Online dating

Sciprio · 08-06-2016 6:52pm

wakka12 wrote: »

Oh why would you talk to somebody with no pictures up? Ive tried that and Ive never talked to an anonymous person as yet who actually went on to send me pictures in the end after we first spoke. So i just ignore anons now

I don't know what theyre playing at? Ive even had anons ask to meet before me seeing a picture of them? Like are you having a laugh

If they message me now within a few messages i'll ask for a picture and if not i just move on. I understand some have to hide it because of their job but not showing it when asked and not willing to show it then goodluck. I have mine on public so they know me straight away.

Trebor176 · 08-06-2016 6:57pm

Littlefinger wrote: »

Am I the only who who makes a point of not talking to people who refuse to put a picture up or send one in private? To me it feels like they are hiding something. Like i wouldn't be what you would call a beauty but I have pictures up.

I've had it happen several times that I've messaged someone (no replies, of course) only to find later on, they've put their photos on private or have just taken them down altogether. I don't know what it is. Maybe they have come across lads they know, but don't want them knowing that they're on it? I don't know. It has been suggested that profession could play a part, such as education. But, I doubt that professions have anything to do with it.

tomwaterford · 08-06-2016 7:05pm

Littlefinger wrote: »

Am I the only who who makes a point of not talking to people who refuse to put a picture up or send one in private? To me it feels like they are hiding something. Like i wouldn't be what you would call a beauty but I have pictures up.

Why would you bother msg someone if you don't know what they look like??

It may be shallow af but can't see the point in msging someone if your not sure you fancy them etc

qo2cj1dsne8y4k · 08-06-2016 7:08pm

DONT BE SO SHALLOW!! ITS NOT ALL ABOUT LOOKS!! Come on give me a chance!

Karmella · 08-06-2016 7:09pm

Vel wrote: »

Anyone on here doing the single with kids thing? I have three young kids and my ex and I split up after a 12 year relationship.

Have anyone any experience of online dating as a single parent?

Hi Vel, I'm in your exact situation, separated 2 years after a 15 year relationship/marriage. Two very young kids.

3 months ago I decided sod this I'm only just 40 I'm getting back out there. Joined POF. I have on my profile that I have kids and I don't want kids. I was tending towards guys who either had kids or didn't want them. You would be amazed at the amount of single dads on there!

I'm currently dating an absolute dote of a man who is divorced and has kids (older than mine). It's all very casual, we tend to meet up maybe once a week or fortnight depending on schedules, and we just really enjoy each other's company. Neither of us has any intention of introducing our families to each other.

When I started out I guess I didn't know what I wanted really, I had a hook up with a guy but afterwards realised that just sex wasn't for me, I wanted just a little bit more. I think the thing with this guy is just right, we share a lot of common interests.

I'd say go for it. It is daunting alright, there's no doubt about that. Probably about 100 pages back Witchie had some sage advice on how to get through it. She said to keep your dating life and your family life completely separate and it makes it easier.

tomwaterford · 08-06-2016 7:10pm

LexieOnRale wrote: »

DONT BE SO SHALLOW!! ITS NOT ALL ABOUT LOOKS!! Come on give me a chance!

I swear after a while you won't even notice the paperbag :P

qo2cj1dsne8y4k · 08-06-2016 7:11pm

Who looks at the mantle piece while stroking the fire anyway

tomwaterford · 08-06-2016 7:15pm

LexieOnRale wrote: »

Who looks at the mantle piece while stroking the fire anyway

It's not for stirring your tea with ffs :pac:

08-06-2016 7:44pm

tomwaterford wrote: »

It's not for stirring your tea with ffs :pac:

What isn't tom?

tomwaterford · 08-06-2016 7:53pm

[Deleted User] wrote: »

What isn't tom?

PM with pic sent :P

tomwaterford · 08-06-2016 7:53pm

[Deleted User] wrote: »

What isn't tom?

PM with pic of answer sent :P

qo2cj1dsne8y4k · 08-06-2016 7:53pm

Excuse me? I thought we were getting married and you're sending dick pics?!

cantdecide · 08-06-2016 7:55pm

armaghlad wrote: »

"do you want to meet then?"
And I'm like "em bit early, no?"
"We should just leave it then"
Me: "no we can meet, I still want to"
Her: "when?"
Me: "I'm not sure when I am free again"
Her: "We should just leave it"
Me: tongue in cheek "tomorrow?"
Her: "I'm free from 6, we can do something here*"
*her home village. 70+ miles away
Me: "I've never been there before, it's a good bit away"
Her: "Is x any closer to you?" (No it isn't) We can go to x, it's 10 mins away, cos my town is small and people know me and there's nothing to do anyway"
Me: "no its even further"
Her: "We should just leave it then"
Me: "we could meet in y, is it far from you?" *According to Google maps it's as close to halfway as we can get
Her: "I've never been there, is there some where we can go for coffee?"
Me: "I'm sure there's a Starbucks or something"
Her: "maybe we should just leave it"

Could be barking up the wrong tree but my ex used to do this and it was always meant to be my cue to say 'oh pleeeease, pleeeeease allow me to have the pleasure of your company'. In any case, if one is pushing or pulling, things can't be equal and things always need to be equal, IMO.

08-06-2016 7:57pm

LexieOnRale wrote: »

Excuse me? I thought we were getting married and you're sending dick pics?!

You already have a man! :pac:

tomwaterford · 08-06-2016 7:57pm

LexieOnRale wrote: »

Excuse me? I thought we were getting married and you're sending dick pics?!

It don't count if it's on a snapchat filter???

***i actually haven't sent a dick pic

08-06-2016 7:57pm

tomwaterford wrote: »

It don't count if it's on a snapchat filter???

***i actually haven't sent a dick pic

Yes you have!

:pac:

qo2cj1dsne8y4k · 08-06-2016 7:59pm

You're welcome to him now P! Hope you're good at farming!

tomwaterford · 08-06-2016 8:00pm

[Deleted User] wrote: »

Yes you have!

:pac:

And you laughed at it....the shame

Felix Jones is God · 08-06-2016 8:06pm

You're some bunch of mucky pups!.....probably why I like ye

La.de.da · 08-06-2016 8:13pm

tomwaterford wrote: »

And you laughed at it....the shame

Naught to be shamed off. I'm sure it's lovely

Felix Jones is God · 08-06-2016 8:59pm

La.de.da wrote: »

Naught to be shamed off. I'm sure it's lovely

Ever seen the advert for cheese strings?

La.de.da · 08-06-2016 9:11pm

Felix Jones is God wrote: »

Ever seen the advert for cheese strings?

I have.

Enlighten me with your reference

Dial Hard · 09-06-2016 12:32pm

Match with a guy on Tinder, send him a message, realise when he replies that he's at the other end of the country.

I hate when people sneak under my 35km range radar!

PandaX9 · 09-06-2016 1:11pm

Hate that. I see your grievance and raise you one:

Him: Blah blah nice
Me: blah blah
Him: blah blah flirt.. where are you from?
Me: Dublin
Him: I'm in Manchester/London/from Florida/Germany

Either transpires that they were in Dublin recently or using a third party app/tinder plus

Have genuinely had people offer me accommodations and in two cases, flights to go visit them. And I'm not talking about cases where we would have met, maybe dated and texted for weeks/'months kind of thing. I mean, "hi, how are you? Good thanks... Would you like to come visit me in Germany next weekend?"

If it's genuine, 1) more money than sense and 2) would make me wonder why they have to fly women out to see them, a red flag.

For example, around a week ago my friend met a lovely gentleman in a club and they spent the evening dancing and kissing and then went their separate ways when it closed. He was there on a stag, originally from England. He texted her semi-out of the blue 5 days later saying "I'm looking at flights to Dublin - would July X suit you for a visit?". Needless to say she wasn't particularly thrilled - in her words "we met, we danced, we kissed - but that's all it was and he doesn't even know me. Why would he want to pursue me he knows nothing about me other than how I look, makes me wonder if he has trouble meeting girls at home if he so wants to fly over to meet me?". Luckily for her, she's away then anyway but she was a little curious why someone would be so willing to pursue something that was "only a dance and kissing". She's a stunning girl and has a great personality but according to her they had almost no conversation (she wasn't even going to give him her number because she knew he was flying back the next morning, but he insisted she "text him when she gets home safe") so his desire to see her makes her and I think that he just wants the ride, and again bizzarely - why not just settle for someone at home in that case?

whiskeyman · 09-06-2016 1:20pm

PandaX9 wrote: »

so his desire to see her makes her and I think that he just wants the ride, and again bizzarely - why not just settle for someone at home in that case?

He's probably married / has a gf at home.

Andre 3000 · 09-06-2016 1:23pm

Jesus Christ if he's willing to pay for flights just to get the ride, which isn't even guaranteed, just get an escort. Talk about desperation.

sozbox · 09-06-2016 1:26pm

whiskeyman wrote: »

He's probably married / has a gf at home.

Friend of mine who is from the UK met a girl on a stag in Dublin, they kissed and danced and he asked for her number.

They texted for a while and he flew over to meet her a number of weeks later.

They're now married with two kids and he has relocated to Ireland.

Hate to think he'd have been tarred with the 'can't he meet girls at home' brush. He could but he liked the Irish girl and they fell in love so I wouldn't be so harsh on yer man.

KikiDee · 09-06-2016 1:54pm

The romantic part of me wants this guy to really like your friend. The realist in me wants to punch the romantic part of me.

PandaX9 · 09-06-2016 2:17pm

sozbox wrote: »

Friend of mine who is from the UK met a girl on a stag in Dublin, they kissed and danced and he asked for her number.

They texted for a while and he flew over to meet her a number of weeks later.

They're now married with two kids and he has relocated to Ireland.

Hate to think he'd have been tarred with the 'can't he meet girls at home' brush. He could but he liked the Irish girl and they fell in love so I wouldn't be so harsh on yer man.

See I have first hand experience of this happening myself (we didn't get married whoever :pac:) so I know it is possible to fall in love and overcome the distance. I'm a sucker for real life romantic stories such as your friends situation.

Regarding my friend however, she explicitly stated that the sum total of their verbal communication could be condensed into introducing themselves and several "do you want to get another drink?". For that reason it does beg the question of what he so wants from this? He doesn't know her from Eve, so my feeling personally is that in this case, he probably feels as though he didn't "have the chance" to sleep with her due to havin a flight first thing in the morning, whereas in truth she says she wouldn't have anyway.

sozbox · 09-06-2016 2:19pm

PandaX9 wrote: »

See I have first hand experience of this happening myself (we didn't get married whoever :pac:) so I know it is possible to fall in love and overcome the distance. I'm a sucker for real life romantic stories such as your friends situation.

Regarding my friend however, she explicitly stated that the sum total of their verbal communication could be condensed into introducing themselves and several "do you want to get another drink?". For that reason it does beg the question of what he so wants from this? He doesn't know her from Eve, so my feeling personally is that in this case, he probably feels as though he didn't "have the chance" to sleep with her due to havin a flight first thing in the morning, whereas in truth she says she wouldn't have anyway.

It is possible for her to meet up with him and suss out the situation without sleeping with him :P

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