ffs.

I'm no oil painting and have carefully selected pictures which I think are more flattering than others, but they are all pretty accurate, all taken in the last year, the oldest is July last year. No point pretending to be something I'm not, wastes everyone's time.

qo2cj1dsne8y4k

Would you really write off someone purely on the quality of her pics? I'm not talking about not finding her attractive, more the pose for the photo not being the most flattering.

Tigger99

I think you are very short sighted about the pics guys. Absolutely understand there needing to be an attraction but writing a guy or girl off for selfies is daft. I'm deeply unphotogenic and the only flattering angle in photos is a slight duckface. In real life dates have expressed surprise that I look better than my photos.