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[Deleted User] wrote: »I do see where you are coming from however I think that attitude will hold you back. I am quite sure that the majority of women online will not think you are creepy if you have both been chatting and you suggest meeting up.
I have a feeling wakka isn't looking to date women
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Felix Jones is God wrote: »Could be a number of reasons it's not working out for you, the vibe in here is relaxed and you come across well, maybe on a dating site, knowing you have 2 days to get it right you may not come across as relaxed...I could be totally off though.....could be something on your profile....smoker...doesn't want kids....likes to sacrifice goats to our satanic overlord at the full moon
Ah shur yis're lovely. Primary reason is sub-average looks and lack of compensatory bants. Every nice girl's Ma is crazy about me but those ladies are not the ones I need to impress.Felix Jones is God wrote: »Early start for me in a few hours, night all
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Mister Vain wrote: »So what's the longest relationship you guys have been in?
17 years ... if we can include cats.
The former MrsCR only managed 10-12ish ... how do you decide when a relationship ends?Mister Vain wrote: »Would any of you guys go out alone and try to meet someone?
Every weekend, if possible, unless I really need to stay at home and mow the grass! I have an advantage in that my hobby/special interest involves going up to women and asking them to spend 3-5 minutes with me and no-one else, and they expect to be asked so there's no stigma. The problem is that flirting and inuendo is part of the "game" so it's really hard to know whether there's any serious attraction. Being a foreigner, I'm also a bit of an oddity, so again it's hard to know when someone is just curious about the how and why I've ended up in a field in the middle of nowhere!
For a while it wasn't particularly easy to go to a new venue solo, and even now it can feel a bit odd when everyone else seems to have turned up as couples or in a gang. But I'll usually just chat to a someone I recognise from a previous event (usually another solo guy) until the evening gets going; after that, no-one notices.0 -
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maudgonner wrote: »Or someone who is in a similar position to yourself - has kids and doesn't want more?
I don't have kids, so can't really comment on how easy it is, but I'd imagine that as long as you're upfront about your situation and what you're looking for OD could work well. It's one advantage I think it has over 'real world' dating - you can both let each other know from the start what the parameters are.
This is important. Just be open and honest from the very beginning Vel. It won't be every man who will be willing to date a single mam but what you need to remember is that you don't want every man, just the right one 0 -
Felix Jones is God wrote: »Quite possible that you friend-zoned yourself.
Make contact, establish whether or not there is a spark.....then don't dally!! No back and forth for 5 or 6 days with smalltalk...no asking how the weather is in Carlow, no asking what band she's listening to at the moment...because at that stage, you're already fcked imo.
If after a day or 2 you feel there's any spark, that's the time to ask, otherwise she may feel you want a chat buddy and by the time you eventually ask...it's too late?
This 100%
If it starts getting to the "How was your day? Great weather out" stage you're finished.
Try not to converse like you would with a friend, try to converse to see if there's a spark or common mind set there. e.g. "What are you passionate about?" "Would you rather travel the world for free or win the lotto?"
Conversation that tells you about a person's motivations, attitudes, ambitions is much more interesting and ultimately useful in determining compatibility.
Ask for the date after a day or so, if you wait longer a woman will lose interest. Think about it, while you're thinking that you're being polite and taking it slow she has 10 other guys messaging her a day and 2 asking her out. You'll soon be at the back of the line.
I'm thinking of giving up on the online thing, it's such a different experience than the real world, I seem to get more attention and numbers in a single night out than I do in a month online, I must not photograph well
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This 100%
If it starts getting to the "How was your day? Great weather out" stage you're finished.
Try not to converse like you would with a friend, try to converse to see if there's a spark or common mind set there. e.g. "What are you passionate about?" "Would you rather travel the world for free or win the lotto?"
Conversation that tells you about a person's motivations, attitudes, ambitions is much more interesting and ultimately useful in determining compatibility.
Ask for the date after a day or so, if you wait longer a woman will lose interest. Think about it, while you're thinking that you're being polite and taking it slow she has 10 other guys messaging her a day and 2 asking her out. You'll soon be at the back of the line.
I'm thinking of giving up on the online thing, it's such a different experience than the real world, I seem to get more attention and numbers in a single night out than I do in a month online, I must not photograph well:o
I couldn't agree more with your post sozbox. The guy I've been chatting with has now descended in to the "how is your day" kind of chat. I know he's interested but I'm just not sure now if I am. He doesn't seem sparky or passionate about anything in particular.
Like you I get far more attention on a night out than I do online. Unfortunately the attention mostly comes from married men or those I'm just not interested in.0 -
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Oh wow! Please tell me there's a good story behind how you found out at least.
There really isn't
It was easy for him to pretend because we saw each other in a different location to where he actually lived. The woman his friend was dating at the time told me. This was a man in his mid forties. I remember having a little niggly doubt and asking the friend at one stage who of course denied it, the same as yer man did.
It was a few years ago now but I remember it well. It happened again but in different circumstances. I was chatting with someone who lived in a different country for about six weeks. Flirting, all the rest, telling me how we'll meet up when he is next home. I came across his Facebook, asked him was he single, no it turned out he wasn't.
Two assholes the pair of them.0 -
Deleted User wrote: »There really isn't It was easy for him to pretend because we saw each other in a different location to where he actually lived. The woman his friend was dating at the time told me. This was a man in his mid forties. I remember having a little niggly doubt and asking the friend at one stage who of course denied it, the same as yer man did.
It was a few years ago now but I remember it well. It happened again but in different circumstances. I was chatting with someone who lived in a different country for about six weeks. Flirting, all the rest, telling me how we'll meet up when he is next home. I came across his Facebook, asked him was he single, no it turned out he wasn't.
Two assholes the pair of them.
Can't beat a bit of light internet stalking to get to the truth!!
Technically I am still married, but that's only because getting divorced is a slow (and expensive) process.0 -
Deleted User wrote: »There really isn't It was easy for him to pretend because we saw each other in a different location to where he actually lived. The woman his friend was dating at the time told me. This was a man in his mid forties. I remember having a little niggly doubt and asking the friend at one stage who of course denied it, the same as yer man did.
It was a few years ago now but I remember it well. It happened again but in different circumstances. I was chatting with someone who lived in a different country for about six weeks. Flirting, all the rest, telling me how we'll meet up when he is next home. I came across his Facebook, asked him was he single, no it turned out he wasn't.
Two assholes the pair of them.
aww that's a real ****ty thing to do. Unfortunately I'd say it's much more common than I'd like to think.
I've seen some married colleagues magically turn up on a night out sans wedding ring
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I hate to go back on my word!! But I did start talking to this guy on tinder this was ages ago who was incredibly passive aggressive when we began talking , but he kept asking to meet and i don't know why I did really, I was new to tinder and wanted to experience a tinder date I guess. Anyway he turned out to be an extremely lovely guy in person who is a good friend now, so yeh
Hate to leave you with the mixed opinion but there you go haha 0
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