Online dating

Dial Hard

Tigger99 wrote: »

I think you are very short sighted about the pics guys. Absolutely understand there needing to be an attraction but writing a guy or girl off for selfies is daft. I'm deeply unphotogenic and the only flattering angle in photos is a slight duckface. In real life dates have expressed surprise that I look better than my photos.

One or two selfies in a selection of pics doesn't bother me. If every single pic on the profile is a selfie I start to wonder if these people don't have any friends/family.

KomradeBishop

Tigger99 wrote: »

I think you are very short sighted about the pics guys. Absolutely understand there needing to be an attraction but writing a guy or girl off for selfies is daft. I'm deeply unphotogenic and the only flattering angle in photos is a slight duckface. In real life dates have expressed surprise that I look better than my photos.

Ya but duckface just looks strange - I wouldn't write someone off over it, but it's the kind of thing I'd mainly just expect people to do in a joke picture, e.g. while crossing their eyes at the same time

Pethates:

Women with the same people in every photo, making it near impossible to know which ones they are.

Women that digitally alter their photos in some regard, so that who you meet is not who you were talking to in the slightest.

Women that have the same facial expression in every photo, making you think that, maybe, that's the way their face has got stuck.

Women that are "masters of angles".

qo2cj1dsne8y4k

Dial Hard wrote: »

One or two selfies in a selection of pics doesn't bother me. If every single pic on the profile is a selfie I start to wonder if these people don't have any friends/family.

Wouldn't put photos of someone else up on a dating site though. They're not going to be going on dates with my sister (if I had one) so they don't need to see her

LexieOnRale

LexieOnRale wrote: »

Wouldn't put photos of someone else up on a dating site though. They're not going to be going on dates with my sister (if I had one) so they don't need to see her

What's worse is the people that put up photos of other people's kids! I have a photo with my toddler nephew, but his face is cut out of it. Just seemed icky to me to use him to essentially attract women. He's not a puppy. I like the photo of me, but the whole thing about having him in it seemed odd.

working fool

Another one

Mentioning you're a member of Mensa

Clever on paper yes
Socially & emotionally NO

Dial Hard

LexieOnRale wrote: »

Wouldn't put photos of someone else up on a dating site though. They're not going to be going on dates with my sister (if I had one) so they don't need to see her

I'm not talking group pics, just pictures that have been taken by other people. All of my profile pics are from nights out/events/rugby matches/festivals and were taken by other people. If they're group shots, I just crop them so no-one else is in them.

Obviously other people won't feel the same but when I see a profile that only has selfies on it, I do genuinely kind of go "Doesn't this person ever socialise?"

maudgonner

I must be really weird (well I am anyway ) but I rarely have photos taken on a night out, or at events/matches etc.

It may be because I hate having my photo taken anyway, but it never occurs to me to pull out a camera (or phone), it just seems like an interruption to the fun I'm having.

maudgonner

maudgonner wrote: »

I must be really weird (well I am anyway ) but I rarely have photos taken on a night out, or at events/matches etc.

It may be because I hate having my photo taken anyway, but it never occurs to me to pull out a camera (or phone), it just seems like an interruption to the fun I'm having.

Same as that. There's not many photos of me, because I just can't be arsed taking ones of myself and usually am too busy getting involved to get others to take ones of me. There's far better things to be doing, tbh.

Dial Hard

maudgonner wrote: »

I must be really weird (well I am anyway ) but I rarely have photos taken on a night out, or at events/matches etc.

It may be because I hate having my photo taken anyway, but it never occurs to me to pull out a camera (or phone), it just seems like an interruption to the fun I'm having.

It takes two seconds to snap a photo!

I've so many awesome memories from various Heineken Cup finals, 6 Nations trips, away inter-pros etc. I'd hate not to have those to look back on. Pretty much every "memory" Facebook showed me for the entire month of May was rugby related. It was awesome.

Dial Hard

Dial Hard wrote: »

It takes two seconds to snap a photo!

I've so many awesome memories from various Heineken Cup finals, 6 Nations trips, away inter-pros etc. I'd hate not to have those to look back on. Pretty much every "memory" Facebook showed me for the entire month of May was rugby related. It was awesome.

You could, I don't know, spend those two seconds to enjoy what you're doing instead of fumbling for your phone and taking a snap of yourself. Sure, if it's a memory that is worth having then you're going to remember it.

kylith

working fool wrote: »

I'm meeting someone this evening

Been on a dating site a year now
Met some lovely people

Met some very damaged and dangerous people too

Pet hates

Car selfies " possibly married "
Wedding pics " doesn't go out much "
Sporting challenges " fitness freak "
Group pics with family & friends
" am I supposed to pick which one you are ?"

Quote memes " no self opinion "

Pics skiing " no particular reason . I just hate people who ski "

A lot of profiles seem to go:
Group photo
Close-up of left eye
'Arty' black and white shaky photo
Backlit picture on top of mountain
Skiing photo with goggles and mask on

Yes, yes. We can see you're an active and interesting person but what do you actually look like!?

maudgonner

Dial Hard wrote: »

It takes two seconds to snap a photo!

I've so many awesome memories from various Heineken Cup finals, 6 Nations trips, away inter-pros etc. I'd hate not to have those to look back on. Pretty much every "memory" Facebook showed me for the entire month of May was rugby related. It was awesome.

I'd be more likely to take a photo of the match or the stadium though. It just wouldn't occur to me to want a photo of me in the crowd - I know I was there and I doubt anyone else cares

But that's just me, my Facebook page is very sparse but it's not because I don't do anything or go anywhere.

Dial Hard

Deleted User wrote: »

You could, I don't know, spend those two seconds to enjoy what you're doing instead of fumbling for your phone and taking a snap of yourself. Sure, if it's a memory that is worth having then you're going to remember it.

I've just said I don't take selfies.

I don't know why you think enjoying yourself and getting in the odd photo are mutually exclusive states. If we're standing yapping outside the stands with a beer before the match and someone says "Hey, cheese!" and snaps a pic and that genuinely affects your enjoyment of the day, then I really don't know what to say.

maudgonner

Dial Hard wrote: »

I've just said I don't take selfies.

I don't know why you think enjoying yourself and getting in the odd photo are mutually exclusive states. If we're standing yapping outside the stands with a beer before the match and someone says "Hey, cheese!" and snaps a pic and that genuinely affects your enjoyment of the day, then I really don't know what to say.

People are different. Some like taking photos of themselves & their friends. Some prefer not to, or don't even think to do so. Nothing wrong with either approach.

Vive la difference!

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KomradeBishop wrote: »

Ya but duckface just looks strange - I wouldn't write someone off over it, but it's the kind of thing I'd mainly just expect people to do in a joke picture, e.g. while crossing their eyes at the same time

It does absolutely look strange. Rarely see a good looking duckface. But it might not be a correct representation. I'm horrifically awkward and unphotogenic in photos (I look much better and like my actual self when I'm drunk) and while I take lots of selfies, I don't really smile in them and look quite moody I suppose.
I hate my smile, I have dimples and a lopsided smile and a fat face and a big head. Keeping my face straight you can't see any of that except my big Head. I look nothing like that in person. Big smiley head on me, dimples, lopsided grin. Still moody but most people remark that I'm chirpy/cheery/good humoured. You'd not think it by my pics

sozbox

LexieOnRale wrote: »

It does absolutely look strange. Rarely see a good looking duckface. But it might not be a correct representation. I'm horrifically awkward and unphotogenic in photos (I look much better and like my actual self when I'm drunk) and while I take lots of selfies, I don't really smile in them and look quite moody I suppose.
I hate my smile, I have dimples and a lopsided smile and a fat face and a big head. Keeping my face straight you can't see any of that except my big Head. I look nothing like that in person. Big smiley head on me, dimples, lopsided grin. Still moody but most people remark that I'm chirpy/cheery/good humoured. You'd not think it by my pics

That my biggest obstacle with online, I don't photograph well. I do ok dating wise in the real world but nowhere near as well in the online world.

I simply don't look as good in a photo, no matter what I do

fin12

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-3484393/What-wear-online-dating-profile-picture.html

Here's an article about what type of photos you should have in your profile.

I have a tendency to look slightly different in each and every photo, plus I photograph like a mule's backside.

working fool

fin12 wrote: »

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-3484393/What-wear-online-dating-profile-picture.html

Here's an article about what type of photos you should have in your profile.

The daily mail

If you think of it
None of their suggestions would be very far from a phonebox add in London

Dial Hard

LexieOnRale wrote: »

I hate my smile, I have dimples and a lopsided smile and a fat face and a big head. Keeping my face straight you can't see any of that except my big Head.

I'm the opposite, the only way I can manage not to look like Quasimodo in a photograph is by doing a big, wide, Wallace & Gromit-style smile. I had to get my photo taken for a newspaper feature recently and the photographer wouldn't let me smile in it. I was like "Nooooooooooooo, don't do this to me."

This is how I tend to smile -

http://i.imgur.com/xnIbSsg.gifv

fin12

working fool wrote: »

The daily mail

If you think of it
None of their suggestions would be very far from a phonebox add in London

I just put it up because I came across it and ye were talking about photos, Im with the others who hate photos and rarely take them.

Dial Hard

Deleted User wrote: »

This is how I tend to smile

I'm somewhere along the lines of http://unisci24.com/358749-wallace-and-gromit.html

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uOhmjNuzGew

Mr. CooL ICE

I've been told I've got a cute smile

CelticRambler

Dial Hard wrote: »

It takes two seconds to snap a photo!

In good light, you can do it in 1/200th of a second or faster ... :rolleyes:

But a "two second" photo usually looks like a two-second photo; to get one decent one, you need someone else to be snapping away regularly. Would I write someone off on the basis of a blurry out-of-focus image? Maybe. Would I write them off if all their photos are blurry and out-of-focus? Definitely.

Photos are the "shop window". If a woman hasn't got more than one decent pose, I'd prefer she put up photos of other things so that at least I'd get an idea of how she sees the world, what things appeal to her.

maudgonner

Nicolas Cage wrote: »

I've been told I've got a cute smile

Ah, I wouldn't trust you. You'd have photos where you look like the lad on the right, but turn up on the date looking like the fella on the left. Or vice versa.

https://i.jeded.com/i/faceoff-face-off.457.jpg

KomradeBishop

LexieOnRale wrote: »

It does absolutely look strange. Rarely see a good looking duckface. But it might not be a correct representation. I'm horrifically awkward and unphotogenic in photos (I look much better and like my actual self when I'm drunk) and while I take lots of selfies, I don't really smile in them and look quite moody I suppose.
I hate my smile, I have dimples and a lopsided smile and a fat face and a big head. Keeping my face straight you can't see any of that except my big Head. I look nothing like that in person. Big smiley head on me, dimples, lopsided grin. Still moody but most people remark that I'm chirpy/cheery/good humoured. You'd not think it by my pics

Ya I can't naturally pose for pics myself, so if I try to smile for one, much more likely to come out with a 'pedosmile', ha (I can imagine duckface only amplifying this ) - or in group photos, like a serial killer plotting his next victim :pac:

Much better in the right picture, taken naturally/unawares.

La.de.da

Out of interest, what is the biggest age gap you'd consider for dating someone?

Or do you think I'd matters if two people really click?